Anger.

[high91]

Anger is a sore emotion. Its spontaneous, scary, out of control and life wrecking for others.

 

Its worse when you get angry at the people you love then get angry with yourself for doing it.

 

Anger has a range. In my opinion it goes from silent anger to full blown screaming your head off at someone who has p1ssed you off. Whether that be a friend or your other half, sometimes 5hit happens and we feel guilty in the end for it and tend to tell ourselves how bad we are.

 

Im bad for punching things in a temper..BUT...never a human or living thing. I dont believe in aggression towards peers. I tend to shout at people in the stages of irrational thought but I always keep control over my physical side.

 

Some people can struggle with with it and it fux up thier lives.

 

The purpose of the topic is to see how you feel about anger and the portrayal of it.

 

Also, how does the emotion ANGER make you feel in the motions of it. I hate being angry and stressed but it really does happen.

Edited March 15, 2014 by high91

[Rainbow Party]

I can't say if anger makes you weaker or stronger ("you" as in people in general). It seems like you can get more physical strength when you are angry but at the same time you can't control your decisions. I wish The Avengers had gone a little bit deeper with this in the Hulk's character.

I hate it so much how people like to say "Calm down" to someone who's angry. I wonder if they are too stupid to understand how to deal with angry people, or if they are such jerks that they like to see angry people suffer getting angrier. I doubt many people enjoy being angry themselves.
What angers me the most is when people don't understand me or when I can't put my logic and reasoning into other people's minds, regardless of wether I'm right or wrong, I need people to acknowledge my point of view and when they don't it pisses me off. That happens to me constantly on the internet and a little less often in real life. I don't know how I deal with it, I mostly just imagine myself in the future killing tons of humans like a terrorist as a sort of revenge against the world.
You'd think the internet would help someone express and vent out their anger but it actually makes me feel really powerless.

Edited March 15, 2014 by Rainbow Party

[Audiophile]

I keep it all in.

 

If someone makes me angry, I let it slide. I don't show it. Maybe the rare time I have but that's really rare and you really have to piss me off.

 

The thing is, I take it out on my family because I know they will take it. I hate it and I try not to do it but the anger has to come out some way and I'm too damn nice to let it out on the people who do deserve it, simply because it wouldn't be "polite" and they're my friends or acquaintances etc.

 

I don't get physical, I sometimes say nasty things and raise my voice. Most of the time I just get very passive-aggressive. It's horrible and I really need to work on this. But depression + anger....doesn't mix well.

 

Feels bad, mang. So I guess it makes me "weaker" because I don't deal with it in a healthy way.

Edited March 15, 2014 by Audiophile

[high91]

^^^ Oh my god ^^^ Two awesome answers.

 

I am pretty much the same. Its the most frustrating thing when people think they can just not listen and take the piss but dont see that not understanding you makes you worse therefore ending in built up anger that gets worse...

 

Family get it because you know they wont leave you, if you have a solid family that is. We all do it.

 

I just get angry when people think they understand but they really dont AND they tell you to calm it or else...or some other patronising balls.

 

People walking on the edge of the truth also really f*cking frustrates me beyond belief

[018361]

I think of anger like water flowing into the basin of a dam. When you learn to hold back your emotions because you are too prideful to show them you build a dam bigger, higher, and stronger. This dam is what you use to hold back the tears and other happier emotions. The more we hold it back for the sake of being prideful, the more we build up a resistance to our actual feelings and we one day start asking ourselves why we are unable to cry. It is simply because you've taught yourself not too. Now when the basin gets filled up with emotion and cannot be drained normally it diverts it's course and flows a different way. It start flowing into the rivers of the only socially " acceptable " emotions which turns into anger. Which hurts yourself and other more than it would if you were to cry. Because crying is a human emotion and it is how we heal ourselves from extremely emotional situations. In life we get ridiculed for showing emotion. We get called pussies and babies and people don't realize that by doing that they are hurting not only the people they bully, but also the people around the bullied person in question. I used to have an anger problem until In realized that I was become some monster. We turn ourselves to beasts to hide the pain of being man, as one band would say it. It was only until I had reached a certain point where I looked back on myself and my good actions and had asked myself " where did I go wrong? " and I noticed that it was when I started growing up and holding in my apparent " unacceptable " emotions that I had become angry. It was after this that I realized that during my life I had held in such of this negativity and had learned to channel in into anger to compensate for allowing my tears to fall.

 

Tl:DR Stop holding in those tears friend. You unintentionally channel your emotion into a river of anger and hatred.

[I<3GTAV]

Lately, if I'm angry enough I'll throw stuff around really hard. This kid told this girl I wanted to screw her, so I threw my controller at the wall. Today, the same kid poured water on my head, and I was about to punch him straight in the face, but I controlled myself. Next time he does something, I'll probably be pissed enough to punch him.

[high91]

^^ know the feeling. Usually something gets thrown or ''moved'' heavily.

 

I like to punish my knuckles with hard surfaces and when im finished with my anger I feel stupid.

 

@018361. You have it spot on buddy. Great answer.

[Gnocchi Flip Flops]

Anger at most times is annoying. I actually punched a kid in the back when he screwed with my phones charger three weeks ago. I usually just hold my anger back.

[XxX19Dude95XxX]

Lately, if I'm angry enough I'll throw stuff around really hard. This kid told this girl I wanted to screw her, so I threw my controller at the wall. Today, the same kid poured water on my head, and I was about to punch him straight in the face, but I controlled myself. Next time he does something, I'll probably be pissed enough to punch him.

good good let the hate flow through you

Edited March 15, 2014 by bikerman3

[t3h PeNgU1N oF d00m]

Thankfully I don't take my anger out on anyone. At least not through violence. Mainly because I would probably get my ass kicked.

 

When I'm angry, I normally just hold it in and go on a drive. Then someone cuts me off and I get even angrier.

[rudy]

I think of anger like a cloud in my head that gets thicker and harder to think (and see) through as I get angrier, hell I can remember one time I was so horribly angry I was literally blind with rage, I also couldn't hear much of anything either.

The best way to control your anger is venting. Voice what has you upset. Once you've calmed down a bit, if you can do something about it, strategize. If not, then think about how you can avoid it, and strategize. Or find something to take your mind off it, until you feel ready to deal with it rationally. If something isn't working, try something else. I recommend something either mindless or creative. I watch movies. Some people write or play music. Put simply, whatever floats your boat.

Secondly, avoid alcohol. If someone tells you that it's best way to take your anger out, f*ck them. It basically

takes your underlying feelings, and vents them to the world without your brain engaged to stop you from saying/doing/thinking sh*t you'll

regret. Hey, trust me when I say this, the last time I got real angry and basked into booze, the person who got physically hurt is my sister. Only god knows how I regreted for being a massive stupid c*nt that day. If you're feeling happy and cheery and with friends, that's one thing, but if you're depressed or angry, it's a bad idea, imo.

[Raavi]

I usually don't show that I'm angry, and when I'm in an argument I try to defuse the situation. However the seldom occurrence I am really mad, frustrated or sad I drop everything I'm doing and go on a drive, not the 20 minute get it out off my system drive. No, I get on the highway and just keep driving and driving, then later at some point when I have cooled down a bit I pick a city reasonably close by and get a hotel or if there is nothing available sleep in my car for the night. Last time I did that was this past September, had a huge falling out with someone close to me and I just got in the car and drove down to Munich, which is some 6 hours from where I was. It is a costly way to deal with my anger, but it is better than drinking and it tends to give me a fresh perspective on things.

[Harley]

I've Hendrix'd my guitar, smashed phones and other sh*t. Usually out of anger, but stress really eats at me too.

[EphemeralStar]

When I'm any negative emotion I go and take a bath and it calms me down. Or I sleep. Or I eat. Or I go exercise. If I can't do any of those well... I cry and I swear and I call inanimate objects bad names. If there's a person who got me mad and we're together, I'll usually stay my distance and tell them they hurt my feelings and to go away. If they try to hug me or touch me after I told them to go away I will kick them away or something.

[THE GHETTO JEZUS]

For me I tend to not to get angry at most of the time since I give to 2 sh*ts when people piss me off. Many people try to piss me off but no one has ever succeeded with that since I don't get buthurt about stuff and I'm super easy going. But when I do get angry I would usually just hide it instead of showing it. From the out side I would look like I'm happy, chill, or w.e but in the inside I want to rip out your guts and feed them to a pack of lions. Like I would never go physical because that's just really stupid and it'll just create a new problem with revenge and shyt. I would usually go verbal but not really intense but like I'll mildly swear at you or just to piss you off. And then after an while I would just leave you and I'll just go out and cool down and during the cool down I would just feel like sh*t and regret what ever I just did. Then I would ( most of the time ) apologize to you and try to negotiate something that'll both make us happy. And that's how I deal with my anger issues, pretty lame but yea.

[Graven]

I really don´t get angry anymore. More like frustrated, and that´s usually caused by factitious stress or hurry.

I try to stop and analyze what´s causing the negative emotion. And You know most of the times it´s something so small it´s ridiculous to get angry about.

Over the years I´ve become more and more stoaic about things, events and situations which would have sent the red bar high earlier.

It is part of aging process, people do become calmer with age. But it´s also something I have worked on purpose. I used to be a quite hater in my teens/post teen years.

[Mr. Scratch]

Two words: punching bag.

[cattafett]

as a child i used to get angry you know rant and rave and throw thing about

but when i hit my teens i sort of got cold and in my mind i'd plan on how i was going to make that

person really understand how unhappy i was

but now as a 30+ grown up(still can't say that without smirking) when i feel myself losing it

its like a tight ring around my head just above my ears and i can feel the blood pulsing

and getting faster and stronger then i notice the clenched fists

thats when i go for a walk to calm down (longest to date is an 8 hour walk around london)

 

just once i'd like to be able to let that anger lose on someone but i fear that once i start

i won't be able to stop and everyone who even looked at me in a way i didn't like would get it

and god help anyone who i went to school with

[K^2]

Anger is just one of these things you need to learn to control and channel. If you find you take actions out of anger, you are doing it wrong. But if you have a good control of it, focused anger can help you power through things that are holding you down. People can also tell the difference. Out of control anger will only cause others to provoke you more. A wave of channeled anger from an otherwise calm person can set back almost anyone.

 

It's a weapon. Wield it like one, and you'll be impressed with results. Treat it irresponsibly, and you'll be the only one hurt by it.

[Otter]

Anger is tempered by patience. The more things you learn to accept (or tolerate) in life the easier it will be to control your anger.

 

If you condition yourself to react violently, however (say, beating up a pillow or a punching bag or your brother) you're only reenforcing that violent temperament.

 

<--- total peace lovin' pacificist here, though, so take that with a grain of salt.

[DJ Arrt]

I don't get angry much. It's pointless to me, so I try not to get mad, and it works.

 

It's nothing that a little weed can't fix.

[JaydotVega]

At 32, anger is still something I struggle with at times. Not having the proper channels to deal with it and not knowing how to communicate my feelings effectively made it worse for me. Probably not the best practice, but I still lean on my love of gaming to help me work through an anger episode.

[Alhalish]

To me, anger is basically an amalgamation of various emotions in my mind that I can't control when it appears. When I'm angry, I may start behaving irrationally like laughing at inappropriate times, crying even if there's nothing worth crying for, and sometimes I vent out my frustration on people who really don't deserve it.

In its worst form (i.e. blind rage) I consider everyone and everything around me to be my enemy. Can't feel fear, can't feel pain, can't even talk, when I'm furious, you're no longer talking to me, no, you're trying to talk a person who has lost all controls of his emotions and the only thing that will satisfy him is destruction or the sound of someone's bones breaking. I once read that this is what they call "adrenaline rush", though I really don't understand what that means.

I tried every shrink that I could find and none of them can get rid of this... "condition" that I loathe.

[MarshalMoo]

Yeah, I'm going to keep it all in and go postal on you guys one day. Great advice.

[Fireman]

I either hit myself on the head or punch the wall when I'm angry, but only once no one is around anymore, otherwise people might think I'm crazy.