Why are people so concerned with who I date?

[woggleman]

I am dating a woman 10 years younger than me meaning I am in my 30s and she is in her 20s. The other day she came by to give me something and I introduced her to my coworkers and one in particular wants to get on my case about why I can't date a woman my own age. She also says I need to grow up and stop being a Peter Pan. This from somebody who wouldn't know a healthy relationship if it fell on her lap and is in a ton of debt. Why is she concerned with my business?

[Dottie]

Because its not socially accepted by them

They're just h8n

[Coin]

Maybe she's interested in you?

 

Either inform her it's none of her business, or ignore it.

[dice]

Half your age plus 7, m8. You're in the clear

[MarshalMoo]

Maybe because you're in your 30s and you don't know when to use "whom?"

[Fonz]

Maybe because you're in your 30s and you don't know when to use "whom?"

I clicked on this thread specifically to say that. F*ck you, sir!

[Jolly Swagman]

Maybe because you're in your 30s and you don't know when to use "whom?"

But using whom makes you sound like an old lady

 

Edit: On topic, OP is this thread really just a way for you to humble brag about dating a young chick?

Edited March 27, 2015 by Jolly Swagman

[MarshalMoo]

 

Maybe because you're in your 30s and you don't know when to use "whom?"

But using whom makes you sound like an old lady

 

Do you also have a problem with this advertisement?

 

[Finn 7 five 11]

 

 

Maybe because you're in your 30s and you don't know when to use "whom?"

But using whom makes you sound like an old lady

 

Edit: On topic, OP is this thread really just a way for you to humble brag about dating a young chick?

Humble brag or not, it's pretty stupid when people make comments on relationships like this.

 

A 12yo dating 17 year old, that's very odd because the maturity difference is huge.

A 20 year old dating someone in their thirties? No worries. Maturity differences aren't going to be huge. I have no problems hanging out with older people.

[Jolly Swagman]

 

Do you also have a problem with this advertisement?

 

I should have said like an English teacher and not a real person. It just happened that all my English teachers were old ladies. You have to understand I live in Australia where we all compete to speak as lazily and improperly as possible.

 

Edit: Also Australians who have never been to Britain but put on a fake English accent also use whom

Edited March 27, 2015 by Jolly Swagman

[woggleman]

 

Maybe because you're in your 30s and you don't know when to use "whom?"

But using whom makes you sound like an old lady

 

Edit: On topic, OP is this thread really just a way for you to humble brag about dating a young chick?

 

Not really. My coworker was getting on my case about this yesterday and I notice a number of women I know have an issue with this. Are they really that insecure?

[Jolly Swagman]

 

 

 

 

Maybe because you're in your 30s and you don't know when to use "whom?"

But using whom makes you sound like an old lady

 

Edit: On topic, OP is this thread really just a way for you to humble brag about dating a young chick?

 

Not really. My coworker was getting on my case about this yesterday and I notice a number of women I know have an issue with this. Are they really that insecure?I don't know any of your co-workers so I'm not sure what insight I could offer as to what their motivations are.

 

People who are named Prue also use whom

[S0lo]

eh, my weed-smoking, art-painting granduncle is in his 80s and he's got a woman who is in her late 30s. Now that's a difference worth a humblebrag

[El Dildo]

when I was 18 I had sex with a 14 year old.

I think they called it "high school."

 

as long as you're not a straight up pedophile, age differences don't mean anything.

[S0lo]

when I was 18 I had sex with a 14 year old.

I think they called it "high school."

 

as long as you're not a straight up pedophile, age differences don't mean anything.

 

well, US law would call it statutory rape. but yeah.

[Fonz]

I'm 17 (will be 18 in 3 months) and was going to have sex with a 15-year-old chick the other day. I didn't go through with it, though. She was a bit crazy and I didn't want to risk getting caught in a sticky (eh) situation.

[El Dildo]

well, US law would call it statutory rape. but yeah.

I wasn't the only senior dating a freshman.

you don't usually hear too many statutory cases being brought against high school kids.

[MikeyBelic]

Your co-worker would probably be the first to jump on a 20 y.0 d1ck when it came around so I would just ignore her.

[S0lo]

 

well, US law would call it statutory rape. but yeah.

I wasn't the only senior dating a freshman.

you don't usually hear too many statutory cases being brought against high school kids.

 

 

all it takes is some batsh*t crazy, or religious (i know there's a joke in there somewhere), parents. and i bet you it happens way more often than you'd think.

 

Personally, i think in most cases your example is no problem, especially since most 18 year old boys are on the same level of maturity as 14 year old girls.

[Reformed Squid]

I know a dude in his early 20's that is dating a 13 year old.

 

I tend to avoid the subject when we're talking.

[Alpha Demigod]

As long as she's not under 18, you should be fine. Screw what others think. If this was the other way around the older woman would be face no scrutiny and be praised as a cougar or milf or whatever, so there's no reason you should be called a pedophile or other insult.

[krashr]

This from somebody who wouldn't know a healthy relationship if it fell on her lap

 

as good a reason as any to disregard her comments then

[Coin]

As long as she's not under 18, you should be fine. Screw what others think. If this was the other way around the older woman would be face no scrutiny and be praised as a cougar or milf or whatever, so there's no reason you should be called a pedophile or other insult.

 

Yeah, no.

 

Just about every older woman I've ever encountered that has dated a much younger man has faced some scrutiny. No more or less than a guy would.

[am30]

The solution is simple.

 

You're in your 30's and you're banging a chick in her early 20's - well done Sir. Your co-workers is overly concerned but is clealry intersted.

 

Have a three-some. Everyone's a winner.

[007_eleven]

I would be concerned for you because your description of her not having previously had healthy relationships + being in debt = sounds like she intends to use you as a cash cow.

 

Congrats on sex with a less wrinkly woman and look out for your own interests.

[K20]

haters will hate. just enjoy the time with her. but like 007_eleven said, look out for your own interest.

[a20characterusername]

 

As long as she's not under 18, you should be fine. Screw what others think. If this was the other way around the older woman would be face no scrutiny and be praised as a cougar or milf or whatever, so there's no reason you should be called a pedophile or other insult.

 

Yeah, no.

 

Just about every older woman I've ever encountered that has dated a much younger man has faced some scrutiny. No more or less than a guy would.

 

DB has made his share of dumbass statements in the past, but I think he's onto something here. At least in the US, there's definitely a different general attitude when it comes to age differences and gender in relationships. I've always gotten the impression that an older man dating a younger woman is seen as almost 'predatory' by society at large, yet not when the situation is flipped.

 

E: I will say that when the situation is reversed, the woman will almost always be accused of dating for money. So it does go both ways, but in different ways.

Edited March 27, 2015 by a20characterusername

[Mark]

 

 

 

 

As long as she's not under 18, you should be fine. Screw what others think. If this was the other way around the older woman would be face no scrutiny and be praised as a cougar or milf or whatever, so there's no reason you should be called a pedophile or other insult.

Yeah, no.

 

Just about every older woman I've ever encountered that has dated a much younger man has faced some scrutiny. No more or less than a guy would.

 

DB has made his share of dumbass statements in the past, but I think he's onto something here. At least in the US, there's definitely a different general attitude when it comes to age differences and gender in relationships. I've always gotten the impression that an older man dating a younger woman is seen as almost 'predatory' by society at large, yet not when the situation is flipped.

 

E: I will say that when the situation is reversed, the woman will almost always be accused of dating for money. So it does go both ways, but in different ways.

As someone in their mid 20s dating someone who is 40 this year, it doesn't seem to be that much easier for a woman in the same situation. Indeed, she got stick from even her closest friends until they got to know me. Especially as we were 23 and 36 respectively at the time. It was only then they figured I was probably more mature than her ex husband who was about the same age as her.

 

I wouldn't go as far as to say it's predatory either, not when the younger person is of the age where maturity is generally expected of you. I've got some close friends where a 35 year old woman has been in a long term relationship with a now 60 year old man. They're both wonderful people who suit each other perfectly. There's nothing predatory about it, nor was there anything predatory 10 or so years ago when they met.

 

Tl;dr sod them, they're just narrow minded. Age is just a number and is very different from maturity.

[ByePolar]

I am dating a woman 10 years younger than me meaning I am in my 30s and she is in her 20s. The other day she came by to give me something and I introduced her to my coworkers and one in particular wants to get on my case about why I can't date a woman my own age. She also says I need to grow up and stop being a Peter Pan. This from somebody who wouldn't know a healthy relationship if it fell on her lap and is in a ton of debt. Why is she concerned with my business?

 

Simply tell the person to mind their own business and f*ck off!

[GN 92]

You should just ignore these people.