So I went into open iv and did the defragment on the mods folder, now what?
simply moving files dont help, upper left corner of open IV click "file" and choose defragment and every mod should be properly put into place for game to load properly BUT do not modify game files in main directory, right click on the file in list and "copy to mods folder" is required as well before ANY changes to files (which will be done in the mods folder), game must not crash without even loading out any menus to click and loading in to game, after you in control of character should be any normal mod related crashes.
BTW openIV contains settings to prevent editing game files in main directory and open editor mode up and running right in the mods folder by default and also you must click to install all 3 asi things shown you when opening edit mode.
So I went into open iv and did the defragment on the mods folder, tried and game still crashed. Now defragmenting the whole GTA 5 main directory, couldn't really understand what you were telling me