Opening up with Hookers

[johnny_zoo]

Why is it I can only open up emotionally around hookers?

 

When I go see these girls I find myself easily talking to them about anything and everything. In fact I think sometimes I visit these girls simply because I want someone to talk to. The last few times I told them I didn't even want sex really. I just liked seeing this specific girl who I had developed a good vibe with. I've seen her probs 10 times now.

 

But when it comes to talking to girls normally I can never open up I get shy and reserved. I dont even bother with them now I am only confident around the 'girls' I go see in private. I'm stopping now as I'm wasting money doing that. Its kinda embarrassing really. Why is this? I need another opinion.

 

Do I really respect women if I'm going to see hookers? I feel I do respect women but I'm starting to think maybe deep down I don't since if I did would I try to get a legitimate girlfriend. I dunno maybe its because I can't get a girlfriend or because I don't want the hassle and emotional baggage that comes with getting a girl.

[Rusty Shackleford]

There's no fear of rejection or judgement with a pro. She's going to listen and act like she's interested as long as you've paid for the time.

 

Start small when talking with girls. Share your favorite show or type of coffee. Don't open with "my dad never hugged me."

 

Try not to fear rejection. It's part of life. Shake it off and move on.

Edited November 1, 2013 by Rusty Shackleford

[Voodoo]

Sounds like you've got it all figured out, man. Hookers are cheaper than therapy. Try getting a handy from your psychiatrist.

[Tacymist]

I suppose it's easier to open up to someone who can't really pass judgement on you.

[El Dildo]

Why is it I can only open up emotionally around hookers?

because you're a pussy who has no self confidence?

that's my best guess.

 

of course hookers will pretend to listen to you or care about your problems.

you're paying them.

 

they'll sit there and play a game of checkers with you assuming you've got the cash for the hour. that doesn't mean they give a sh*t about you. you need to try and talk to people who aren't taking money from you. until then you'll never know exactly what is wrong. if you really need to pay someone to talk, you'd make a lot more progress with an actual psychiatrist or therapist then you ever will with some dumb whore.

[King Andreas]

Something to think about: Hookers have 10-20 customers daily, right? I vehemently doubt they douche or shower themselves after each customer; therefore, she services one customer, and not even 5 minutes later, she services another. That means the next customer ends up rubbing his dick in another guys ejaculations. Do you "heterosexual" guys realize that?

Edited November 2, 2013 by King Andreas

[johnny_zoo]

 

Why is it I can only open up emotionally around hookers?

because you're a pussy who has no self confidence?

that's my best guess.

 

of course hookers will pretend to listen to you or care about your problems.

you're paying them.

 

they'll sit there and play a game of checkers with you assuming you've got the cash for the hour. that doesn't mean they give a sh*t about you. you need to try and talk to people who aren't taking money from you. until then you'll never know exactly what is wrong. if you really need to pay someone to talk, you'd make a lot more progress with an actual psychiatrist or therapist then you ever will with some dumb whore.

 

1) I admit there's some truth to that.

 

2) Its not that I'm telling them my problems and expecting empathy Im just telling them to tell them. I know they don't actually care. My problems arent even major problems. But its not good because it objectifies women.

 

Something to think about: Hookers have 10-20 customers daily, right? I vehemently doubt they douche or shower themselves after each customer; therefore, she services one customer, and not even 5 minutes later, she services another. That means the next customer ends up rubbing his dick in another guys ejaculations. Do you "heterosexual" guys realize that?

Not with the girl I saw. I don't know for sure but my guess is 4-5 customers tops a day. And the polish I girl I saw always went straight to the showers when I was there and she was a strict condom user. Not something I'm very proud of but I'm trying to stop Ive been doing it for 8 months now its gotten ridiculous.

[Mr. House]

Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha

[orbitalraindrops]

cash 4 vag. vag 4 cash.

oldest profession in the world.

Edited November 2, 2013 by orbitalraindrops

[Vanzant]

Something to think about: Hookers have 10-20 customers daily, right? I vehemently doubt they douche or shower themselves after each customer; therefore, she services one customer, and not even 5 minutes later, she services another. That means the next customer ends up rubbing his dick in another guys ejaculations. Do you "heterosexual" guys realize that?

 

A professional hooker takes more care about her private parts than most normal Women actually. It is after all their source of income. Just like any one else who takes care of their work tools at their job. A clean vagina is a money making vagina.

[DEALUX]

What do you want from women? It seems that you have some issues that need to be dealt with. Don't expect girls to be the solution to your problem(s). That's not a good way to start a relationship.

[johnny_zoo]

What do you want from women? It seems that you have some issues that need to be dealt with. Don't expect girls to be the solution to your problem(s). That's not a good way to start a relationship.

I dont really know. Girls are not the solution I can understand that.

[trip]

 

Something to think about: Hookers have 10-20 customers daily, right? I vehemently doubt they douche or shower themselves after each customer; therefore, she services one customer, and not even 5 minutes later, she services another. That means the next customer ends up rubbing his dick in another guys ejaculations. Do you "heterosexual" guys realize that?

 

A professional hooker takes more care about her private parts than most normal Women actually. It is after all their source of income. Just like any one else who takes care of their work tools at their job. A clean vagina is a money making vagina.

 

 

You must have some fancy hookers in your area. I'm not sure our prostitutes bathe let alone was their cooch between uses.

Edited November 2, 2013 by trip

[DJ Arrt]

Because of the fact that you secretly know they can't really judge you that much because of their profession. I don't judge you. It's cheaper than a shrink/and you get some on the side.

[El Dildo]

I don't judge you.

well I do.

 

anyone who pays for sex is basically a loser that needs to get their act together.

[Boxman108]

Relationships are overrated as they are nowadays. BS like the stuff spewed in this thread about how this profession apparently degrades or objectifies women is evidence enough that it's not worth it to be in a relationship with someone who is very likely to turn out to be outright sexist towards men. Of course feminists will have you believe it's simply not possible to be sexist toward men, not in today's society where patriarchy rules all and keeps women down. It's just like how white people can't be victims of racism. What a f*cking joke.

[DJ Arrt]

 

I don't judge you.

well I do.

 

anyone who pays for sex is basically a loser that needs to get their act together.

 

 

But why does it matter?

[El Dildo]

it doesn't really. but I've never had to pay for sex or pay for someone to listen to my problems.

I have good friends, family, and self respect

 

just to be clear I'm not bashing this guy for the sake of bashing or being a dick.

I just believe that tough love and honesty is the only way to help people who want help. most young people today have been coddled by society to such a high degree that they're literally unprepared for the real world.

 

sometimes you need a slap in the face to get off your ass.

holding your hand and telling you sweet inspirational crap doesn't really accomplish anything. if you want a better life for yourself than the one you're currently living then suck it up, find your ballsac, and make it happen. don't sit around complaining or worrying.

Edited November 3, 2013 by El_Diablo

[LateNightNeons]

Having respect or admiration for the other genre, doesn't come from simply having a formal relationship with one. Sex can be whatever you want to be at the time you're having it. It's other things that make you a misogynist/misandrist or not.

Edited November 3, 2013 by LateNightNeons

[GTA_stu]

 

 

 

 

You must have some fancy hookers in your area. I'm not sure our prostitutes bathe let alone was their cooch between uses.

 

 

 

It looks like someone just shaved a couple of chimpanzees and stuck miniskirts on them.

 

 

 

 

 

That's pretty hot.

[Theodore93]

 

I don't judge you.

well I do.

 

anyone who pays for sex is basically a loser that needs to get their act together.

 

 

Now, now, that's not very nice.

 

Perhaps they're disabled or disfigured in some way, or maybe they are just ugly, fat, short etc. No fault of their own (except maybe fat) and it's going to be hard for them to find someone who won't be too repulsed to shag them for free. Should they then have to live their lives without sex just because a bunch of narrow minded people still think paying for sex is wrong?

 

Anyway the answer to the OP's question is simple. When dealing with a prostitute, sex is pretty much guaranteed therefore you're not having to put on a front to impress them, you can just be yourself. That said, I do think that if you do have some serious emotional issues, you should probably speak to a different kind of pro.

[Voodoo]

it doesn't really. but I've never had to pay for sex or pay for someone to listen to my problems.

I have good friends, family, and self respect

 

People who yell the loudest about this sh*t are the ones that are the most insecure about it.

[johnny_zoo]

 

 

I don't judge you.

well I do.

 

anyone who pays for sex is basically a loser that needs to get their act together.

 

 

Now, now, that's not very nice.

 

Perhaps they're disabled or disfigured in some way, or maybe they are just ugly, fat, short etc. No fault of their own (except maybe fat) and it's going to be hard for them to find someone who won't be too repulsed to shag them for free. Should they then have to live their lives without sex just because a bunch of narrow minded people still think paying for sex is wrong?

 

Anyway the answer to the OP's question is simple. When dealing with a prostitute, sex is pretty much guaranteed therefore you're not having to put on a front to impress them, you can just be yourself. That said, I do think that if you do have some serious emotional issues, you should probably speak to a different kind of pro.

 

 

Yeah thats it. Thanks for kind words. No Im not ugly, fat, just lacking in confidence and commitment.

 

Besides a 'normal' relationship where two people are together because they like each other is still prostitution in some way. Because if you stopped buying her gifts and presents she would probably stop having sex with you. All women have to be bought in some way.

[marco-polo]

Besides a 'normal' relationship where two people are together because they like each other is still prostitution in some way. Because if you stopped buying her gifts and presents she would probably stop having sex with you. All women have to be bought in some way.

 

 

 

Probably won't get a girlfriend with that attitude, sunshine

[Typhus]

Besides a 'normal' relationship where two people are together because they like each other is still prostitution in some way. Because if you stopped buying her gifts and presents she would probably stop having sex with you. All women have to be bought in some way.

That is a very unkind thing to say.

You don't really believe that, do you?

[orbitalraindrops]

 

 

 

I don't judge you.

well I do.

 

anyone who pays for sex is basically a loser that needs to get their act together.

 

 

Now, now, that's not very nice.

 

Perhaps they're disabled or disfigured in some way, or maybe they are just ugly, fat, short etc. No fault of their own (except maybe fat) and it's going to be hard for them to find someone who won't be too repulsed to shag them for free. Should they then have to live their lives without sex just because a bunch of narrow minded people still think paying for sex is wrong?

 

Anyway the answer to the OP's question is simple. When dealing with a prostitute, sex is pretty much guaranteed therefore you're not having to put on a front to impress them, you can just be yourself. That said, I do think that if you do have some serious emotional issues, you should probably speak to a different kind of pro.

 

 

. All women have to be bought in some way.

 

This is ridiculous. Every relationship you have with another person revolves around you giving them something. The problem arises however when you say that this is "Buying them off". It's not buying them off. It's just simple humanity. You give someone friendship. You receive friendship. You can't expect to give nothing to people (whether that's money, friendship, a lust for life etc) and receive anything in return. That's just not how humans works. HOWEVER that is not buying them off. It's not about the destination. It's about the ride. It's not about where the friendship can get you. But about the friendship itself. And the route that takes.

 

That's the problem I have with prostitution. Even if both parties consent. Even if both parties enjoy it. It just doesn't feel natural. Your skipping right to the end goal cutting everything else out. One side wants sex. The other side wants money. Done. Bang. Real, natural, healthy relationships are focused much more on the journey that each party goes down. Not the destination they end up.

[Moonshield]

 

 

Yeah thats it. Thanks for kind words. No Im not ugly, fat, just lacking in confidence and commitment.

 

Besides a 'normal' relationship where two people are together because they like each other is still prostitution in some way. Because if you stopped buying her gifts and presents she would probably stop having sex with you. All women have to be bought in some way.

 

 

No wonder you can't connect with regular women, you're a giant misogynist prick.

[theadmiral]

 

 

 

I don't judge you.

well I do.

 

anyone who pays for sex is basically a loser that needs to get their act together.

 

 

Now, now, that's not very nice.

 

Perhaps they're disabled or disfigured in some way, or maybe they are just ugly, fat, short etc. No fault of their own (except maybe fat) and it's going to be hard for them to find someone who won't be too repulsed to shag them for free. Should they then have to live their lives without sex just because a bunch of narrow minded people still think paying for sex is wrong?

 

Anyway the answer to the OP's question is simple. When dealing with a prostitute, sex is pretty much guaranteed therefore you're not having to put on a front to impress them, you can just be yourself. That said, I do think that if you do have some serious emotional issues, you should probably speak to a different kind of pro.

 

 

Yeah thats it. Thanks for kind words. No Im not ugly, fat, just lacking in confidence and commitment.

 

Besides a 'normal' relationship where two people are together because they like each other is still prostitution in some way. Because if you stopped buying her gifts and presents she would probably stop having sex with you. All women have to be bought in some way.

 

ROFL!!!!!!!

[johnny_zoo]

 

Besides a 'normal' relationship where two people are together because they like each other is still prostitution in some way. Because if you stopped buying her gifts and presents she would probably stop having sex with you. All women have to be bought in some way.

 

 

 

Probably won't get a girlfriend with that attitude, sunshine

 

 

No probably not.

 

 

Besides a 'normal' relationship where two people are together because they like each other is still prostitution in some way. Because if you stopped buying her gifts and presents she would probably stop having sex with you. All women have to be bought in some way.

That is a very unkind thing to say.

You don't really believe that, do you?

 

 

I dunno man! Now that I read what I said its pretty stupid. I was angry.

 

 

 

 

Yeah thats it. Thanks for kind words. No Im not ugly, fat, just lacking in confidence and commitment.

 

Besides a 'normal' relationship where two people are together because they like each other is still prostitution in some way. Because if you stopped buying her gifts and presents she would probably stop having sex with you. All women have to be bought in some way.

 

 

No wonder you can't connect with regular women, you're a giant misogynist prick.

 

Yeah I think I am deep down. But I'm trying to change. No need to call me a prick. Douchebag.

[aStiffSausage]

You can almost "open up" wiith me if you want.