Cuse Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Went into the army for 2 months, and got released for medical reasons. My fiance is a nanny originally from brazil so she misses her family. While I was away her boss drove her into a severe depression where she tells me she tried to kill herself. Basically I wasn't there to comfort her so she found another male which I assume she met at a bar. She tells me she cuddled with him before and gave him a light kiss while drunk but she is pretty sure nothing more happened. Once I returned home she now goes out to partys where she calls it "girls night" so she would rather I not come or she tells me she is not going out at all. She is moving an hour away from the city with her boss for the summer to watch the kids so she will be far away from me....and him She wants me to cheat on her now so we can be even. Damn man Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cactus. Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 She wants me to cheat on her now so we can be even. Say what? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Typhus Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 She is moving an hour away from the city with her boss for the summer to watch the kids so she will be far away from me....and him Wait, she's moving away with her boss? Are you sure it's right to call this 'cheating'? Are you sure you haven't just been dumped and don't realise it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 She wants me to cheat on her now so we can be even. Say what? Exactly. This is not a healthy relationship and nor will it ever be one again. I'd say get out now before any wedding vows are made mate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cidamelo Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Ohh my best feelings for you, my friend To be cheated is TERRIBLE! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
M. H. Hunter III Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Went into the army for 2 months, and got released for medical reasons. My fiance is a nanny originally from brazil so she misses her family.<snip> Interestingly enough that is where I started becoming intrigued myself, but i'd say to get out beforehand and save yourself a lot of grief down the line. La famiglia è tutto The strength of a family, like the strength of an army is in its loyalty to each other.~ Mario Puzo ~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vertical limit Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Mate here are the cards you currently have in your hand. - Get a camera and stalk her. - Say nice things so her guilt will make her confess. - Dump her. - Use a lie, like for example say "some of my friends saw you talk to a guy and left with that guy." So she will talk to you about it. - Beat the living sh*t out of your boss. - Get to the Bahamas or somewhere far and forget about the chick, start your own company there. A new page with something new. Get a new name and of course take with you your kids and say Mommy passed away Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cidamelo Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Master Headhunter sorry to say but.....I don't think the nationality has anything to do with the fidelity!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cuse Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 (edited) Her boss is a female, the mother of the kids she has to watch ------------------------------ Called up a friend who told me yeah you shouldn't cheat to get even that is just a downward spiral, what you should do is talk with her and tell her that "I understand you were seeking out comfort while I was away but since I am back that has to stop" If she can agree to it we should talk things out from there if she can't then we should end it. dunno guys would really like to keep her. It would hurt me a lot to lose her. Edited June 25, 2011 by Cuse Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vertical limit Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Her boss is a female, the mother of the kids she has to watch. What about her husband, is she having the affair with him? Is the guy getting threesomes? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cuse Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 Her boss is a female, the mother of the kids she has to watch. What about her husband, is she having the affair with him? Is the guy getting threesomes? She is not having sex with her Bosses! lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trip Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Her boss is a female, the mother of the kids she has to watch Yeah. It was driving me nuts that people didn't really read and understand your easy to read and understand post. Anyway...If I were in your shoes I would be ending it now. It doesn't sound like she has the makings of a good wife. I'm sure you deserve better, and I'm willing to bet a new chick would be better. Edit: forgot to add. Still sucks man. Sorry. My crappy games at MyCrappyGames.com Free copy of Save The Puppies and Kittens Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vertical limit Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 It would hurt me a lot to lose her. Sorry for double post. Let me tell you one thing. It always hurts when you lose someone. There are "better tasting fish" in water, trust me on that one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NaidRaida Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 I would be ending it now. This. Make a decision and don´t cry. Sounds harsh... okay my heart has broken early. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leik oh em jeez! Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Just end it and try not to think about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Voodoo Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 She tells me she cuddled with him before and gave him a light kiss while drunk but she is pretty sure nothing more happened. This is girlfriendspeak for "I was lonely and I needed laid. He railed me in the parking lot but I still love you". End it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 She wants me to cheat on her now so we can be even. If she still wanted you I don't think she would've said this. Who wants their fiance to cheat on them just to get even? That's not normal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WHAT!? Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 She tells me she cuddled with him before and gave him a light kiss while drunk but she is pretty sure nothing more happened. This is girlfriendspeak for "I was lonely and I needed laid. He railed me in the parking lot but I still love you". End it. This is truth. Not to mention... you were away for two months? That ain't sh*t. Either she is too needy and can't be faithful, or she never planned to be in the first place. I have to agree with everyone else here. Get out of the relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GroveSt.Fam4L Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 I am so sorry but you are just going to have to figure things out and make a decision on finding another woman that would appriciate you. She just might be moving to the other place to be with her new man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cuse Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 She tells me she cuddled with him before and gave him a light kiss while drunk but she is pretty sure nothing more happened. This is girlfriendspeak for "I was lonely and I needed laid. He railed me in the parking lot but I still love you". End it. This is truth. Not to mention... you were away for two months? That ain't sh*t. Either she is too needy and can't be faithful, or she never planned to be in the first place. I have to agree with everyone else here. Get out of the relationship. I know man....sometimes you just have to hear it from a 3rd party source...this is hard man.....f*ckin hard. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meta187 Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 She tells me she cuddled with him before and gave him a light kiss while drunk but she is pretty sure nothing more happened. This is girlfriendspeak for "I was lonely and I needed laid. He railed me in the parking lot but I still love you". End it. This. Totally this. ~ Studio: Q-13 Lounge / Q:13 Warrior Tunes / Interweb Chex Mix, yo.~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shred durst Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Voodoo is dropping knowledge.....listen to this man excavate that f*ckin fudge tunnel one last time then dump her....its what i did...i mean its what ive had done to me..... Pretty dope... and those shrooms were tight as f*ck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Djdevin10 Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 ok f*ck her one more time, but make sure it's the best she will EVER have, then leave her, so she knows that she f*cked up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meta187 Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 its what ive had done to me..... You've had your f*ckin' fudge tunnel excavated one last time? No wonder yer cryin'. I'll PM you the number to a good crisis hotline they'll help you work through this. ~ Studio: Q-13 Lounge / Q:13 Warrior Tunes / Interweb Chex Mix, yo.~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moth Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 its what ive had done to me..... You've had your f*ckin' fudge tunnel excavated one last time? No wonder yer cryin'. I'll PM you the number to a good crisis hotline they'll help you work through this. Wait, how the hell do you have that number? Is there something you aren't telling us meta? Formerly known as The General Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meta187 Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Wait, how the hell do you have that number? Is there something you aren't telling us meta? ~ Studio: Q-13 Lounge / Q:13 Warrior Tunes / Interweb Chex Mix, yo.~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vanilla Shake Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Yeah, it's time you bail out before this a-bomb of a 'relationship' gets even more ludicrous. Like, right now. "Goodbye, nice knowing 'ya". TC718 / <629 / CF5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vertical limit Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Ace Ventura, Jim Carrey. Meta, your sig is scary, it is going to give nightmares. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Yeah, this is no good. You need to get out. I know how hard it is to make big bold moves, but when you have to second guess the nature of your relationship, get the hell out. Yes you may cry, and regret the decision, and whatever else, it's normal. After a while, though, you'll be okay. You'll improve, and build more character and find a better woman. I had to split with my now ex fiancee, after we were together for four years. That was only three weeks ago. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leik oh em jeez! Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Yeah, this is no good. You need to get out. I know how hard it is to make big bold moves, but when you have to second guess the nature of your relationship, get the hell out. Yes you may cry, and regret the decision, and whatever else, it's normal. After a while, though, you'll be okay. You'll improve, and build more character and find a better woman. I had to split with my now ex fiancee, after we were together for four years. That was only three weeks ago. sh*t's rough. But that's life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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