The Breakup

[Wordsworth]

Do NOT share a bed. Sleep on the couch. Seriously, don't share a bed. I can't make this any more clear.

[Otter]

Do NOT share a bed. Sleep on the couch. Seriously, don't share a bed. I can't make this any more clear.

Yeah, even less a chance of angry sex if you're still sharing a bed. There's always a hostel, buddy.

[d00d]

There are just so many ways that the sharing a bed thing could implicate you and go wrong I can't even begin. Just don't do it. She probably expects it too, especially as "she needs space".

 

Forgive the bitter tone, but I've been there on more than one occasion and for me its been the same total bullsh*t and more trouble than its worth. Got to echo the sentiment everyone else has been saying - try and get independent from her asap.

[Rebel]

Your already making yourself feel even worse by actually deciding to be sleeping in the same bed as her let alone the same room after you've broken up. sh*t is only going to make you not deal with the situation at hand. So what if she doesn't mind if you share? You need to get your ass on that couch and stay awake on it even if it means a bad back. First step in dealing with the situation if you haven't found somewhere to stay yet.

[Minus the Boom]

 

Protip: An hero.

I actually hope you get permabanned for that.

 

I also hope things end up working out for you Lithium, and other then that I don't have much to say.

[Lithium]

Your already making yourself feel even worse by actually deciding to be sleeping in the same bed as her let alone the same room after you've broken up. sh*t is only going to make you not deal with the situation at hand. So what if she doesn't mind if you share? You need to get your ass on that couch and stay awake on it even if it means a bad back. First step in dealing with the situation if you haven't found somewhere to stay yet.

I think I'm more in denial than worrying about getting a bad back. I dropped everything and moved two hours away to be with her almost a year ago. Just seems stupid that it has to end like this to me.

[Otter]

Time to drop it all again, man. You'll be better off for it.

[Voodoo]

I think I'm more in denial than worrying about getting a bad back. I dropped everything and moved two hours away to be with her almost a year ago. Just seems stupid that it has to end like this to me.

I doubt anyone here would tell you that this kind of sh*t is easy. Most will agree however, that you can make it a lot harder for yourself than it has to be. By staying in denial you open yourself up to a whole load of potential pain.

 

 

[D- Ice]

Sorry to hear that too man. I think the vast majority of people here hit the nail right on the head - move out ASAP.

 

She seems to have made it quite clear that she wants you to move out, and like you suggested, I think the only thing keeping her from actually kicking you out is her common decency and the fact that she isn't a complete bitch. I'm sorry to have to tell you this mate, but she would be perfectly within her rights to do that, and you are kinda living on borrowed time.

 

If I was you, I'd go pack all my stuff right now - even if at least to show her you aren't planning on milking it. If you haven't got friends or family nearby to crash-in with tonight, sleep on the couch.

Even if you can't sleep for the entire night, continuing to sleep with her is quite frankly taking the piss now - even if she says she doesn't mind, you're putting both yourself and her in an incredibly awkward situation.

 

I'd definately move out tomorrow, even if you have to stay in a hostel or whatever - IMO your main priority should be to move out, finding more permanent accomodation comes second.

 

Anyway, that's just my advice and what I'd do if I was in your situation. Take care of yourself man, and hope you all the best in this messy situation, I'm sure you'll get by fine.

[LanceVanceDance07]

Terrible news, I hope you pull through. Personally, I think you and your girl should have a frank discussion about where both of you are in life. Has she told you why she broke up with you other than "I need time alone"? Seems like a pretty general answer.

 

If the talks don't work out, then pack up and leave as soon as possible.

[Lithium]

Terrible news, I hope you pull through. Personally, I think you and your girl should have a frank discussion about where both of you are in life. Has she told you why she broke up with you other than "I need time alone"? Seems like a pretty general answer.

 

If the talks don't work out, then pack up and leave as soon as possible.

Well shes working full time and going to school full time and we might see eachother about 2 hours a day before bed, so I assume that's part of the reason. We didn't really have much time together and she's been extremely stressed out lately. Now we both have something else in common..yayy.

[Ari Gold]

If you're still feeling sorrowful and miserable after you move out, then try and distract yourself as much as possible. It's a horrible feeling when a long relationship such as that one ends all of a sudden (and, as has already been mentioned, it must be torturous staying in the same apartment with her, not to mention the same bed), but the best way to get over it is to distract yourself. If you have a job (I don't know you too well, so I can't be certain with this), then focus on that. Hang out and do things with your friends if they're not busy, go to the gym (this is great for me when I'm feeling sh*tty, it's like personal meditation), and hell, even stay with your parents for a while. If you've got a good relationship with them, it's nice spending a bit of time with them, like when days were better, back when you were a child.

 

All the other things I could say have already been mentioned here, but always remember to distract yourself from thinking about her as much as possible. Good luck, man.

[Rebel]

Your already making yourself feel even worse by actually deciding to be sleeping in the same bed as her let alone the same room after you've broken up. sh*t is only going to make you not deal with the situation at hand. So what if she doesn't mind if you share? You need to get your ass on that couch and stay awake on it even if it means a bad back. First step in dealing with the situation if you haven't found somewhere to stay yet.

I think I'm more in denial than worrying about getting a bad back. I dropped everything and moved two hours away to be with her almost a year ago. Just seems stupid that it has to end like this to me.

Yeah you would be in denial after you've dropped everything to be with her and have her shove it back in your face. As you say though, this denial will only complicate matters even more because you'll be reluctant to even move out if you don't over come the denial part, which must be very difficult.

[Harrisboy]

Protip: An hero.

When did GTAF turn into one of those sites?

 

That reply saddened me.

[trip]

 

Protip: An hero.

When did GTAF turn into one of those sites?

 

That reply saddened me.

I'm almost glad I don't know what it means

 

 

I've often wondered how break ups work when you are living with the person. It's got to be strange.

 

Like everyone else said - move out ASAP. I wouldn't want to see you give up your job, but even if you have to move in with your folks for the interim - I'm guessing that would better than living in the same place with your (now)ex

 

In any case, best of luck to you. Hey, and look at it this way...you can get a newer, better girlfriend now.

 

edit:

i read this hours later and just had to correct a retarded grammar/spelling mistake

Edited December 7, 2010 by tripmills

[Wordsworth]

Now you can try and nail all her hot friends that were previously off limits.

[Node]

 

Now you can try and nail all her hot friends that were previously off limits.

 

lol'd when i see that

and sorry to hear it bro

[Punk-in-Drublic]

 

Protip: An hero.

When did GTAF turn into one of those sites?

 

That reply saddened me.

I'm almost glad I don't know what it means

Same, it makes absolutely no sense whatsoever to me.

 

The whole sharing the bed scenario is going to make matters worse, it must be awkward for the pair of you. Best thing to do now really, in my opinion, is to move out, whether it is at a parents house, a friends house or whatever, I know it is going to be hard since you've been toether for a long time, but living under the same roof as her isn't going to make you get over her any faster, it will just make you more and more upset.

 

This might be innapropriate but a good thing to do to move on is to f*ck someone else

 

Good luck

[BGModder]

I got some pain medicine for you

 

 

 

[AlfieWilRus]

So my girlfriend of almost 2 years decided to call it quits on Friday evening, and I really don't know what to do with myself. It's her apartment so I'm basically f*cked. I'm trying to find a place of my own now, but at least she's nice enough to have the decency to let me stay with her till I find a place. She told me that she needed time alone and that she still loves me, but now it's just not a good time. She say's in the future we may be able to get back together, but I can't see that happening. Does anyone have any serious suggestions as to what I should do?

 

 

I'm not a happy camper right now.

Get a job, find a cheap ass apartment in which you can live in.

[Tyler]

Damn, that's really unfortunate stuff man. Go with Voodoo's (albeit sarcastic) advice to move into a hotel. Cheap enough to not be broke paying for it, but nice enough to not have hookers next door. I made that mistake and you definitely don't want to do down that road. Another thing - if you can, put your large furniture into storage and keep it there until further notice. The price of the hotel and storage will be the substitute payment while you are clear of paying rent.

 

Do not move back home with your parents, though. Under no circumstances should you ever do that. It will make you feel like a failure, and after a month or so you and your parents will argue more than ever. There's a reason people dream of moving out of their childhood home. On the subject, just try not to stress about staying with your ex for now. Keep telling yourself it's temporary and that you'll be in a hotel soon enough.

 

Hope you get out of the situation alright man, and make sure to log into GTAF at your local library daily to give us the updates...

[Waddy]

Is there no guys at work who have a room you can rent? Maybe they dont want to now but if they realise they could make a few extra $ they will.

Also, if you get out ASAP then it might get her to change her mind and realise what she actually had. Just get out, start packing your sh*t up and get out. Even pack your stuff and leave tonight man, then just say you will be back to collect your stuff when you are more settled, that way you can still call round.

[Lithium]

You guys were right, the same bed thing wasn't a good idea. Something "bad" happened.

[WF the Hobgoblin]

I'd suggest just hanging around until your welcome is well and truly worn out but that's just me.

[WedgeAntilles]

You guys were right, the same bed thing wasn't a good idea. Something "bad" happened.

so long as you didn't try it on while she was sleeping, only to have her wake up it can't be that "bad"..... can it??

 

Dude just do what Waddy said, get the hell out ASAP

[Rebel]

 

You guys were right, the same bed thing wasn't a good idea. Something "bad" happened. 

Regret not taking our advice now dont you? And I'm sure now you feel even worse than you did before the incident took place. Oh well, at least now you know.

 

If something happened you need to pack your sh*t up and leave. Tell her you'll come and collect whatever you leave once you've got yourself sorted. If you don't and you even fall into the stupid mistake of sharing a bed again your never going to accept you've broken up.

[d00d]

 

You guys were right, the same bed thing wasn't a good idea. Something "bad" happened. 

God dammit man.

 

Well, if you won't tell us I've got two words for you - damage control.

[Lithium]

You guys were right, the same bed thing wasn't a good idea. Something "bad" happened. 

Regret not taking our advice now dont you? And I'm sure now you feel even worse than you did before the incident took place. Oh well, at least now you know.

 

If something happened you need to pack your sh*t up and leave. Tell her you'll come and collect whatever you leave once you've got yourself sorted. If you don't and you even fall into the stupid mistake of sharing a bed again your never going to accept you've broken up.

She said it was the best break up she ever had...and I said yeah, because it's like we're not even broken up yet. She'll miss me once I'm gone I guarantee it. The dog will also be heart broken..poor little guy.

[Mr. Scratch]

Advice:Find a GTAF member near you and become his friend,then proceed to live with him and steal his Jeep and booze

[Lithium]

Advice:Find a GTAF member near you and become his friend,then proceed to live with him and steal his Jeep and booze

Ryan would be the closest, but I don't think he has a jeep. We could be security buddies though.