Do Parents Really Know Their Own Kids?

[SilentSeas]

On Friday, when my sister was walking home from school, she had her bag stolen from a boy. Knowing who it was and where he lived, I went to this kid's house to speak to his parents and recover my sister's bag, but the parents didn't believe a word I said. Instead they claimed that their son would never steal a persons bag. Annoyed, I just gave up and went home.

 

The next day, I see the boy with a friend and they're setting fire to one of my sister's schoolbooks. I decide to confront the kid and end up grabbing him whilst his friend does a runner. After picking one of my sister's burnt out school books, I drag the kid back to his house to confront his parents. To my suprise they still didn't believe a word I said and even accused me of harassing them.

 

Its annoying that the kid gets let off the hook whilst my sister has to redo her work. How is that fair?

And how is it that those parents can be so clueless and ignorant?

 

If I ever become a father, I think I'll take everything that me kid tells me with a pinch of salt.

[uNi]

They're ignorants, or just don't give a flying f*ck. They prefer to believe everything just fine and ignore it.

[Lithium]

Some parents believe their child can do no wrong. People have told one of my buddys friends parents that he did steroids for years and they would never believe anyone....when in reality he has been on them for years. Some peoples parents are completely oblivious. Mine on the other hand would believe everything anyone ever told them about me. There seems to be no happy medium. Thank f*ck I'm outta there though.

[d00d]

You've just met scum. The alternative (if they go to the same school) is to talk to a teacher there and get them to apply pressure. At the very least, it'll ease some working pressure off your sister.

[Brown Sugar]

they're definitely ignorant c*nts, either that or they're just like their children, mentally retarded in every way

[nerner]

If I ever become a father, I think I'll take everything that me kid tells me with a pinch of salt.

You won't though. I know that you are appalled by this guy's actions, and you have a right to be so. However we are talking about your own flesh and blood here.

 

I can say in absolute confidence that 99% of parents refuse to believe the worst of their children. I've witnessed it with my parents time and time again with both myself and my sister. I think that there must be something in your psychological makeup to automatically make you think that your kid's can do no wrong.

[Slynke]

Speak for yourself (or your own parents). My parents definitely do not possess this "makeup" you speak of, never have. Quite the contrary, actually..

 

I think it just depends on whether they live in denial or not.

[Creed Bratton]

Parents don't know sh*t. My parents think that I'm not interested in anything, and I mean ANYTHING because I don't talk to them about stuff that I'm into. What the f*ck is there to talk about? They like to watch reality shows and I hate them, they can't appreciate a good movie or a TV show, or music that I listen to. Why would I talk about that stuff with someone who doesn't have a clue? I only talk to them about college and occasionally, but rarely about politics. And I only do that because we all agree about it all we talk about how the government is corrupted and sh*t like that.

And don't get me started on relationships. Last time I told them about a girlfriend they wanted to meet her. They actually asked me for her phone number and address. I mean Jesus f*ckin' Christ. I love my parents, they've always been good to me but their curiosity can be annoying.

 

So no, parents rarely know much about their kids. They can only know as much as kids choose to reveal.

[nerner]

I guess that it depends. Some parents automatically think badly of one of their kids, and positively think that the sun shines out of their other child's arsehole. I think that I can safely speak for quite a few parents, but I obviously can't generalise and say that everyone's parents think this or that. That would be definitely wrong, I was merely expressing curiosity and offering up an explanation.

[Slynke]

 

I can say in absolute confidence that 99% of parents refuse to believe the worst of their children. I've witnessed it with my parents time and time again with both myself and my sister. I think that there must be something in your psychological makeup to automatically make you think that your kid's can do no wrong.

I don't think you were.. lol

 

@OP: Perhaps it would be more appropriate for your parents do to the confronting, instead of yourself. If I were a parent, I wouldn't regard one of my child's friends as a very reputable source, and especially not one of my child's enemies. Why didn't you just tell them to begin with?

Edited November 29, 2010 by Slynke

[nerner]

I wasn't generalising. I was speaking from personal experience there. For every one of you, who apparently feels as if their parents think the worst of them, there are many many more who would flat out refuse to think that their kids are capable of such poor behaviour.

[Max]

Not everyone thinks the sun shines out of their kid's arse.

 

My Dad thinks the worst of me and nothing is ever good enough. Don't get me wrong I love the guy to bits but if someone told him I'd stolen a school bag he would have believed them, beat the sh*t out of me and then called me a disapointment for not getting away with it.

[Claude Speed.]

Oh boy, I know that kind of parents. Proud as sh*t of their kids, when in reality they are big f*ckups like their f*cked up parents.

One time, a friend of mine was playing with snow with a kid whose parents are like that, the dad almost started a fight with this friend, what a douche. And it's not like they don't know how their kid is, because I always hear his parents shout on him but they simply defend him blindly

 

@nerner, your experience must be huge to be able to reach that high percentage.

Edited November 29, 2010 by Claude Speed.

[Slynke]

Nern: What you said IS generalizing, saying otherwise is crackpot nonsense.

 

Obviously I wouldn't disagree that some live their lives in denial (not just about their children) while others don't. I think that's exactly the part I agreed with. I simply disagree with the main point of your statement, which is that "99% of parents" are in denial. I don't doubt the percentage would be high (if it could be polled), but not nearly as high as you think in "absolute confidence."

 

Fishy: Tell your parents, let them handle the issue. The most you can do is kick his ass, leave being mature to the grown ups.

[SilentSeas]

I can say in absolute confidence that 99% of parents refuse to believe the worst of their children. I've witnessed it with my parents time and time again with both myself and my sister. I think that there must be something in your psychological makeup to automatically make you think that your kid's can do no wrong.

I don't think you were.. lol

 

@OP: Perhaps it would be more appropriate for your parents do to the confronting, instead of yourself. If I were a parent, I wouldn't regard one of my child's friends as a very reputable source, and especially not one of my child's enemies. Why didn't you just tell them to begin with?

I had made my Mum aware of the situation and perhaps I was wrong to confront the boy's parents myself. But I'm not some random kid who is the boy's enemy.

[The Guru]

My parents are far from that. Whenever they hear negative news concerning me, they believe it, even if it was huge f*cking lie... Then, when there are positive news, they struggle to believe at first...

[Miro]

Happens here too.

 

Usually the conflicts I have with my parents are related to school. Always big grades between A and C. Luckily, only my mom is obsessed with this crap. I mean, yes, I have an important school year between 2010-2011 but what so big deal?

 

On-Topic: Thanks god, I never had problems like that - someone's parents to not believe me what I tell them something about their kid. Whatever, there are thousands of kinds of parents in this world.

[Slynke]

I had made my Mum aware of the situation and perhaps I was wrong to confront the boy's parents myself.

And what did she say/do?

[shitposter]

just follow my way some t*at from my school ripped some important work in my bag so i asked to look at his project and i drop kicked it across the playgoround then i told my parents and they told me to stay away from the "bully"

[SilentSeas]

I had made my Mum aware of the situation and perhaps I was wrong to confront the boy's parents myself.

And what did she say/do?

She spoke to the school today, but I'm not sure what the school have said.

[Ari Gold]

Here's something I wrote in a similar thread just the other day.

 

 

Baby boomers, ey.

 

Don't mistake me for one of those family-value conservatives (Tea Partiers    ), but there is a severe lack of parental control in society nowadays. I'm honestly not sure whether this occurs over in the US, and to what extent it does, but I know that in Australia, a lot of parents basically let their kids do literally whatever the f*ck they want to do, and it's appalling! I mean, sure, all teenagers like to act rebelliously, they have for generations and I know that I definitely do that, but it's as if parents have given up to their kids demands and basically let them loose.

 

At the age of sixteen, they actually let their kids go out and get pissed drunk with their friends! Which sane parent would actually support their son/daughter doing that at such a young age? I mean, whatever happened to the good old days where you had to sneak out under your parent's eye and had to do all your fun without your parents knowing? This, in my eyes anyway, is great, as the kids still have respect for their parent's authority, even though they know that what they're doing is not going to make them happy. I certainly think that experiences like those make kids better contributors to society and more willing to live with life and its controls than people and a lot of children these days. When they know that their parents simply don't care, they're more inclined to do more and more rough and rebellious sh*t, which results in greater harm being dealt onto themselves.

 

It's like 80% of the population are a bunch of f*cking nihilists, who don't care about anything; that's what sickens me the most.

 

Of course, what I'm talking about is different to the scenario you're referring to, but it's the same principle. People simply do not know how to parent properly. I'm not a parent so I can't judge, but if I ever do up having kids, I wouldn't hesitate to employ and develop respect for authority within my children, because in the end, that's the thing which keeps children from either being screwed-up trash who don't give a sh*t about anyone but themselves, or useful members of society who are prepared to stand up for themselves, yet admit when they're wrong.

[Tyler]

The more the scenario pushes, the closer the family gets. In the poorer neighbourhoods you usually get one of two people; Good parents, or no parents. Having one parent also increases the chance that you'll be closer as a family, depending on how many brothers you have. But then again you'll probably become closer with the brothers.

 

That's only speaking from experience in that sort of neighbourhood. I always saw one of the two, and I myself grew up mainly with one parent. I'd say rich parents usually don't know their kids, but like Stefche said, it's all case by case, basically.

 

EDIT: also, there's drug addict parents, those are the worst. Guess I had that one locked away in repression.

Edited December 1, 2010 by Unoriginal44

[macorules94]

Next time record it, and show his parents. See what they'll say then.

[Rougarou]

Oh God i hate those kinds of parents!!! they think there kids are nothing but little angels and they could do no wrong jeez take your head out

of your ass....

 

anyways next time you see him you could tell him to stay the f*ck away

from your sister and if he tries to f*ck with her again you will kick the sh*t out of

him.(not being smart with that statement) btw how old is this kid and your sister?

if there younger like 8 or something then take some of his sh*t and piss on it

or burn it then ask him how does he like it now?

[Mr.Mister]

Having parents know me has pretty much saved my life to be honest. If they didnt care im sure I would be the type to get into trouble

 

It all depends on family relations. Some live in denial and think there kid is perfect, which is just plain retarted. But it is normal to hide a few secrets from parents

[Finn 7 five 11]

Back in school my parents believed all the bullsh*t i fed them, when i got suspended for something i would just make some stuff up and my parents wouldn't care much, or they didn't really mind anyway.

 

(that was in highschool anyway) they said i was old enough to make decisions for myself and taught me that there were consequences but if i wanted to be a f*ck-up i could be, (i was ok just a couple of fights and some stupid sh*t) but they were under the impression through my twisting of words that i always got blamed for things i didn't do, which was sort of true.

 

So my parents were kinda like the neighbors kids parents who didn't believe a word you said, except they didn't believe the teachers at school, so its a little bit of a different scenario, im sure if i took a girls school bag my parents would have believed you.

 

Beat the kid up, or f*ck his bag up if he leaves it around, its bullsh*t if people can get away with stuff like that.

Edited December 2, 2010 by finn4life

[trip]

Not everyone thinks the sun shines out of their kid's arse.

 

My Dad thinks the worst of me and nothing is ever good enough. Don't get me wrong I love the guy to bits but if someone told him I'd stolen a school bag he would have believed them, beat the sh*t out of me and then called me a disapointment for not getting away with it.

Holy crap...I didn't know my father sired another male child.

[SilentSeas]

Oh God i hate those kinds of parents!!! they think there kids are nothing but little angels and they could do no wrong jeez take your head out

of your ass....

 

anyways next time you see him you could tell him to stay the f*ck away

from your sister and if he tries to f*ck with her again you will kick the sh*t out of

him.(not being smart with that statement) btw how old is this kid and your sister?

if there younger like 8 or something then take some of his sh*t and piss on it

or burn it then ask him how does he like it now?

The kid and my sister are both 14. I'm not really into beating up kids, quite frankly its pathetic.

 

My sister, has been given an extension to get her work done. I gave her £50 to go and get a new bag and told her she could have whatever change is left so that has cheered her up a bit. As for the kid, the school got involved in the end and ended up giving a couple of detentions, but I highly doubt how that will deter him in future knowing he'll get off lightly.

[The Guru]

The punishments should get more serious if he gets caught again, though.

[TommyMufc-Champs]

just follow my way some t*at from my school ripped some important work in my bag so i asked to look at his project and i drop kicked it across the playgoround then i told my parents and they told me to stay away from the "bully"

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