Types of people you can’t stand

[Grotti Vigilante]

Living in the UK, I think I ought to chip in with an issue only northerners will understand. I am of course referring to the scum that take part in this so-called "Mischief Night". What sounds like a night of pranks on the general public is nothing more than acts of vandalism carried out by a bunch of awful teenagers and even children. Smashing cars and buildings, starting fires and attacking the police and firefighters are some of the things these people get up to if they aren't throwing eggs and flour all over the place. There is absolutely no justification for these people doing what they do, and it's outrageous that I have to lock my doors and watch my back around this time of year. I am sure some New Jersey folk might be familiar with a similar night of the year.

[trip]

11 hours ago, Grotti Vigilante said:

I am sure some New Jersey folk might be familiar with a similar night of the year.

I'm not from Jersey...thank goodness.

I'm across the bridge in Philadelphia.  Kinda miss the annual burning of Camden.

 

semi-related:

My wife and I wanted mischief night as our wedding day.  Since we got married in the courthouse we didnt really have a bunch of dates to work with...so we managed to get the day before mischief nigh.  Married 23 years now. 

Edited November 2, 2019 by trip

[Ned Bingham]

On 10/21/2019 at 12:14 AM, Benny Guy said:

People that make a big deal of small things.

Whadda ya mean make a big deal out of small things. How do you know what is big and what is small? What's big to you could be small to someone else and cosa nostra.  And what's important to you could be unambiguous to the little guy. Jeeeeezus, I mean get a slip and grip your uncle.

 

 

 

[Death]

People who go to concerts and yells the lyrics in others people's ears so they can't hear anything.

[Ned Bingham]

On 11/2/2019 at 10:48 AM, trip said:

I'm not from Jersey...thank goodness.

I'm across the bridge in Philadelphia.  Kinda miss the annual burning of Camden.

You've really got a thing about Noo Jursey.  Why not  lie down on this couch and tell us how it all began.

[trip]

37 minutes ago, Short Stay said:

You've really got a thing about Noo Jursey.  Why not  lie down on this couch and tell us how it all began.

I'm from Philadelphia. It's bread into us.

[The Odyssey]

Friends who talk sh*t about other friends when they're not around.

 

Every time this happens I can fairly assume this person isn't to be trusted and would also bitch about me given the opportunity. Either man up and confront them about the issues you have with them or shut the f*ck up. 

Edited November 6, 2019 by The Odyssey

[Ned Bingham]

3 hours ago, Cameron Star said:

People who put pressure on you to do things you really don't want to do and they know it.

You mean like wives and mothers?

[Guest Billy Russo]

4 hours ago, Cameron Star said:

People who put pressure on you to do things you really don't want to do and they know it.

Some people I know are like this with alcohol. More in a playful way, mind you. I can be good with one or two, it takes me a while to drink it. They know when to stop pushing it, but it's rather annoying.

 

It's not that I'm a lightweight, I just am not the type that likes to down a drink.

[B7R]

9 hours ago, Cameron Star said:

People who put pressure on you to do things you really don't want to do and they know it.

Yep, know the feeling, I sadly don't have the option to remove myself from things I don't want to do otherwise I get asked a million questions and made to feel dumb, lazy and worthless and have some sort of blame put on me either way. I don't intend to go in too deep on my issues. 

 

I attend a program if you will, I won't describe what exactly, but the other week they came up with the fantastic idea (Sarcasm) after we've worked our butts off cleaning in 40 degree heat that we should have a BBQ (not sure what it's called outside other countries). This ticked me off for one of two reasons, 1 I don't eat BBQ and have no interest in grilling (unless it's for my own personal cooking by myself) and two it's almost summer (heat is already here), we've just spent 4 hours on our feet cleaning in the heat and now they want us to stand in front of a hot grill and cook. Yeah no.

 

I felt pressure I did I did. One mentor at the program asked me what I thought of it, I just shook my head in silence and then said "it's not my thing". I mean it isn't, why spend your precious time on this planet doing things that don't interest you? I mean I don't see any bad in trying new things but I know my limits and so do they. We had another mentor this week because the one from last week left. Again I was asked what I thought of it and said the same thing and they looked at me as if I was crazy and then was told "So would you prefer to do theory then?" (as in paperwork) I said yes I'd prefer to do theory and wouldn't give eye contact (due to my condition so it's not that I was being a a$$hole or anything). I mean the 2nd mentor is a nice person and it's not their fault, their just following orders from the higher up but man did I feel I feel the pressure if I didn't do the stupid BBQ . I've got things I'd prefer to be achieving so it's not like I'm saying no at every option that I get chucked at. 

 

If I was to tell anyone outside of that program (not friends because they actually understand) like family members I'd feel more pressure and guilt coming from them then what I do from the mentors when I don't want to do it. 

 

Something I hate in life is how people chuck you things 95% of the time that have no interest or relevancy to you, yet you have to work your ass off trying to reach the 5% that means something to you. I'm studying Information Technology at the moment which is actually what I want to do, jobs for it suck in this town and your going to need a drivers permit to even be stable but when I complete the course over the next 2-4 years I'm hoping I can pick up a stable job in said sector and put all this forced bullsh*t behind my back. 

 

It's because it's me, not them that their okay with forced options (or things). If it was them they'd probably be annoyed by it too. 

 

And you wonder why the f*ck I keep things to myself and don't engage well with certain people. Maybe If i wasn't made to feel guilty or worthless sometimes then perhaps I'd be more open & honest, not every Family member from my tree is like this, it's just the small (less than 4) that make me feel this. 

 

Again apologises for the wall of text but I hope I could also provide comfort in others not feeling alone. 

 

 

 

Edited November 6, 2019 by B7R

[trip]

20 minutes ago, B7R said:

[...]

I attend a program if you will, I won't describe what exactly, but the other week they came up with the fantastic idea (Sarcasm) after we've worked our butts off cleaning in 40 degree heat that we should have a BBQ (not sure what it's called outside other countries).

 

[...]

 

I'm studying Information Technology at the moment, jobs for it suck in this town and your going to need a drivers permit to even be stable [...]

 

The Like is because I read the whole thing.

 

- you mention the program, say you won't say what it is and then go into an anticdot involving the program.  

 

-I'm an old IT person.  It wasn't even called IT when I started.  Are you sure you want to go into IT?  It can be soul crushing(and I'm a soulless atheist) .

 

-Drivers permit?   Are you still on the young side?  My wife didnt get her license until she was old(50s).  If you are on the younger side.  Yeah...this annoying sh*t is gonna happen for awhile.  Sorry.

Edited November 6, 2019 by trip

[B7R]

2 minutes ago, trip said:

you mention the program, say you won't say what it is and then go into an anticdot involving the program.  

I mean I don't know how to describe it in text per say but it's only for certain types of people through a government grant. I don't want to go into detail much further on that.  The cleaning thing one of the programs they offer at the company I go through. 

 

3 minutes ago, trip said:

I'm an old IT person.  It wasn't even called IT when I started.  Are you sure you want to go into IT.  It can be soul crushing(and I'm a soulless atheist)

I'm sure, my heart is set on it. I'm the IT guy for my family & friends. I know a fair lot (Not 100% excellent but 60% sound?, no idea) but people outside of family & friends will acknowledge what skills you have in IT unless you've spent x years studying, I mean nothing bad about that and I do enjoy picking up the knowledge that's for sure and tuning up my skills. If IT was to fail I could always go into the media sector since I'm good with photography & videography (You can thank my younger self for that).

 

6 minutes ago, trip said:

-Drivers permit?   Are you still on the young side?  My wife didnt get her license until she was old(50s).  If you are on the younger side.  Yeah...this annoying sh*t is gonna happen for awhile.  Sorry.

I'm under 35 but over 18. I was put off driving for a while when I reached the legal age to apply for your leaner permit and only this year acquired a vehicle from a relative and decided I wanted to learn how to drive. Here in my state you need 120 hours. 100 Daytime, 20 night. I'm over 50 hours (think near up-to 60 hours) at the moment. So sometime to go but that's something I'm reaching slowly. I'm on an entry level technology course at the moment which finishes this year so I'm hoping I can move up the next level next year and hope by the time that's done that I'll be close to having my drivers permit. (there's two more driving levels but after your learners your allowed to drive alone)

 

[trip]

Just now, B7R said:

[...]

Hope ya dont think I was busting on you or anything.  I wasn't.

 

Wish ya all the best.  Still not lying about IT and it's long term toll on the human mind and body.

[B7R]

1 minute ago, trip said:

Hope ya dont think I was busting on you or anything.  I wasn't.

 

All good

 

1 minute ago, trip said:

Wish ya all the best.  Still not lying about IT and it's long term toll on the human mind and body.

I know lol

 

I'm actually also certified to work in Retail (Have what we call over here "Certificates" for it) I've applied for Retail positions but haven't heard back so stuck doing what I do. The job market sucks over here unless your some insane good looking human whose willing to put their job ahead of everything else. But oh well, guess you can do what you can do. At least I'm getting paid for the cleaning work at the moment so that's something but would prefer other kinds of work. 

[Guest Billy Russo]

People who wait until AFTER Bonfire Night to set fireworks off.

 

[Virtual-Antics]

10 hours ago, Cameron Star said:

People who put pressure on you to do things you really don't want to do and they know it.

Yup. I can relate to this. I went to a convention a few years back and met the actress who played Corporal Ferro in Aliens. I'm a huge fan of the movie so it was nerve wracking enough. She insisted on having a picture taken with me on my iphone. (I just wanted the autograph and a brief chat.) I don't like having my photo taken and explained it as diplomatically as possible to her and the assistant who'd grabbed my phone. But... In the end, she was taking photos with everyone and I quickly got it out of the way. *Shrug.*

[Guest Billy Russo]

13 minutes ago, Virtual-Antics said:

Yup. I can relate to this. I went to a convention a few years back and met the actress who played Corporal Ferro in Aliens. I'm a huge fan of the movie so it was nerve wracking enough. She insisted on having a picture taken with me on my iphone. (I just wanted the autograph and a brief chat.) I don't like having my photo taken and explained it as diplomatically as possible to her and the assistant who'd grabbed my phone. But... In the end, she was taking photos with everyone and I quickly got it out of the way. *Shrug.*

I feel like that's pretty rare. Most celebrities would rather just quickly do the autograph and move on. It seems like her intentions were in the right place, but I also would have been awkward in your spot. I hate my picture being taken, although I'd likely fight through it with a celebrity because it's maybe the only chance you'll ever get, and you can remember it.

 

You're still way more confident than me, there's many celebrities I've had the chance to meet near me, but I've never gone out of fear.

[Bratva Assassin]

Gym teachers. Mostly because I've had a bad experience with one in high school. Many of them pick on students who aren't very athletic and even have the gall to GRADE them based on their athletic abilities! They also aren't bullies to JUST students, but also teachers like math, science, foreign language, history, philosophy, English, and art ones because "they'd be tougher if they taught PE", and even lunch ladies for "being overweight and not serving protein shakes to kids". They think sports make the world go around when in actuality, the other subjects I mentioned play a MUCH bigger role in building a civilization! I say this as a sports fan myself. The funny thing is, most of the "slow" kids in gym class are actually NOT slow at all in other classes. I guess gym teachers and meathead students are just jealous because they don't have the same smarts!

[Ehrmantraut]

Just now, Outlaw Biker Viking said:

Gym teachers. Mostly because I've had a bad experience with one in high school. Many of them pick on students who aren't very athletic and even have the gall to GRADE them based on their athletic abilities! They also aren't bullies to JUST students, but also teachers like math, science, foreign language, history, philosophy, English, and art ones because "they'd be tougher if they taught PE", and even lunch ladies for "being overweight and not serving protein shakes to kids". They think sports make the world go around when in actuality, the other subjects I mentioned play a MUCH bigger role in building a civilization! I say this as a sports fan myself. The funny thing is, most of the "slow" kids in gym class are actually NOT slow at all in other classes. I guess gym teachers and meathead students are just jealous because they don't have the same smarts!

I always thought that was only a movie/game stereotype, didn't knew it was real.

Edited November 7, 2019 by Self-Destructive Man

[Guest Billy Russo]

4 minutes ago, Self-Destructive Man said:

I always thought that was only a movie/game stereotype, didn't know it was real.

My PE teacher was a bit rude as well. I absolutely hated PE, and I always got picked last. He used to say I was lazy and just didn't want to do it, when I just hated always being the last kid. I'll admit I wasn't very good at most things, but I never had the chance to improve because whenever we did something like Football I was automatically Goalkeeper as an example.

[Ehrmantraut]

 

2 minutes ago, Billy Russo said:

My PE teacher was a bit rude as well. I absolutely hated PE, and I always got picked last. He used to say I was lazy and just didn't want to do it, when I just hated always being the last kid. I'll admit I wasn't very good at most things, but I never had the chance to improve because whenever we did something like Football I was automatically Goalkeeper as an example.

IDK, maybe it's a culture thing but here in my country PE teachers are just as boring as the normal teachers, they don't have this Bully persona, my teachers at least.

Edited November 7, 2019 by Self-Destructive Man

[Guest Billy Russo]

11 minutes ago, Self-Destructive Man said:

 

IDK, maybe it's a culture thing but here in my country PE teachers are just as boring as the normal teachers, they don't have this Bully persona, my teachers at least.

Don't get me wrong, I don't think the guy was a bully. He was just firm and doing his job. He just didn't get it. He didn't get that someone like me with anxiety/confidence issues and getting picked last would deter me from wanting to participate, it was just laziness in his eyes. I tried explaining my issues, but I get the impression it went over his head because I was always told to get my 'kit on' or get a detention type of thing.

 

I think teachers have got more understanding of these type of issues now, but stuff like above can really make a kid just not want to excerise at all or be involved in teams. I know it took me a while to convince myself I'm better than image I'd built up over the years in School. 

Edited November 7, 2019 by Billy Russo

[Virtual-Antics]

On 11/6/2019 at 11:35 PM, Billy Russo said:

I feel like that's pretty rare. Most celebrities would rather just quickly do the autograph and move on. It seems like her intentions were in the right place, but I also would have been awkward in your spot. I hate my picture being taken, although I'd likely fight through it with a celebrity because it's maybe the only chance you'll ever get, and you can remember it.

 

You're still way more confident than me, there's many celebrities I've had the chance to meet near me, but I've never gone out of fear.

It's a lottery. I mean, they're just people at the end of the day. Sometimes they just want to power through the process like you said and sometimes they're just cool spending five or ten minutes chatting away to you.

 

Now, I've actually stopped going to those events or any kind of meet and greet. Even music gigs, but that's more to do with meeting new people. I can't help chatting in the line. Find it stressful dealing with that awkward vibe though, wondering what and what not to do. 

Edited November 8, 2019 by Virtual-Antics

[Guest Billy Russo]

1 hour ago, Virtual-Antics said:

It's a lottery. I mean, they're just people at the end of the day. Sometimes they just want to power through the process like you said and sometimes they're just cool spending five or ten minutes chatting away to you.

 

Now, I've actually stopped going to those events or any kind of meet and greet. Even music gigs, but that's more to do with meeting new people. I can't help chatting in the line. Find it stressful dealing with that awkward vibe though, wondering what and what not to do. 

I've never gone to a music gig, mostly out of anxiety & fear. I feel like I'd just awkwardly stand there, but maybe some day I'll build up the confidence to go. With something like the Cinema, you just sit down, it's dark and you can try and forget about people. Same can't be said for a music gig where everyone is dancing, being active and stuff like that. I just feel like it wouldn't be my scene.

[Virtual-Antics]

18 hours ago, Billy Russo said:

I've never gone to a music gig, mostly out of anxiety & fear. I feel like I'd just awkwardly stand there, but maybe some day I'll build up the confidence to go. With something like the Cinema, you just sit down, it's dark and you can try and forget about people. Same can't be said for a music gig where everyone is dancing, being active and stuff like that. I just feel like it wouldn't be my scene.

That's exactly my comfort zone now. Cinema is fine, and other seated events, as long as it's dark. (Like you said.) Music gigs are a lottery. One time, I had a drunk girl rub against me in the front row. The lead singer gave me annoyed looks because she probably thought I was annoyed at her lol. I've had a few happy drunk encounters in the front row. It's better to be at the front where you can block out the crowd behind you, than be in the middle of a sea of bodies. Also, I prefer smaller venues.

 

With people, I try to be social, and honestly don't think that I'm trying too hard or not enough, but can't be bothered with one sided effort. Those kind of people I can't stand. Or those who are automatically rude. That's probably where my anxiety comes from because I see the same awkward/needless pattern in others all of the time.

 

I've met plenty of people at gigs and events over the years, asked for their social media to make new friends/keep in touch, but it never amounted to anything which is sad. Generally, people don't make a real effort in a broader sense of getting to know others. It's their loss though.

 

We've all got to find our tribe. It's not an easy thing to do. This conversation has been good though.

Edited November 9, 2019 by Virtual-Antics

[ghostsoap01]

You know what kinda person I hate? Pieces of sh*t who park in private parking for a residence who don't live at said residence. Nothing like coming home to some jackass parked in my spot.

 

Seriously considering having the POS towed...

[Death]

People who feel rebel just because they drink beer or smoke, pfff.

[Nico]

On 11/6/2019 at 9:04 PM, Outlaw Biker Viking said:

Gym teachers. Mostly because I've had a bad experience with one in high school. Many of them pick on students who aren't very athletic and even have the gall to GRADE them based on their athletic abilities! They also aren't bullies to JUST students, but also teachers like math, science, foreign language, history, philosophy, English, and art ones because "they'd be tougher if they taught PE", and even lunch ladies for "being overweight and not serving protein shakes to kids". They think sports make the world go around when in actuality, the other subjects I mentioned play a MUCH bigger role in building a civilization! I say this as a sports fan myself. The funny thing is, most of the "slow" kids in gym class are actually NOT slow at all in other classes. I guess gym teachers and meathead students are just jealous because they don't have the same smarts!

Holy sh*t, reading stories like this makes me feel pretty lucky. At school I sucked at sports very badly, I was always picked last and all of that sh*t you know well. But my gym teacher was actually quite comprehensive. He knew I hated football, and he usually rewarded the other kids a class of football after a major test. But he allowed me to sit and do nothing when the other kids played football. Not my favourite time of the week, but still, a lot better than being forced to do something I don't really like just because the majority demands it. I owe the guy a lot.

 

On 11/8/2019 at 7:57 PM, Billy Russo said:

I've never gone to a music gig, mostly out of anxiety & fear. I feel like I'd just awkwardly stand there, but maybe some day I'll build up the confidence to go. With something like the Cinema, you just sit down, it's dark and you can try and forget about people. Same can't be said for a music gig where everyone is dancing, being active and stuff like that. I just feel like it wouldn't be my scene.

I had my first gig in 2016, it was a rather small venue with an older, not very well known artist so most of the audience were old people. I was kinda nervous about the loudness of the sound (I'm easily annoyed by loud noises) but definitely wasn't expecting nothing too crazy. In the end I enjoyed it a lot. Things were different when I went to see Roger Waters last year, the dude is pretty old too but his music is far more timeless and always draws a crowd of all ages. My brother went to see the Rolling Stones in 2015 at the same place (a large stadium) and he told me about drunk people laying everywhere and the envious pieces of sh*t who couldn't enter and were yelling at everyone who came out of the stadium after the event. Thankfully none of that happened at Roger's. Leaving the place was a bit annoying with so many people, and we were one hour on the car just to leave the parking, and then three additional hours on the road until we reached home, but we certainly don't regret it. It was a mostly positive experience.

[thehambone]

Speaking of gigs, the guy who shouts "Freebird!" from the crowd. There's always one dude who still thinks that it's still funny for some reason. I just see it as incredibly disrespectful and just another blow to the already pulverized horse.

Edited November 11, 2019 by thehambone

[Ned Bingham]

On 11/6/2019 at 10:55 PM, Billy Russo said:

People who wait until AFTER Bonfire Night to set fireworks off.

It's the only way to stand out from the crowd and automatically feel special maaaaaaan.