mrpain Posted September 12, 2011 Share Posted September 12, 2011 There's this sweet girl who I'm close friends with. Do I have feelings for her? Yeah. Does she have feelings for me? Yeah, she confessed to me on several occasions. Problem is, she has a boyfriend. This is where I started to get confused. Do I be an asshole and break them up or do I just wait for them to end it? And am I a jerk to be flirting around her even though she has a boyfriend? She already told me that her boyfriend ain't that perfect for her. Just needed a place to air this out. So that sweet girl has broken up with her boyfriend two nights ago and I have no freakin idea what to do next. I don't want to look like the rebound guy but I still wanna be with her. We're already kinda behaving like a couple together. We always walked back home together after school and we've made no secret that we're kinda into each other. And shes quite mad at me today because I ditched her at a train station, ya know typical relationship arguments. Argh, feel like a loser now! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lethal Nizzle Posted September 12, 2011 Share Posted September 12, 2011 Just needed a place to air this out. So that sweet girl has broken up with her boyfriend two nights ago and I have no freakin idea what to do next. I don't want to look like the rebound guy but I still wanna be with her. We're already kinda behaving like a couple together. We always walked back home together after school and we've made no secret that we're kinda into each other. And shes quite mad at me today because I ditched her at a train station, ya know typical relationship arguments. Argh, feel like a loser now! Make the move or spend the next few days/weeks/months sulking because you didn't take the chance. Seeing as they've only just broke up, give it a little time first before going about taking it further. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gundog Posted September 12, 2011 Share Posted September 12, 2011 Just needed a place to air this out. So that sweet girl has broken up with her boyfriend two nights ago and I have no freakin idea what to do next. I don't want to look like the rebound guy but I still wanna be with her. We're already kinda behaving like a couple together. We always walked back home together after school and we've made no secret that we're kinda into each other. And shes quite mad at me today because I ditched her at a train station, ya know typical relationship arguments. Argh, feel like a loser now! You shouldn't feel like an asshole because you ditched her, I'm pretty sure it was accidental. Alright, so I told that classmate of mine that I started talking to the girl in question, again. He gave me a slight smirk, and called me an idiot. I told him that she asked what happened, and I said what went wrong. He says she was lying when she told me those rumors were lies. Now I don't know whose side I should be on. Bros before hos or what? Or I simply shouldn't tip over to just one side, and forget that she blatantly spat on me behind my back? That's not something so easily forgivable, especially when you care for that person. Should I stick my morals up my ass, or live by them? Jesus, this sh*t is way too complicated, and people wonder why I haven't the slightest interest in dating or relationships. f*ck, they even call me gay for this from time to time . You are an aperture through which the universe is looking at and exploring itself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Law0070 Posted September 12, 2011 Share Posted September 12, 2011 I'd put them in one room... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Claude4Catalina Posted September 12, 2011 Share Posted September 12, 2011 god damn it messaged this other girl on facebook, about taking her out for something to eat, she replied, she's seeing someone, but thanks for the offer. I guess it could of been worse, I replied, no worries, I admitted my relationship with my girlfriend is on/off, and emphasised just wanted friendship, and she should let me know if she ever changes her mind, still i'm pissed off! I got no idea where the conversation will lead next, i doubt she'll write back now. face to face my friend, face to face. Facebook is rrather flawed when it comes to organizing meet ups etc, got her number? ring her and just talk, maybe text her beforehand to ask if its cool, but once you get actually talking to her, she might open up a little bit. sorry for taking the moral high ground and not knowing the full situation :') Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ronmar The Only Posted September 12, 2011 Share Posted September 12, 2011 To both mrpain and Gundog, Like has been said before, you'll probably regret if you don't act now. There is nothing good with wondering what might have been. Also, to mrpain, I would echo the other sentiment of not trying to take things too far too soon. Visit Writers' Discussion Compilation of Works: From a Storyteller Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vertical limit Posted September 12, 2011 Share Posted September 12, 2011 You shouldn't feel like an asshole because you ditched her, I'm pretty sure it was accidental. Alright, so I told that classmate of mine that I started talking to the girl in question, again. He gave me a slight smirk, and called me an idiot. I told him that she asked what happened, and I said what went wrong. He says she was lying when she told me those rumors were lies. Now I don't know whose side I should be on. Bros before hos or what? Or I simply shouldn't tip over to just one side, and forget that she blatantly spat on me behind my back? That's not something so easily forgivable, especially when you care for that person. Should I stick my morals up my ass, or live by them? Jesus, this sh*t is way too complicated, and people wonder why I haven't the slightest interest in dating or relationships. f*ck, they even call me gay for this from time to time . There are plenty of fish in the sea, trust me. You will find one. But seriously a bro that you have known for a lifetime isn't worth a bitch who talks sh*t behind your back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blitz Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 You shouldn't feel like an asshole because you ditched her, I'm pretty sure it was accidental. Alright, so I told that classmate of mine that I started talking to the girl in question, again. He gave me a slight smirk, and called me an idiot. I told him that she asked what happened, and I said what went wrong. He says she was lying when she told me those rumors were lies. Now I don't know whose side I should be on. Bros before hos or what? Or I simply shouldn't tip over to just one side, and forget that she blatantly spat on me behind my back? That's not something so easily forgivable, especially when you care for that person. Should I stick my morals up my ass, or live by them? Jesus, this sh*t is way too complicated, and people wonder why I haven't the slightest interest in dating or relationships. f*ck, they even call me gay for this from time to time . You shouldn't be on any side, just let the flow of nature take its course. She seems pretty interested in you, believe me, I know how girls work. As for your friend, a relationship shouldn't interfere in friendship, I wouldn't even bring him into the situation. Just try to get him out of such business and it should work, but don't do it in a mean manner. Just don't let him interfere. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guns N R0se Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 This semi-belongs here. Anyway read about that lady in France who sued her ex-husband for "lack of sex", and won $14,000. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlexGTAGamer Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Anyway read about that lady in France who sued her ex-husband for "lack of sex", and won $14,000. Yeah I read that story in the paper today, I was just like, "What?" And what gets me is what the judge said: "A sexual relationship between husband and wife is the expression of affection they have for each other and, in this case, it was absent." Talk about "tough love" (no pun intended). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrpain Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Also, to mrpain, I would echo the other sentiment of not trying to take things too far too soon. Forget it. She just told me she's back with her boyfriend. This girl is killing me! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Punk-in-Drublic Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 (edited) I'm going out for a drink with some girl tonight, she's kinda cute and she likes me so i'll see how it goes. @mrpain, just ask her out for a drink or just to do something together, you've got f*ck all to lose. I'd just give it a good week or two first, just make sure nobody tries swooping in before you! Edit: Didn't see your post about her getting back with her boyfriend, doesen't mean it's going to stop you though, right? Edited September 13, 2011 by Wreckless Jake Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gundog Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Also, to mrpain, I would echo the other sentiment of not trying to take things too far too soon. Forget it. She just told me she's back with her boyfriend. This girl is killing me! Seriously, man, don't bite yourself over her so much. As Jake told you, try giving it a week or two first, see how she copes with her boyfriend. If she asks you for advice or something, be honest and don't try to sabotage them. If you get friendzoned, f*ck it. You tried, and that's what's important. It's better having a good friend than a sh*t relationship. I f*cked up once. Well, f*cked up is such a relative term to use for the situation in hand. There was this girl, Maggie. She's one of the hottest if not the hottest girl I know, but she's constantly in relationships. I went out once, and saw her there, kinda drunk. Me and my friend got stoned before I saw her, so my response time was kinda off. I shrugged her presence off and sat down a few yards away from her and her friends. As this friend of mine knew I had a huge crush on her, he encouraged me to go get her. I replied negatively and started sipping on my brew. Suddenly, she came up to me, and started whispering in my ear. "Come with me, hotshot, I need you". I couldn't believe it, even though she had a boyfriend, she wanted to be with me. I tried to talk some sense into her, and told her that she's drunk. She didn't care, and started rubbing herself on my thigh, and licking my right cheek. Insta-boner. I didn't react, because I knew it was a bad decision. I chose friendship over a drunken one night stand. Later on, we got into a party at the local club, and she was constantly around me, flirting with other guys, but looking at me. The night ended, and she sobered up. She politely asked me to walk her to the bust stop, and I had nothing better to do, so we went. I felt awkward. She grabbed my hand, and insisted that I don't reject her again. I did. I don't know why, but I did. One of my worst regrets. She started to cry, because she thought I didn't find her attractive. I talked to her, convincing her otherwise until dawn. She slept on my lap, and I felt great. I knew I did the right thing. I still wonder if she wants my cock, though... You are an aperture through which the universe is looking at and exploring itself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrpain Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 Didn't see your post about her getting back with her boyfriend, doesen't mean it's going to stop you though, right? Well I took her out for breakfast. Counts doesn't it? Even if the breakfast is at Mcdonalds. @Gundog: Well that's a good advice, in some sort of bad example way. Yes the main thing for me to do is not to f*ck it up all now. Cheers to everyone for their advice! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Law0070 Posted January 8, 2012 Share Posted January 8, 2012 since i see there's a recent "booming" in relationship advice threads again I thought I'd bump it up again and add my own question to it...yesterday my gf broke up with me (she kissed her ex on NYE, awesome) and she said she can't trust herself anymore because she did that...would this be the real reason or just an easy excuse so she doesn't have to say "I don't love you anymore" ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guib Posted January 8, 2012 Share Posted January 8, 2012 since i see there's a recent "booming" in relationship advice threads again I thought I'd bump it up again and add my own question to it...yesterday my gf broke up with me (she kissed her ex on NYE, awesome) and she said she can't trust herself anymore because she did that...would this be the real reason or just an easy excuse so she doesn't have to say "I don't love you anymore" ? The second one... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Law0070 Posted January 8, 2012 Share Posted January 8, 2012 since i see there's a recent "booming" in relationship advice threads again I thought I'd bump it up again and add my own question to it...yesterday my gf broke up with me (she kissed her ex on NYE, awesome) and she said she can't trust herself anymore because she did that...would this be the real reason or just an easy excuse so she doesn't have to say "I don't love you anymore" ? The second one... that's what a (female) friend of mine told me as well...ah well, she might be better off without me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guib Posted January 8, 2012 Share Posted January 8, 2012 ah well, she might be better off without me No, you are better off without her... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nebby Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 Well...this is going to sound pathetic as f*ck, but, ah...I feel kind of in love with a girl that I don't even know's name... The more I think about her I seem to see her...it's really weird...but ANYWAY'S... I'm kind of in a situation here... I don't have ANY classes with her so I don't see a way that I can even have physical contact with her... But any way's, I guess what I'm trying to ask here is if any of you guy's have been in the same situation and if so, how did you deal/cope with it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Law0070 Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 you usually get over it, I suppose...in french I think they call it a "coup de foudre" (at least, that's all I can think of when I read this) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shotGTA Posted January 10, 2012 Share Posted January 10, 2012 Well...this is going to sound pathetic as f*ck, but, ah...I feel kind of in love with a girl that I don't even know's name... The more I think about her I seem to see her...it's really weird...but ANYWAY'S... I'm kind of in a situation here... I don't have ANY classes with her so I don't see a way that I can even have physical contact with her... But any way's, I guess what I'm trying to ask here is if any of you guy's have been in the same situation and if so, how did you deal/cope with it? so you like a girl you see ... then go talk to her ? , just try to see her much time , talk with her , build it up slowly . its hard to get her notice bçause well you already said not same class and bullsh*t . so yeah its hard..... -the kitty has spoken < im gana use this from now Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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