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Anyone in here suffer from depression?

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Murdick

Throughout my whole life, I have given everything I could to my family and loved ones. Time changes people, and how they feel about you for sure, no f*cking doubt.

 

I've never been happy once in my life, truly happy and content with where I am and who I am. My partner left me a while ago, just totally changed into a bitch I didn't even know. Goes to show no-one loves me at all. I'm just a piece of sh*t that people can walk all over, all the time. After a while of this sh*t, I fear I am becoming everything I didn't want to be.

 

But f*ck it, I just don't care anymore. I feel as if, how can you be an angel when you are surrounded by devils? How can I make right out of this f*cked up life that has been dealt to me? I need to become what I am surrounded by, atleast in order to survive.

 

If life was easy, I guess it wouldn't mean as much.

Everyone's angel is always someone else's demon. Or something like that.. 🤔

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Finn 7 five 11

It's coming round again.

Slowly creeping in.
Time and it's command.
Soon enough it comes.
Settles in it's place.
Shadow in my face.
Puts pressure in my day.

I have had it before, and i beat it off with a stick like you would an angry raccoon. I thought it would never return. But perhaps now, with the slow but sure effects of aging, a brain less flexible and able to rebound, it is really, really hitting me. The loss of my very best friend to a suicide a year ago, and seeing his older brother, my next best friend, a tall, strong man, crumble before me, along with all my other friends, haunts me. over 500 people came to the funeral.
I am considering seeing the doctor this time, to get some medication, I am struggling to focus and concentrate, I zone out very often, some days I find it hard to talk to people sometimes because I stop listening to them every few seconds, accidentally drifting in and out of reality.
I have also begun to feel worthless, and losing a grip on why I should even live. I go to the gym. I work a lot, as i've always done. I see people I like regularly and the highlight is I have recently started dating the most amazing Finnish woman, the "Perfect woman" that you see depicted in films, I honestly cannot believe my f*cking luck and still, my thoughts drown me, I don't know why. I think to myself that I should leave her, to spare her from me, that i'm not good enough, when I know that once upon a time I would have been too sure of myself.

I cannot go down the path of my friend, I sound conceited, but if I were to follow, I don't know how that small town where I am from would cope, those same people that went to my friends funeral will be at mine, and some I know are too fragile already, I do talk about my feelings with a few people and they have said so.

So I will be visiting the doctor tomorrow, I am going to lay it all out, in the best way I can, and I want to be treated.
What are your experiences with Anti-depressants, have they helped you? Hindered? Do they always give you placebo pills to begin with? I don't know how long I can keep a lid on this before it severely affects those around me.

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Shmoopy

I had depression for almost 1 month, It was mostly related to low self-esteem thingy, I never tried those antidepressant pills and I will never lay my hands on them. I can say for sure that the cause of my depression was letting other people's opinions and statements take control of my life. Was determined to change my mindset into a more aggressive one and to not let people interfere with it, I started gaining confidence gradually , decided to start practicing kickboxing and thankfully I fully recovered within 1 week. I'm now fully confident of myself, and I can f*cking stare at random strangers without blinking once.

I don't feel depressed anymore. tbh I think sports have played a big role in my curing process.

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dyspoid

It's coming round again.

Slowly creeping in.

Time and it's command.

Soon enough it comes.

Settles in it's place.

Shadow in my face.

Puts pressure in my day.

 

I have had it before, and i beat it off with a stick like you would an angry raccoon. I thought it would never return. But perhaps now, with the slow but sure effects of aging, a brain less flexible and able to rebound, it is really, really hitting me. The loss of my very best friend to a suicide a year ago, and seeing his older brother, my next best friend, a tall, strong man, crumble before me, along with all my other friends, haunts me. over 500 people came to the funeral.

I am considering seeing the doctor this time, to get some medication, I am struggling to focus and concentrate, I zone out very often, some days I find it hard to talk to people sometimes because I stop listening to them every few seconds, accidentally drifting in and out of reality.

I have also begun to feel worthless, and losing a grip on why I should even live. I go to the gym. I work a lot, as i've always done. I see people I like regularly and the highlight is I have recently started dating the most amazing Finnish woman, the "Perfect woman" that you see depicted in films, I honestly cannot believe my f*cking luck and still, my thoughts drown me, I don't know why. I think to myself that I should leave her, to spare her from me, that i'm not good enough, when I know that once upon a time I would have been too sure of myself.

 

I cannot go down the path of my friend, I sound conceited, but if I were to follow, I don't know how that small town where I am from would cope, those same people that went to my friends funeral will be at mine, and some I know are too fragile already, I do talk about my feelings with a few people and they have said so.

 

So I will be visiting the doctor tomorrow, I am going to lay it all out, in the best way I can, and I want to be treated.

What are your experiences with Anti-depressants, have they helped you? Hindered? Do they always give you placebo pills to begin with? I don't know how long I can keep a lid on this before it severely affects those around me.

A lot of the 'awareness' around depression is actually misinformation that doesn't really provide any insight into what depression is. It's more than just feeling sad (this is merely just on symptom) - it is instead a state that results from the way your brain is wired.

 

Anti-depressants are designed to try to help with rewiring your brain. I know from first hand and second hand experiences that the effect of these drugs are mixed. Some of my loved ones have controlled their condition with them, wheras those that I have tried have made things worse.

 

There are different classes of antidepressant and they will each have a different effect. You cannot trust your doctor to choose the correct fit, because in my experience, they simply do not understand.

 

As a result, I have forgone medication and therapy and instead focussed upon treating the symptoms as they effect me. I have accepted that I will never actually be happy nor posess the motivation to live. I do these things out of love for my family.

 

The best thing you can do is to ensure that you remain engaged with your hobbies and interests and remain as social as possible. These things are hard to keep a grasp of if you are depressed, but letting them go will amplify everything and you will spend all day living as a hollow man in isolation. Trust me.

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Bruce Khansey

Before I get started: when i hear/read words like "depression" I take it easy, because it's a strong word. I'll use it just for a faster and better communication.

 

I remember when it "all" started. I was lying on my bed, three years ago. I thought about an issue I had with a friend of mine and started crying. But there was something strange in it; I coudn't stop, my stomach was in a knot, I didn't know what to think. I started doing something, like watching a movie and play the guitar, but all I felt was still sadness and anxiety, and I wans't enjoying anything. It was the beginning.

 

Fast forward, many months I thought I was getting over it. Then I got together with a girl and it got worse. I was in a car park and started screaming and crying, I cried 'till headache, started coughing and I was heavy breathing.

Fast forward pt. II, I started seeing a therapist, and in just a few weeks it changed my life forever: I finally realized what my problem was. Because after all I've been through on my own, I never figured out why I had such anxiety and sadness everyday.

 

In my case, It was as if I grew a continuous nervous breakdown since I was a kid. My parents were (and in many ways still are) hyper protective, my father loved me (and still does) so much that it became dangerous for my mental health, he was too protective. I had bullies tormenting me from the age of 6 to the age of 13, because I wasn't able to defend myself. No beatdown, just insults and things like that. I grew in anxiety pretty much everyday and I never complained, I tought it was just me. I was passive, I was kind of accepting it, and I never told this to anyone.

 

While in high school I had my first depression episode, because the guys I used to hang out became jerks, I wasn't able to leave them because I thought I'd stay alone forever, so I was sad everyday and cried a lot for months. I overcame that situation by myself in one way or another.

 

Fast forward pt. III, for the last 6 years my anxiety kept on growing up for a lot of different situations almost everyone of us have been through: assholes work bosses, friends who weren't really friends, girls I liked and that I thought I couldn't have a chance even while texting and/or dating them, struggle to find a work, parental issues, bad self-esteem (I've always been skinny, never been able to build up some muscles and I never accepted myself for this)... all those situations have been accepted passively, no one knew how I was feeling and those things did nothing but increase my abandonment issues and my costant quest for getting the other's approval. I was obsessed with what the other people think about me at the point that everything, EVERYTHING I had or did was a compromise between what I want and what the other wanted.

 

Fast forward pt. IV, that's why all this years of passive "submission" destroyed in one shot my mental health. I ofter had a vision of me running in complete dark, nkaed, as if to say "I am nothing and I don't know where I'm going".

 

 

 

Now things are different. Throughout all of this, now I see myself as a pretty good-looking guy (I gained weight ageing lol), I play in a couple of bands, I have few but really close friends, a girlfriend that loves me so much and I improved my working situation. Sure, I'm still on therapy and taking medicines, but those are just supports, the good things I had and still have I earned them by myself.

Now pt. II, there is still a lot of work to do. And that's the final showdown: it's all up to me. I have to finally pick up my life, being active in EVERYTHING I do or, grow up and, most of everything, ACT.

 

Because, and that's the only advise I can give while still in this situation, unfortunately we can also be the biggest enemies of ourselves. Yeah, the others may have treated me bad, but I was the one who accepted all of this. I am the enmy of myself. But when I react, when I have those moments when I can be who I really am without worrying about anything, I know what to do and I turn into the hero of myself.

 

 

What are your experiences with Anti-depressants, have they helped you? Hindered? Do they always give you placebo pills to begin with? I don't know how long I can keep a lid on this before it severely affects those around me.

 

At the moment I'm taking an antidepressant and an anxiolytic, both slight as they just avoid heavy crisis or "panic attacks".

As soon as I started taking them, In a couple of weeks I started feeling better, but also because I took a couple of important decisions that improved my life at that moment. However I'm taking these since last year and I start feeling negative effects such as tiredness, concentration difficulties and doze off.

I think I'll ask fof changeing them, they're doing good but they're also avoiding me to be more active, which is something I need desperately.

 

Remember: anti-deppressants, anxiolytics ecc doesn't work the same way, everyone feels them in a different way. You need to find the right one and the right amount for you, and it also means you'll probably need to change therapy now and then before finding the best one for you.

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Mister Pink

It's coming round again.

Slowly creeping in.

Time and it's command.

Soon enough it comes.

Settles in it's place.

Shadow in my face.

Puts pressure in my day.

 

I have had it before, and i beat it off with a stick like you would an angry raccoon. I thought it would never return. But perhaps now, with the slow but sure effects of aging, a brain less flexible and able to rebound, it is really, really hitting me. The loss of my very best friend to a suicide a year ago, and seeing his older brother, my next best friend, a tall, strong man, crumble before me, along with all my other friends, haunts me. over 500 people came to the funeral.

I am considering seeing the doctor this time, to get some medication, I am struggling to focus and concentrate, I zone out very often, some days I find it hard to talk to people sometimes because I stop listening to them every few seconds, accidentally drifting in and out of reality.

I have also begun to feel worthless, and losing a grip on why I should even live. I go to the gym. I work a lot, as i've always done. I see people I like regularly and the highlight is I have recently started dating the most amazing Finnish woman, the "Perfect woman" that you see depicted in films, I honestly cannot believe my f*cking luck and still, my thoughts drown me, I don't know why. I think to myself that I should leave her, to spare her from me, that i'm not good enough, when I know that once upon a time I would have been too sure of myself.

 

I cannot go down the path of my friend, I sound conceited, but if I were to follow, I don't know how that small town where I am from would cope, those same people that went to my friends funeral will be at mine, and some I know are too fragile already, I do talk about my feelings with a few people and they have said so.

 

So I will be visiting the doctor tomorrow, I am going to lay it all out, in the best way I can, and I want to be treated.

What are your experiences with Anti-depressants, have they helped you? Hindered? Do they always give you placebo pills to begin with? I don't know how long I can keep a lid on this before it severely affects those around me.

 

First of all, congrats on meeting someone you like. That's always exciting.

 

Sorry to hear your depression is creeping back. I've take medication when I was a teenager and didn't receive any notable benefits from it. But, I was drinking and other areas of my life weren't being attended to allow me to get out of it. So, my account is unreliable at best. I've had friends that experienced bouts of heavy depression for the fist time and medication really helped.

 

I accept that I might be prone to depression all my life. I just get better at managing it. I encourage people to try do all the things that are proven to help us feel better. It's easier said than done but it is doable.

 

Exercise everyday, even if it's just a nice long stroll.

Sleep at regular times.

Keep a schedule, eat at regular times, wake up at regular times.

Plan something for the future.

 

Planning for the future is always a great way to stave of depression. When you have short term and long term goals. Maybe you can plan something nice with your new Finish friend. I don't know, take her to a museum you liked as a kid or a place you like to visit when you were young. The nostalgia trip can be enjoyable and remind you of good times and sharing them with a new friend can be great.

 

I hope everyone can start to feel better soon.

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universetwisters

They're putting me on Prozac for my depression. It's my second day of taking it and I feel nothing. Either it's useless or it's very slow reacting.

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One thing I find what keeps me going is hindsight, an outer perspective on what is really going on. Sometimes you need to slow down, not panic so much (easier said than done, I know) and focus on the greater things in life. Like the warmth from the morning sunlight, a beautiful walk with a family member, friend or dog. How the wind can make you feel refreshed when it hits your face as you walk by.

 

Or more personal, like how you feel like your mind is racing, you cannot keep up with it and you feel done and worthless. Just getting out of bed and doing something, ANYTHING with your life THAT MOMENT, THAT DAY is something to celebrate and refocus yourself - you are not alone, you are not as bad as you think you are, and you can do something with your life and BE HAPPY.

 

Everyone always says "life isn't fair". And no it isn't. But it's what you make of it. No-one can truly make you happy, content or loved. That comes from self. So take the time to be kind to yourself, more than anything else this has helped me the MOST.

 

Just my thoughts on today. I hope this post can motivate or inspire someone to remember - there is a brighter day ahead.

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Bruce Khansey

One thing I find what keeps me going is hindsight, an outer perspective on what is really going on. Sometimes you need to slow down, not panic so much (easier said than done, I know) and focus on the greater things in life. Like the warmth from the morning sunlight, a beautiful walk with a family member, friend or dog. How the wind can make you feel refreshed when it hits your face as you walk by.

 

Or more personal, like how you feel like your mind is racing, you cannot keep up with it and you feel done and worthless. Just getting out of bed and doing something, ANYTHING with your life THAT MOMENT, THAT DAY is something to celebrate and refocus yourself - you are not alone, you are not as bad as you think you are, and you can do something with your life and BE HAPPY.

 

Everyone always says "life isn't fair". And no it isn't. But it's what you make of it. No-one can truly make you happy, content or loved. That comes from self. So take the time to be kind to yourself, more than anything else this has helped me the MOST.

 

Just my thoughts on today. I hope this post can motivate or inspire someone to remember - there is a brighter day ahead.

 

There's a lot of truth in what you say. Really. We lose sight on the things that matters most more than we can imagine. And most of everything, like you said, "you are not as bad as you think you are". That's something we should alwasy believe 100%.

 

They're putting me on Prozac for my depression. It's my second day of taking it and I feel nothing. Either it's useless or it's very slow reacting.

 

I don't know how Prozac reacts because I never took it, but I know that generally it takes a week or two to start feeling better.

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They're putting me on Prozac for my depression. It's my second day of taking it and I feel nothing. Either it's useless or it's very slow reacting.

Maybe you should instead make it into a powder and sniff it up. Not sure if that speeds things up however people do that with pre-workouts to.

 

Anyway, i'm not depressed, buddy of mine however was, now is again depressed. Turned into a lowlife un-employed drunk weed user back in the day, dragged him out of it, kept him motivated. Now its back to square one because of woman related problems. Seriously years of motivating him, and because of a woman its all for nothing? Jeez, its not like i never got the sack. Hell i've been dumped while i was about to marry for fcks sake. Not to mention he's being an ass towards me. I'm about to let him rot in it this time around. Not sure what i can do. Feels like trying to crank up a car that has nostalgic/emotional value that will only start up like once every 10 turns of the ignition and then cuts out after a mile on the road. Not sure what to do in this situation. And to make it worse, my older brother is also depressed, and everything i say is wrong yet he askes me advice. WTF does he expect me to say if he's going to disagree anyway?

 

I never like seeing people i like sitting around like sad sacks. Always try to help them or support them in one way or another. However the more i try the more i'm realizing its like trying to dig a hole in dry sand.

 

Meanwhile my shrimp is also depressed, his eye, couple of legs are all bitten off by one of the fish in the tank. Poor thing is dieing. I'm about to fck up said fish. He's going down the drain.

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Gotta be honest, I have been fighting it hard the past few weeks but it's really setting in bad right now. Had to drop a class at school because it was way too f*cking difficult to learn over an online course. I have no one to talk to. I only get through the day on drawing and weight lifting. And now, my job, the only thing I enjoyed has suspended me while trying to help my friend fight for her sexual harassment/assault case in the office. Now I have to go without pay until the stupid investigation is done. The lack of pay is going to f*ck my whole financial plan. I'm already depressed so all this in a couple weeks is too much.

 

I might do myself in. Everything is going from bad to worse and I just don't think I can take anymore worse.

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HeavyDuke

weight lifting

 

 

Serious weight lifting, working out bodybuilder ish like or more powerlifting for pure strenght? As long as you can eat, at least you can workout and thats one thing to feel good about. And where there is one thing thats fun and keeps you motivated, then its all worth living for.

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weight lifting

 

 

Serious weight lifting, working out bodybuilder ish like or more powerlifting for pure strenght? As long as you can eat, at least you can workout and thats one thing to feel good about. And where there is one thing thats fun and keeps you motivated, then its all worth living for.

 

Strength training helps me cope tremendously, I just hit 315 on the deadlift after 9 months of grinding and it felt great. Next up is 500.

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They're putting me on Prozac for my depression. It's my second day of taking it and I feel nothing. Either it's useless or it's very slow reacting.

 

I was given that.

I stayed on it for around five months and my insomnia somehow managed to get worse. I was awake for up to four days and nights at a time, or sleeping (napping) an hour in day time when I'd feel safe - made me kinda paranoid and jumpy, all due to the lack of sleep.

 

They took me off it and gave me mirtazapine, which was a different kind of hell.

 

Prozac is made out to be a wonder drug and it's not. It's just the same as every other antidepressant, it may or may not work. For me personally, it was terrible.

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Cutter De Blanc

I feel like my mental state is circumstantial, rather than biochemical. Without going into the embarrassing details of my day-to-day, I live a life that would break almost anyone I know. Every day is usually a little worse than the last as tends to be the case the case with entropy. Something else I can't do well, someone else who won't listen, more things break with no money to fix them. Every day it gets a little worse.

Most days I try to ignore my problems. Some days it's harder than others.

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HeavyDuke

 

 

weight lifting

 

 

Serious weight lifting, working out bodybuilder ish like or more powerlifting for pure strenght? As long as you can eat, at least you can workout and thats one thing to feel good about. And where there is one thing thats fun and keeps you motivated, then its all worth living for.

 

Strength training helps me cope tremendously, I just hit 315 on the deadlift after 9 months of grinding and it felt great. Next up is 500.

 

Good job man thats not bad at all. I myself used to go for strenght all the way however not anymore at this time because i had a serious chest tear combined with neck muscle tear and back muscle tear in a relative short period of time 'in 5 years' and both injuries lasted longer then 3 years to fully recover. thats why i'm going for more of a bodybuilding type of training and going for max pump hypertrophy. Works fine and i'm gaining back my losses quite fast.

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They're putting me on Prozac for my depression. It's my second day of taking it and I feel nothing. Either it's useless or it's very slow reacting.

I was given that.

I stayed on it for around five months and my insomnia somehow managed to get worse. I was awake for up to four days and nights at a time, or sleeping (napping) an hour in day time when I'd feel safe - made me kinda paranoid and jumpy, all due to the lack of sleep.

 

They took me off it and gave me mirtazapine, which was a different kind of hell.

 

Prozac is made out to be a wonder drug and it's not. It's just the same as every other antidepressant, it may or may not work. For me personally, it was terrible.

 

I've never been on Prozac before so I'm curious if I have the same reaction to that or not. I told the doctor back when I was a teenager, I was given either Abilify and Zoloft, but one made me hallucinate and they put me on the other but I couldn't remember which did what first so she skipped both and just gave me Prozac.

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Gotta be honest, I have been fighting it hard the past few weeks but it's really setting in bad right now. Had to drop a class at school because it was way too f*cking difficult to learn over an online course. I have no one to talk to. I only get through the day on drawing and weight lifting. And now, my job, the only thing I enjoyed has suspended me while trying to help my friend fight for her sexual harassment/assault case in the office. Now I have to go without pay until the stupid investigation is done. The lack of pay is going to f*ck my whole financial plan. I'm already depressed so all this in a couple weeks is too much.

 

I might do myself in. Everything is going from bad to worse and I just don't think I can take anymore worse.

 

Mate, I truly feel for you. I have been there before, helping out friends, specifically women during hard times. And the financial job strain too. But although the world revolves around it, money does not have to be everything to you. I know this sounds stupid, but sometimes we need to slow down take the time for ourselves.

 

The bolded part has me troubled..if you are thinking about suicide, please think of all the people who care for you. Maybe it's a small bunch, maybe it's a big bunch but either way I'm sure there'll be people who will be hurt by this, and will miss you terribly. Some days life seems to throw us at our very wits end, but I promise you that if you fight it, one day it'll get slightly better.

 

For whatever this is worth, feel free to PM if need be. I might even do the same for you. I'm here if anyone needs to talk about anything, at anytime.

 

I feel as if that's all we need sometimes, is just someone to talk, and maybe even relate to.

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Yeah.

 

I've felt like sh*t all year, to be honest. But I put on a front to seem confident and happy, deep down I'm in pieces most of the time. I use distractions such as Netflix and Gaming to escape it. When I'm not doing those things, I have unwanted thoughts constantly and anxiety.

 

Not had a partner for a couple of years, I only have a few true friends, my daily routine is always the same. What I have now is not really a life. It's just me going through the motions, so I can get money to buy things and live essentially and then coming home.

 

I can't remember the last time I went out for a date, meal, cinema or anything like that.

 

I put all my effort in to helping others and family members, instead of myself. But even that is getting to me, because I never feel wanted or thanked.

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El Dildo

I put all my effort in to helping others and family members, instead of myself. But even that is getting to me, because I never feel wanted or thanked.

have you talked to your true friends or family members about this exact issue?

tell them what you've told us here.

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highspeed

I know all too well what it's like to being going through the same motions, day in and day out.

 

You just gotta try to find a way to break the rut we can get caught in. Like exercise for example, since it's been mentioned a few times. Put on a new playlist, mix up your workouts, if you train alone mostly then train with a partner (if you can), lift more weight in less time, or reverse it.

 

Gotta keep it fresh, or your head can turn you insane. I have been there far too much myself, really..

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I know above I kind of alluded to some stuff at work was really bringing me down, just wanted to vent it out here.

 

About 5-ish months ago we had a new girl Lindsey in the office, so obviously everyone on the warehouse side is talking about her. Well I run the shop and I was doing my thing, this nepalese guy, "Diwas" who is a Lead passes through and mentions her. He then picks up my box cutter and gestures raping and cutting her throat. Problem is, that on one hand its her first day I don't want to freak her out. On top, this happened in a blind spot on the camera, no witnesses, and no way to prove it. So I took it as a yellow flag and shrugged it off and avoided this POS.

 

Fast forward to a couple weeks ago, me and her have since become friends and hang at work when we can. She mentions that he grabbed her in the parking lot and tried to kiss her, as you can imagine she was not happy about this. This to me became the red flag, so I mention the old incident to get her to watch out. Buy a gun, a blade, whatever just know this may not be an isolated incident.

 

Well she freaked out and went to HR to report him. I come back from my weekend and I am getting interrogated about it. Next day, which is last friday, I get suspended without pay until the investigation is done for "not reporting a threat of violence against a co-worker". I heard earlier in that morning he was suspended for a couple of days. It's worth noting there is a lot of nepotism in that warehouse, this potential rapist has blood relatives above and below him.

 

Come yesterday evening, they fired me, so far not given a reason. I was hearing they were questioning everybody more about me more than him, and I clearly was being punished more than him.

 

It's been a bad week.

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GTA3Claude

Report him to authorities, ask your friend to file a complaint against him, turn this piece of sh*t's life into a living heck.

 

 

The thread have caught my attention, mostly because I'm the same case than the OP.. I think I'm depressed since at least seven years. Despite the fact I think about suicide very often, I can't do it because I don't want to die, instead i spend my time cutting myself.

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Gotta be honest, I have been fighting it hard the past few weeks but it's really setting in bad right now. Had to drop a class at school because it was way too f*cking difficult to learn over an online course. I have no one to talk to. I only get through the day on drawing and weight lifting. And now, my job, the only thing I enjoyed has suspended me while trying to help my friend fight for her sexual harassment/assault case in the office. Now I have to go without pay until the stupid investigation is done. The lack of pay is going to f*ck my whole financial plan. I'm already depressed so all this in a couple weeks is too much.

 

I might do myself in. Everything is going from bad to worse and I just don't think I can take anymore worse.

 

Dude, you can talk to me any time you want. Just PM me and I'll respond as quickly as possible. You always have an ear here. It's good to share. That goes to anyone feeling low or just needs to vent.

 

Edit: Just read your second post. Sounds like you were unfairly dismissed. Sorry to hear that. Maybe legal advice could be an option? Hang in there. It's a bad week and things can only get better.

 

@GTA3Claude: Please try seek some help regarding self-harm. I've been there and I've the scars to show. If you can, visit a counselor or a professional. If you can, please talk to someone. I know the feeling of needing to vent and express yourself and maybe anger and depression. Some times that manifests in self-harm. I felt trapped in my head and that I didn't want to share my depression with anyone to burden them or for them to think I was weak. Speak to someone but really speak. Share how you feel. You'll feel better, taking the weight off your shoulders.

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GTA3Claude

I feel that way and I'm doing this for at least 12 years, mostly because during my teen years, i was bullied at school because I was acting "weird" and my parents were badmouthing and neglecting me because of my bad grades, I guess I could seek help, but I'm afraid that the therapist could lock me up in a padded room..

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highspeed

I feel that way and I'm doing this for at least 12 years, mostly because during my teen years, i was bullied at school and my parents were badmouthing and neglecting me, I guess I could seek help, but I'm afraid that the therapist could lock me up in a padded room..

 

No therapist would ever do that, they are there to help you get healthier, and to a happy point in life.

 

I'm sure it doesn't mean sh*t, but I've been in your situation before. Difference is between myself, and lots of friends I've lost is I've lived through the bad, horrible sh*t and came through the other side. No matter what you are feeling now, it's not worth ending your life over.

 

Because life is worth it. The good, the bad and the hurt it can do to you, it's worth it. If you can suffer through it, I promise you it does get better one day.

 

Give yourself a chance.

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This isn't the only thing, the other being that i'm afraid that my family misjudge me if they know I see a therapist, because I have the feeling they never understood me and never will. I mean, I don't think they even know how wrong I feel deep inside, they could tell me "You don't need to seek help, you look good, you just feel a little down, it will fade in time" :facedesk:

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highspeed

This isn't the only thing, the other being that i'm afraid that my family misjudge me if they know I see a therapist, because I have the feeling they never understood me and never will. :facedesk:

 

Man, family sometimes judge. Yeah families can suck sometimes, be crazy more often than not, but if are true family they should want whats best for you, and to care for you and show you love no matter what.

 

You say they don't understand you, well I gotta ask, have you ever tried talking to them about this? Sometimes you don't know until you try, and you never know, they might end up surprising you and be able to relate about what you are feeling.

 

Try talking to them when you are ready, because I can safely say it'll probably get you somewhere better than talking to randoms on an internet forum. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy to talk via PM's or whatever if you want to, but you gotta try and fix what you can in your real life.

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I feel that way and I'm doing this for at least 12 years, mostly because during my teen years, i was bullied at school because I was acting "weird" and my parents were badmouthing and neglecting me because of my bad grades, I guess I could seek help, but I'm afraid that the therapist could lock me up in a padded room..

 

Please do it, seek help. The therapy helped me a lot, it completely changed my life. When I started I was feeling really bad and I didn't know the reason why; in just a couple of months I figured it out and had all the tools to get out of it. Now it is still hard, some things requires time to be managed, but you'll surely feel better than now.

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