Space Cowboy Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 -Speaking in public.- I have no problem with that -Eating and drinking in public.- Same as above I don't care what others think while I'm eating/drinking, even if I do something stupid. -Attending parties.- I never attended to any party, maybe something is worng with me, but I just don't have many friends.. -Being observed and feeling judged or criticized.- Yeah, I feel that sometimes -Writing or signing in public.- I sing horrible and my handwriting is bad too, I try to avoid doing these things everytime. -To manage in commercial and administrative activities.- Never did that...so I dont know -Looking at others in the eyes.- I never thought about this much, I guess it's not a big problem for me -Starting a conversation.- This is my problem sometimes, I'm not much of social person.. -Being introduced to others.- Not really a problem for me. -Making phonecalls.- Same as above.. -Giving or defending your opinion.- I had quite a few times problem with that -Meeting strangers or people of the opposite sex.- Not a problem -Being in enclosed areas amongst other people.- Yeah I feel weird in these situations.. -Speaking in front of a small group of people.- Not a problem much -Speaking in front of people with authority.- Same as above -Paying or receiving compliments.- Same as above.. -Failing to see the point.- Yeah that's my big fear... -Being the centre of attention.- I try to avoid this whenever possible. I guess it's really bad with me.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kippers Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Interesting... -Starting a conversation. - Depends which group of people i'm talking to (See your other topic for that). I CAN be quite judgemental in these instances if i'm stuck with people I don't know. I'll decide very quickly if I can be bothered making an effort with someone. That being said... -Being introduced to others. - No, but not knowing someone is actually the easiest time to talk to them. (If I want to) -Making phonecalls. - Won't do this sh*t unless there's a reason for the call. 'Casual' phonecalls are a no. -Paying or receiving compliments. - i'm so sh*t at giving compliments. Everything sounds so corny when I say it in my head 習うより慣れろ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ari Gold Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 I suffer from absolutely no social phobias. I didn't even know that 80% of that list existed as problems for people. Honest to God. I have sympathy for the plight, though. A close friend of mine's younger brother has Aspergers. It's genuinely terrible, and a very intense emotional burden for his family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeeperRed Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 I don't really have an social phobias but I am f*cking awful at small talk, really need to work on that. I am pretty bad at giving compliments as well, sound like a f*cking creep. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theNGclan Posted March 20, 2013 Author Share Posted March 20, 2013 -Speaking in public.- I have no problem with that-Eating and drinking in public.- Same as above I don't care what others think while I'm eating/drinking, even if I do something stupid. -Attending parties.- I never attended to any party, maybe something is worng with me, but I just don't have many friends.. -Being observed and feeling judged or criticized.- Yeah, I feel that sometimes -Writing or signing in public.- I sing horrible and my handwriting is bad too, I try to avoid doing these things everytime. -To manage in commercial and administrative activities.- Never did that...so I dont know -Looking at others in the eyes.- I never thought about this much, I guess it's not a big problem for me -Starting a conversation.- This is my problem sometimes, I'm not much of social person.. -Being introduced to others.- Not really a problem for me. -Making phonecalls.- Same as above.. -Giving or defending your opinion.- I had quite a few times problem with that -Meeting strangers or people of the opposite sex.- Not a problem -Being in enclosed areas amongst other people.- Yeah I feel weird in these situations.. -Speaking in front of a small group of people.- Not a problem much -Speaking in front of people with authority.- Same as above -Paying or receiving compliments.- Same as above.. -Failing to see the point.- Yeah that's my big fear... -Being the centre of attention.- I try to avoid this whenever possible. I guess it's really bad with me.... You get used to your "Flaws". Trust me, as you age they usually disappear one by one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Space Cowboy Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 ^hehe I hope so, after all it was even worse with me when I was younger but it's getting better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gummy Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 Most times I have a hatred against everyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoldenBlade Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 -Speaking in public.-Eating and drinking in public. -Attending parties. -Being observed and feeling judged or criticized. -To manage in commercial and administrative activities. -Looking at others in the eyes. -Starting a conversation. -Being introduced to others. -Giving or defending your opinion. -Meeting strangers or people of the opposite sex. -Being in enclosed areas amongst other people. -Speaking in front of a small group of people. -Speaking in front of people with authority. -Paying or receiving compliments. -Failing to see the point. -Being the centre of attention. I have problems with everything that I quoted. I'm the "weird one" in school. I don't mind it, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chukkles Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 Not really any phobias, but I'm pretty terrible n social situations. Talking to people I don't know doesn't happen so easily, unless its a one on one situation then I'm not worried bout what other people think of what I'm saying to get to know a person. But if there's someone else there I often just shut up. Eye contact is poor even with closest friends and I often worry people take it as a dishonest/untrustworthy trait. Even though I've seen a psychologist on TV talking about this exact condition how it is with me. If someone looks you dead in the eye but looks away only to look back dead in the eye is often a trustworthy trait. That's what it's like, I can't just start looking around someone's face when I'm talking so I look them dead in the eye for seconds but feel an urge to look away. It's like I feel their gaze burning into my eyes. It's strange and uncomfortable for me. I could go on and on, I'm pretty f*cked up, but I won't go into it all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GTA_stu Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 Unless I have to speak with a spider, or make eye contact with a spider or defend my opinion against a spider then I should be fine. Although I do get very anxious if I have to speak in front of a large group of people. Who the hell came up with the "picture them naked" thing. That's the worst piece of advice I've ever heard. I mean what if you have to speak in front of a bunch of kids, or god forbid some elderly people. Or to combine the 2 in a nightmare scenario, a bunch of little kids with Benjamin Button disease. Doesn't bare thinking about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuperVeloce Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 That list describes my life. I definetely check all those boxes. I am literally the most awkward person ever, certainly the most awkward person in my school, and I hate it so much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rewas Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 (edited) I have almost all phobias that is written in the first page. I don't really have friends in school or at all. I only talk if someone talks to me. When I try to talk in front of everyone in school, I start to shudder. That's why I always don't do homework about speaking in front of class. I know that I'll need to do it in college, but school and college are different things. Edited March 24, 2013 by COOLMAN12234555896 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xylophobia Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 Speaking infront of large crowds of people, speaking to girls, speaking to strangers, making eye contact would be top of the list for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grope_4_that_date Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 (edited) I'm afraid of the dentist. I think they're working for the government. I got a cavity about two years ago and I swear they put more than just metal in my teeth. I've been picking up radio ceptions in my head whenever I'm in my Ford. I hear it. And sometimes when I'm at Walmart I'll hear voices in my head from the employees. Like one of those wakie talkies or something. Edited March 24, 2013 by grope_4_that_date Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xylophobia Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 I'm afraid of the dentist. I think they're working for the government. I got a cavity about two years ago and I swear they put more than just metal in my teeth. I've been picking up radio ceptions in my head whenever I'm in my Ford. I hear it. And sometimes when I'm at Walmart I'll hear voices in my head from the employees. Like one of those wakie talkies or something. Man f*ck off not sure if you're trolling or you're f*cking crazy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaisersoza_66 Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 When girls are flirting with me I don't reciprocate, In that time frame I'm playing down what she just did and i offer nothing back, not even a smile. Just basis run-of-the-mill acknowledgment then I look away stone faced. I'm one of those guys that can talk to girls I'm not interested in at all, sometimes those very girls end up liking me, they'll giggle and look at me a lot then I end up clamming up around them aswell! It f*cking eats at me all the chances I waste! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kurtburt94 Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 I'm socially awkward and i get very nervous around beautiful women. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MostOfAll Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 I have a stutter. It's a speech impediment that is more than just saying "um" or "uh" a lot. Don't know what I mean? Watch The King's Speech. If you're too lazy or if you can't sit in one spot all the time, at least just watch the trailer. I can speak flawlessly and beautifully when I'm alone, but the game changes as soon as I'm around people. It's a psychological issue. I've never taken any drugs or attended speech therapy for it, but I hope I get a chance to go through speech therapy in my college years. My mom doesn't see it as a problem that hinders me from reaching my true potential, especially in school, because she has never seen how devastating it is. She doesn't even know what stuttering is. She doesn't realize that the reason why I don't enjoy school is because I can't talk to people. I can't raise my hand to answer questions. I can't present in front of the class as well as I wish I could. What's worse is that I attend a school where the teachers LOVE to assign oral presentations for some reason. The school tries to be modernized, making us create PowerPoint/Keynote slideshows and present using them. It really sucks. It just makes me hope college classes are filled with so many people that there wouldn't be any time for oral presentations or for the teachers to know each student by name. I feel as though I'd be much more suited in that environment. I'm in my second semester of senior year of high school, and one of my biggest concerns on every school day is stuttering. I just don't want to stutter. It's a vicious cycle. Every time I stutter, my self-esteem is lowered. Lower self-esteem only means I'll stutter more. I was actually great at speaking to people until more recently. I assume that's the case because I sensed people were judging me negatively based on my Facebook posts. It sucks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hotband Posted April 17, 2013 Share Posted April 17, 2013 Yeah, it's VERY severe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThunderSt0rm Posted April 17, 2013 Share Posted April 17, 2013 Does anyone else on these forums have any sort of Social Phobia? If you do not know what a Social Phobia is, a Social phobia is a very exagerated shyness typified by persistent and strong feelings of anxiety and fear when facing certain social situations, interacting with others, or even when being observed, to such an extent that this feeling greatly interferes in the development of the normal life of those who suffer it. I'll list the most common Social Phobias. Sadly, I check off on all of them. -Speaking in public. -Eating and drinking in public. -Attending parties. -Being observed and feeling judged or criticized. -Writing or signing in public. -To manage in commercial and administrative activities. -Looking at others in the eyes. -Starting a conversation. -Being introduced to others. -Making phonecalls. -Giving or defending your opinion. -Meeting strangers or people of the opposite sex. -Being in enclosed areas amongst other people. -Speaking in front of a small group of people. -Speaking in front of people with authority. -Paying or receiving compliments. -Failing to see the point. -Being the centre of attention. It seems that you have an avoidant personality disorder. I got a couple of traits remaining but trust me this disorder is one of the saddest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peregrin Brandytook Posted April 17, 2013 Share Posted April 17, 2013 I have all of those above Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xylophobia Posted April 17, 2013 Share Posted April 17, 2013 So we have sh*tloads of social phobias, but no one ever wondered how to deal with them. Got any ideas guys? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chunkyman Posted April 17, 2013 Share Posted April 17, 2013 So we have sh*tloads of social phobias, but no one ever wondered how to deal with them. Got any ideas guys? In the case of Avoidant Personality Disorder, I hear cognitive behavioral therapy can work wonders. Developing self-knowledge about yourself is also apparently helpful, and recognizing that (severe) social phobias are overwhelmingly a function of child abuse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xylophobia Posted April 17, 2013 Share Posted April 17, 2013 I'm quite sure not everybody has money to pay for psychotherapists. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Talakua Posted April 17, 2013 Share Posted April 17, 2013 Whilst I can be quite anti-social and generally don't like being around people at the best of times, Im actually pretty confident in most social situations. I have managed to learn not to give a f*ck about what other might people think about me, which helps a lot. However I do strongly dislike making phone calls/talking on the phone in general. I also feel extremely uncomfortable around large crowds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ForumName Posted April 18, 2013 Share Posted April 18, 2013 (edited) The only thing I don't like is looking people in the eyes.....I don't get why, I just don't. I do it because here it is normal but if I could avoid it I most certainly would. It's weird though because in Japan you are generally not supposed to look someone in the eyes. Put me in front of a large crowd , including all members of Congress and my professors, in a small enclosed area, to debate my opinion with the President while on the telephone with people judging me and I'm fine, tell me to look that someone in the eye and I'll feel unconformable. Edited April 18, 2013 by ForumName Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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