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Now I know this isn't going to be a popular topic. Whenever you mention sex on the internet people genuinely go into a frenzy. It's a big issues with some big opinions on either side. Hell some people will probably just look at my join date and leave all together. That said this is something that's been bugging me for a while and I want to get it off my chest and hear some opinions.

 

First of all lets get some backstory. I'm an average if slightly shy 18 year old boy. When I was 17 I had sex for the first time and have proceeded to have sex 2 times after that. Now from about the age of 12 Sex has been a big thing. It's something that made you instantly cool if you had it and uncool if you didn't and from an evolutionary perspective sex is pretty much the point of life. I mean after basic survival needs the human exists to procreate and so obviously the drive for reproduction is a driving factor in our bodies. Sex is a big thing.

 

I suppose it's my fault for expecting to much and societies for building it up so much. I mean when I was a virgin I thought that sex would cure all my problems. I had pretty bad depression (one of the reasons was actually because I wasn't having sex) and I assumed that once I "got laid" I'd stop feeling depressed. Additionally I also thought that sex would feel so good that as soon as I was inside her I'd come. I built it up in my head that sex was this euphoric awesome act when in actual fact it wasn't, at least not to me.

 

So the basic story goes like this. After a long time of feeling sorry for myself and being shy around girls I end up getting it together with a friend I had a crush on. She's pretty and she's nice as a person plus she's experienced (Well at least as experienced as a 17 year old can be). These are all big bonuses and after a couple of months of some light sexual activity we decide to fully go the way. That said she'd already lost her virginity so it was a bigger deal for me than her. Neither of us are drunk so I can recall it pretty well and I think the fact that wer'e sober made it a better experience. I'm a virgin she's not.

 

We go through foreplay, lots of kissing and oral on each other, I'll leave out the more explicit details but nonetheless soon It only seems natural to start having sex. The first thing that struck me was how warm and wet it was and it's definitely not like I expected. I mean I did't cum instantly like I thought I would. That said it was a pleasant feeling and like I said I had feelings for her so I suppose that if I made the experience all the more powerful. But it just didn't.

 

I mean once I was past the initial phase of "OH MY f*ckING GOD I'M HAVING SEX" it sort of dawned on me that whilst it was a pleasurable experience it wasn't as amazing as I thought it would be. That was my first time though so I kind of thought that perhaps it would be better next time but it wasn't. I mean don't get me wrong it was never bad. It was an enjoyable experience and I want to have sex again but it wasn't mind blowing or world shattering like I thought it'd be. I still suffer from depression and whilst I don't feel depressed during sex as soon as it's over I do feel slightly empty (no pun intended) but I think that's more to do with the fact that I don't love this girl who I'm with.

 

Sex just seems overrated and yes I'll freely admit that I do feel pretty happy for a couple of days after its happened and do get an annoying sense of smugness when I'm around virgins it just doesn't really effect me beyond that. I don't know. I mean this is just my limited experience of sex but it seems overhyped especially with how engorged it is within media and society in general. Anyway discuss. Agree, Disagree, leave your views smile.gif.

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I bet someone posts a "your doing it wrong" image macro.

 

 

btw congrats on having sex three times and not telling ever-

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To quote a 70 some year old friend of mine who's answer to everything is...

 

"It gets better"

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Never thought anyone would actually post something like this, but it was fun to read to be honest lol.gif

 

But I can't talk about this, I'm still 15 turn.gif

By the way, you wrote it very detailed. Maybe too detailed ... tounge.gif

 

 

The first thing that struck me was how warm and wet it was and it's definitely not like I expected.

 

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Girls, if your age is on the clock then you are too young for the cock. - Dave Chappelle

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Girls, if your age is on the clock then you are too young for the cock. - Dave Chappelle

That's just an awsome saying biggrin.gif

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Have to agree really, well I did lose it two years ago and I had it on a regular basis so that's probably why but I haven't had sex in about 6 months now and I do kind of miss it but then again you miss masturbating to porn on the internet, I'm not joking about this, but it's nice to mix things up.

 

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Ahh, never thought I was going to see this on GTAF lol.gif

 

But I thought I needed to expect a lot from sex.

And now you're sayin' that it isn't amazing or something.

Then what do I need to expect... notify.gif

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I lost it almost a year ago and i guess it isn't as euphoric as people say it is but it's still pleasurable. I just feel like when i had sex i wasn't in my crazy horny mood that you sometimes get once in a while if you haven't jerked it. Well i have only had sex twice and haven't since then but seriously can't wait till i do it again and it will probably be better.

 

It's just the media portraying that sex is everything. But in reality i believe sex is very important in a relationship and helps maintain it. But i respect your opinion, sex was probably the #1 thing on my mind from age 12 and it's still pretty much up there and will be till i do it again

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Having the good ol' nookie helps with social anxiety, trust me.

 

A cure, if you will.

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OP's problem is that he's putting the pussy on a pedestal. Sex is a fun, wonderful thing between two people sharing something intimate. It's great when it's great, and when it's bad, it's still okay. It's the connection that's important, and when you put too much expectation into it, you're doomed. When you don't find any pleasure, physically or emotionally, from it you might as well just jerk off - you still get off and waste your seed.

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Well that was very, um, graphic. I remember my first time like it was yesterday. I was a young fillipino pool boy who was in the country illegally. She was a 40 something trophy wife of a rich businessman. As I scooped the dead rotting possum out of the pool I saw that she was giving me a yellow toothed smokers smile. It was 10 AM and she was already on her fifth tequila, but her eyes said it was her tenth. I walked over to her and she let out a burp which smelled of tequila, cigarettes and regret. I jumped on her, and the sundbed collapsed, we giggled like a couple of school girls who'd had too much sugar for lunch. Then she led me upstairs into the bedroom, and rode me like Sea Biscuit. It was only after the sex that I realised she had a wooden leg.

 

Aaah memories.

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orbitalraindrops
Having the good ol' nookie helps with social anxiety, trust me.

 

A cure, if you will.

I acutally read an interesting post on the psych forums about a man with avoidant personality disorder who would see escorts to help him overcome being so socially anxious/ awkward.

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this thread is whack to the max.

by which I mean this thread is pretty dumb in concept.

 

sex can only be rated on a person-by-person basis.

to some people its everything (see Gene Simmons), to some people it's nothing (see Janeane Garofalo), and to most people it falls somewhere inbetween.

 

it's nice.

it's fun.

it's even more nice and fun when it's with someone you care for deeply (as opposed to anonymous/no strings).

 

it can also be unpleasant.

I've had sex with girls who I assumed would be more entertaining in the sack, and they turned out to be pretty boring; in which case the sex was overrated.

there's also girls who you might not expect much from who surprise you; in which case the sex was underrated.

 

people are individuals and their aspirations in life are as unique as their DNA.

there's no right or wrong answer for how any one person chooses to live their life.

 

if sex is not a big deal to you, that's fine.

if you wanna be a porn star or prostitute because you can't get enough sex, that's fine too.

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We go through foreplay, lots of kissing and oral on each other, I'll leave out the more explicit details

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No, please, go on.

 

But in all seriousness, nothing is as good as it is hyped up to be. If you had gone into sex with the expectation that it would be just like picking your nose, but with your penis instead of your finger, and a lady's vagina instead of your nose, you would have enjoyed it a lot more.

 

For some reason I was reading your post in Yahtzee Croshaw's voice.

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Hi, this is an interesting topic! Because, when I had my firsts sexual experiences, I felt exactly the same way! Like you, I thought sex was overrated... I liked it, but it wasn't like the best thing in my life, like I thought it would be! But, all I can say to you is that it gets better Shifty41s_beerhatsmilie2.gif ! But yes, I still think sex is overrated, but you know, sex makes money so I think the corporations and media have a lot of profit that way lol.gif

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Forty, I think sex is fantastic, I have sex almost everyday, but I just don't think it's SOOOOOOOOOO much better than other pleasures, like eat a good food, play a fun game or even watch a good movie with your beloved one... Maybe it's the hormones which are different for each people lol.gif

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Hi, this is an interesting topic! Because, when I had my firsts sexual experiences, I felt exactly the same way! Like you, I thought sex was overrated... I liked it, but it wasn't like the best thing in my life, like I thought it would be! But, all I can say to you is that it gets better Shifty41s_beerhatsmilie2.gif ! But yes, I still think sex is overrated, but you know, sex makes money so I think the corporations and media have a lot of profit that way lol.gif

rubbing a picture of claude against your vag isn't intercourse btw

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Hi, this is an interesting topic! Because, when I had my firsts sexual experiences, I felt exactly the same way! Like you, I thought sex was overrated... I liked it, but it wasn't like the best thing in my life, like I thought it would be! But, all I can say to you is that it gets better Shifty41s_beerhatsmilie2.gif ! But yes, I still think sex is overrated, but you know, sex makes money so I think the corporations and media have a lot of profit that way  lol.gif

rubbing a picture of claude against your vag isn't intercourse btw

Quotable notable!! That is indeed epic.

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Vercetti27 ohh I don't have to worry about it, my husband looks like an older Claude lol.gif

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It's funny, sex is like air for some - it only seems important when you aren't getting any. Sex is what you make it, and you get as much out of it as you put in. As Forty said, it's a connection thing. Sure, nailing strangers is fun and all but nothing beats a stable relationship situation.

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That's because the movie/music/playground industry hype it up to be something important. It's not so exciting once its over because you just shot off all your testosterone or whatever.

 

It'll happen to everyone, there is no point to rushing it. Same thing with dating.

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Forty, I think sex is fantastic, I have sex almost everyday, but I just don't think it's SOOOOOOOOOO much better than other pleasures, like eat a good food, play a fun game or even watch a good movie with your beloved one... Maybe it's the hormones which are different for each people lol.gif

wtf are you doing in front of your computer then?

Why aint you dancing and 'sambing' in the f*cking carnaval?

You can have a lot of sex there. And get pregnant. And contract DSTs.

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Excellent sex is all about the connection between the two people. From your tale, all you did was have sex with a girl who was your friend and kinda cute and all, but there was no deeper connection. Therefore, shallow sex. If you want to really experience it, then you'll have to go beyond the simple mechanics of it, and look for the deeper connection.

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Girls, if your age is on the clock then you are too young for the cock. - Dave Chappelle

That's just an awsome saying biggrin.gif

I still think 13 years old is too young. whatsthat.gif

 

And if you're talking about a 24 hour clock, why wait until you're 25 to have sex?

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