Anyone here divorced?

[M4RK]

My wife and I are having a lot of problems in our marriage and it doesn't seem to be working out. She has some mental issues and has a history of acting out (possibly bipolar) and I'm at my last straw. I have 1 1/2 year old and I have been married 3 years. I wasn't sure if anyone else here has been divorced. I'm have never been one to give up on my marriage but if you have seen the way my wife has been acting and treating me then I think you would divorce her too. I don't want to get a divorce. Is there anything that I should try one last time before making my decision? How do divorced couples cope with it because its going to tear me apart if I do. I'm lost and confused with this.

 

 

[universetwisters]

What do you two fight about? I've got a feeling you aren't telling the whole story...

[Jimmy_Leppard]

1. Every woman on this planet has mental issues. Some hide them better, some don't hide them at all.

2. Women are always threatening with something, that's also nothing new. However, if she's threatening that she'll kill you or your kid, then you gotta get away from that bitch.

3. Women aren't cars. If you decide to get through with a divorce, she will take half of your sh*t, that's just how it is.. But if you use the threatening as a subject in court, you might do alright.

4. Try talking to her. If that doesn't help, see the last part of the sentence at number 2.

5. Bottom line is, the moment you start thinking about a divorce, I think it's time for a divorce.

 

However, we don't know you or your wife. You two are the only ones who can deal with your situation. Or call your lawyer.. before she does.

[Triple Vacuum Seal]

 

1. Every woman on this planet has mental issues. Some hide them better, some don't hide them at all.

2. Women are always threatening with something, that's also nothing new. However, if she's threatening that she'll kill you or your kid, then you gotta get away from that bitch.

3. Women aren't cars. If you decide to get through with a divorce, she will take half of your sh*t, that's just how it is.. But if you use the threatening as a subject in court, you might do alright.

4. Try talking to her. If that doesn't help, see the last part of the sentence at number 2.

5. Bottom line is, the moment you start thinking about a divorce, I think it's time for a divorce.

 

However, we don't know you or your wife. You two are the only ones who can deal with your situation. Or call your lawyer.. before she does.

To piggy back off this (specifically the third point).

 

You must keep in mind that divorce isn't just a personal decision. It has long-lasting economic and legal consequences that far outlive the emotional consequences. If you just up and leave without carefully crafting your legal battle in a pro-female (and especially pro-mother) American court system, then you will lose your kids. You will lose your assets too. Don't just get a divorce. Get a lawyer, and plan weeks if not months ahead. It costs money, but in the long run it will be much cheaper and you will be glad you did.

 

Your kids are the most important thing in your life and they will forever see you differently if you have to be the visiting parent w/o custody. We haven't heard her side of things, which severely impairs our ability to assess your circumstance; but if she is the one in the wrong, then you deserve custody. Unfortunately, in law and business, you don't get what you deserve. You get what you can prove and negotiate respectively. Your emotions won't let you think so; but this is indeed a legal and business decision just as much as it's an emotional one.

[JOSEPH X]

What do you two fight about? I've got a feeling you aren't telling the whole story...

...and even then there's two sides to every story.

 

At the end of the day M4RK it's up to you. There's no point in staying in a relationship if it's making you unhappy.

[DEALUX]

1. Every woman on this planet has mental issues. Some hide them better, some don't hide them at all.

2. Women are always threatening with something, that's also nothing new. However, if she's threatening that she'll kill you or your kid, then you gotta get away from that bitch.

3. Women aren't cars. If you decide to get through with a divorce, she will take half of your sh*t, that's just how it is.. But if you use the threatening as a subject in court, you might do alright.

4. Try talking to her. If that doesn't help, see the last part of the sentence at number 2.

5. Bottom line is, the moment you start thinking about a divorce, I think it's time for a divorce.

 

However, we don't know you or your wife. You two are the only ones who can deal with your situation. Or call your lawyer.. before she does.

Wait, what year is this?

 

I propose that men have issues too. I could dig up some stereotypes as well to "prove" my point. I could say that all men are arrogant fools but I can prove that to be true to the same extent you can prove the sexist crap you just spewed out of your mouth. Oh, and just because the thought of divorce occurs to someone, it doesn't mean that he or she should do it. Thoughts can be meaningless most of the time. A decision like a divorce is something one would have to think about in great detail.

 

Also, to the creator of the thread, you need to go into more detail if you want any decent attempts at advice or opinions.

[Absurdity]

If the divorce comes to fruition and if she does indeed leave you, firstly condolences, but secondly I'd like to be the first to recommend the Breville TR52 Sandwich maker as a more than adequate replacement.

[Kirsty]

First of all, you need to get your head out of your ass and take some responsibility, not for yourself, but for your child. If you truly suspect she has a mental health issue, you need to get her some professional help. She could be living with an un-diagnosed, un-treated, mental illness that is causing her to act out and cause the behaviour you're seeing. Not only is this causing you extreme stress, but think of the underlying anxiety that your child must be experiencing being in a home with that kind of tension; your emotions have an effect on children too, even if you don't show it.

 

On the other hand, if your marriage has just come to its natural end and you've just fallen out of love with each other, causing stupid arguments, well it happens. Many marriages fail. Its unfortunate and I'm sure it hurts like hell. You have to be strong here and you have to be honest with her about what her behaviour is causing you to feel. If it can't be saved through communication and mutual understanding, then you need to pick yourself up with confidence and go about finding a way to split amicably. Most of all, you have to think of your child; what effect this will have, access, living arrangements, all those kind of things that can turn nasty if it's a messy divorce. Although you never know, you might find she is having the same kind of feelings but is only expressing them by attacking you.

 

Just be careful where you tread, but do whats right by your child.

[Toke]

You're not giving us the details needed for us to give you any sort of meaningful advise.

 

 

-How does she act out that's different from any other woman that would make you believe that she has bi polar disorder?

 

-How do you know that her acting out doesn't have to do with YOU not doing something crucial for your marriages survival?

 

 

[Jimmy_Leppard]

 

1. Every woman on this planet has mental issues. Some hide them better, some don't hide them at all.

2. Women are always threatening with something, that's also nothing new. However, if she's threatening that she'll kill you or your kid, then you gotta get away from that bitch.

3. Women aren't cars. If you decide to get through with a divorce, she will take half of your sh*t, that's just how it is.. But if you use the threatening as a subject in court, you might do alright.

4. Try talking to her. If that doesn't help, see the last part of the sentence at number 2.

5. Bottom line is, the moment you start thinking about a divorce, I think it's time for a divorce.

 

However, we don't know you or your wife. You two are the only ones who can deal with your situation. Or call your lawyer.. before she does.

Wait, what year is this?

 

I propose that men have issues too. I could dig up some stereotypes as well to "prove" my point. I could say that all men are arrogant fools but I can prove that to be true to the same extent you can prove the sexist crap you just spewed out of your mouth. Oh, and just because the thought of divorce occurs to someone, it doesn't mean that he or she should do it. Thoughts can be meaningless most of the time. A decision like a divorce is something one would have to think about in great detail.

 

Also, to the creator of the thread, you need to go into more detail if you want any decent attempts at advice or opinions.

I'm sorry, I didn't realise I couldn't make a joke out of some of my statements to make the OP feel a little better. it looks like he needs someone to cheer him up. Since you probably haven't noticed, number one is a joke, number two is somewhat of a joke too, number three is true to be honest, four aswell, five is true to an extent. If one has problems and starts thinking about a divorce, it's one of the solutions, I didn't say he must do it. But, he wouldn't be thinking about a divorce if he had a minor problem with his wife now, would he?

 

Damn, you can't say anything without some jerk coming in and getting everything literally.. Seriously, try watching cartoons more or something. Hire a detective cause you lost your sense of humor.. Get off my dick aswell, I don't need you bashing on something I said to make a funny statement to try to cheer a man up. Dumbass.

[Gtaghost22]

I don't really think you're telling the whole story, OP.

 

1. Every woman on this planet has mental issues. Some hide them better, some don't hide them at all.

And all men don't, right?

 

Edit: Oh, you weren't being serious.

Edited June 5, 2013 by Gtaghost22

[gtamann123]

Get her thrown in some kind of loony bin. That way you can get away from her and still keep your stuff.

[Jimmy_Leppard]

I don't really think you're telling the whole story, OP.

 

1. Every woman on this planet has mental issues. Some hide them better, some don't hide them at all.

And all men don't, right?

I don't know what to say. People have lost sense of humor. It was a goddman joke, man. That's all. A damn joke.

[Gtaghost22]

I don't really think you're telling the whole story, OP.

 

1. Every woman on this planet has mental issues. Some hide them better, some don't hide them at all.

And all men don't, right?

I don't know what to say. People have lost sense of humor. It was a goddman joke, man. That's all. A damn joke.

I know, sorry. I edited my previous post. You just quoted it before I did and didn't notice the edit.

[Oddsock]

See a marriage counselor and have both of you go to therapy, seperately OR together.

[Moonshield]

I don't really think you're telling the whole story, OP.

 

1. Every woman on this planet has mental issues. Some hide them better, some don't hide them at all.

And all men don't, right?

I don't know what to say. People have lost sense of humor. It was a goddman joke, man. That's all. A damn joke.

But jokes are supposed to be funny, right? So where's the funny?

 

I want to echo what Kirsty said: reassess and do right by your kid. Get some serious advice and counseling, not asking a gaming forum.

[Jimmy_Leppard]

I don't really think you're telling the whole story, OP.

 

1. Every woman on this planet has mental issues. Some hide them better, some don't hide them at all.

And all men don't, right?

I don't know what to say. People have lost sense of humor. It was a goddman joke, man. That's all. A damn joke.

But jokes are supposed to be funny, right? So where's the funny?

 

I want to echo what Kirsty said: reassess and do right by your kid. Get some serious advice and counseling, not asking a gaming forum.

Yeah, well, you don't find it funny.. Show me a joke which is funny to everybody. Seriously, drama queens, drama queens all around.

[DEALUX]

The only drama queen right now is you and those didn't look like jokes to me at all.

 

Seriously, were there any hints at all? If they remotely sounded like jokes I wouldn't have bothered to reply. There are a bunch of sexist pricks around the forums and I thought you were one of them too.

[Brobinski]

1. Every woman on this planet has mental issues. Some hide them better, some don't hide them at all.

2. Women are always threatening with something, that's also nothing new. However, if she's threatening that she'll kill you or your kid, then you gotta get away from that bitch.

3. Women aren't cars. If you decide to get through with a divorce, she will take half of your sh*t, that's just how it is.. But if you use the threatening as a subject in court, you might do alright.

4. Try talking to her. If that doesn't help, see the last part of the sentence at number 2.

5. Bottom line is, the moment you start thinking about a divorce, I think it's time for a divorce.

 

However, we don't know you or your wife. You two are the only ones who can deal with your situation. Or call your lawyer.. before she does.

I like how it took until the fourth point before you acknowledged her as, y'know, an individual human being.

[M4RK]

My wife has has severe mood swings that go from week to week. One week shes nice, happy and loves me and the net she lies, doesn't care abou my feelings and is plain disrespectful. I am constantly walking on eggshells around her on a day to day basis. This has gone on throughout most of our marriage. Its sad because one day she will be this great mom and wife and the next she dumps my daughter on her mom, ignores me all day and goes out with her guy friends and gets hammered. Throughout our entire marriage, I have been trying to help her and get her normal but she always comes back saying that I am the one with issues and I dont let her do what she wants. This whole thing is confusing and its making me very sad to see our marriage go this way. I love her to death and care about her very much but there is only so much I can take.

[BigMouthPrick]

My wife has has severe mood swings that go from week to week. One week shes nice, happy and loves me and the net she lies, doesn't care abou my feelings and is plain disrespectful. I am constantly walking on eggshells around her on a day to day basis. This has gone on throughout most of our marriage. Its sad because one day she will be this great mom and wife and the next she dumps my daughter on her mom, ignores me all day and goes out with her guy friends and gets hammered. Throughout our entire marriage, I have been trying to help her and get her normal but she always comes back saying that I am the one with issues and I dont let her do what she wants. This whole thing is confusing and its making me very sad to see our marriage go this way. I love her to death and care about her very much but there is only so much I can take.

Is She Bipolar or just A bitch?

[M4RK]

Bipolar

[BigMouthPrick]

Bipolar

why don't she take pills i have a cousin who is bi polar they have done him the world of good.

[Tyler]

She has some mental issues and has a history of acting out (possibly bipolar)

How the hell do you stay married with someone for three years and have a child without actually knowing if she has bipolar disorder? If her mood swings are going from week to week then she isn't bipolar. Bipolar disorder is much, much more long-lasting in its states of mania and depression. I don't doubt that your wife might be suffering from something, but it could be a host of things from stress related anxiety to chronic depression.

[GunWrath]

She needs to see a doctor about some sort of help, possibly some meds. But threatening the kid, she would of been 6ft under somewhere on my 25 acres. That's enough for me to divorce any woman.

 

I went through somewhat of a divorce, my ex-wife (common-law) and I split earlier this year, she got hooked on opiate addiction and just got too much to handle, so I kindly escorted her doped up ass out the door. If she ever finds it necessary to take it to court for custody of our kid, so be it. I rather go through the legal issues than that of psychological warfare. I have more ups on my side and I'm 99% certain I'll win custody if it ever came to that.

 

But it sounds to me like you're holding something back, are you possibly the same way with her? Because why would you marry someone like that? Bi-polar isn't something she's going to develop just recently, she would of had it during when y'all first date up until marriage and if you're just now thinking 'holy sh*t, this bitch is nuts'.. I find it hard to believe man.

 

Just re-evaluate the situation, if there's issues on both sides, try and work together to fix them, if not.. see about getting her some help, if that doesn't pan out.. last option is to just let her go. Life goes on.

[TEoS]

I can't believe the post from a guy saying all women are crazy is drawing more ire than the entire topic about beating up women.

[Clem Fandango]

Because his wife's experience with bi-polar disorder doesn't match yours, doesn't mean she doesn't have mental issues. Maybe it was a miss-diagnosis, pretty much anything that causes mood swings will be diagnosed as bi polar. Point is, she's making life difficult for him and his kid. Whether it's bi-polar, mild tourrets or schizophrenia, or just ordinary depression and anxiety, she's making life difficult for him and his child and doesn't take any responsibility for her actions.

 

 

If you truly suspect she has a mental health issue, you need to get her some professional help. She could be living with an un-diagnosed, un-treated, mental illness that is causing her to act out and cause the behaviour you're seeing.

Here that mate, just take her out to get fixed then everything will be better!

 

If you don't think you'd leave were you in his position Kirsty, then fine, tell him that but don't guilt trip him for doing what's best for him. Mental health issues or not, she doesn't consider the feelings of those around her, neglects her kid, makes her husband's life hell and refuses to register that she's doing anything wrong. She's not compelled to do these things by some unseen force; plenty of people with mental illness don't ruin everybody else's lives.

[Jimmy_Leppard]

1. Every woman on this planet has mental issues. Some hide them better, some don't hide them at all.

2. Women are always threatening with something, that's also nothing new. However, if she's threatening that she'll kill you or your kid, then you gotta get away from that bitch.

3. Women aren't cars. If you decide to get through with a divorce, she will take half of your sh*t, that's just how it is.. But if you use the threatening as a subject in court, you might do alright.

4. Try talking to her. If that doesn't help, see the last part of the sentence at number 2.

5. Bottom line is, the moment you start thinking about a divorce, I think it's time for a divorce.

 

However, we don't know you or your wife. You two are the only ones who can deal with your situation. Or call your lawyer.. before she does.

I like how it took until the fourth point before you acknowledged her as, y'know, an individual human being.

I see you can't read. I already stated twice that the first 3 points were jokes. Wow, have you guys ever heard of a joke? It must be very hard to be you.

[Mister Pink]

Like others have said. Get her diagnosed. You may feel like sh*t now and it's hard to live and deal with someone in this state.

 

Find her help. Get her and your family to help out. Without knowing what is wrong you can't try and fix it.

 

There's all sorts of counselling services to help cope with living with people with mental issues.

 

I'm not going to berate you like others before, they don't quite know your situation but you obviously want help as you are reaching out. Seek professional help immediately. No matter how much it costs. This is you and your families lives.

[The-King]

1. Every woman on this planet has mental issues. Some hide them better, some don't hide them at all.

2. Women are always threatening with something, that's also nothing new. However, if she's threatening that she'll kill you or your kid, then you gotta get away from that bitch.

3. Women aren't cars. If you decide to get through with a divorce, she will take half of your sh*t, that's just how it is.. But if you use the threatening as a subject in court, you might do alright.

4. Try talking to her. If that doesn't help, see the last part of the sentence at number 2.

5. Bottom line is, the moment you start thinking about a divorce, I think it's time for a divorce.

 

However, we don't know you or your wife. You two are the only ones who can deal with your situation. Or call your lawyer.. before she does.

I like how it took until the fourth point before you acknowledged her as, y'know, an individual human being.

I see you can't read. I already stated twice that the first 3 points were jokes. Wow, have you guys ever heard of a joke? It must be very hard to be you.

It's almost like you have a sh*tty sense of humor.

 

Oh wait, that's it exactly.