The Love Connection

[Typhus]

Don't waste your time with someone who is so immature they value popularity over you. You deserve better. Don't sell yourself so cheaply

She's asking you about this because she probably sees nothing wrong with slagging you off behind your back. Shallow, vapid individuals are often duplicitous and confuse love with control.

She doesn't want your cock, but she probably does want to exert some authority over you whilst denigrating you behind your back. Typical control freak.

[Ronmar The Only]

Gundog, I'd say follow trip's advice more than Typhus. It is possible she is everything that he says, but you have to figure out if that is true first.

 

It could be all lies, but if you do like her some, see where it could go.

[cas-97]

There's this girl i went out with last year. she called me a lowlife piece of sh*t then we had an argument then she wouldn't talk to me for a year. Now she always sends me messages wanting to talk but i'm not sure if i should talk to her again. To be honest i do still love her.

 

I know you guys might think it's not a serious thing like your situations.

[MadClownBadDub]

There's this girl i went out with last year. she called me a lowlife piece of sh*t then we had an argument then she wouldn't talk to me for a year. Now she always sends me messages wanting to talk but i'm not sure if i should talk to her again. To be honest i do still love her.

 

I know you guys might think it's not a serious thing like your situations.

14 years old? Love? Is this n*gga serious?

[Law0070]

 

Well, last year, I got hooked up with this girl from school that I really like. We started talking, chatting, and even went out a few times. I kinda felt those "butterflies", but thought nothing of it.

 

As time went on, we got closer and closer to each other. One day, every clique in the school started planning parties and what not, because school was nearly out. A classmate of mine, who's in her social circle (I'm not), overheard her talking about me. She apparently said that I'm a "stoner idiot" and that I "simply couldn't make a move", and I "got on her nerves".

 

I got pretty pissed upon hearing this, and simply cut the problem at it's roots. I stopped talking to her. She still hung around me for a few days, trying to start a conversation, and I simply didn't respond and nodded to whatever she said.

 

I forgot about it during the summer, and now, a new school year has started. I saw her looking at me, and I looked back, but again, simply walked away.

 

Two days ago, she pops up in a chatbox and asks me how did it get from being really close to not communicating at all. I told her why, and she simply said it was all lies. First off, she's popular, and in my head, out of my league. Second off, I have a completely different company at school, and the two social circles aren't really fond of each other (God, this is starting to sound like Bully or something).

 

What do I make of this? Why did she ask me about our lack of communication? Does she want my cock?

i'm gonna ignore the last question.

 

a classmate who's in her social circle whilst ur not in that...you tell us she's popular, which might mean your classmate is just jealous and tries to set you two apart (guys can act like bitches too)

i'd talk to her face to face or at least without a "third person" who serves as a communication line, he might make some communication mistakes or might make up stuff on purpose...i'd talk to her again, pick it back up...after all, if she dislikes you, why would she pick up contact with you again?

[Vanzant]

Yeah so could any of you find me a very attractive chick who's disabled and is stuck in a wheelchair? I live on the second floor and I want a chick that can't run away. Also I would like, rust up her wheels so anytime I wanted to know where she is I could just listen for the squeeking. Anyone with a hook-up let me know.

[Gundog]

 

i'm gonna ignore the last question.

 

a classmate who's in her social circle whilst ur not in that...you tell us she's popular, which might mean your classmate is just jealous and tries to set you two apart (guys can act like bitches too)

i'd talk to her face to face or at least without a "third person" who serves as a communication line, he might make some communication mistakes or might make up stuff on purpose...i'd talk to her again, pick it back up...after all, if she dislikes you, why would she pick up contact with you again? confused.gif

 

Nah, it's not like that. We're bros, and besides, he has a girlfriend and sh*t.I don't think he'd pull that sort of sh*t on me. How do I explain this... She's in that hipster/cool kids clique, while I'm one of those drug abusing, mischievous motherf*ckers that get blamed for everything.

 

I trust him, he's simply that sorta guy. I mean, he practically connected us, and told me whenever she'd talk about me among her friends. Jesus, I don't know what I feel for this girl, I mean, she's good looking, funny, and she doesn't judge me like most people do. I know what I feel, but I don't know how to tell her this without seeming like an emotional pussy, or soething.

 

People skills are not my forte. And I'm sorry if I messed up somewhere in the text. I just got home, and I'm pretty sh*tfaced.

[Graphix14]

What I think you should do Gundog, is to be yourself and just act like you recently became friends with her. A simple "hey" or "how have you been?" is all you need to say. If she really likes you, she'll go after you. That's just how I see it. If she said that bullsh*t about you, then she must be some 2 faced b*tch. Tell her you overheard her saying that and see what she says.

[Ronmar The Only]

I wouldn't say that she'll necessarily go after you. I mean, females generally don't do that. I don't necessarily agree with it, but then I try to be the perfect gentleman in all other regards.

 

 

Also, tonight I danced with a bachelorette and one of her friends. I was quite nice and a gentleman during all of it and only began by the request of the friend who wanted me to dance with the bachelorette. The bachelorette said she couldn't dance well. I asked what she'd want me to do then. She said dance with her friend. I asked, given my recent history, if the friend had any relations with anyone. She had a boyfriend. Oh. The two then agreed to dance with each other and me.

 

Oh conscious, I'm still a wandering puppy. And there is Raisin who is hundreds a miles away possibly finding someone new. I don't know how to take it all. Did I mean nothing or is she still confused with everything? Was I just a curiosity? Was I a justification to end her relationship? Truthfully, I just don't wish to know some of these answers. I really wish that I was back at her apartment or when she was with me at my parents' and we still shown some feelings for the other.

 

I think I just need to f*ck something else to get her taste out of my mind (and my mouth). I don't know if that will do it. It may help though. But I'm not one who just f*cks around.

Edited September 11, 2011 by Ronmar The Only

[anus]

i'm gonna ignore the last question.

 

a classmate who's in her social circle whilst ur not in that...you tell us she's popular, which might mean your classmate is just jealous and tries to set you two apart (guys can act like bitches too)

i'd talk to her face to face or at least without a "third person" who serves as a communication line, he might make some communication mistakes or might make up stuff on purpose...i'd talk to her again, pick it back up...after all, if she dislikes you, why would she pick up contact with you again? confused.gif

 

Nah, it's not like that. We're bros, and besides, he has a girlfriend and sh*t.I don't think he'd pull that sort of sh*t on me. How do I explain this... She's in that hipster/cool kids clique, while I'm one of those drug abusing, mischievous motherf*ckers that get blamed for everything.

 

I trust him, he's simply that sorta guy. I mean, he practically connected us, and told me whenever she'd talk about me among her friends. Jesus, I don't know what I feel for this girl, I mean, she's good looking, funny, and she doesn't judge me like most people do. I know what I feel, but I don't know how to tell her this without seeming like an emotional pussy, or soething.

 

People skills are not my forte. And I'm sorry if I messed up somewhere in the text. I just got home, and I'm pretty sh*tfaced.

You only become an 'emotional pussy' if you act in a way that isn't congruent with your true personality.

 

If you truly feel the way you do, tell her this. Considering this is how you truly feel, it shows confidence, not weakness.

[Typhus]

Shouldn't he be sure that this girl is a decent human being before bearing his soul?

The heart is a precious thing, but show it to the wrong person and it can get trample pretty quickly. I'm not being negative, I'm just saying that all these deep feelings need to be protected and you need to be sure the girl is worthy of those feelings.

Honestly, she sounds immature. And you are above playing childish games, Gundog. I guess what I'm getting at is, be careful who you open your heart to. Once done, it cannot be undone.

[Mark]

 

Misandry Bubble

 

Damn, though I must say with a mentality like that nobody would ever marry. I guess I can't help but read that and think of the bias involved, even if I must say I agree with a large quantity of it. Call me a beta male I guess .

[Iminicus]

Misandry Bubble

 

Damn, though I must say with a mentality like that nobody would ever marry. I guess I can't help but read that and think of the bias involved, even if I must say I agree with a large quantity of it. Call me a beta male I guess .

BETA MALE!

[El Zilcho]

Misandry Bubble

 

Damn, though I must say with a mentality like that nobody would ever marry. I guess I can't help but read that and think of the bias involved, even if I must say I agree with a large quantity of it. Call me a beta male I guess .

It's a very pessimistic and sensationalist article but it has lots of very good and valid points - it reads like a Fathers for Justice roll call haha.

[Law0070]

i think this pretty much fits this topic so: What do you guys think of f*ckbuddies?

 

I have friends that disgust it, are shocked when i say i did this, whilst other people say "no problem"

 

I assume everyone knows what i'm talking about? friends with benefits is a synonym

[El Zilcho]

I don't have any problems with it, maybe society on the whole does but meh.

[Shayan Shaffey]

 

i think this pretty much fits this topic so: What do you guys think of f*ckbuddies?

 

I have friends that disgust it, are shocked when i say i did this, whilst other people say "no problem"

 

I assume everyone knows what i'm talking about? friends with benefits is a synonym

I don't have anything against f*ckbuddies, it's one of the best forms of relationship in my opinion. Society is putting everything except for marriage in the "taboo" drawer, which I don't agree with completely, but there has to be taboo for such a sensitive subject. Otherwise, there will be so many kids without fathers, et cetera.

Edited September 11, 2011 by Shayan Shaffey

[El Zilcho]

i think this pretty much fits this topic so: What do you guys think of f*ckbuddies?

 

I have friends that disgust it, are shocked when i say i did this, whilst other people say "no problem"

 

I assume everyone knows what i'm talking about? friends with benefits is a synonym

I don't have anything against f*ckbuddies, it's one of the best forms of relationsh*t in my opinion. Society is putting everything except for marriage in the "taboo" drawer, which I don't agree with completely, but there has to be taboo for such a sensitive subject. Otherwise, there will be so many kids without fathers, et cetera.

Your comment is contradictory. How does accepting f*ck buddies help alleviate the lack of children with fathers?

[Shayan Shaffey]

i think this pretty much fits this topic so: What do you guys think of f*ckbuddies?

 

I have friends that disgust it, are shocked when i say i did this, whilst other people say "no problem"

 

I assume everyone knows what i'm talking about? friends with benefits is a synonym

I don't have anything against f*ckbuddies, it's one of the best forms of relationsh*t in my opinion. Society is putting everything except for marriage in the "taboo" drawer, which I don't agree with completely, but there has to be taboo for such a sensitive subject. Otherwise, there will be so many kids without fathers, et cetera.

Your comment is contradictory. How does accepting f*ck buddies help alleviate the lack of children with fathers?

I was talking about the taboo surrounding "f*ckbuddies". Taboo encourages such things as protected sex during 1 night stands... which will lead to less children without fathers. My logic could be flawed though.

[Law0070]

 

i think this pretty much fits this topic so: What do you guys think of f*ckbuddies?

 

I have friends that disgust it, are shocked when i say i did this, whilst other people say "no problem"

 

I assume everyone knows what i'm talking about? friends with benefits is a synonym

I don't have anything against f*ckbuddies, it's one of the best forms of relationship in my opinion. Society is putting everything except for marriage in the "taboo" drawer, which I don't agree with completely, but there has to be taboo for such a sensitive subject. Otherwise, there will be so many kids without fathers, et cetera.

if kids come out of a f*ckbuddy relationship they've been doing it wrong since that's not the purpose...so I think f*ckbuddy and "kids without fathers" shouldn't be associated since a normal f*ckbuddy relationship has no kids in the end

 

to above: for me one night stand != f*ckbuddy

Edited September 11, 2011 by Law0070

[El Zilcho]

 

My logic could be flawed though.

Yeah, that's it. You aren't making any sense, how does taboo encoruage protected sex, and how does that result in fatherless kids? It results in no kids.

[Shayan Shaffey]

 

My logic could be flawed though.

Yeah, that's it. You aren't making any sense, how does taboo encoruage protected sex, and how does that result in fatherless kids? It results in no kids.

Please, no hostility . What I meant is:"If there is no taboo, no one would give a sh*t about protected sex. Therefore, more unwanted kids. If taboo is present though (IMO) it would cause people to care about protecting. Therefore; less unwanted kids" Again, my logic could be flawed. So I'm open to discussion non-hostile discussion about the issue. Or are we going off-topic? I dunno

[WF the Hobgoblin]

i think this pretty much fits this topic so: What do you guys think of f*ckbuddies?

 

I have friends that disgust it, are shocked when i say i did this, whilst other people say "no problem"

 

I assume everyone knows what i'm talking about? friends with benefits is a synonym

It sounds like my ideal relationship. I hope to have one some day.

[Law0070]

 

My logic could be flawed though.

Yeah, that's it. You aren't making any sense, how does taboo encoruage protected sex, and how does that result in fatherless kids? It results in no kids.

Please, no hostility smile.gif . What I meant is:"If there is no taboo, no one would give a sh*t about protected sex. Therefore, more unwanted kids. If taboo is present though (IMO) it would cause people to care about protecting. Therefore; less unwanted kids" Again, my logic could be flawed. So I'm open to discussion non-hostile discussion about the issue. Or are we going off-topic? I dunno

hmmm maybe you got a point with that but still, i think people associate kids to a love relationship and not to a sex relationship, so most people that have a f*ckbuddy would make sure they don't end up with kids...no?

 

but yes, we all see the taboos are pretty much falling and we all noticed the increase in teenage pregnancy...

Edited September 11, 2011 by Law0070

[Shayan Shaffey]

My logic could be flawed though.

Yeah, that's it. You aren't making any sense, how does taboo encoruage protected sex, and how does that result in fatherless kids? It results in no kids.

Please, no hostility . What I meant is:"If there is no taboo, no one would give a sh*t about protected sex. Therefore, less unwanted kids." Again, my logic could be flawed. So I'm open to discussion non-hostile discussion about the issue. Or are we going off-topic? I dunno

if less people would care about unprotected sex there would be MORE children without a father, no?

Sorry I made a typo. My bad, I edited the post now.

[El Zilcho]

No hostility here, just pointing out your views are conflicting.

[A J]

I think my crazy, self obsessed girlfriend is wanting to be just friends with benefits at the moment, I got no complaints.

[Mark]

Taboo or not, I don't know of anyone who's gone into a f*ck buddy situation without some form of contraception as I sure as hell reckon that f*ck buddies don't want to bring up a child together. To be fair over here I don't see f*ck buddies as taboo anyway, it's quite a common and accepted thing over here. In fact, I'd go as far as to say it's more accepted than those who bed hop in the name of being in a relationship that just doesn't work out.

 

Though...as someone who has had a few f*ck buddies, it never tends to work out long term. Someone always gets attached. When that happens you tend to end up with two people who are intimate with each other with two different agendas which tends to mean someone gets hurt. The only time I've seen it work is when both fall for each other in which case it isn't f*ck buddies any more, it's a full blown relationship.

 

Apart from that, I've no issue with them, just don't expect it to work long term.

[Law0070]

 

Taboo or not, I don't know of anyone who's gone into a f*ck buddy situation without some form of contraception as I sure as hell reckon that f*ck buddies don't want to bring up a child together. To be fair over here I don't see f*ck buddies as taboo anyway, it's quite a common and accepted thing over here. In fact, I'd go as far as to say it's more accepted than those who bed hop in the name of being in a relationship that just doesn't work out.

 

Though...as someone who has had a few f*ck buddies, it never tends to work out long term. Someone always gets attached. When that happens you tend to end up with two people who are intimate with each other with two different agendas which tends to mean someone gets hurt. The only time I've seen it work is when both fall for each other in which case it isn't f*ck buddies any more, it's a full blown relationship.

 

Apart from that, I've no issue with them, just don't expect it to work long term.

yeah in my case i noticed the girls usually secretly loved me or something...wel, did it with my exes too and afterwards it turned out they wanted me back by acting like that..so sometimes I wonder if most (if not, every) f*ckbuddy relationship has one person who secretly wishes for more but sex to happen...

 

the regions i come from f*ckbuddies are pretty rare i think...most people decide to go for a relationship, typically conservative flemish people

[A J]

god damn it

 

messaged this other girl on facebook, about taking her out for something to eat, she replied, she's seeing someone, but thanks for the offer.

 

I guess it could of been worse, I replied, no worries, I admitted my relationship with my girlfriend is on/off, and emphasised just wanted friendship, and she should let me know if she ever changes her mind, still i'm pissed off! I got no idea where the conversation will lead next, i doubt she'll write back now.