Do you have a hard time making/keeping friends?

[Undyne]

To answer your question, it's not making friends that's hard. it's keeping them, most of them turn out to be manipulative bitches.

[Payne Killer]

Keeping friends is hard, making friends is easy.

[Majestic81]

I've never had a problem getting or keeping friends, aside from a few bad apples of course. but generally i dont worry about such things at all. and im f*cking grateful for that. i've known a colleague in the past who had really hard time keeping any sort of friend for longer than 2 weeks, but she was just crazy.

Edited September 26, 2014 by Majestic81

[Sayy Whaattt]

Wow... I'm not the only one to have a bad opinion of friends, dont get me wrong, friends is vital for a happy life. but the 'friends' i have got either think im a piece of s**t or pretend im not there. The friend that i wanted to be his best friend for a long time (i was moving schools and he was going to the same one) becomes friendly to me for a day. Then finds a new best friend and f**king ditches me. Thank god some one has the same feelings as me...

[Graven]

I just made plateful of friends but I can´t keep em for long.

 

Edited September 26, 2014 by Slave Boy

[Coin]

I just made plateful of friends but I can´t keep em for long.

 

 

Well, see, I think your problem is that your friends look far too delicious for their own good...

Edited September 26, 2014 by Insert-Coin-To-Continue

[Aby]

I don't attempt to make friends, people always come to me.

 

I've never had a hard time keeping friends.

[kipakolonyasi]

I decided to ask this after someone I though was a "friend" ended up being just another asshole who used me for my kindness again. I don't get it people always do this to me act like tey are friends but end up just using me then in the end treating me like sh*t and making me feel like trash. So getting back to the topic, Do you find it hard to make/keep friends? Personally I have the hardest time. First off I'm very quiet. My health also is unpredictable. So it makes it hard for me to meet new friends. When I do make them it's good for a while then something goes wrong, and it turns to sh*t every time. I don't think I have one real true friend in the world I just wish I knew why people don't like me. I mean I'm respectful I don't have a mean bone in my body. I'm the kind of person that will give the shirt off his back and the last dime to his name to help someone out, yet people always end up just building walls and keeping me out This sucks

maybe it's because you're quiet. have you tried being sociable?

[mr quick]

How to get friends, a guide by the mood man

 

1: be sexy

[EyeMacHunt]

I'm in a scooter (Vespa club)

 

there's your first problem.

[Crazyeighties]

 

 

I'm in a scooter (Vespa club)

there's your first problem.

Do me a favor, don't be hard on me for something I enjoy doing. Most of the club members are very cool people

 

 

I decided to ask this after someone I though was a "friend" ended up being just another asshole who used me for my kindness again. I don't get it people always do this to me act like tey are friends but end up just using me then in the end treating me like sh*t and making me feel like trash. So getting back to the topic, Do you find it hard to make/keep friends? Personally I have the hardest time. First off I'm very quiet. My health also is unpredictable. So it makes it hard for me to meet new friends. When I do make them it's good for a while then something goes wrong, and it turns to sh*t every time. I don't think I have one real true friend in the world I just wish I knew why people don't like me. I mean I'm respectful I don't have a mean bone in my body. I'm the kind of person that will give the shirt off his back and the last dime to his name to help someone out, yet people always end up just building walls and keeping me out This sucks

maybe it's because you're quiet. have you tried being sociable?

I do I really and truly do try to be social, I just don't have anything to say

[trip]

 

 

I'm in a scooter (Vespa club)

there's your first problem.

Do me a favor, don't be hard on me for something I enjoy doing. Most of the club members are very cool people

 

 

I'm gonna back you up on this one and I think you might even know my attitude and feelings towards scooters.

 

 

 

 

 

 

You don't need to keep friends. Everyone gets at least one good and true friend and that is all ya need. The cool thing about being a dude is friends [pretty much] stay on the list regardless of interactivity and time between communications.

[GN 92]

I have like, 5~10 friends I can trust. And 30~50 I know but do not trust at all.

 

And no, I don't need them all of the time. I usually have BBQs and beer drinking weekends with 2~5 of them and we have a great time.

[kipakolonyasi]

 

 

I'm in a scooter (Vespa club)

there's your first problem.

Do me a favor, don't be hard on me for something I enjoy doing. Most of the club members are very cool people

 

I decided to ask this after someone I though was a "friend" ended up being just another asshole who used me for my kindness again. I don't get it people always do this to me act like tey are friends but end up just using me then in the end treating me like sh*t and making me feel like trash. So getting back to the topic, Do you find it hard to make/keep friends? Personally I have the hardest time. First off I'm very quiet. My health also is unpredictable. So it makes it hard for me to meet new friends. When I do make them it's good for a while then something goes wrong, and it turns to sh*t every time. I don't think I have one real true friend in the world I just wish I knew why people don't like me. I mean I'm respectful I don't have a mean bone in my body. I'm the kind of person that will give the shirt off his back and the last dime to his name to help someone out, yet people always end up just building walls and keeping me out This sucks

maybe it's because you're quiet. have you tried being sociable?

I do I really and truly do try to be social, I just don't have anything to say

 

you need to talk bro. i ain't exactly the most interesting man in the world neither but i crack bad jokes or ask something etc. and easily join people you know. do you smoke? smoking helped me a lot.

[theadmiral]

Did you eat any of that pao de queijo at those bbqs?

[GN 92]

Did you eat any of that pao de queijo at those bbqs?

 

No, not at all, that's our breakfast food

[LOES]

I'm introverted so people tend to mistake that for just not liking them. I try to work on conversation but really just because I don't say much doesn't mean I don't want u around

 

Also making friends who you can hang with instead of just maybe saying hi once in a while is hard for me now because my program is like a freaking mental hunger games. Alliances were formed in high school and it's time to take down the less equipped

Edited September 27, 2014 by LOES

[_Kaiser]

Simply put, yes. The way people are in my area and how my life went I just don't trust anyone to be a friend. I don't expect anyone to be either but if they do I avoid getting attached because they won't be there for long.

 

I used to be that smiling kid that talked to everyone so its not like I spent my time being grumpy and whiny like alot of people who can't make friends. I would like to have friends but I stopped caring as much as I used to.

 

You should find out what you want to do in life and don't focus on making friends. Don't waste too much time trying to make friends.

[Tikhung]

Everywhere I go, people call me a freak. Well screw them.

[Theodore93]

I never actively try to make or keep friends. The friends I have I just gradually made over time, most of them I knew from school.

 

I don't socialize much though because I'm a weirdo introvert and also have health issues too so often just can't be bothered going out. Whether or not this bothers my friends or not I don't know but they haven't ditched me yet. That said, we're getting older now and they're often too busy to go out and it is apparent that we seem to be gradually drifting apart. Perhaps I'm just a horrible person but I'm really not that bothered by this.

Edited September 27, 2014 by Waldie

[Testarossa]

Yes, i'm so antisocial.

[TEoS]

@OP you sound kinda like a sad sack. "Not having a mean bone in your body" doesn't mean you're likable. In fact, it might just make you a pushover. And pushovers attract... uh pushers. It sucks that you're ill, and that you're a quiet person, but that's the hand you've been dealt in life and the whole woe is me routine isn't going to be attracting people in droves.

 

Making friends isn't really something you go out and do like it's something on a weekly checklist. You can make acquaintances that blossom into friendships, but making a real friend isn't really all that common. I imagine most people go through life only making a handful of real friends, everyone else is just people they sorta like being around. So I'd recommend you just tell the assholes to f*ck off, hang out with the people who treat you with respect, and eventually you'll find someone. Socialization skills are learned. If you're repelling people with casual conversation, take a moment and reflect on what's turning them away. Look for facial and body language to see what specifically is or isn't working.

 

@Everyone else, I'm really disappointed that you haven't been crushing the OP with well intentioned but ultimately super condescending life advice.

[Crazyeighties]

@OP you sound kinda like a sad sack. "Not having a mean bone in your body" doesn't mean you're likable. In fact, it might just make you a pushover. And pushovers attract... uh pushers. It sucks that you're ill, and that you're a quiet person, but that's the hand you've been dealt in life and the whole woe is me routine isn't going to be attracting people in droves.

 

Making friends isn't really something you go out and do like it's something on a weekly checklist. You can make acquaintances that blossom into friendships, but making a real friend isn't really all that common. I imagine most people go through life only making a handful of real friends, everyone else is just people they sorta like being around. So I'd recommend you just tell the assholes to f*ck off, hang out with the people who treat you with respect, and eventually you'll find someone. Socialization skills are learned. If you're repelling people with casual conversation, take a moment and reflect on what's turning them away. Look for facial and body language to see what specifically is or isn't working.

 

@Everyone else, I'm really disappointed that you haven't been crushing the OP with well intentioned but ultimately super condescending life advice.

I'm not a push over, I just don't see any reason in being an asshole when it's not needed

[am30]

Friends are over-rated. People come and go, just the way life is.

[Bessie_23]

I have a hard time making friends, not keeping them. Over the years I've discovered the fact that I'm an introvert and that's hwy perhaps I don't open up to people verye asily or say, approach them myself extending a hand of friendship. However, once I'm pretty familiar with someone and they are friendly in return, I have no issues keeping them and they are friends forever!

[Kalvin]

I don't and never have had friends IRL, is that good or bad?

[Shyabang Shyabang]

You need to meet the right friends. I made three new friends this year. It was easy for me because they're trustworthy. And they're not too judgemental so they're easy to get along with. I'm actually the type of person who prefers to be alone, and I'm alone much of the time. I meet those new friends only once a week or once every two weeks because they live in another part of the city.

[Danz.]

Plus people LOVE getting asked about themselves it seems because it shows you're interested in them.

Dunno, it doesn't always seem to work for most people I talk with.

Edited September 29, 2014 by Danz.

[Ulrich Kirsch]

People I meet don't seem to remain alive around

Edited September 29, 2014 by Ulrich Kirsch

[Johan]

I don't have problem making friends, it's usually done in 3 seconds.. keeping friends is something I have no control of, there are some friends that I lost after graduation simply because they moved, others just weren't worth keeping in my life anymore.