Lithium Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 So my girlfriend of almost 2 years decided to call it quits on Friday evening, and I really don't know what to do with myself. It's her apartment so I'm basically f*cked. I'm trying to find a place of my own now, but at least she's nice enough to have the decency to let me stay with her till I find a place. She told me that she needed time alone and that she still loves me, but now it's just not a good time. She say's in the future we may be able to get back together, but I can't see that happening. Does anyone have any serious suggestions as to what I should do? I'm not a happy camper right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
93Sean93 Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 sorry man, this video should help you cope with your current situation: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_-=Zombie=-_ Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 Protip: An hero. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Girish Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 So, you look for a new apartment while she looks for a new boyfriend? That's convenient. The only suggestion that I can give you is to get the hell out of there as soon as you can and do not look back. If she wanted some time alone, she could have asked you to move out without breaking up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cidamelo Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 This is so sad, I hope you get better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uNi Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 There isn't no such thing as "time alone". Hope you can find a place to stay quick. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 Protip: An hero. Seriously, cut the 4chan sh*t. Topic: Lith, that's awful mate, I'm sorry for you. Find a place to stay, get out of her apartment as fast as you can and then cut her out of your life as much as you can, at least for a few months. You need to rebuild and learn to live your life without her again. Stay strong, find a place to stay and get yourself back out there socialising with friends. Nothing is worse than wallowing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tommy-Vercetti19 Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 As everyone said, the first thing would be get a new apartment and then you can move on from their. It's easier said than done though. Awful news to hear mate. Stuff like this is never easy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WF the Hobgoblin Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 YMCA? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XMike Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 always puts me in a better mood when I'm in situations like these. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
d00d Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 Sorry to hear that Lith, thing with women is they can stab you as hard as they love you. There's no going back to that. Like someone said, "time alone" is an excuse. If there was truly hope she'd want to talk about something or maybe want a bit of space, fine, but not breaking up and moving out. You've got to get out of there and cut the dependence ASAP. That doesn't mean rush though. Last thing you want to be doing is making mistakes along the way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lithium Posted December 6, 2010 Author Share Posted December 6, 2010 Yeah I'm scrambling to find a place now. If I don't find one soon I'll have to move back home (which is 2 hours away) and have no job. It's not a nice situation at all. Thanks to those of you who actually care though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheSiggi Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 Do you love her? Does she love you? If both questions == affirmative, give her some time, and don't act as fast as possible, stay calm, stay cool and don't f*ckin' panic! My girlfriend had that aswell once but it all got right again. Don't ask me why, but chicks seem to need that once a relationship. cheers and good luck mate! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wordsworth Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 As already stated by a few people, definitely try to get out of there ASAP. Even if it means being with your folks temporarily, it is better than continuing to live in the same apartment as an ex. It could be very uncomfortable for you and won't help you to move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ryan Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 Yeah I'm scrambling to find a place now. If I don't find one soon I'll have to move back home (which is 2 hours away) and have no job. It's not a nice situation at all. Thanks to those of you who actually care though. Why move back home to Miramichi and start all over again? You've got a decent job it seems working at the corrections facility. If you can't find anything in St. John in the next few days, take some time off work, go live with your folks, and keep looking for something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonshield Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 Protip: An hero. Hey guy, do us all a favor and ingest everything underneath your sink. Thanks in advance. lithium, I know how it is. My- now ex of 2.5 years broke up last month, and it's been pretty rough. We both saw it coming though. We're in different places right now - I'm gearing up for grad school out of state, and she's getting her career underway...and things kind of just got stale. But as much as I miss her, I'm really enjoying being single again, so I think we kind of needed it. That's rough that you're still living with her - do you think that might be the source of some of your guys' relationship stress? Maybe you guys just need some time apart to cool off? Regardless, I'd suggest doing things that can take your mind off of the whole situation. I'm the most productive with work and other projects as I've been in a while because of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Voodoo Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 Definitely get the hell out of there. I made the mistake of continuing to live with an ex while she found a new place and it was a freaking nightmare. Maybe you could get a weekly rate at a seedy motel or something. Make it an adventure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Illousion Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 Definitely get the hell out of there. I made the mistake of continuing to live with an ex while she found a new place and it was a freaking nightmare. Maybe you could get a weekly rate at a seedy motel or something. Make it an adventure. Listen to this guy. Priority 1 = Get the hell out ASAP. Surely someone of your buddies can take you in for a few nights? Oh and yeah, sorry to hear it man. Dreaming of California, where the sun never sets. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebel Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 Even though you'd lose your job, you should stay with your parents and forget about trying to find somewhere else to stay. At least that way you know you can get out of there ASAP and not have another mate or whatever break his deal to let you stay with them. As for her saying you'd be back together in the future, probably an outright lie and she just didn't want to hurt you anymore and played the ''lets still be friends'' card. Did she really break up with you out of the blue or had you 2 just grown apart? If it came out of the blue then she's probably been thinking about finding a right time to break up with you for a good while. I know I probably sound like a bitch but just being honest. Hope you hold in there though - take it a day at a time after you've moved out of her place and back with your parents or whatever. Then the best thing you can do is cut all contact with her until you know you can deal with her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Voodoo Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 I dunno, if what Ryan said above is the case, that's a pretty good job to give up over a broken relationship especially in the current market. I think you'll feel better about yourself and the situation in general if you don't move back home. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Struff Bunstridge Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 Been there quite recently mate. Mine was more mutual, and we continued to share a house for three months (different bedrooms, naturally) until I moved in with a good mate of mine. Me and her are still friends, still love each other dearly, and are trying to remain the best friends that we are, with a good degree of success so far. We spent ages 21-26 together, and just felt it wasn't working out any more - no-one's fault. Get out of the apartment, even if it means temporarily leaving some stuff behind and crashing on a sofa for a week or two. Stay in touch with her, but put your own feelings first. Good luck pal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Menaced Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 Sorry to hear that man, but don't worry, there'll be more fish in the sea. So they say. I guess it's just you and your hand, once again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ziggy455 Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 Get out of there. That's priority number one. "I might have laughed if I'd have remembered how." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lithium Posted December 6, 2010 Author Share Posted December 6, 2010 Been there quite recently mate. Mine was more mutual, and we continued to share a house for three months (different bedrooms, naturally) until I moved in with a good mate of mine. Me and her are still friends, still love each other dearly, and are trying to remain the best friends that we are, with a good degree of success so far. We spent ages 21-26 together, and just felt it wasn't working out any more - no-one's fault. Get out of the apartment, even if it means temporarily leaving some stuff behind and crashing on a sofa for a week or two. Stay in touch with her, but put your own feelings first. Good luck pal. The hardest part about it is that we're still sharing a bed. I have nowhere to go or else I would leave...I'm working on that part through. Stressed right out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emotion98.3 Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 Been there quite recently mate. Mine was more mutual, and we continued to share a house for three months (different bedrooms, naturally) until I moved in with a good mate of mine. Me and her are still friends, still love each other dearly, and are trying to remain the best friends that we are, with a good degree of success so far. We spent ages 21-26 together, and just felt it wasn't working out any more - no-one's fault. Get out of the apartment, even if it means temporarily leaving some stuff behind and crashing on a sofa for a week or two. Stay in touch with her, but put your own feelings first. Good luck pal. The hardest part about it is that we're still sharing a bed. I have nowhere to go or else I would leave...I'm working on that part through. Stressed right out. If you really don't want to share a bed, then move to the couch or something, Couches are actually nice to sleep on if your only doing it temp. I suggest finding a cheap one bedroom apartment of your own and just say goodbye, there plenty of fish in the sea and you need one that will treat you better than this it seems. Or you could spend a few months at your parents? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TommyMufc-Champs Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 You must be going through a hard time right now, I hope things get better Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Voodoo Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 we're still sharing a bed That's a recipe for disaster. It's the same situation I was in. In retrospect I can hardly believe I put myself through that. Do yourself a favor and at least sleep on the floor or a couch until you find a place. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Otter Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 As already stated by a few people, definitely try to get out of there ASAP. Even if it means being with your folks temporarily, it is better than continuing to live in the same apartment as an ex. It could be very uncomfortable for you and won't help you to move on. Can't agree with this more. However, broken up angry sex is well worth the price of admission. If you don't think that's on the table, get the f*ck out of Dodge. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lithium Posted December 6, 2010 Author Share Posted December 6, 2010 we're still sharing a bed That's a recipe for disaster. It's the same situation I was in. In retrospect I can hardly believe I put myself through that. Do yourself a favor and at least sleep on the floor or a couch until you find a place. I can't sleep as it is let alone on the couch or floor. I know I can't be picking and choosing but if she doesn't mind then why not. I can see what you mean about disaster though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
epoxi Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 ...we're still sharing a bed. I'm sorry, but...WTF? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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