Is it weird going for nights out on your own?

[orbitalraindrops]

Is it weird going to nightclubs etc on your own?. I only ask because I'm going to uni this September and I'll know no one down there. But it's uni. It's going to be a completely new experience for me not least because I'll be living in a f*cking bangin city and not a sh*tty market town) I want to make the most of it though and meet new people as soon as possible. Additionally I kind of prefer my own company and want to be able to go out regardless of whether other people want to come as well. I'll only be going to clubs that are Alternative, Gay or maybe Psy Trance parties and from experience they seem to be a bit more open minded and accepting of "weird" behaviour. That said whenever I've been out before there has always been some weird 40 year old guy on his own scoping for pussy and throwing shapes like no tomorrow. I don't really wanna be that guy you know (actually that's a lie... I so wanna be that guy). I think you definitely need to be confident to do it as I don't want to go there and spend all night not talking to anyone. If I get enough drink down me for dutch courage I reckon it won't matter though.

 

What are your thoughts on it?

You guys ever done it?

Think it's weird?

Think it takes balls?

Discuss.

Edited April 14, 2013 by orbitalraindrops

[GTA_fear]

Oohh, yeah, Psy Trance, go for it. Although I'm not a fan of Psy, actually.

 

OT: No, I've never done it, lol. As a matter of fact, I don't think I've ever been to a nightclub in a "Let's go out in a nightclub" way. Useless post is useless.

[Jimmy_Leppard]

It's only weird if you think it's weird.

[DEALUX]

Why would it be weird? The only potential disadvantage that I see is getting in trouble. If you are with friends you are a bit safer, but that depends on the club I guess. I don't go to clubs but I used to go for walks alone. It's only weird if you think it is, and while others may think so too it's not that way at all in reality.

 

Being confident can be quite easy. You just have to not think about the situation in a negative way, like "what am I doing here?" and stuff like that. You already have the justification to be there. You want to meet new people and have fun. No need to bring yourself down. Thinking about a situation can make you nervous, so keep that to a minimum.

[Johnny Playert]

Look bro, bottom line, just go. Just have fun. If you are really looking to meet people, chances are you'll meet the people you'll come across at uni and before you know it you can join them. But even if you don't, just go and have some fun. Anything beats sitting around wishing you'd have gone. Just go out dude

[Red XIII]

unless im on coke or really drunk I would never go to a nightclub. A quite pub crawl or an all nighter round London is more my thing.

[SmC12]

Do what you want. You don't need other people to be happy or to have fun.

 

If you want to go to a club then f*ck it and go, if you want to go for a drive at 4am even though you're unemployed and have no reason to go anywhere, f*ck it and go. It only seems weird because society has made us think that the loner at the bar is strange, when in fact that guy could be having double the amount of fun you are having looking after 10 of your paralytic friends. Forget everyone else and fulfill your own happiness. By overcoming the embrassment and awkwardness, and the standard society holds to us, you'll be showing a much stronger character than the majority of people anyway.

[Clem Fandango]

Dude, just go to a gay bar and sit alone, looking like a fish out of water, but less in an awkward "lol so many homos in here" way more in a "I've finally come to terms with being gay and this is where gay people go but I've never been to a place like this" kind of way. Eventually, some sleazy older guy will come up to you: buy you a few drinks and slip you a couple of pills and some cash "for a taxi" then you say you're going to the bathroom, you head to the front door and run like the wind, drop the pills, then go home and blast tunes while smoking bongs.

 

You're welcome.

[GTA_stu]

You'll meet people, either in your accommodation or on your course, so it's not like you won't have people to go out with.

 

It is a bit rapey though, to go out on your own to a club.

[Clem Fandango]

If you want to meet people just ask someone from your course for a cigarette, then start chatting to them. They'll think you're doing it just to be polite and definitely not because you're a lonely gimp from the sticks.

[orbitalraindrops]

Ahah I don't mind being seen as a Gimp from the sticks. It's just the lonely part. Before I made this topic I was looking up what popular opinion on it was. Ended up on the Bodybuilding forums which as always serves as a pinnacle of humanity.

[Clem Fandango]

Ahah I don't mind being seen as a Gimp from the sticks. It's just the lonely part.

That's why the cigarette thing is so perfect! It's like yeah, I'd like to stick my headphones in while I smoke or bail to hang out with my awesome- super impressive- friends, but I guess I'll condescend to keeping you company since you gave me a fag.

[GoldenBlade]

Do what pleases you. You don't need other people to be happy. You'll meet new people while you're there. As long as you're happy, that's all that matters.

[GTA-King]

[Typhus]

Probably no weirder than my adventures in the early hours of the morning.

[Clem Fandango]

Probably no weirder than my adventures in the early hours of the morning.

Do tell.

[Straznicy]

Some bouncers will assume you are a drug dealer/rapist/both, which might put an end to this venture before it even gets going. Like Melc said, you're probably better trying to befriend someone from your course first.

[GTA_stu]

Probably no weirder than my adventures in the early hours of the morning.

Do tell.

Hope you have a psychiatrist on speed dial.

[Harley]

As stu said, at uni you'll end up making friends fast anyway. Keep in mind they won't really know anyone either.

 

Going out alone in general - I imagine you'd just get bored? Half the point of going out is seeing all your mates and joking around with them. I always thought it was weird and kind of depressing when someone said they were out by themselves, unless it was a gig or something.

 

That being said, I reckon it happens a lot in the gay clubs when September rolls around. There's probably quite a number of older gentlemen waiting for some lonely and confused freshers to bum.

[I cucked Alex Jones]

As stu said, at uni you'll end up making friends fast anyway. Keep in mind they won't really know anyone either.

 

Going out alone in general - I imagine you'd just get bored? Half the point of going out is seeing all your mates and joking around with them. I always thought it was weird and kind of depressing when someone said they were out by themselves, unless it was a gig or something.

 

That being said, I reckon it happens a lot in the gay clubs when September rolls around. There's probably quite a number of older gentlemen waiting for some lonely and confused freshers to bum.

Why September?

[BrownBear]

Ahah I don't mind being seen as a Gimp from the sticks. It's just the lonely part. Before I made this topic I was looking up what popular opinion on it was. Ended up on the Bodybuilding forums which as always serves as a pinnacle of humanity.

Where you from, out of interest?

I wouldn't say it's weird, I'd suggest bringing some weed, then when you see some people you're age you think you could get along with, invite them for a spliff, instant friends made.

[unopescio]

^ more like instant sponges. Theyll call you up all the time only to ask for tiny amounts of weed, then theyll come over to your house smoke all your sh*t and eat all your food. Just make friends in your classes.

[BrownBear]

^ more like instant sponges. Theyll call you up all the time only to ask for tiny amounts of weed, then theyll come over to your house smoke all your sh*t and eat all your food. Just make friends in your classes.

Not necessarily, if they turn out to be sponging d#cks, then you stop hanging round with them, or they might turn out to be cool.

[orbitalraindrops]

Gloucestershire. We have both Bestiality AND Fred West!. We also make nice cheese and cider too.

[GTASAddict]

"Is it weird going for nights out on your own", you ask? I would be embarrassed doing so. Heck, I'd even be uncomfortable going with company. Flashing lights, dancing, booze, noise, drunkards, etc are not my forte.

[Mr Rabbit]

not weird, I do it, mostly meeting up with friends there, or meeting new friends

hardly anybody knows anybody at uni, that helps.

[Max]

Gloucestershire. We have both Bestiality AND Fred West!. We also make nice cheese and cider too.

What university will you be going to?

 

If I'm honest, I think going out to a club on your own, while not really weird, would be really unenjoyable. You say you like your own company but there are times when you want to company of others, I would say that if you have a desire to go to a club at all this is one of those times when you don't wish to be alone. My advice would be to keep an open mind about your flatmates and the people you meet early on at university. Even if at first it may seem like you're poles apart in personality and interests you may find common ground.

 

Everyone finds their niche at university if they go out and look for it. Join societies you think are interesting and actually attend the functions, meet people on your course, I promise you, you'll find like-minded individuals and then you won't have the dilemma of going to club on your own because you'll have people to go with you.

[ExtremoMania]

It's not weird though, if you wanna have some fun, do it. As a matter fact I seldom go for parties whenever my friends wanted one, something like halloween parties or Christmas parties for example.

[orbitalraindrops]

Gloucestershire. We have both Bestiality AND Fred West!. We also make nice cheese and cider too.

What university will you be going to?

 

 

Brighton. A nice liberal sea side city with a vibrant culture. Plus it's like an hour and a bit train journey from London ahah.

[XMike]

If you were going out on your own I would suggest a festival or something over a club. People tend to be the most open and carefree and willing to meet anyone. But at the least I would try and find a friend who enjoys going to the same kind of shows as you. Shouldn't be hard at all at college. I always go out with a group of people to shows and events like festivals and sometimes just chill out in the back lawns for half the day and random groups of two to five people will always come by and chill and it's a good time. Whenever somebody is alone and comes up to us they are trying to sell drugs 95% of the time (in my experience) which can be sketchy with security around. Things may be different in England.

 

edit: Also, nothing wrong with people trying to sell at shows. Of course it goes on and it's somewhat necessary for people who don't have hookups outside. But I rather not get potentially arrested.

Edited April 15, 2013 by XMike