universetwisters Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 (edited) hey guys. i'm kinda going through something right now and i could use some advice A few weeks ago (around the first week of feb.), me and my friend were planning on hanging out at my place this weekend, and turns out that he ditched me. When i called him up, he said that he was busy, so i thought id call him later on. later on, i text him, and it turns out hes hanging out with his family. i pretty much raged (not lashing out, throwing sh*t at the wall, but more like "holding it in". I usually hold emotions that I don't like in, in case i need to use it in a moment, such as a fight) he's a good friend of mine, and ive known him since 7th grade, but he's been pretty disorganized since ive known him (he's a last minute kind of guy). also, we hang out better when its just the 2 of us. If that's the case, we end up having a pretty good time and sh*t, but whenever someone else joins us, the attention is divided, and so on What should i do, guys? I've been thinking about getting him an organizer for his birthday, which is just around the corner Edited February 12, 2012 by universetwisters Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guns N R0se Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 When you see him again in public roar at him and beat your chest. If he makes eye contact this is a challenge. Then you have to fight him to prove that you are the alpha male. Once you have proven your dominance you may mount him and claim him as your prize, then he has to hang out with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dingdongs Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 hey guys. i'm kinda going through something right now and i could use some advice A few weeks ago (around the first week of feb.), me and my friend were planning on hanging out at my place this weekend, and turns out that he ditched me. When i called him up, he said that he was busy, so i thought id call him later on. later on, i text him, and it turns out hes hanging out with his family. i pretty much raged he's a good friend of mine, and ive known him since 7th grade, but he's been pretty disorganized since ive known him (he's a last minute kind of guy). also, we hang out better when its just the 2 of us. If that's the case, we end up having a pretty good time and sh*t, but whenever someone else joins us, the attention is divided, and so on What should i do, guys? I've been thinking about getting him an organizer for his birthday, which is just around the corner Don't be a dick and get him an organizer lol. He obviously just didn't feel like hanging out with you that night. It happens to all of us. In this case, you have absolutely no reason to be mad because he decided to stay home with his family. If he had gone out with other friends, then it'd be kind of dick of him and you'd have at least some reason to be angry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
universetwisters Posted February 12, 2012 Author Share Posted February 12, 2012 hey guys. i'm kinda going through something right now and i could use some advice A few weeks ago (around the first week of feb.), me and my friend were planning on hanging out at my place this weekend, and turns out that he ditched me. When i called him up, he said that he was busy, so i thought id call him later on. later on, i text him, and it turns out hes hanging out with his family. i pretty much raged he's a good friend of mine, and ive known him since 7th grade, but he's been pretty disorganized since ive known him (he's a last minute kind of guy). also, we hang out better when its just the 2 of us. If that's the case, we end up having a pretty good time and sh*t, but whenever someone else joins us, the attention is divided, and so on What should i do, guys? I've been thinking about getting him an organizer for his birthday, which is just around the corner Don't be a dick and get him an organizer lol. He obviously just didn't feel like hanging out with you that night. It happens to all of us. In this case, you have absolutely no reason to be mad because he decided to stay home with his family. If he had gone out with other friends, then it'd be kind of dick of him and you'd have at least some reason to be angry. yea, i suppose still, when we were talking about plans for this weekend, he said that he was hanging out with friend a on satuday and friend b on sunday. Since i usually take everything at face value, i'm assuming that he spent the rest of his weekend with friends a, b, and his family we even made plans to go see 'the dictator' together (we're huge sacha baron cohen fans). hope he doesnt ditch on that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Viperman Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 I found that between the ages of 16 and 24 that you move through many 'friends'. The ones you can call friends is the ones that you can phone anytime without feeling awkward, even if you haven't spoke to him for a year.it take time to meet people in the same walk of life, and share interests. So to answer, harden the f*ck up. Don't let some other person get you down, friend or not - [- No Fear. No Limits. No Equal. -] - - [- Ride For Life -] - Digging deep. It's not just an expression that's thrown around the locker room at halftime. It's a way of life. A daily code that drives a champions existence. It's not always glamorous. It's not always blue skies and sunny days, and its certainly not always welcome. But love it or hate it, to become a true champion take pure, unrestricted commitment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebel Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 Wait, you were pissed because he changed his plans at the last minute to hang out with his family instead of you? That's pretty damn harsh of you to get mad about that. As people have said, between the teen years and early adulthood you will go through a sh*t ton of friends and different social groups. Some just don't click, people don't put in the effort or you just grow into different people. If you say you 2 are really good friends, then relax. So what if he wants to hang out with other people sometimes? So what if he wants to cancel and chill? You should let him do whatever he wants. The problem is, if he cancels on you and lies about why he's cancelling then that's a whole other ball game and you should ask him why he lied about it. Also, I'm not quite sure why you can't go see a film on your own? Then again, I don't get the whole deal with people not being able to go out to eat by themselves. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
universetwisters Posted February 12, 2012 Author Share Posted February 12, 2012 I found that between the ages of 16 and 24 that you move through many 'friends'. The ones you can call friends is the ones that you can phone anytime without feeling awkward, even if you haven't spoke to him for a year.it take time to meet people in the same walk of life, and share interests. So to answer, harden the f*ck up. Don't let some other person get you down, friend or not im not a fan of phoning. im not much of a talker i always text him, but he seems to leave it on sleep mode/ignores it. i'd say that the most he's texted me this year (2012) was during winter break Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
universetwisters Posted February 12, 2012 Author Share Posted February 12, 2012 Wait, you were pissed because he changed his plans at the last minute to hang out with his family instead of you? That's pretty damn harsh of you to get mad about that. As people have said, between the teen years and early adulthood you will go through a sh*t ton of friends and different social groups. Some just don't click, people don't put in the effort or you just grow into different people. If you say you 2 are really good friends, then relax. So what if he wants to hang out with other people sometimes? So what if he wants to cancel and chill? You should let him do whatever he wants. The problem is, if he cancels on you and lies about why he's cancelling then that's a whole other ball game and you should ask him why he lied about it. Also, I'm not quite sure why you can't go see a film on your own? Then again, I don't get the whole deal with people not being able to go out to eat by themselves. i guess i worded it wrongly-sorry. I wasn't raging like "OH MY f*ckING GOD I CLEANED UP MY ROOM FOR THIS sh*tSFHDSKLHA ARGH HHH MOTHERf*ckER." it was kinda more like that "silent rage" that i hold in for a moment that i need to lash out at someone (I.E. fights, etc.) And as far as the movies go, bringing friends with you adds to the experience. commentating, laughing together, etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheTrikstar Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 When you see him again in public roar at him and beat your chest. If he makes eye contact this is a challenge. Then you have to fight him to prove that you are the alpha male. Once you have proven your dominance you may mount him and claim him as your prize, then he has to hang out with you. OMFG!! I laughed so f*cking hard at this. You are the coolest guy in the world!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
universetwisters Posted February 12, 2012 Author Share Posted February 12, 2012 When you see him again in public roar at him and beat your chest. If he makes eye contact this is a challenge. Then you have to fight him to prove that you are the alpha male. Once you have proven your dominance you may mount him and claim him as your prize, then he has to hang out with you. i would, but im not a fighter, apart from self-defense Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr-x Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 Are you sure you dont have sexual feelings toward this friend? Your going mad about him spending time with his family. Extreme jelousy i sence. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
universetwisters Posted February 12, 2012 Author Share Posted February 12, 2012 Are you sure you dont have sexual feelings toward this friend? Your going mad about him spending time with his family. Extreme jelousy i sence. nope.avi just dont wanna get ditched. I'm sorry if i feel like i'm exagerating a bunch, but i hate being abandoned, or at least feeling the part. You know the feel as well? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GreatGig Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 also, we hang out better when its just the 2 of us. If that's the case, we end up having a pretty good time and sh*t, but whenever someone else joins us, the attention is divided, and so on. Two's company, three's a crowd...as They say It just sounds like he didn't feel like hanging out. I've done this to my mates, and vice versa, many times and it doesn't mean anything. People need space. That's it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pansy. Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 You just sound like a wingey git to me. Sure you don't fancy him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vercetti27 Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 When you see him again in public roar at him and beat your chest. If he makes eye contact this is a challenge. Then you have to fight him to prove that you are the alpha male. Once you have proven your dominance you may mount him and claim him as your prize, then he has to hang out with you. OMFG!! I laughed so f*cking hard at this. You are the coolest guy in the world!!!! you'd think so, but you haven't heard his policy on criminals. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
universetwisters Posted February 13, 2012 Author Share Posted February 13, 2012 You just sound like a wingey git to me. Sure you don't fancy him? nope. just loyal also, ive been thinking back to hilary from vice city: i think i might have some set of abandonment issues one way or another: i hate to see things split up/people break up, etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnson. Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 If my friend got angry at me for having other sh*t to do; i'd call him a f*cking fairy. Honestly do you two get together and just puke rainbows down each others throats? Go get some other friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
universetwisters Posted February 13, 2012 Author Share Posted February 13, 2012 If my friend got angry at me for having other sh*t to do; i'd call him a f*cking fairy. Honestly do you two get together and just puke rainbows down each others throats? Go get some other friends. i wasnt mad that we couldnt hang out, i was mad because at the very last minute, he changed plans Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheesyJ Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 It doesn't seem like he did anything too bad here. If he'd went out with other friends, I'd see what you mean, but he didn't. He stayed home with his family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beto Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 this still sounds creepy when i imagined your friend being female. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vertical limit Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 Its his family we are talking, obviusly he would choose them over you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ryuclan Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 Honestly I think you should man up dude. This guy is a friend yes but as friends you should know that sh*t comes up. Even if my friend calls me and says "Hey, change of plans I'm getting some ass tonight." I wouldn't be too broken up about it. sh*t happens and its usually at the last minute. I'm the type of person that needs space, I might cancel just because I don't feel like leaving the house. If one of my friends was talking like you because I "ditched" him then I would seriously wondering... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beto Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 all the "no homos" in the world can't make this sh*t sound any less fruity dude. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trip Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 I was going to use a different pic, but you know.... My crappy games at MyCrappyGames.com Free copy of Save The Puppies and Kittens Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*MURDOC* Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 I usually hold emotions that I don't like in, in case i need to use it in a moment, such as a fight Oh dear God. Of all the terrible ideas... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr.Mister Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 I went thorugh a phase when I was 15-16 where the people I blazed with just wanted my money for food and bud. They all drifted away after I stopped being nice to them. Other friends I would still hang with, but were both so busy and we went to different schools. Unfortunately, it just kind of happens Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Finn 7 five 11 Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 (edited) I found that between the ages of 16 and 24 that you move through many 'friends'. The ones you can call friends is the ones that you can phone anytime without feeling awkward, even if you haven't spoke to him for a year.it take time to meet people in the same walk of life, and share interests. Yep, one of my childhood friends, never see him, but occasionally run into him, we just continue our conversation from last time, it's not even like "Hey haven't seen you in a while". That is a good friend. Your friend here sounds fine, everyone changes their minds, and some people are bad with time, and this sounds like he had a legit excuse, you probably scared him and came on too strong, it's ok to have a bromance, but this was a little fruity. @MURDOC, i saw that as well, i tried to contain my laughter. Edited February 13, 2012 by finn4life Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anus Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 (edited) What really strikes me is how needy people have become. If you don't like what your friend did, stop hanging out with him. The only reason you'd ask here is if you're doubting yourself, which you shouldn't. However I do agree with Viperman on the bit about the friends during the 16-24 period. My experience is pretty much the same. Never really had any people that fit my definition of 'friend' when I was a teen, hell, I know people (mostly chicks) who appear to be best friends on the outside but hate each other and constantly bitch about each other when with others. Teenage friendship is pretty much like teenage love. It rarely happens, and if it does, consider yourself lucky. Edited February 13, 2012 by Warlord. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sanjeem Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 What you said should make you feel fine. That kinda thing hasn't happened to me yet as my friends are always up for going out, and when they want to stay in, or if they are meeting somebody else that's cool with me. This happens a lot in life but eventually you make friends with most people, and always have options. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shitposter Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 When you see him again in public roar at him and beat your chest. If he makes eye contact this is a challenge. Then you have to fight him to prove that you are the alpha male. Once you have proven your dominance you may mount him and claim him as your prize, then he has to hang out with you. then after piss around him so only you can touch him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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