Have you ever bullied someone in life or online?

[Finn 7 five 11]

I didn't bitch to the principle when i got hit in the balls by random kids whilst walking to class but whatever, let cry-babies be cry-babies.

Is this a thing, hitting each other in the balls? What the hell kind of school is this?

 

I can somewhat understand that being suspended for bullying is a bit of a stretch when, like you say, it was more for violence. But I suppose they're essentially the same thing. Bullying is violence when it becomes physical. As for bullying being an on-going thing, I don't think it's always that way. Fair enough, I think it's safe to say that 99% of the time it is a continuous thing, but sometimes someone can be bullied for a day, even a few hours. Take birthdays, for example. In my school, and I guess many others, it's almost tradition to humiliate, in one form or other, the birthday boy (not really sure if girls do the same thing). You could say that that's bullying but because it's "tradition" it was usually ignored by teachers.

 

Yeah i dunno, but things like that happened all the time at my school when i was there, bit strange when i think back.

 

Yeah i agree with your viewpoints.

 

 

Those "cry-babies" maybe didn't want to hit you back and they complained instead. Guess which one is the more moral choice?

Well i didn't hit back, but i didn't go to the teacher either.

As to Which one is the more morally correct decision? Well that's a matter of opinion i think, if someone hits you it is just as right to go snitch on them as it is to hit them back, only difference is that hitting back will actually do something and give you a bit of satisfaction at the same time.

 

I think the whole "dealing with things verbally because it's morally right" is a load of bullsh*t, but let's save that for another time.

[GTA_stu]

I've been bullied, and I've been the bully. In both instances it wasn't really anything serious. I think it's true when people say that bullies quite often have troubles at home, or they aren't happy with themselves/their lives. I was about 8-9 when I was the bully, and at that time I had a lot of sh*t going on at home. My mum basically had a mental breakdown and had to be taken into a mental hospital for a short time and I was living in this hostel with my dad and my sister because our house had smoke and fire damage. My dad had some problem with his heart too and needed surgery. At the time I wasn't even necessarily aware that I wasn't happy or that I was sad, I wouldn't say that I felt any different really. Maybe it was a sub-conscious thing I dunno. But at school there was these 2 kids who I was so mean to and I used to pick on them verbally and physically a lot, and I was just generally quite aggressive in my life at that point. I think the situation I was in at that point in my life definitely played a part in why I acted the way I did, but it was still no excuse.

 

That was pretty much the only time when I bullied anyone, and I feel kinda guilty about it now. One of the kids I bullied was in my football team 6 years later, and I apologised to him for what a dick I was, and we got on pretty well actually.

 

I was bullied a few times, but it wasn't really physical violence it was just people being generally antagonistic and annoying. I used to get the bus with a friend, and these 2 kids behind us started flicking my friend's ear and poking him and stuff. I had a go at them and that stopped them for that particular ride. Then the next day they started doing it again, but this time to me as well. But there was a small group of them this time, about 5. My friend just stayed silent whilst I tried to stick up for myself and him, and stand up to them. My friend was actually bigger and stronger than me as well, if we'd have both stood up to them they'd have probably shut up. But he was a coward and just sat there whilst I tried to verbally take these 5 pricks on myself. Of course 1 v 5 isn't going to stop them, especially when they know they've already intimidated the 1's friend. I couldn't really do a whole lot against so many of them, so I started walking to/from school instead, and let my friend get the bus on his own and take their sh*t.

 

That was the main case of bullying I experienced, I probably put up with their sh*t for a week or so and then decided to remove myself from that situation.

[DestaliusDark]

Well i kinda had both i guess.

While i think cyber bullying is very weak and is only for stupid kids.

I never did it, ofc i trolled some kids in minecraft by destroying their server and such still; i din't ruin their lives ;P

 

A few years ago i kinda bullied some guy i guess.

But i kept myself from doing it most times. Sometimes i had to say something against him that made him angry ofc, but i tried to kinda say to my friends they should stop the crap and leave him.

Wouldn't work though, ;P

At least the kid kinda respected me, but he tried to fit in too hard. And i hate people who arn't being theirselfs.

 

As for me being bullied, i got bulleid in almost every school i went to.

Because of 2 things

 

- Long hair

- Skinny face

 

Making me look like a girl in some ways, ofc this was the power of inspiration for many kids who couldn't make up original sh*t to yell at me.

Still to this day, people laugh at my long hair. I simply have it cause short hair doesnt fit me, and i like it.

Though in some schools i stood up for myself, and punched them in the balls or face so they would stop ;D

some did, some din't.

Well, i try to keep everything very private and i never say anything i might regret in the future.

So i mostly say nothing about my real life, because im not in the mood to hear kids their stupid opinion they express as "Hahaha Your strange".

They also laugh at my name :I (Vladimir, then to irritate me they say Vladi)

You see i don't live in russia, nor am i russian. So everyone is like "Wooaw your name is funny, LOL"

 

Oh well, i hate some people.

Bullies need attention from you, don't give it to them.

But also don't show your afraid or anything else, as long as you walk straight up nobody cares about you. (I used to go to a school, where a bunch or marokans used to live in the area, if you where afraid and you walked by like you where afraid, they laughed at you and would insult you. )

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Law0070]

two belgians in a row, yoho yoho

 

I never really bullied, didn't feel the need to, i was a quiet boy, didn't make friends that easily, guess what makes you a good target for then? not like they bullied me hard or sth, just my classmates being pricks to...everyone else in the class, 4 years long, everyone hated them, they were the rich and spoilt kids. I hated them, I started working out and that was the best thing to do, after a while they got too scared of me to bully me so I saved myself

[Vega LVI]

I was teased by a few douchebags every now and again in junior high, but not to the point where I'd consider it bullying. I had a few grudges with several of my peers at the time, which is why they would target me every so often. They couldn't do much though as I was very big in stature and height for my age, so they'd get in a few insults at lunch when they could all squad up into one. I never really let it bother me though. I usually responded with jabbing up the middle finger and telling them to "f*ck off".

 

As for me bullying others, I never did such a thing. By the time I reached 14 or 15, I leveled off and became one of the quietest kids of my grade. I got involved with some idiots of summer break one year, so I decided to pan away from undesirables and pledged to do better in school. In a nutshell, I buckled down, focused on my studies and was just considered to be just another "smart kid", so I wasn't really involved with being an egotistical moron.

[Greenline]

Getting bullied? Once, in first grade because I was a sh*tty goalie.

 

When I left Iran and got to Germany my attitude really changed, most of the people who know me from school (including teachers, behind the scene) consider me to be quite funny and have urged me to get into acting. It got even better when I came back to Iran and went to the German School in Tehran, the teachers were constantly making comments on how I should get into acting and all my friends (and even people I was mean to) kind of had a certain type of respect for me, not because of being big and strong, but simply because of being witty. Whenever someone would crack a (ill-intended) joke at me, I would comeback with some of the most embarassing stuff ever (mainly giving a nice comeback that would crack the class up). Accents, impersonations and sh*t like that, almost everyone would come to me for a good laugh, and I had my group of friends. Now, we went to hookah bars, smoked weed on top of a roof that had a camera and stupid sh*t like that.

 

What's sad about it though? Most of the time it's great, the compliments etc. But the problem is my inability to take real life seriously (but I appear to take Internet interactions seriously though, which is sad).

 

Have I bullied? Yes. Not physical, only pushing and stuff like that. Mostly verbal, stuff that would make you want to go to the toilet and cry. A little punch doesn't deliver the same amount of agony a well placed joke can, and that's kind of been how I've been doing it. I've rarely had to use the tactic though, because I've always had that 'respect' (exaggerated word, yes) by people in my clique and also by those outside it.

 

Then, something happened that most would expect would make me reconsider. I was suspended from the German Embassy School for being 'overly sarcastic to teachers (although behind the scenes they liked my humor as stated above), and also involvement with a Marijuana plot (which was never proven).'. But I won't reconsider. The kind words from the teachers and my friends will make me go on just the way I was, a witty, funny, respected, sarcastic c*nt.

 

Any idiot could read a book and memorize it and get good grades. But real intelligence comes from deceiving, getting yourself out of trouble, smartly blaming others, and alas, having the ability to use (useful and well planned) verbal attacks, useful meaning funny and 'beneficial' to those listening.

 

And now, I haven't changed, but because of the shallowness of schools and their methods for measuring intelligence, I'll have to get studying, so I can at least be left alone at this point. Because almost all those who share my viewpoint (the teachers who said I was funny and that I should get into acting), wouldn't dare speak out. Because it is so unorthodox, maybe. Maybe because it has not been seen.

 

For myself, I see a bright future. I may not be the best at memorizing books etc. But I know what I'm doing, and I'm doing it well.

 

Here's to real intelligence.

 

And no, I wasn't high when making that post, I was just extremely emotional while stating one of the most important parts of my life up to now, and my future.

[AlexGTAGamer]

 

I think being bullied builds character if you learn how to deal with it properly.

 

This is quite true. A lot of people I know have been bullied and some have even said that they were sort of glad they were as it made them the person they are now. I can agree with that. I'm far tougher in many ways and I've learnt to not take sh*t from anyone. Dealing with a bully verbally is a great indicator of character, in my opinion. It takes a certain level of intelligence to deal with it that way whereas flinging your fists requires none at all.

This I agree with.

 

In my old school I was a right pacifist, I would get picked on by some kids because of the people I hung around with, my appearance, and other reasons, yet I never raised a finger, nor did I even complain. I turned my cheek so many times I lost it, well, both of them (not literally of course, things weren't that bad).

 

When I finally left that school and went on to another one, I slowly built my broken self-confidence up again for the fact that I never wanted the same things to happen to me in this place as in the other one. Thankfully, the kids were nothing like those jerks so I never had to worry about bullies, however I've found now I'm quite a violent person deep down. I don't show it on the outside, but on the inside sometimes I can become really infuriated but I still try to suppress that aggression, which is a concern as I know (and fear) that one day something will happen to me, a friend or a family member that will see me finally release all of that built-up rage from over all these years, and that could lead me to do something that I know I could end up regretting in the future.

 

For example this girl I'm friends with was telling me today about how some lads in the school back a year or so tried to forcefully hug and kiss her for some weird game they had devised between themselves (the lads), and stories about asshole ex-boyfriends. I kid you not my fist was clenched in rage when I heard some of those things and I wouldn't have even given a second thought about teaching those lads a lesson.

 

Also it's a trademark in my family to be protective over family and friends, and so for me it's really a deadly cocktail. So friend gets picked-on by a bully or whoever, friend tells me or I witness it, I go to calm things down first with words, if they (bully/whoever) becomes a smart alec and carries on their ways or starts something with me, then things now have the potential to turn ugly compared to what I would have done a few years back (do sweet f all). If it were a family member though all negotiations are already off and the only talking is done with fists.

 

Sorry I blabbed on a bit there.

Edited September 6, 2012 by AlexGTAGamer

[DEALUX]

 

Well i didn't hit back, but i didn't go to the teacher either.

 

if someone hits you it is just as right to go snitch on them as it is to hit them back, only difference is that hitting back will actually do something and give you a bit of satisfaction at the same time.

 

I think the whole "dealing with things verbally because it's morally right" is a load of bullsh*t, but let's save that for another time.

You were probably one of the "cool guys".

 

I don't follow your logic. It's not right to hit them back because you are doing the same mistake. If there are ways around violence, it is not justified. Satisfaction doesn't justify it either, it actually makes it more wicked. Not to mention that hitting somebody back can create more consequences to deal with. When is the hitting going to stop? When somebody ends up in the hospital or dies?

 

It may seem that way because some people are too lazy or too vain to seek alternatives.

[na89340qv0n34b09q340]

 

Well i didn't hit back, but i didn't go to the teacher either.

As to Which one is the more morally correct decision? Well that's a matter of opinion i think, if someone hits you it is just as right to go snitch on them as it is to hit them back, only difference is that hitting back will actually do something and give you a bit of satisfaction at the same time.

 

I think the whole "dealing with things verbally because it's morally right" is a load of bullsh*t, but let's save that for another time.

 

If the victim were to fight back things will probably escalate into actual fighting (if the bully isn't a pussy), and having a broken nose is a lot less fun than having to stay away from school for a few days. The only other option is sitting there and taking it from the bully every day, which doesn't always work.

[Verdant]

In real life? No. Absolutely not. I am a very kind person even towards dickheads. If I were to bully someone in real life, I'd regret it and apologize the next day.

 

Online. Yes, I guess so. I've done it numerous amount of times basically because the person doesn't know who I am, but usually it happens when they start me first and I just flip out and blast at them in with all I got. At the end of the day, I know I could of just signed out..

Edited September 6, 2012 by GtaOutKast

[guib]

I am ashamed to say that I have bullied some people on primary school, but the only real reason for that was I was bullied by the "cool people" and wanted to fit in.

I have been bullied more then I have bullied others though, since I was very shy.

[BRITLAND]

 

 

i did get bullied but in a weird way

At my High School like a week everyone liked me then the next everyone hated me then 50/50 then most then least, it was just weird

some people get bullied to death like all the stories you hear but when its like that its just makes you confused i mean did they like me or hate me why didnt they make their minds up?

 

Also bullies have it low in life

1. Cause they dont have anything better to do in their lifetime

2. Have bad lifes at home

3. Get bullied themselves

4. Ones at my school always smoked in the nearby woods under 16 which is kinda sad, the baddest thing to eat/drink ive ever had is Cola which i do drink aswell as sweets never drank alcohol or smoked & never will

[flitcroft101]

I'm usually quite aware of when things are going too far. I don't like taking things over the line, I feel sh*tty afterwards.

[waleed123x]

used to be bullied

once got the courage an tore the bully apart

 

havent seen him since

[Empty World]

I used to be bullied few times, just like everyone has.

[universetwisters]

as tony montana once said, "i never f*cked anyone who hasnt had it coming". If you're on youtube, and if youre a total dick to people, and if you put your address online, guess what'll happen?

[Algonquin Assassin]

Never bullied anyone in person, but when I was a kid I was really skinny and shy so I was an easy target for meatheads.

 

I started highschool in 1998 and for a good year or more this one dude would pick on me every chance get got. Had no chance in a fight as he was fairly built.

 

Can't remember how it stopped, but I do remember we became mates towards the end of highschool. Funny how things work like that.

 

As for online I've had my fair share of arguments, but I tend to appologize. It's just in my nature. If I feel I've stepped out of line 9 times out of 10 I'll always appologize directly or via PM. I feel terrible otherwise.

[Kalvin]

Luckly I'm not in School or else I'd be bullied every single day.

Seeing as my height is 4, 3. Most people call me a dwarf, I'm also (nearly) 12 so that's another reason why.

Although I have good fighting skills so I don't know how I'd cope.

[.dre.]

They thought they could f*ck with me, until I pulled a knife with a crazy look. Then I got suspended by the VP, but the Principal called me up and said come back just make sure to tell him the problem next time. It never happened again.

[RomansMoobs]

I'm the biggest prick on the internet. I'm okay with it.

[Greenline]

 

as tony montana once said, "i never f*cked anyone who hasnt had it coming". If you're on youtube, and if youre a total dick to people, and if you put your address online, guess what'll happen?

You f*cked 'em up good, eh? You really shows dem who's the motherf*cking boss, eh?

 

Seriously, the sh*t you post here and on YouTube accounts is far from 'f*cking' people. It's more like... like... a temper tantrum. I'm just looking for the post where you told some guy you work for Homeland security or some sh*t like that, because that, that was f*cking gold.

 

@Miamivicecity: Same here when it comes to apologizing

[universetwisters]

as tony montana once said, "i never f*cked anyone who hasnt had it coming". If you're on youtube, and if youre a total dick to people, and if you put your address online, guess what'll happen?

You f*cked 'em up good, eh? You really shows dem who's the motherf*cking boss, eh?

 

Seriously, the sh*t you post here and on YouTube accounts is far from 'f*cking' people. It's more like... like... a temper tantrum. I'm just looking for the post where you told some guy you work for Homeland security or some sh*t like that, because that, that was f*cking gold.

 

@Miamivicecity: Same here when it comes to apologizing

maybe i rage too much or something but hell, if youre dumb enough to post you address online, and if youre a total dick to people online, what do you expect?

 

dont even remember posting anything about homeland security though. I remmber when i first started off on gtaf (my first forum i was a part of) i was nervous and made some fake persona so if i screwed up, people wouldnt rage at me. Once i found out that this place was cool, i started being myself

[Mike Tequeli]

 

I'd day close to 90% of people have.

 

There's a false dichotomy played out in the media between children who bully and those that are bullied. In the overwhelming case, a child is both.

 

Ever see Romy and Michelle's highschool reunion? Besides being a quality comedy, there's a scene right at the end where the titular characters are bitching about the bullies that made their life hell in highschool, then another girl played by Janeane Garafalo comes up and says "you made my life hell"

 

Yes. I was a bully. But I was also bullied. Kids are not divided up into one heartless teasing mob and another group of soft petals. The 'anti-bullying' procession only leads those who experience some bullying to develop a persecution complex and act like pricks to those below them.

 

It's only those at the bottom of the pecking order that are truly bullied, and only those at the top that are truly bullies. Everyone in between is a delicate mix of the two, and like I said, that's ~90% of people.

 

And heck, that's only within the schooling system. Everyone who bullies at school cops sh*t at home or at work from those above them.

Thank you.

 

I don't think enough people get this point, there is an idea that there is some small percentage of kids that are just awful bullies and terrorize everyone else, and it doesn't help that no one tends to admit to the terrible sh*t they've done to others. So in your average internet discussion you just get people with big victim complexes talking about getting bullied but you rarely if ever hear from the bullies. The vast majority of bullying I've seen or taken part in has been a sort of mass bullying experience, where there is maybe one or two kids who get it really bad and everyone else is giving them sh*t. None of those individual people consider themselves bullies because the responsibility for the torment is spread across everyone, meanwhile though the kids on the receiving end get it pretty bad because its not one person who is the problem but everyone. Teachers rarely help in this situation because there is very little that can be done, and those kids getting bullied are usually so weird that the teachers hate them anyway.

 

So yeah I've done things that may have been crossing the line but I suppose I've never really thought of myself as a bully, not in the classical sense. At least I realize it though, most of my peers wouldn't think twice about how awful they were in elementary school or later.

 

Also someone said they got cyber bullied on youtube. I always thought when people were having moral panics about cyber bullying it was real people you knew harassing you through the Internet. If you are being bullied by anonymous people you are probably too much of a pussy and should reevaluate your priorities or get off the Internet.

[blitz]

Never been bullied or bullied someone myself, I'm a nice girl, I get along with people, so it's not a problem.

 

However, about a year ago a girl said something and I called bullsh*t, she stood in front of me and started blabbering, claiming her story was true and whatnot. I told her to shut the f*ck up, because no one really cared, and she got all emotional and started saying sorry and stuff. I later learned she was on her period, and that's all in the past.

 

She's now a p good friend of mine.