I'm tired of it all.

[Haromos]

 My parents are overprotective. It suffocates me when they control my every move and order me to do even basic things like eat or tell me how to dress. I'm 15 and they still think I'm a child. They meddle in every aspect of my life. Yes, this is the second year I have had parental controls on my phone. I want to get away from them as soon as possible and live my life.

I found a website with a parental control program that they put not on the phone. Does anyone know how to bypass this kind of program? https://bestparentalcontrolapps.com/

Edited Wednesday at 09:54 AM by Haromos

[Voodoo]

Sounds like a sh*tty situation. Just bide your time and play by their rules until you can get out on your own. Life is so much better away from controlling parents. Good luck and I hope things improve for you 

 

 

[universetwisters]

I agree with Voodoo, youre fifteen so just be patient and keep to yourself for three years and then you’ll be able to join the military or go to college or maybe even get a place of your own if you saved up enough. Just be sure to plan ahead and be smart about it, since I’ve seen people cut all contact from their parents for even more petty and dumb reasons and then wonder why they’re homeless.

 

Do you have a job? It might be worth looking into getting some employment. Not only does it mean less time in their house but also you can earn some money to go towards college or moving out, whichever appeals to you.

[Darth Absentis]

going to be honest here, even in the most ideal situation you will only find relief once you are 18 at best, and those years will be slow, at least in my experience.

But even if you only get your independence at age 28 and after that, life seems to pass faster then ever before, it will have all been worth it, i can promise you.

 

[ddarko12]

This situation hits close to home. I no longer live with my parents, but it was a very dysfunctional household and it sucked because the thing I wanted (and still want) the most was a good, loving family. I would definitely plan to move out as soon as legally possible. Your parents are either the type to kick you to the curb at 18 anyway or coarse you into staying with them as long as possible, driving you crazy and not letting you develop into a properly functioning adult. I dealt with the latter and you do not want that. Having your own money and buying your own things so they can't pull the "well we bought it for you" card for everything would be a good start. College is a good option but pick you major wisely. You do not want to do all of that and come out with a useless degree and lots of debt with no prospects. And well so is the military (I'm not crazy about that idea, if you do want that maybe go college first then join as an officer). But yeah, you're definitely not alone. Try to find people you can relate to who are or have gone through the same thing.

 

But it definitely does get better after you stop dealing with them. It's not all sunshine and rainbows, but there's nobody there micromanaging every thing you do. The hardest part for me to deal with after the fact is not feeling like I had much of a childhood.

[Haromos]

Thank you all for your posts. It seems to me that we should just wait three more years.
I already have a job, so housing will be easy for me.

[ArmanCan]

On 3/18/2023 at 12:37 AM, Haromos said:

I'm 15 and they still think I'm a child.

yes.. you are 15 and you are still a child 

On 3/18/2023 at 12:37 AM, Haromos said:

I want to get away from them as soon as possible and live my life.

Not yet.. in most countries 18 is the age which you can be more free and sign some deals with your own so you have to wait appr. 3 years and try planning your life (They can't take custody of your brain.. you know )

 

Good news is you are aware of your situation. Some young people like my younghood version have less resistance in order to say no to this unwanted situation. After that they find themselves insecure and bunch of doubts about their future plans..  Just stay on your track and don't lose yourself during your life 

[Emmi]

Trust me. In a couple of years you will regret you haven't enjoyed this time more. Once you are in your 20's or close to your 30's things are so sooo soooooo much worse. Whenever I hear kids, teenagers explaining about having to go to school I tell them it's the best time of their life and they should enjoy this time ... you'll see in a couple of years.

[ddarko12]

27 minutes ago, Emmi said:

Trust me. In a couple of years you will regret you haven't enjoyed this time more. Once you are in your 20's or close to your 30's things are so sooo soooooo much worse. Whenever I hear kids, teenagers explaining about having to go to school I tell them it's the best time of their life and they should enjoy this time ... you'll see in a couple of years.

I'm sorry if this breaks the rules or comes across as harsh but... what an absolute load of bollocks. This is absolutely not true. At all. I'm 25. You could not pay me a million dollars to go back and relive my childhood. And I adamantly believe OP has it worse.

 

People who say that being a teen or being in high school should be the best years of your life worry me. You definitely did something wrong, because that is not and should not be true. I'm in my 20's, I have bills, I do not live with my parents, and my life is better than it was living with people who want to control what I do, spending 8 hours every day listening to good government bullsh*t and attaching my self-worth to grades and how much money I might make in the future, while having to deal with a bunch of insecure sh*thead kids who want to put everyone down for their own problems. That was not the best times of my life, and I feel the same or even worse about it now than I did then.

 

Being an adult and becoming your own person is freeing, rewarding and amazing. It is not easy, it is not always fun, but it is worth it. And ultimately, you have way more power to become who you want. Without having some controlling dipsh*ts for parents trying to control your every move. You really want the OP to think that having to deal with a bunch of incompetent, narcissistic clowns should be the best time of their life? What? Huh?

 

Absolutely not. And as long as OP does not give up and perseveres, the best years have yet to come...

Edited Wednesday at 07:29 PM by ddarko12

[mike39]

When you’re a teenager, the days are long and seem to go on forever. I remember this felt excruciating when I was going through tough times between school, friends, and parents. I also remember feeling really confident that I was right about a lot of things … when, in hindsight now, I can say that I probably wasn’t.

 

A few years will pass quickly and you’ll reflect on these days wishing you made the best of it. So make the best of it. You’ll be an adult soon enough, and then never a kid again. Don’t rush it.

[Death]

8 hours ago, Emmi said:

Trust me. In a couple of years you will regret you haven't enjoyed this time more. Once you are in your 20's or close to your 30's things are so sooo soooooo much worse. Whenever I hear kids, teenagers explaining about having to go to school I tell them it's the best time of their life and they should enjoy this time ... you'll see in a couple of years.

The answer will be entirely different for every single person, and age doesn't matter at all because you can begin a new life again; that's what opportunities are for. 

School is important, but it isn't everything.

Edited Thursday at 03:21 AM by Death

[ddarko12]

1 hour ago, mike39 said:

A few years will pass quickly and you’ll reflect on these days wishing you made the best of it. So make the best of it. You’ll be an adult soon enough, and then never a kid again. Don’t rush it.

I don't quite think people are quite getting it. It's not the same as "oh angsty teen is mad because parents care about them" his parents literally sound like control freaks. There is no reminiscing on that sh*t when you get older. I sure as hell don't. People also act like magic happens when you're in your 20's and you are a completely responsible adult. I argue otherwise. Maturation is gradual. And a big part of it is becoming your own self. Something that is extremely inhibited when you live with ass clowns for parents.

 

I will genuinely argue anyone down who says different. I do not miss those years, you could not pay me to relive them. Any kid who is struggling now, believe me, it gets better when you get the f*ck out.

[universetwisters]

I will say too, on the topic of advice to fidgety teenagers, don’t move away from town. I know that there’s the whole cliche of leaving town once you’re 18 and going to a big new city and striking it big but that’s seldom factual. The only reasons you should do that is if…

 

A) You live in a place that has absolutely zero jobs or is just a ghost town

B) You live in a place that’s stupidly expensive to live in on your own like lower Manhattan or the Bay Area 

C) Your life is literally in danger. And “wah wah wah mom won’t let me listen to my songs in the car” isn’t an example of your life being in danger

 

 

If there’s anything I can suggest as an aversion to that, stay where you are currently and make the best of it, unless you’re joining the military or already have a college in a new town figured out. I remember when I was a teenager I had so many plans to get out of town and move out to Colorado with my aunt and uncle, but when that fell through I wound up delivering pizzas and if it weren’t for that, I wouldn have bought an old Buick from a guy I delivered a pizza from and I never would’ve been able to buy a house for a stupidly low price because the guy I was renting it from was desperate to sell.

 

I really don’t want to use my example to come off as me jacking myself off with what I accomplished so far, but for all you young folks out there, I want y’all to genuinely give it a thought. Some of the best things come from patience and serendipity. I know the idea of moving across the country and striking out on your own sounds exciting but this isn’t a movie. If you try to do that with only a high school education, you’ll be on your ass and somewhere you don’t wanna be.

[ddarko12]

4 hours ago, universetwisters said:

If you try to do that with only a high school education, you’ll be on your ass and somewhere you don’t wanna be.

Yeah. That's why the emphasis on a plan is very important. I'll have to use my maternal aunts as an example as to why. One moved out, defaulted on everything and wound up living in her car for a short time before getting on her feet and that was not fun. The other went to college, dropped out, went into military, went AWOL, moved back in with nana and had to pay rent and go through starting life all over again.

 

You can't just move out without a plan. And if you have a plan you have to stick to it. Both of my parents did. May not have done a lot of things right, but they stayed in the military and then found their way and despite their dumb impulsive buying decisions, are the second most financially stable people in my family.