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Mister Pink

Quitting Porn Altogether

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Abel.

It's different for men.

 

http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/658901/jewish/Whats-Wrong-with-Pornography.htm

 


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Question:
Is pornography bad? If so could you please explain why it's bad and how it affects a person's life?
Answer:
Good question. Too often we just assume something is bad because everyone says it's bad, without thinking into the reasons.
Everyone knows that child pornography is bad because it's been demonstrated over and over that people who look at that stuff end up acting it out—and really destroy people's lives. That's beyond the unconscionably cruel exploitation of the children involved.
Other forms of pornography are harmful for a similarly oft-repeated reason: Pornography makes women into objects of desire rather than real people. We want to have relationships between person and person, not person-to-object.
But there's something much deeper than that in pornography, something that gets at the very core of being a man. A real man is someone who maintains control over himself. Animals can't do that—they just respond to their instincts. People are free in the sense that they can decide what is the right and proper thing to do.
But when someone is looking at pornography, he is actively undermining that inner strength of his, allowing himself to slip into being an animal. The eyes see, the hormones are triggered and the mind is washed away in a sea of biological tyranny. A grown human being becomes a slave of one tiny organ of his body.
For generations a man's sexual experiences would be relegated to a few instances of embarrassing, but solitary and innocent, antics as a teenager followed by exclusively marital sex. Now we live in a world where adolescents can get graphic sexual content on-demand. I don't see how that can be passed off as harmless. It's not necessarily harmful in moderation, but it definitely has an impact. For young men porn is a vicious cycle: Watching it makes a young man feel ashamed and, thus, unable to interact with girls, which leads to more porn use. How can a young man possibly reconcile an innocent smile from his crush in class with watching graphic sex scenes at night? How can a young man walk to the shul knowing he's no better than Onan?
We live in a supposedly sexually liberal society, but what we've actually done is turn sex into a shameful act. Porn is part of that as it turns sex from a mutually pleasurable experience between intimately attached people into a private, shameful activity. It also creates false expectations as many young men are abundantly acquainted with porn but have no experience actually dating girls. This is a major problem as what one sees in porn is in a different plane of existence to how one is actually supposed to treat a girl. Porn also doesn't compare to the joy of spending time with someone you care about; indeed, porn creates even more insularity in today's increasingly introverted West.
As for the addiction aspect, I don't see how porn can be seen as anything but. It tricks the male mind into thinking it's having sex causing a surge in endorphins associated with the act--that's going to be addictive. Given that masturbation is a private, inherently shameful activity, this really isn't behavior that should be reinforced, which is exactly what porn does. You should associate sex with someone you care deeply about, not with impulses and private shame.
I might sound puritanical here but for all our talk about how "repressed" former generations were, I actually think they were much more healthy sexually. People would marry young and sex would be relegated to the marriage bed in accordance with cultural norms. As such, sex would be free of stigma and uncertainty.
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Abel.

Porn can reinforce negativity and issues of self worth.

 

 

 

 

'A real man is someone who maintains control over himself.'

 

I think this is a very salient point. Maintaining self control and being aware of lapses is a universal human tenet. People who don't do this tend to suffer in all human societies. Every man I know with chronically poor control over his impulses and/or life has been a bad example of masculinity.

 

 

 

 

People CHOOSE to watch porn. If porn makes you feel like you aren't good enough, that's not the fault of the porn. That's like saying there shouldn't be beautiful people in the media because it makes younger generations feel less confident about their own appearance.

 

Not really. Seeing attractive people is part and parcel of life and always has been, but seeing graphic sex scenes with no basis in reality has only come to the fore since the advent of high speed internet. We've no idea what kind of long term impact it will have/has had on people. Today's "mainstream" porn would probably be considered grotesque in the 1990s; the internet is a desert of depravity with no Moses to guide us out.

 

I view women as intellectual and societal equals, but it's a given that the sexes tend to view sex in a different way. Yes, some women watch porn, but fewer women watch porn than men and almost always with less regularity/dependence.

 

 

 

Yes, men do choose to watch porn, but that's not the point. If a teenage boy has access to porn, he's almost definitely going to watch it (I've been there, as has every other young man I know except for the orthodox Jews, Christians, Muslims and Hindus I know). Given that porn is designed to be addictive, he'll probably form a habit watching it. This wouldn't be an issue if the closest thing he could get to porn were the stack of Readers' Wives under his dad's bed, as it was decades ago, because these were just images rather than material engineered to be perversely addictive. We need to be realistic and understand that temptation is there and, in today's society, there's very little pressure not to succumb to it. It's up to parents to recognise this and act accordingly when raising adolescent boys. This is how religious Jews see the world: Everybody has an evil impulse and a higher impulse--the point is to minimise the former and maximise the latter. Life is one great optimisation problem when you boil it down to that.

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Abel.

No, the porn itself has changed. A picture of a naked woman is one thing, and she may even be tastefully presented. Graphic borderline rape scenes which depict sodomy, degradation of women and other things aren't in the same universe as that. I've got no problem with lads' mags as they can be a healthy outlet for young men (it's a shame most of them are out of business now). There is the argument that these magazines normalised sexualisation of women in the eyes of young men, but anything's healthier than the unrestricted online porn industry.

 

 

 

I think you mean well here Ces but I don't think you get the scope of the problem here.

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El Dildo

It's ridiculous to paint porn as something that's destroying men's confidence. That's entirely down to the person themselves. Porn isn't some sort of monster destroying the lives of people and if it is destroying someone's life, the problem doesn't start with watching porn, the problem is with the person's state of mind and lifestyle.

I think you're glossing over some very real issues here.

 

nobody said that porn destroys a man's confidence like it's clockwork or by design.

but a compulsive habit of porn consumption can negatively affect sexual performance, self esteem, and attitudes about realistic relationships and intimate communication. porn has always existed but porn has never been so prolific or mainstream or easily accessible to boys and girls at such a young age. the phenomenon itself may be novel, but porn is absolutely having an affect on the culture at large and the psycho-sexual development and education of certain people.

 

the porn industry isn't automatically evil or something, but it does trap people (performers and consumers) and it does absolutely ruin lives in certain cases. it is well documented on both the addiction side and the criminal side. people have literally lost their jobs and families to porn, getting sucked into the world, like any other form of compulsive behavior that spirals out of control. for every famous pornstar girl who claims that things are great, that this was their decision, that they're happy and in control of their life there are 100 other nameless girls who are picked up and pushed through the system; prostituted out to the men who pass them around and then discarded.

 

we're talking about well documented chains of abuse.

human trafficking and illicit drug use and modern day, legalized pimping.

 

the lionshare of porn is based on a system of nameless girls who are promised a lucrative modelling career only to be exploited for faceless men to f/ck under the guise of 'acting' since money is exchanging hands in front of a camera. there's no difference between porn and hookers except for the film. even some of the most famous pornstar girls who claimed at the time that everything was awesome and liberating and exciting have gone on to write very tragic memoirs and biographies revealing the abuse and shame they were hiding in order to keep the money flowing...

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Abel.

There's also the fact that porn itself is invariably attached to stigma and taboo. Sexual content is engineered to be addictive by being risque or shocking, modern society pushes a weird dichotomy where sex is both "taboo" but also unrestricted by questions of morality.

 

In reality sex isn't meant to be like this at all. It's supposed to have certain rules, like consent, and that it's supposed to be between people who care about each-other. The idealised scenario is the marriage bed. I'm not saying that it has to be this exactly, but it's not meant to be an inherently shameful or sinful thing. Porn feeds into the idea that sex is a shameful thing and robs it of any spiritual component, even though sex can really be a very natural and uniquely fulfilling activity.

 

 

 

 

Failure said it makes men ashamed, which in other words means it affects their confidence.

 

I'm sorry but I really cannot understand this, if it's a real issue, why is it only a handful of people that deal with porn 'addiction'..? I'm well aware of the ins and outs of the industry.

 

 

 

Well it depends how you want to define addiction. Obviously is someone thinks about something every second of the day and feels compulsive about it, they've got a serious addiction. What El_D is referring to is the subtle impact of regular porn use on the psyche of young people. It's very complacent to assume that there is no impact given the measurable hormonal impact pornography and masturbation have on the male mind.

 

 

It's also been well documented that porn use can affect the confidence of young men. Perhaps it's vestigial at this point but many people maintain the morality of their grandparents, perhaps only privately now but they still do. A lot of young men still want to wait for marriage and find the right person, so how do they reconcile that with watching porn? If they do indulge in porn in a moment of despair or self doubt (which given its ease of access they may well do), they're going to feel depressed about it. By doing so they're giving into their animal instinct at the expense of their personal morality, which is a very important thing to many people. The only thing this can lead to is shame, regret and anger. The best outcome is personal growth and repentance, but it could well lead to further self destruction.

 

This is true of many things: alcohol, drugs, gambling...Pornography is also on this list, but it's a very insidious addiction given how easy it is to get a "fix". At the same time it's an absolute breach of traditional norms, whereas with alcohol there's some leeway. People feel they can come forward to their families and friends about alcohol and/or drug addictions (indeed they should), but porn can be a deeply shameful thing to talk about, and that won't change in traditional communities. You may well have met young men low on self-esteem for whom porn is a factor in that, but you'd never know. It's not something to be trivialised; it's to be recognised and stamped out.

 

 

 

 

Porn addiction is also a pretty new thing. Whereas alcohol and drug addictions go back generations and treatments are well documented, porn addiction is uncharted territory.

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JosephStalin

Each to their own, I personally adore porn, I find I'm happier and relaxed after watching it I get moody when I'm horny, I have not been in a relationship for quite some time but even then I watched porn regularly It's simply a beautiful art form.

 

I have never understood why people say you have a girlfriend why watch porn? well because I found having sex with a girl & masturbating watching two sweet barely legal amateur teen lesbians going at it like a couple of horny chihuahuas is a completely different experience, which both happen to be exquisite.

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I personally like to take breaks from porn, because to be honest with you i'm not really a huge fan and i like to have a clear state of mind, but this is only talking from my own experience i don't judge what others do. I just don't like having all these pornographic images i get in my head.. Other than being masturbated to, i find porn a little repulsive (probably not the right word, i can't think of another word) and don't see what's more to it than something you get off to. This isn't coming from no religious background or anything, just my feelings.

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Majestic81

I think people who watch a huge amount of porn are people who cant get laid in the first place, so they turn to porn. Not the other way around.

 

It doesnt make sense that porn should change how you interact with your sexual interests.. the idea that you should feel ashamed for watching porn is ridiculous.

 

Porn addiction is a load of crap and its not a real addiction. Its just that people who cant score in real life give up and turn into watching porn all day. They become "addicted" because that's all they have..

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Fooking Rekt

Why would you even consider quitting porn???

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El Dildo

Porn addiction is a load of crap and its not a real addiction. Its just that people who cant score in real life give up and turn into watching porn all day. They become "addicted" because that's all they have..

you're an idiot.

 

porn addiction is a very real and well documented addiction, along a spectrum of compulsive behaviors including gambling and drug use. it's exactly the same thing happening in the brain. addiction is not a concept, it's a disease that takes root in the brain. it has very little to do with external circumstances.

 

people with wives and families (who get laid on a regular basis) have become addicted to porn. it's not because they "can't score" in real life. you have literally no idea what you're talking about so you should probably stop talking now.

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GTA_fear

Glad to see this thread still active.

 

I've read all the most recent posts and just want to say that I agree with Failure and El Diablo.

 

And I would also like to comment briefly on the following:

 

I'm sorry but I really cannot understand this, if it's a real issue, why is it only a handful of people that deal with porn 'addiction'..?

 

There isn't only "a handful of people" dealing with this, there are hundreds, probably thousands of people, mostly young males, having trouble with porn addiction, PIED, etc. For example, check out the NoFap forum. And God knows how many more people have been negatively affected by excessive porn use without even knowing that porn is the cause. I've been there. We may be even talking about millions here.

 

 

I think people who watch a huge amount of porn are people who cant get laid in the first place, so they turn to porn. Not the other way around.

 

It doesnt make sense that porn should change how you interact with your sexual interests.. the idea that you should feel ashamed for watching porn is ridicules.

 

Porn addiction is a load of crap and its not a real addiction. Its just that people who cant score in real life give up and turn into watching porn all day. They become "addicted" because that's all they have..

You don't see how you've just aided our side of this debate? Instead of going out there and trying to find a real partner, there are thousands of people sitting in their chairs in front of their computers, jacking off to pixels. Yes, it does make sense, and no, this idea is not ridiculous. What your brain thinks is that you've just had sex with a partner and satisfied your primal needs and instincts, but in reality, what have you done? You've spent several minutes sitting alone in a dark corner, making love to your hand and the computer screen, and are left feeling alone, depressed and ashamed. You feel bad about yourself, and what do you do? You masturbate again to make yourself feel better, even if it's only temporary, and the cycle is complete. Once again, I've been there.

 

I just have a feeling that people rush into this thread without reading any of the previous comments and posts and not knowing anything about the NoFap "movement", PIED, the notion of porn addiction, etc., and just call it all bulls**t. So I'll say this again: Please read my (and other people's) previous posts, especially the one on page 5. It should help clear some things up and you might start to understand our side of the debate and why we're doing all this. Everything has been said in those previous posts.

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blaze

You could put it in the same class as those people whos lives are devoted to games like WoW/LoL/Starcraft etc, the effects of that may not be as apparent as say shooting heroin on a day to day basis but the psychological effects are still there.

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DarkSavageDeathlyCloud

still watching porn a lot, no shame for anything.

 

also i can still get the job done IRL without such visual stimulation and i've got imagenation i have not picked up from any place on the internet

 

besides...i realy prefer watching porn over sexdates, for rational reasons.

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El Dildo

I said I no longer wish to argue, but try and understood it from another point of view....

 

If you've been around addiction, seen the damage first hand and I mean real addiction, people watching porn and blaming their issues on that seems like a cop out. Is that harsh of me? Yes. I strongly dislike this tone of equating a porn problem to a real f*cking life changing, health altering addiction.

you don't seem to understand what "addiction" means or even what it is...

 

porn addiction is very real.

it's not a "cop-out" for something. "their issues" might be social or physiological or mental but porn addiction isn't an excuse, it's the tangible outlet for a very real problem that exists within the brain.

 

porn addiction can absolutely be life changing and affect your health and wellbeing like any other addiction. the fact that you're so dismissive of this just betrays your ignorance. if you don't want to get into an argument then stop posting. you're allowed to have opinions but in this particular case your opinions about addiction are objectively wrong.

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GTA_fear

I strongly dislike this tone of equating a porn problem to a real f*cking life changing, health altering addiction.

 

If there's a powercut and you can't access porn in anyway, are you going to withdrawal? What will happen exactly? You get a bit anxious, a bit snappy at your family?

But it can be life changing and health altering. In excessive amounts it makes you depressed, ashamed, weaker, lethargic, uninterested in real girls, too picky, unable to maintain an erection without it, etc., etc. I'm really simplifying things here, of course. But just imagine: you're a 20-year-old heterosexual male and you are unable to maintain a full erection with a girl in your bed. Isn't that more than enough to start worrying?

 

Of course you wouldn't experience withdrawal in the same sense as an alcohol or drug addict, but like Blaze said, the effects of this are not as apparent as being addicted to heroin. You'd survive one night, but people who abstain for weeks and months have reported different "withdrawal symptoms", such as depression and loss of libido.

 

And again, imagine you cannot maintain an erection for longer than a minute without porn (masturbating or with a girl) - pretty terrible, right? So in this sense, you are addicted to porn, since you cannot function sexually without it. You're dependent on it.

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sreyazsec

You know what, I don't wanna get a warning or banned for angry replies. Fck it.

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Dwnld

I have a 2 TB hard drive which is dedicated for highly erotic content. Porn, obviously.

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I also buy DVD's if the movie is good enough (44 movies atm).

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I know what you are thinking; why download and store the files because there is the Internet and streaming! Well, what happens when my ISP breaks the Internet connection? Or the website goes down or starts to lag? Or if my router dies? What I'm going to do then? :< Downloading is the ONLY option really.

 

I'm gonna sound really cheesy but heck, when you have a girlfriend and you really love each other and have a healthy relationship. Porn is the last thing you'll or at least I think about. When watching porn you get a completely distorted view of the reality of sex.

I've quitted porn altogether a few years ago.

It depends on what kind of porn you are looking (solos, traditional sex or gang/blowbang for example). But yes if one doesn't understand that porn is just entertainment and not reality, it's a bad thing. This is one thing that parents should tell to their kids.

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GTA_fear

also i can still get the job done IRL without such visual stimulation and i've got imagenation i have not picked up from any place on the internet

I'd like to know... Did you start with porn, so to speak? Like, did you grow up with it? Or were your first sexual experiences with nude pictures / magazines (or real partners)? How old are you?

 

@Dwnld Ok, I somewhat understand, you lose your Internet connection, so you can't watch it anymore for a while... But almost two terabytes? Why download so much? It's not like you're ever even going to go through a tenth of all of that. And then there are the DVDs too. You don't think this is a problem?

 

@ceszayers I read your post before you edited it, lol, but yeah, whatever. Hope I've at least somewhat explained some things, but if you do not wish to continue talking about it, alright. If you still reckon porn cannot become a serious problem, well, too bad, I'm sorry for not being able to convince you.

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@Dwnld Ok, I somewhat understand, you lose your Internet connection, so you can't watch it anymore for a while... But almost two terabytes? Why download so much? It's not like you're ever even going to go through a tenth of all of that. And then there are the DVDs too. You don't think this is a problem?

 

 

Nope, I don't see a problem. In my defense I can say that I have a lot of 720p and 1080p files which take a lot of space (+1 GB, bad length to size ratio) and then there are the backup'd DVD's which take from 4 to 7 GB space each because they are 1:1 copies. Same goes for photo files because 3000 px width or height is the minimum resolution I keep.

 

It is true that I have a lot of files I've last accessed in 2012-2013 but in the end they are pretty good stuff, so I don't wanna get rid of them (especially because they would be hard to find at these days.

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El Dildo

you don't have to convince someone that gravity is real.

gravity exists whether or not someone is willing to believe it.

 

porn addiction is real. the human trafficking that occurs within the porn industry is real.

that being said, obviously it's possible to produce safe and healthy pornography that can be filmed and consumed without detriment to society. I'm not pretending to be holier than tho; I've stained plenty of boxers watching all kinds of porn when I was young. my girlfriend sometimes sends me amateur porn that turns her on and we watch it and then we f/ck. porn can be integrated into a normal relationship like any other kind of sex toy.

 

this doesn't change the fact that porn - like any form of adult entertainment - could always benefit from greater regulation and safety concerns. it shouldn't be disregarded as completely harmless just because you personally haven't had a problem with it. there are many people who do encounter these problems both as performers and consumers.

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GTA_fear

 

@Dwnld Ok, I somewhat understand, you lose your Internet connection, so you can't watch it anymore for a while... But almost two terabytes? Why download so much? It's not like you're ever even going to go through a tenth of all of that. And then there are the DVDs too. You don't think this is a problem?

Nope, I don't see a problem. In my defense I can say that I have a lot of 720p and 1080p files which take a lot of space (+1 GB, bad length to size ratio) and then there are the backup'd DVD's which take from 4 to 7 GB space each because they are 1:1 copies. Same goes for photo files because 3000 px width or height is the minimum resolution I keep.

 

It is true that I have a lot of files I've last accessed in 2012-2013 but in the end they are pretty good stuff, so I don't wanna get rid of them (especially because they would be hard to find at these days.

Still, how many videos does that leave us with? I would not even like to try to calculate the number. Don't you think that five, maybe ten different videos would be enough for such "emergencies"? I'm sorry, but for me, having any porn, especially over three or four videos, saved somewhere such as your phone or hard disk is a sign of trouble.

 

 

But allow me to talk about myself for a bit...

 

I haven't watched porn in about 9.5 months. I have masturbated multiple times in this period, it was either to no visual stimulation (as it should be done if you're ever going to do it) or, unfortunately, to sexy photos (which is not as harmful as full-blown porn, but still...). I do feel a lot better in general and feel like I've become a much better person over time (which I know is not exclusively thanks to quitting porn, but other things too, but quitting porn has definitely helped), but I have also noticed and felt the detrimental effect of porn even after so much time of abstaining from it. There's still a lot of work to be done for me here, but I think I'm on the right track. Good luck to everyone else fighting with this!

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While I watch porn vids/photos more than... someone else, I don't think I'm actually addicted to it.

 

This is because when I had a girlfriend, I did't watch porn at all. It might be hard to believe after reading about the 2 TB storage, but I just didn't care about it.

 

And no, we didn't have sex 24/7.

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also i can still get the job done IRL without such visual stimulation and i've got imagenation i have not picked up from any place on the internet

I'd like to know... Did you start with porn, so to speak? Like, did you grow up with it? Or were your first sexual experiences with nude pictures / magazines (or real partners)? How old are you?

 

@Dwnld Ok, I somewhat understand, you lose your Internet connection, so you can't watch it anymore for a while... But almost two terabytes? Why download so much? It's not like you're ever even going to go through a tenth of all of that. And then there are the DVDs too. You don't think this is a problem?

 

@ceszayers I read your post before you edited it, lol, but yeah, whatever. Hope I've at least somewhat explained some things, but if you do not wish to continue talking about it, alright. If you still reckon porn cannot become a serious problem, well, too bad, I'm sorry for not being able to convince you.

 

my first sexual experience was some experimenting with someone of the same sex of the same age...wich means just touching and oral sex.

was 13-15, he 14-16

 

like a year or 2 after that...when i was about 14 a 15, came pictures on the internet, but since i did not have my own pc yet and was pretty inexperienced with working with PC till i was about 18/19....i rarely was able to watch it so in general it was getting off on complete imagenation, which btw, involved thinking about scenario's i have not found on the internet and probably never will. :D

 

mind you my imagenation had a peak between about 14 and 16 years of age, and i am honestly not only into vanilla so to speak

But like said, that can not have been influenced by porn in the early days since i did not even know what it was called or that it even had a term, so i could not even search for it specific....and looking back the hints of me maybe being interested in some of the more extreme things were already present before my sexuality was truely developing(before i was 14).

 

now, after i was about 18/19 i kinda had better acces to the internet since i got my own computer(and i also had when i was 19 my first time real sex with someone) and since that time i do get mainly the kick from porn, but like said, though the imagenation has quite a tad decreased, it is not that abnormal since i am out of puberty by now :)

and further, like said, i also can get my satisfaction without porn and in the proximity of a sexpartner, or just imagenation.

 

really, i see no sign at all i can't just enjoy basic sex...i test it about every year, and the results stay the same, no problems whatsover.

 

at the moment i am 23 years old

 

ps: i must admit i woud not care if porn would numb my hunger for sex a bit, my rational side then becomes stronger and thus i am less likely to risk STD's and all that stuff so yea...there is that

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Well, then I am not surprised that you have not had any problems. People who "started out with porn" and who had free and unlimited access to it during their childhood and youth are usually the ones who have the most trouble with it, because their brains have been wired to get turned on by porn only and not real life partners and real sex.

 

I suppose I could say that I am an example of one such person. My addiction wasn't that bad, since I didn't use porn every day. However, it was bad enough to cause... Well, partial erectile dysfunction, I guess? Thus, I am kind of glad that I haven't had an opportunity to have sex in the last three or four years - it would have likely ended in failure, hah.

 

But this still doesn't mean that problems cannot develop for you in the future, so be careful. :b

 

Also, do not say this:

ps: i must admit i woud not care if porn would numb my hunger for sex a bit, my rational side then becomes stronger and thus i am less likely to risk STD's and all that stuff so yea...there is that

It would "make your rational side stronger". It would not make you want sex less, it would make you unable to have sex, more depressed and would only f**k up your rational side.

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Well, then I am not surprised that you have not had any problems. People who "started out with porn" and who had free and unlimited access to it during their childhood and youth are usually the ones who have the most trouble with it, because their brains have been wired to get turned on by porn only and not real life partners and real sex.

 

I suppose I could say that I am an example of one such person. My addiction wasn't that bad, since I didn't use porn every day. However, it was bad enough to cause... Well, partial erectile dysfunction, I guess? Thus, I am kind of glad that I haven't had an opportunity to have sex in the last three or four years - it would have likely ended in failure, hah.

 

But this still doesn't mean that problems cannot develop for you in the future, so be careful. :b

 

Also, do not say this:

 

ps: i must admit i woud not care if porn would numb my hunger for sex a bit, my rational side then becomes stronger and thus i am less likely to risk STD's and all that stuff so yea...there is that

 

It would "make your rational side stronger". It would not make you want sex less, it would make you unable to have sex, more depressed and would only f**k up your rational side.

Well...i do not see any sign of that being the case by far...so i gues im fine in that regard :)

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