RATEDR307 Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 There's this girl in my class, she is from Iran. Dresses like a typical college girl. She's smart, funny and beautiful. She is a muslim, I'm an agnostic with jewish ancestry. Would it be a bad idea to ask her out because I hear muslims can't date non muslims. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deffpony Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 This is going to end up bad, my opinion is do it, but dont expect to get an open minded response from her or maybe even her parents Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Dildo Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 I hear muslims can't date non muslims. it's not they can't. it's that their family sometimes frowns upon it. I'm an atheist and I dated a Muslim girl from the United Arab Emirates (her name was Alina, beautiful) during my Junior year in college. her parents were fine with it, but every Muslim family is a little different. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarrinPA Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 It will end poorly but not because of the religion thing, it's just because life usually screws you over. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Majestic81 Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 Its not very hard to tell if a girl is up for dating or not in this situation, if you say she dresses normal then i don't think she would mind, im not a muslim my self but i know some muslim families, and some families don't take too kindly to a guy dating their daughter even if they somewhat seem liberated. on the other hand a lot of other families wouldn't mind, her age makes a lot of difference too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oddsock Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 It will end poorly but not because of the religion thing, it's just because life usually screws you over. Oh, shut the f*ck up. You're not being edgy by being pessimistic, you're just being a gutless moron. @OP, just f*cking do it. Whatever comes of it is whatever comes of it. If she gets uppity about some aspect of you, especially one that you can't change like your ancestry, then she's not worth the trouble. If she doesn't, then you guys might have a shot at a nice time together as friends or as lovers. Be prepared to deal with some level of rejection from her or her family/friends based on who you are, but don't let it stop you. Ultimately, if you want to try to date her, then you've made your choice and you should let her make hers. No matter what, at least you tried, and that's better than the version of you who never tried at all because he was too worried about what she MIGHT think. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deffpony Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 It will end poorly but not because of the religion thing, it's just because life usually screws you over. Oh, shut the f*ck up. You're not being edgy by being pessimistic, you're just being a gutless moron. @OP, just f*cking do it. Whatever comes of it is whatever comes of it. If she gets uppity about some aspect of you, especially one that you can't change like your ancestry, then she's not worth the trouble. If she doesn't, then you guys might have a shot at a nice time together as friends or as lovers. Be prepared to deal with some level of rejection from her or her family/friends based on who you are, but don't let it stop you. Ultimately, if you want to try to date her, then you've made your choice and you should let her make hers. No matter what, at least you tried, and that's better than the version of you who never tried at all because he was too worried about what she MIGHT think. No need to call him names. Like I said I think you should go for it, just dont expect her to be as open minded as you are, or even her parents. And if they are thats awesome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarrinPA Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 (edited) It will end poorly but not because of the religion thing, it's just because life usually screws you over. Oh, shut the f*ck up. You're not being edgy by being pessimistic, you're just being a gutless moron. Wow, you have no sense of humor. Honestly even if it does end badly, odds are that it will, he'll still have had the good times that is if she'll even date him. Too much emphasis is being put on the fact that she's muslim - maybe she won't date him because she just doesn't like him. Edited January 16, 2013 by DarrinPA Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RATEDR307 Posted January 16, 2013 Author Share Posted January 16, 2013 Even if she says yes, I'm just worried about us finding things we have in common seeing as she comes from a completely different culture. Either way thanks for the input ya'll. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gtamann123 Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 I'm actually in a very similar situation. There is this Egyptian girl I have Bern talking to and she's actually a very normal American high school girl except she is first generation American. I am deeply afraid of making any moves because of fear of what her parents would do to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naomi Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 The only thing worse than not taking a chance is regretting not having taken it. Go for it. You're young, you like her, it's not like you're planning to settle down with a family and a picket fence. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nightwalker83 Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 It will end poorly but not because of the religion thing, it's just because life usually screws you over. Oh, shut the f*ck up. You're not being edgy by being pessimistic, you're just being a gutless moron. @OP, just f*cking do it. Whatever comes of it is whatever comes of it. If she gets uppity about some aspect of you, especially one that you can't change like your ancestry, then she's not worth the trouble. If she doesn't, then you guys might have a shot at a nice time together as friends or as lovers. Be prepared to deal with some level of rejection from her or her family/friends based on who you are, but don't let it stop you. Ultimately, if you want to try to date her, then you've made your choice and you should let her make hers. No matter what, at least you tried, and that's better than the version of you who never tried at all because he was too worried about what she MIGHT think. No need to call him names. Like I said I think you should go for it, just dont expect her to be as open minded as you are, or even her parents. And if they are thats awesome. I agree! I don't think anything bad will happen if you just ask. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BullworthAcademy Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 I'm not really sure if you should do it, you ARE a different religion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ITSBRUCIEBABY Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 I'm not really sure if you should do it, you ARE a different religion. Doesn't matter either way actually, They BOTH are Humans. Go for it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benjimino234 Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 You're already not dating her so just go for it. That's my philosophy, better than having a "What if..." moment later on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JOSEPH X Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 Don't ask us, ask Allah. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greenline Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 Jesus, most Iranians arent really strict Muslims, and many of them (mainly the cosmopolitan ones) despise it because of the general anti-Arab sentiment. If she dresses like a normal college girl, without ahead scarf (burka's arent worn in Iran), its pretty safe to say shes on the same boat as you are (agnostic etc.) Ajbns on the forums married an Iranian IIRC. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WF the Hobgoblin Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 The only thing worse than not taking a chance is regretting not having taken it. No, the only thing worse is taking the chance and finding out she's an extremist nutball. Next thing you know, he's being decapitated on the internet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naomi Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 The only thing worse than not taking a chance is regretting not having taken it. No, the only thing worse is taking the chance and finding out she's an extremist nutball. Next thing you know, he's being decapitated on the internet. Or he could date a Caucasian, Christian bunny boiling, Lorraine Bobbit fan-girl. Life's just full of risks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WF the Hobgoblin Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 The damn truth... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carbine23 Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 (edited) My prom date was muslim and Iranian and she dated non-muslims. While some still stick to their roots, i see others that are completely americanized/westernized. Give it a shot, it can't hurt. And btw Persian/Iranian girls are damn beautiful! And most that i've seen (at least on Long Island) are not religious at all Edited January 16, 2013 by Carbine23 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oddsock Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 I sure hope OP gets back to us on whether or not he asked. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Typhus Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 I sure hope OP gets back to us on whether or not he asked. I am suddenly reminded of the Hindenburg slowly falling into a pile of flaming wreckage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purple Drank Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 Luckily my mom converted to Islam a while back. She's trying to get me to convert but im agnostic with Christian ancestry. There's nothing wrong with it, as long as you don't have sex because muslims and can't have sex before marriage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Voodoo Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 In case it doesn't work out for you... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tycek Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 Seeing that you're in US and she's wearing normal clothes, you should try it. Talk to her and try to find out (in slow and nice way) about her family. In immigrant muslim families parents are moslty the problem, because they were brought up in different culture and may be traditional. It's mostly applying to fathers, who don't want to lose control over women in their family. Sometimes when people leave country of their ancestors and move to another one (especially liberal one like US) they want to change their culture. Her parents may be like this, trying to live american way and brought their children in american culture. Talk with her about this and find out. In the worst case she's already sold to another guy (If they're traditionalist). Bit of story of my circle. I got half arabian friend (no names of course). He was born in Poland, from polish mother and arabian father. He was brought up in one of the countries in north Africa, but he came to study in Poland (like his father). When he was with his family, he was traditional muslim, but in Poland he acted like a normal guy, breaking muslim rules (alcohol, ciggarettes, drugs probably, only keeping rules during ramadan). So as you can see it depends on person and their surroundings. Talk to the girl and see if you can be togheter. You won't lose much, but you may win a lot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meekail Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 RELIGION man. RELIGION. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abel. Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 There's this girl in my class, she is from Iran. Dresses like a typical college girl. She's smart, funny and beautiful. She is a muslim, I'm an agnostic with jewish ancestry. Would it be a bad idea to ask her out because I hear muslims can't date non muslims. I was in a similar situation--I'm of Jewish ancestry too, and I fell for a chick with an Indian background. She was basically the same as the chick you described--funny, smart and beautiful beyond description. My advice to you is to talk to her a bit. Chatting with the girl I liked revealed that she was totally secular--her parents were pretty liberal and she didn't subscribe to religious views. In the end it turned out we both liked eachother a lot, but I still f*cked it up. That's another story however. Get to know this chick, see how she behaves around you, and, if you can, ask her (implicitly) about her religious beliefs. Then, after a week or so (don't leave it too long) ask her out (having planned a killer date in advance, of course). Best of luck to you mate--you'll regret it if you do nothing. Seriously. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Creed Bratton Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 Muslim girls are awesome man. They'll blow you away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EscoLehGo Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 Muslim girls are awesome man. They'll blow you away. Yea man, Muslim girls are where it's at, they really know how to have a blast. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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