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Nowdrivefaster

I have become friends with this person. We come along very well and we're enjoying our time together but... sometimes I can't just understand her!!

 

She has a bad addiction to internet and she always likes to buy stuff she can't afford. When it's time to pay for products, she's complaining about her poor money situation and acts like she's a victim. She also owes her friend a money and when it would have been time to pay it back, she decided to go to journey!! She never has got money to feed herself or her child because she's so addicted to buy some stuff she doesn't even need and then expects everyone to help her. I've said to her so many times that she should just quit using internet for like two weeks but no... she doesn't want to do that.

 

This irritates me most: I have a broken leg and she wants me to take care of her dog during her journey. I tried to tell her it's not possible but she got really pissed off. "My journey is ruined!!!" and I can't take it if she's mad at me. I just want everyone to be happy.

 

Maybe I could take care of her dog this time but next time I won't. I think she's very wonderful person and a great friend but in case everything happens like this... It's not my business if she's unresponsible but how does that affect to our releationship?!?

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THE GHETTO JEZUS

Did you tell her that she needs to know the difference from " what you need " and " what you want " ?

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Nowdrivefaster

Yes I did, but maybe I wasn't so believable that I was supposed to be... She was like "Yes I know, but I just can't help myself". Say what?!

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Sounds like You're the one with a problem. A pleasing problem.

Get that NO word out of your mouth for once.

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Graven, you're right. That has always been my problem. I've tried to please everyone. Next time I will just say no and I've done that many times before. It's just so hard sometimes... but everyone says "NO" sometimes and if my friend will be mad, it's her problem. Not mine. I can't be the only one who will always save her.

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I have become friends with this person. [...]he's [ir]responsible but how does that affect to our relationship?

Don't lead her on. Cut the cord and get away while you still can.

All this resentment will not make for a good continuing relationship.

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I have become friends with this person. We come along very well and we're enjoying our time together but... sometimes I can't just understand her!!

 

She has a bad addiction to internet and she always likes to buy stuff she can't afford. When it's time to pay for products, she's complaining about her poor money situation and acts like she's a victim. She also owes her friend a money and when it would have been time to pay it back, she decided to go to journey!! She never has got money to feed herself or her child because she's so addicted to buy some stuff she doesn't even need and then expects everyone to help her. I've said to her so many times that she should just quit using internet for like two weeks but no... she doesn't want to do that.

 

This irritates me most: I have a broken leg and she wants me to take care of her dog during her journey. I tried to tell her it's not possible but she got really pissed off. "My journey is ruined!!!" and I can't take it if she's mad at me. I just want everyone to be happy.

 

Maybe I could take care of her dog this time but next time I won't. I think she's very wonderful person and a great friend but in case everything happens like this... It's not my business if she's unresponsible but how does that affect to our releationship?!?

I understand wanting to make people happy, I'm the same way. I have to tell you if she is your " friend" wouldn't she understand that your leg is broken and you need to get better and back on your feet? (no pun intended)

I mean there are a lot of people out there that take advantage of nice people I'm just saying maybe it's something to look at if she is a true friend.

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Nowdrivefaster

It's been a while since I wrote about this... meanwhile she's been trying to pay court to my fiancé. Me and him have planned to take a short vacation in foreign country and she asked my fiancé directly: "Which one of us you wanna take with you?" My fiancé took that question as a joke... he has made clear that he's not interested in my friend. Not at all. We have been together for years now and both of us wants to keep this releationship alive.

 

Lately, my friend has been trying to get my fiancé to her Place as she was joking... if I say something about it, she tries to laugh at me like: "You're so jealous! I knew you would be jealous, ha ha ha..." and then asks my fiancé: "Isn't she cute! Everyone knows I'm joking! Is she always like that?"

 

I talked to her seriously and said: "Your behaviour is insulting me. I don't want you to say anything like those things you have said By now". She sounded like she even tried to understand...

 

She's been trying to hug my fiancé (which is cool) and kiss him to cheeks (this is NOT cool). She even admitted to me she has enamored to him. My fiancé has never showed any interest to my friend, so that made her really frustrated...

 

After she realized that she can't have my fiancé, she has behaved like martyr: "I guess I have to get to relationship with this drunk guy I know... too bad, there is no good men available". Like it would be my problem...

 

I'm not that kind anymore. If she tries to make me feel quilty, I show no mercy. Otherwise my other friends might say something polite about my fiancé but no-one of them has never - EVER - even TRIED to pay any court to him. Not at all. Maybe some of my single friends has said: "Wish I had a man like you have" but NOTHING more.

 

I think I just got to distance from her...

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This chick sounds crazy dude.. just get away while you can. Too much turbulence there man.

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Nowdrivefaster

Maybe you guys are right... I'll see what to do. Today she called and told me about her new boyfriend. I really hope she will be happy, 'cause I've been troubled myself a few years ago and I don't want anyone to get hurt or be sad... Maybe I have a will to find out which things made her like that. I'm going to study in psychology form :D I still care about her although I can't always understand all the things she does. I even care about my boss, although he is a complete son of a bitch. But I will still care about myself and keep my limits!

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Maybe I could take care of her dog this time but next time I won't. I think she's very wonderful person and a great friend but in case everything happens like this... It's not my business if she's unresponsible but how does that affect to our releationship?!?

I wouldn't because the next time she needs it she'll go to you and when you say no, She'll say but you did it for me last time.

 

It's best to put your foot down and tell her no and not cave in.

 

Also if she is putting her child in jeopardy with not having money to care/feed and clothes her child she needs to have a visit from CPS.

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I don't mean to be rude but this woman sounds like a bitch, i understand she is your friend and all but tbh she seems to be a user, one who takes everything from you and moves on, i could be totally wrong, but just keep your distance from her just to be safe.

 

this girl gives me this feel

just to add some comedy a little :)

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I stopped taking this seriously at 'addiction to the Internet' but you sound bitchmade and you aren't even getting anything.

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Threesome ftw !

Grow up.

 

Nowdrivefaster, you just have to cut her off. Tell her why you're not going to talk to her anymore. Give her all the reasons and all the things you've tried to do to help her out of her life as a user and when she tries to excuse herself and rope you back in, just say "I'm not interested in hearing it again" and leave completely. Don't let anything she says bring you back to keep talking about it.

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SolidSnails

Forced therapy. Destroy all of her electronic devices or hide them and watch her descent into madness because she cant look at tumblr and waste money on pointless things.

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Threesome ftw !

Grow up..

Take a joke and relax ya dope... not everything on the internet has to be so serious.

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King of Aesthetics

Please, just cut off all contact with this person. She treats you like sh*t and is obviously a user, don't be the 'nice guy' and get treated like sh*t, don't try to please her, just tell her to blantly f*ck off.

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Nowdrivefaster

I have talked to her about all of this and she notices my needs also much better than before. I'm still not go say yes to everything she asks me. My leg is completely improved now and I don't actually mind if her dog is at my house sometimes. I just love animals and taking care of them :)

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Threesome ftw !

 

Grow up.

 

Yeah grow up. We all know a threesome isnt the answer, plus the interwebz is serious business.

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Unless you're f*cking her, put your foot down.

 

Edit: Just re-read the thread. The girl is a c*nt and toxic.

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she might be a c*nt but this guy is a f*ckin doormat for not saying NO when she's not even touching his dick.

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a20characterusername

she might be a c*nt but this guy is a f*ckin doormat for not saying NO when she's not even touching his dick.

^and this guy clearly has terrible reading comprehension.

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