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Begoo

Do you ever feel lonely?

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DangerZ0neX

I wasn't able to create any childhood friends. I did have friends in each institute I went to, but I moved around way too much to even have someone I could call a best friend, or at least a close friend.

 

Since I am with them where ever we go, I spent a lot of time with my close family, they've assured me that I will never be alone.

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CanadianMuscle

I've never had a ton of friends, only a few really close ones.

But it still feels lonely sometimes.

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The Mascara Snake

I'm feeling pretty lonely rn

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The Hippie

Damn that's everyday. Sometimes I like it, sometimes I don't. Hell I'm planning to buy 20 acres in the middle of the desert to build an earthship as far away from society as possible. Then I think it'd be nice to have someone to share the journey with but f*ck 'em, too hard to build any real connections on this planet.

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Billy Russo

Every single day. I live on my own & I don't know too many people at work. So I'm like living the life of an AI right now. I do the same routine every day. Go to work, come home & then try to find ways to entertain myself (usually video games). I live a very lonely life, but at the same time I'm complacent with it in a weird way, I enjoy & don't enjoy being alone at the same time. It's stress free, but not having any real connection hurts.

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The7thOne

All the time... I'm numb to it now. I can't say it ever gets better but you eventually start feeling indifferent towards it. For me, I've been alone for so long that it's in a way become just a part of my personality. I like having time to myself, but I also dread being completely isolated. Every day is like this, it's awful. It's one thing to not have a partner; it's another to not have anyone in your life at all. I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

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Pocket Fox

Lonely at times, probably lonelier over the past several years having lost friends and a sister to substance abuse. They're still alive but who they were is completely and irreversibly gone.

Losing some of my longest lived pets also really pulled me down. I need to replenish my furbabies when things settle.

 

I have plenty of acquaintances and interacting with them during a day I don't feel lonely, I actually like my personal time then. But when I feel alone I can't really contact them and the contacts/friends I do have..eh... they give me more grief than joy.

So I go full cat mode. I want a cuddle.. NO, leave me alone. I'm so lonely now, but I don't want you to pet or interact with me... so lonely...lonely lonely... ok, interact with me.  hsssssss!!! That was a mistake. Oh look food, ok I am happy now.

Repeat.

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Tyche

I feel lonely when I am on family parties or BBQs, everybody from my family talking stuff while I am ignored.

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Billy Russo
2 hours ago, Tyche said:

I feel lonely when I am on family parties or BBQs, everybody from my family talking stuff while I am ignored.

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I hate that. I literally have nothing in common with most of my family members, so it's just a really awkward time. I hate having small talk, and awkward silences.

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BlackScout

Yes. Sometimes I care, sometimes I don't. I don't know how I feel about explaining this. There is always somebody to call you this or that because you think different. Occasionally your different is toxic, yes. Or it's just that you are clueless. 
I suck at explaining myself. More below.

 

On 8/22/2018 at 4:01 PM, The7thOne said:

I've been alone for so long that it's in a way become just a part of my personality. I like having time to myself, but I also dread being completely isolated. Every day is like this, it's awful. It's one thing to not have a partner; it's another to not have anyone in your life at all. I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

 

It gets really crazy when loneliness starts to become avoidance. The more times progresses the more I feel like just not making any new friends or bonding with anyone. (I don't want to lose the ones I have at the moment though.)
Social Anxiety and not enjoying the idea of people "leaving me" don't help either.

I look at friendly people in my social "?circle?" and I think: "Hmm, it could be really good if I were friends with them".

However, sometimes it's just the opposite. Almost like I prefer it that way.
 

More often than not I picture a complete dystopian future where I have to deal with the least possible people. A job that doesn't require much interaction, no wife, no kids. Just me. It's an extreme narcissism of sorts, yes.

But, I just don't care...? I don't know.
Something tells me it's easier that way, although most certainly it isn't. Plus, for my mental health that wouldn't be any good.

 

On 8/23/2018 at 3:15 PM, Tyche said:

I feel lonely when I am on family parties or BBQs, everybody from my family talking stuff while I am ignored.

Yes. I hate those. I kill time with my phone. Healthy, isn't it? :/

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ciel
On 8/23/2018 at 7:15 PM, Tyche said:

I feel lonely when I am on family parties or BBQs, everybody from my family talking stuff while I am ignored.

 

tbh its the opposite for me. i ignore most family cos they're all self involved twats (except my mum, she's the sane one)

Edited by BLΛƆKPIИK

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Reameb

Yes, sometimes, I have little interaction with others, but it's enough with those 2-3 people, even tho I don't consider them friends, but you know I see them at uni and share some interests, go out sometimes, etc, I try to avoid a lot of bullsh*t or getting problems / drama so I kinda keep distance from others, just the normal everyday "hi".

 

If I don't get any interaction I do feel lonely tho, which is pretty much when I'm not in the usual routine (uni + work), too much free time is actually bad lol, so I always try to balance everything, it feels like time flies now tho, so it hasn't been that bad as past years.

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Mister Pink

I used to surround myself with a lot of people but now I spend more time alone but more quality time; studying, working on creative projects, video-editing, or music production. I rather have 1 or 2 good people to be in company than a big group, now. 

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MCMXCII

Everybody feels lonely at some point in their life. But once you start hearing voices in your head, you'll realize that you are not lonely anymore.

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Arnold Stallone

I am alone. I'm not lonely.

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Guest

I speak to a real person once a week at the checkout of my local supermarket for maybe 30 seconds. That's the only face-to-face interaction with a real person I ever have. That's probably been the case for 5 or more years now. I don't know what lonely is anymore, because I don't remember what the alternative was like.

 

I sometimes feel like part of my personality has peeled off into something separate, something truly destructive... so maybe lonely isn't the right word for me... maybe isolated is a better description. That's especially true when I feel like an observer in my own life... strange and scary, all at the same time.

 

The only benefit, if you can call it that, is empathy gets boxed away and you never have to deal with that any more. It's not popular when someone dies that you know but that's just how it goes. Funny thing is though, you realise that empathy for yourself, was a thing you didn't realise you had.

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14 hours ago, LeeC2202 said:

The only benefit, if you can call it that, is empathy gets boxed away and you never have to deal with that any more.

What's wrong with empathy? Losing empathy is not beneficial.

I think you know that some change is due here, or you wouldn't have written.

As people here have pointed out, you don't necessarily need many friends, maybe not even any at all, to feel self confident. You however are losing the connection to yourself, you say your personality peels off; and you correctly observe that losing empathy is a part of that, because empathy and self awareness are closely linked.

 

If I may be so bold to make a suggestion, not knowing your circumstances, and the ability of changing things being yours alone anyway: It's just that you remind me of a friend who used very similar words to describe what was happening with him, and he got out of that by taking up voluntary work in his community. Everyone has some talent, or commitment, or time, to do a service someone else needs done, and this helps connecting to others, and connecting to yourself again. Worked for him (this, and meditation :)), so I just pass it on.

Sorry if this is trespassing, but the empathy bit rattled me.

 

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Star-Lord

Ever since the snap I've been lost and trapped in the darkness trying to find my way back home. My Avengers are no where to be seen and the love of my life is now but a memory.

Am I lonely, yes. Will i get my revenge, well... I'm not sure. I guess we'll find out in Avengers 4.

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7 hours ago, Lucy_Woooolfe said:

What's wrong with empathy? Losing empathy is not beneficial.

I think you know that some change is due here, or you wouldn't have written.

Empathy is just something everyone else relies on, when they want to think you care about them. It only benefits other people, so not having to care about other people is a definite benefit... for me anyway.

 

Voluntary work... that's never going to happen I'm afraid. See that's one of those things that needs the empathy bit turned on, because you need to care about other people to give your time up for them. I answer questions on here because knowledge is an emotion-free concept. It's like being asked what time it is, you can respond without any consideration for the person who needs to know it.... it's just information.

 

As for why I had written, I hadn't actually noticed this thread before, so I just thought I would contribute my own experience, nothing more. It wasn't meant to spark discussion or anything, I was just passing some time. I don't remember ever coming in general chat before, or if I did, I didn't take much notice of the content.

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4 minutes ago, LeeC2202 said:

As for why I had written, I hadn't actually noticed this thread before, so I just thought I would contribute my own experience, nothing more. It wasn't meant to spark discussion or anything, I was just passing some time. I don't remember ever coming in general chat before, or if I did, I didn't take much notice of the content.

Then I did trespass, and I apologize.

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1 hour ago, Lucy_Woooolfe said:

Then I did trespass, and I apologize.

It's fine, I didn't consider it trespassing. I still maintain my civility at times, so while I still have it, never apologise for having good intentions. You spoke without judgement or malice, so all's good.

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LazlowsucksiloveslutS

I never feel lonely. I prefer to be alone. I never have rested better than in a police station. Such peace.

Plus you are never truly alone - there are birds in the sky, spiders. flies, plants. Hell, if you believe in god or Christ, Lucifer or spirits - you can even talk to them.

 

Yeah  but me - I have never experienced desperate loneliness. I've never cried about being alone. I enjoy being by myself. You know, like that pool scene from Scarface "I don't need nobody - f*ck them."

 

Sometimes I do experience sadness over lost love and broken dreams but ain't nothing anybody can do about it anyway, why should anyone even care.

 

Yes, I love being alone.

 

f*ck 'em all - that's my motto.

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Menstrual Deranged

Not so much these days. In my first marriage, I felt very lonely even though I was never alone. That was a very dark time in my life. Ironically, I rushed into marriage with him because I thought I was dying of loneliness. I had recently moved out of my mom's, broken-up with my long-term boyfriend, and was just starting my career. I was pretty sure I was dying of loneliness at the age of 23 and I was certain I was never going to find someone or have kids and I thought he was it for me.

 

Now I look back on that "lonely" time and I almost have to laugh in retrospect because, damn, I'd do things SO much differently if I could go back to that time. I'd let myself feel that loneliness, truly feel it, then let it go, let loose and have a little fun and not be in such a damn hurry.

 

Because when I start to feel just a twinge of loneliness now (like, if I've been at home alone for longer than what I'm used to), I'm like, "Wait a f*cking minute, I can do whatever the f*ck I want with this time and no one can judge me!" Not that my family is torture to be around but, ya know, they watch the way you do things. They judge, they can't help it. Like, "Gee, honey, why are you so fascinated with shows about serial killers?" or "Mom, why are you screaming at the spider on the wall when you have a pet tarantula?" You know....I don't want to have to always have answers for these questions, dammit.

 

I can blast music on YouTube that my husband thinks is annoying when he's at work. I don't have to worry about answering to my kid's needs if she's gone at her dad's or school. I can binge watch shows they don't like. Etc, etc.

 

So, I guess my TLDR is: My loneliness, at this point in my life, has become my occasional much-needed refuge.

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Mister Pink
14 hours ago, Menstrual Deranged said:

So, I guess my TLDR is: My loneliness, at this point in my life, has become my occasional much-needed refuge.

Yes, it's funny how things like that turn out. I can say it's relatively the same in my case. I've a lot less of the people I used to have around me but I'm overall more happier as I'm able to concentrate on being better without the fun/destructive distractions of getting wasted all weekend. I'm more alone but comfortable and happy to work, study or play games. I do miss the occasional drinking session where you just talk sh*te to random strangers for 20hrs in a slum of a dive bar/house party but I value my health and well being a bit more now.

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Pete4000uk

Yes, it gnaws away at me all the time. I've never been good around people though

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punkbish85

I'm never physically lonely 'cause I'm surrounded by family drama.. but I'm emotionally and affectionately lonely.

So lonely, I doodle that bitch, Feelings, out when she decides to make me have feelings for people knowing how crazy it makes me when it doesn't work out..

 

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Mafia Assassin®

Ever since I finished school, I'm lonely. The funny thing is that never bothered me, I kinda liked being lonely, even though was hard to see my friends part ways, living their lives, getting family, nice jobs and all, but I was happy being lonely.

Although that kinda changed last year, I made some really good friends, both "physical" and virtual friends, some that I would even call best friends, and I kinda got used to, but, out of blue, that changed, and suddenly everyone left me again.

It's hard being alone when you are used to have people around you, but watching movies, series, and being here on GTAF kinda helps to forget that I'm alone.

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Billy Russo

I've been feeling a lot more lonely than usual lately, but for some reason.

 

I'm not sure why. I mean I AM lonely, but usually I can forget about it. Been feeling really down/upset these past few days, close to tears some nights. It sucks. Honestly feel like a spectator in life sometimes.

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Rafae
On 9/18/2018 at 7:31 PM, Breaking Bad said:

I've been feeling a lot more lonely than usual lately, but for some reason.

 

I'm not sure why. I mean I AM lonely, but usually I can forget about it. Been feeling really down/upset these past few days, close to tears some nights. It sucks. Honestly feel like a spectator in life sometimes.

 

Everyone has a limit to which they can forget about it. You have to face loneliness head on at some point, which I feel like is what you're doing right now. Keep pushing man.

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