Ever cheated on your GF?

[TonyZimmzy]

My best friend hooked up with this girl from out of state a few times when she came in for an annual festival in our town. He did not like her at all. He just wanted sex. Well, she contacted me trying to get me to get him to talk to her online. He wouldn't. So, her and i start talking, and we find out we have a lot in common. I ask my friend if it is ok if I try to date her, he says its ok because he doesn't like her. For a whole year we talk online. I tell my friend I really like her, and you know talk about her a lot. So me and the girl are at the point where we are talking 24/7 saying I Love You, and dreaming about when we can be together.

Finally, after a year of that, she tells me she is coming to visit! I am excited as hell, you know? She shows up at my house, drunk as hell. Just plastered. And she wants to go to see my best friend. So we do (I don't know what I thought was going to happen). And within 5 minutes of us showing up at his house, they are having sex. if I hadn't left, they would have done it right in front of me. Then the next day they both try to tell me how they were both drunk so it didn't mean anything. Well it meant something to me, and that is why I deleted her from facebook and myspace (this was a few years ago now, lol), and told my best friend to just f*ck off. This guy had been my best friend for 15 years. But the night they had sex was the closest I have ever been to committing homicide.

I wasted a year of my life on that (there is no word to describe her harshly enough), This is why I vowed to never even attempt a long distance relationship again. I will die alone before I date someone I can't see.

Haaarsh. I can imagine that. I'd of lost my sh*t and killed 'em both.

[dangr]

Never did it and I do not intend to do it at all. If I want to do something with another girl, I will break up first.

[DEALUX]

I agree. I always thought of it like being narrow minded. If somebody told me, "male-female-platonic-friendships don't exist".

But in the end, they were correct.

 

Any boy I know who is hanging among a clique of girls or a girl in particular, is only there to give them some confidence or listen to their problems. In the end, the women take, like in my case, the smarter guy, meaning, the one who wants to play the part. The one who wants to screw them. And the one who listened to their problems, no. They DO LIKE the attention though.

 

If you observe women, when they talk to each other, they can perfectly talk for hours, without sharing information at all. They chit chat and even put emotions into it. They next minute it is all gone. And as a man, being part of that, it's tiresome. I won't do it anymore. No more platonic friendships with women for me!

What about couples that are friends?

 

You can't control who you fall in love with. Chances are that those guys that are there for them don't make their intentions clear or have no intentions at all, and when they do have some it's too late because the girl finds someone else. They probably see those guys as friends because their female friends act just like them and they probably find them unattractive to begin with.

 

Men talk stuff that's just as meaningless, it's just the subjects that differ.

[AlfieWilRus]

wow, you sound exactly like a woman making excuses to why her cheating was justified.

I don't exactly understand what you're saying. Explain.

Some women who cheat make excuses to why they cheated and sometimes even giving reasons to why it wasn't their fault that they cheated.

 

And you're really sounding like what I just described.

[Finn 7 five 11]

 

wow, you sound exactly like a woman making excuses to why her cheating was justified.

I don't exactly understand what you're saying. Explain.

Some women who cheat make excuses to why they cheated and sometimes even giving reasons to why it wasn't their fault that they cheated.

 

And you're really sounding like what I just described.

Example...

 

Guy: - "I can't believe you cheated on me, I kinda Knew you were cheating though "

Girl: - "So you don't trust me? I can't believe you don't trust me! WHy do you think I went out and cheated on you"

Guy: - But you cheate-

Girl: -"I can't believe this! You don't trust me! How are we supposed to have a relationship if you don't trust me!"

Guy: - "Oh gosh, you're right, i'm sorry baby.

 

 

 

 

[Trund]

Example...

 

Guy: - "I can't believe you cheated on me, I kinda Knew you were cheating though "

Girl: - "So you don't trust me? I can't believe you don't trust me! WHy do you think I went out and cheated on you"

Guy: - But you cheate-

Girl: -"I can't believe this! You don't trust me! How are we supposed to have a relationship if you don't trust me!"

Guy: - "Oh gosh, you're right, i'm sorry baby.

 

 

 

I feel REALLY sorry for people who actually deal with such girls. Unfortunately there's many girls that always up with the lamest arguments ever, I could never deal with that and always stay from them.

[AlfieWilRus]

wow, you sound exactly like a woman making excuses to why her cheating was justified.

I don't exactly understand what you're saying. Explain.

Some women who cheat make excuses to why they cheated and sometimes even giving reasons to why it wasn't their fault that they cheated.

 

And you're really sounding like what I just described.

Example...

 

Guy: - "I can't believe you cheated on me, I kinda Knew you were cheating though "

Girl: - "So you don't trust me? I can't believe you don't trust me! WHy do you think I went out and cheated on you"

Guy: - But you cheate-

Girl: -"I can't believe this! You don't trust me! How are we supposed to have a relationship if you don't trust me!"

Guy: - "Oh gosh, you're right, i'm sorry baby.

 

 

 

 

But in this case it seems to be the other way around.

 

 

[shadyslady]

Some women who cheat make excuses to why they cheated and sometimes even giving reasons to why it wasn't their fault that they cheated.

 

And you're really sounding like what I just described.

Sorry, but I'm not justifying it. I'm not proud about it either. In my quote I'm only telling my experience with women's behaviour.

Touching that particular subject only a little.

 

I still do have respect for women. It's just there. Anytime we went out with friends and it came to a point my friends were degrading a woman, I wouldn't go down with it.

And my sexual encounter didn't come up to punish somebody mentally, or to do damage. If that was the case, I could have just told that ex girlfriend of mine about it right away.

 

 

What about couples that are friends?

This was the case at mine.

 

 

You can't control who you fall in love with. Chances are that those guys that are there for them don't make their intentions clear or have no intentions at all, and when they do have some it's too late because the girl finds someone else. They probably see those guys as friends because their female friends act just like them and they probably find them unattractive to begin with.

This, too. But the last time, it changed everything. I won't bother having any female friends. Or to be exact, I will keep up the contact, just not as intense as before. The girl I talked about knew almost everything about me.

 

 

Men talk stuff that's just as meaningless, it's just the subjects that differ.

The observation thing is not meant negatively. I wanted to point out the position as a male friend to women, who actually talk to them about everything. You talk so much about things that it can get to a level where you share deepest secrets. Then, seeing that woman getting screwed by your friend. I don't need that again.

[King Of Monra]

A girl cheats on her boyfriend: He was probably a bastard, you go girl!

 

A boy cheats on his girlfriend: CUT OFF HIS BALLS.

 

Regardless, cheating is wrong, regardless who does it. If you're not happy with your current girl/boyfriend, then breakup.

[shadyslady]

A girl cheats on her boyfriend: He was probably a bastard, you go girl!

 

A boy cheats on his girlfriend: CUT OFF HIS BALLS.

 

Regardless, cheating is wrong, regardless who does it. If you're not happy with your current girl/boyfriend, then breakup.

Now, do you think you were born with this moral code? No.

You were raised that way. I was, too. I can tell you, it's the catholic church that brought these moral codes to me.

I always wondered. How could somebody betray his/her partner? How can people go all out in polygamy?

They were probably raised in a different manner. Maybe they were even raised like me, but they certainly don't agree with the moral code given.

 

 

[Loman]

Haaarsh. I can imagine that. I'd of lost my sh*t and killed 'em both.

Yeah, it was the first time in my life I literally considered it. If I were only slightly less in control of myself, I would be in jail right now. I forgive my friend in theory, I mean he saved me from what was sure to be a horrible relationship, I just don't like the way he did it. When I run into him, we are friendly to each other, but it's impossible for me to forget that night (I was stone sober, they were both plastered)

 

Also, so I'm not completely off topic, I would never cheat on my girlfriend. I also would never tolerate my girlfriend cheating. No second chances from me. I am perfectly fine with being "friends with benefits", I've done that successfully because we were both honest about it.

 

Another thing I won't tolerate is a girl saying "If you don't (insert any task here), we are broken up!". If you say that to me, we are already broken up. if your partner says that to you, it means they are just looking for a reason to split or looking for a way to control your life. This one isn't as ironclad as cheating, I might give a warning before I end it, but it rarely ends up working out.

[shadyslady]

I mean he saved me from what was sure to be a horrible relationship, I just don't like the way he did it. When I run into him, we are friendly to each other, but it's impossible for me to forget that night (I was stone sober, they were both plastered)

 

 

Apart from the "saved from a horrible relationship" I feel the same. The friendship with the girl ended, it wasn't only about them having sex, it was also the way she reacted the whole night and after. One moment we we're pefectly fine close friends who know each other. The next moment she tried to keep me away. Then you see them f*cking.

It's impossible to forget. No amount of booze could erase that. To be frank. I lost two friends that day and won a disenchanted view on things. Like in your case, I'm still good with my old buddy. But we don't hang anymore. We also don't share any real personal things, hardly talk about serious subjects.