oldage Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Hi, first of all, this is not a love topic, but a family thing. I really love my grandparents, because they basically do anything for me. Back in the day I used to go to them every weekend, because my grandmother works in a café (Dunno translation), at a football club. i always had fun there with friends, but they all left the football club. Apart from one, but he only is there maybe once a month But nowadays, I don't go to my grandparents that much, only at things like newyear, christmas, birthdays etc... Because if that, she is always pissed, and I can't take that since I'm so f*cking emotional. I really love them, because I grew up there as a child....and I had so much love back then. But, now she thinks I hate them because I don't go there anymore, which I can't take either And my grandpa is awesome, always have fun with him on my PS3 (he owns at CoD WaW co op ), But he's sick....and refuses to heal it....any ideas how I can convince him? I don't wanna lose him, I'd cry the f*ck out of myself and when I have an emotional cry, the house is flooded of tears. Any help? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SaintJimmy Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 As for your grandmother, try your best to convince her you love her. Even if it means going out of your way to visit the football club, f*ck it if your friends don't want to go - she's family. And for your grandpa, also try to tell him how much you mean to him and how much it would mean to you for him to try and get treatment for his sickness. If you can't do it because you'd get too emotional, tell a family member how you feel. Maybe confrontation from one or more family members will remind him of how important he is to his family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebel Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 First of all, jesus your worse than some girls I know at how emotional you are. Secondly, how about you make some f*cking effort to see your grandparents then if you feel bad about not seeing them as much anymore? Hell even a phone call to them will be better than not seeing them if its effecting your grandma so much. And about your granddad that sucks, I know how it feels. But there's really nothing you can do to 'make' him go through treatment, its really up to him at the end of the day. All you can do is try, and if that doesn't work just be there for him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldage Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 Secondly, how about you make some f*cking effort to see your grandparents then if you feel bad about not seeing them as much anymore? I f*cking try, but when I do they are annoyed at me. So they become unable to talk to. If you can't do it because you'd get too emotional, tell a family member how you feel.Maybe confrontation from one or more family members will remind him of how important he is to his family. My family doesn't cares about him, they are all busy with their own life Even my mum, his own daughter talks sh*t about him. And about your granddad that sucks What you mean?He doesn't sucks at all, I think it's the best granddad ever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Girish Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 And about your granddad that sucks What you mean?He doesn't sucks at all, I think it's the best granddad ever. She ain't saying your grandad sucks. She's saying that it sucks that he is sick and can't play with you anymore. You should be talking to your grandparents if you care about them so much. Old people generally tend to be annoying because of their age. If you really care for them, keep on trying. They'll appreciate your efforts one day. You're really lucky though to have such nice grandparents. I wish mine were like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dnero Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Grandma Problem: Go to her place more often even when u have plans with ur friends or family... Go there like every weekend or so, she'll be happy a lil bit.. Grandpa Problem: He's sick right? N likes to play CoD WaW? Play CoD WaW in front of'em at his bed when he's resting and say: "u like that don't ya, ha? u gotta like that?" he'll get annoyed n healed by a miracle n plays Co Op with u again... That's what i can think of today, sorry mate... btw, what football club? sorry if it's making ur feeling worse... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebel Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Secondly, how about you make some f*cking effort to see your grandparents then if you feel bad about not seeing them as much anymore? I f*cking try, but when I do they are annoyed at me. So they become unable to talk to. If you can't do it because you'd get too emotional, tell a family member how you feel.Maybe confrontation from one or more family members will remind him of how important he is to his family. My family doesn't cares about him, they are all busy with their own life Even my mum, his own daughter talks sh*t about him. And about your granddad that sucks What you mean?He doesn't sucks at all, I think it's the best granddad ever. Sounds like your giving up just because they get annoyed with you when you are round there. Old people are going to be like that if you don't visit them often enough. If they don't talk much when your over how about making some small talk with them. Ask them about anything just to get them talking again. And all families talk sh*t about each other at some point in time. My aunt actually got into an argument with my granddad the other week because of his drinking when he's really sick. And that was with the whole family over. Its just one of those things that happens, and they either sort themselves out or you just get on with it. Just because some of your family are busy with their own lives doesn't mean you couldn't do something, as in if your too emotional to talk about it in front of your grandparents maybe write down what your feeling and give it to them so maybe they'll understand. And I never said your granddad sucked. I'm saying it sucks ( as in that's terrible ) that your granddad is sick. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little Chris Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 As your grandparents age they start to loose the plot a bit, my grandads ignorence makes me laugh, its also amusing at how racist older people actually are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Machida Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Like most people my age I don't visit my Gran (Grandparents) nearly enough either. Work inevitably starts to get in the way and when you do actually get a chance to visit them they spent the entirety of your visit complaining that you no longer visit. It all adds up to you not wanting visit them in the first place. So yeah, that's how your grandparent/grandson relationship is inevitably going to go so, you know, whatever really. Just make sure you're in their will! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fuckindumass Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I recommend a pint a day. Not beer, you'll need something stronger, like 80 proof liquor. Vodka is cheap, rum or brandy goes down easier. You can drink it straight from the bottle, or self delusion yourself some class by using martini glasses and ice cubes. You'll be surprised at how many carefree years can slip by before liver failure or a vehicular homicide charge. Older people usually have few friends. People change, move, die etc. By the time you're 50, if you have more than one or two good friends left, you're lucky. So grandma is upset that you don't visit as much anymore. Would it be so hard to commit a couple hours a week to her? People are the most valuable thing in life, and family is even more so. So, yeah. Isn't life a bitch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Potato Boggle Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I know it's ben said but, tell your grandpa how you feel and how much you love him and how much he means to you.I just lost my grandpa recently.He lived my family and I and I found him in his room when he died It was the worst thing ever and it made it even worse that I hadn't really talked to him in his last few years even though he moved in with us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tuff_luv_capo Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I know it's ben said but, tell your grandpa how you feel and how much you love him and how much he means to you.I just lost my grandpa recently.He lived my family and I and I found him in his room when he died It was the worst thing ever and it made it even worse that I hadn't really talked to him in his last few years even though he moved in with us. Eek, I know how that feels. When someone is there all the time but you are still so distant from them and you don't realize it until they are gone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deathly Visage Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Confront him about it, if he still refuses to get his sickness treated, then tell him that he is hurting everyone else by taking that desision. but ultimately it up to him. sorry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Potato Boggle Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Sorry for the bump, but can you update us on what is going on? I just want to help you with this because I don't want to feel like I did. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldage Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 I did what you guys told, it's all fine with my grandma, but my grandpa still ain't going to cure his sickness Thanks for the support guys, I appreciate... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stefan. Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 That's his choice in the end; he probably has his own good reasons, you just have to respect that. Whatever you do, just make the most of the time you have with them. Try not to put off anything when it comes to them; I remember last February, I was planning to call my grandma (who lives in Europe) just to chat with her, but I ended up having to put it off because of silly little committments. Then, on Friday she has a stroke, and passes away on a Saturday. Please, don't make the same mistake as me by letting petty things get in the way of spending time with them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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