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Posted 24 August 2014 - 01:31 AM

 
Who are you his mentor and counsellor?


No. He's trying to be helpful and compassionate.
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Posted 24 August 2014 - 01:44 AM

People can actually have a porn addiction? 

 

I never knew that, but I don't think I'll ever be addicted. People come into my room like it's the entertainment center..


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Posted 24 August 2014 - 02:23 AM

People can actually have a porn addiction? 
 
I never knew that, but I don't think I'll ever be addicted. People come into my room like it's the entertainment center..

Yes, Google pmo.
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Posted 24 August 2014 - 05:01 AM Edited by Jeone, 24 August 2014 - 10:45 PM.

People can actually have a porn addiction? 
 
I never knew that, but I don't think I'll ever be addicted. People come into my room like it's the entertainment center..

You can but its not like drugs or stuff like that
It's more of a mental addiction if that makes sense but its very rare and more of hysteria among soccer moms and the media

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Posted 24 August 2014 - 08:11 PM Edited by Judicious 7, 24 August 2014 - 08:18 PM.

The more I abstain from that stuff, the more I realize how difficult it is. Self control is important. I'm posting right now because I'm trying to get my mind off of thinking about that stuff. I have a lot of energy, and my brain is wanting me to relapse. I'm caught on the fence.

 

Edit: Instead of a stock image of the word 'Indecisive', I'll post a link to a video that details exactly what my brain is going through.

 

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Posted 24 August 2014 - 10:37 PM Edited by LOES, 24 August 2014 - 10:38 PM.

There's a fine line between too much and moderation, I mean it used to be stimuli for me seeing as I can't really date yet see spoiler as to reason. But I mean it causes ED, and some confidence issues so that alone is motivation to stop it altogether. Fapping- alright. Fapping with porn- not alright.

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Posted 25 August 2014 - 08:29 AM


Yeah but I am not in a relationship and never will be.
 

Not with that attitude!
Or not with my face either :p
Change that f*cking attitude
I know a lot of ugly people who are in a relationship
And worst a lot a of terrible people who has girlfriends
If they can ,so do you,dont lie to yourself that meet a girl is difficult cause is not

Pretty sure I've seen people with down syndrome get partners so....

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Posted 25 August 2014 - 06:39 PM

It has never been an addiction for me but i can see people easily relying on it especially after tough times like bad breakups, not able to get a GF or FWB at time for whatever reason, having a partner who doesn't want it as much as you, and etc and it also it doesn't help that most guys have a very high sex drive. I think the key is using it in moderation(2-3 times a week or less) and staying very busy(hobbies,friends,family, work) can take your mind off of it. If you feel that it is serious then i would suggest getting real help and rehab because when something, regardless of what it is, starts to take over your life then it is recommended to cut ties from it.
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Posted 25 August 2014 - 07:13 PM Edited by Judicious 7, 25 August 2014 - 07:14 PM.

If you feel that it is serious then i would suggest getting real help and rehab because when something, regardless of what it is, starts to take over your life then it is recommended to cut ties from it.


^ this. Now, I'm not sure how helpful group therapy and rehab is, but I do know that being in company of people who fight the same battle is comforting. It just sucks that admitting that you have a problem with porn is just so embarrassing and may most likely have people laughing at you.

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Posted 25 August 2014 - 07:24 PM

If you feel that it is serious then i would suggest getting real help and rehab because when something, regardless of what it is, starts to take over your life then it is recommended to cut ties from it.

^ this. Now, I'm not sure how helpful group therapy and rehab is, but I do know that being in company of people who fight the same battle is comforting. It just sucks that admitting that you have a problem with porn is just so embarrassing and may most likely have people laughing at you.
Yea i feel you people can be heartless assh*les when you try an admit a problem and thats the reason why most keep so much sh*t to themselves. Hey as they say the first step to a problem is admitting it and now you're gonna have to step by step work on your problem until it is no more. I don't think alot of people realize that ANYTHING can become a serious addiction not just drugs, gambling, & alcohol.

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Posted 26 August 2014 - 04:36 PM

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It was rainy and dark weekend night. I was sitting behind my computer, as usual. The bookmark list was long, but it was once again time to go through this s*it. I had a pile of supermegasandwiches on table. Why am I doing this? Why am I collecting this stuff? I don´t even have time to look at 1% of it. I´m not an addict. Ridiculous, how the hell could someone get addicted to this I thought, huh. I just like porn, I´m not an addict. Now let´s start this porn bookmark marathon, and update the collection. It was a nice collection, well organized under site names and models.

There I was going through all the sites. Pretty robotic maneuvering from memory, until I saw a new link on one of my bookmarks. I clicked it and goddamn! A living hell of appearing pop-up windows appeared on the screen. Computer freezed, I waited til it stopped. And I started to close these fu*king ad windows one...by...one. Because I was not yet Wizard of Windows, I had just switched from OS. I counted the ads as I closed them, when I got to the last ones my wrist was already aching, and I had not even unzipped yet. As I got to the last one, #52, I clicked the X but the window refused to close. The heck is this now? I could minimize it, but not close. I restored it to full screen.

There was a image of woman, wearing black leather. She had long, sand-colored hair, vizor cap and a paddle in hand. She was looking straight into the screen. I stared this image for a while wondering why can´t I close this damn window, and suddenly she opened her mouth and said:

"Your cock belongs to me."

Wait? Wtf I just heard? I had quit drugs about 7 years ago, am I tired or what?

After a moment, again:

"Your cock belongs to me."

I had no idea what the hell was going on, it was strange but exciting. I just sat there listening and then I saw sun rising. For fu*k´s sake, I had been staring this image for hours! Then I saw there was a contact button on the left tab. And I simply could not resist myself, I had to check this out. There was only a e-mail field to be filled out. The response was almost immediate. Probably auto response. I opened it:

"What do You have to say?"

"My cock belongs to You."

 

End of Porn.

 

Stay tuned for part 2 (only available in writer´s discussion because it would be off-topic)

I will reveal what happened after I gave my cock to a powerful Dominatrix.

 

Your second option would be therapy. But there are no 100% guarantees, and it´s much more expensive.

 

Or Time. Time heals.

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Posted 26 August 2014 - 04:52 PM

Last week my sister said something like "I hope dad kicks you out." :( So I got sad and sat in bed all day, and it got me thinking about how I don't contribute anything to the house, etc. I don't know if it's right to blame on masturbation, but if not it's at least taking up a big part of my day that I could be doing more productive things. I spent the week trying to quit, sort of, but every second day my mind would adopt the attitude of "It's alright to do, just don't do it as much as you have been." and after a bit that leads to doing it five or six times a night again.

 

Anyone know any good tricks to get past that? Doing something else to get my mind off it only works the first few times. Can I cut my penis off without it hurting? I saw some guy do it by freezing and working bits off with a wire, but that seems drastic.  :*(

 

I've tried the nofap thing before, and I was always really interested in the supposed confidence boost you get from it. Is it exaggerated, or will I finally be able to make eye contact with people when I talk to them? Anyone else have experience with those sorts of problems and solution?

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Posted 26 August 2014 - 04:57 PM

I've tried the nofap thing before, and I was always really interested in the supposed confidence boost you get from it. Is it exaggerated, or will I finally be able to make eye contact with people when I talk to them? Anyone else have experience with those sorts of problems and solution?

Learn how to stare people down while jacking off to them. They'll freeze like deer looking into a single throbbing headlight.

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Posted 26 August 2014 - 05:06 PM Edited by Joe Chip, 26 August 2014 - 05:10 PM.

 

I've tried the nofap thing before, and I was always really interested in the supposed confidence boost you get from it. Is it exaggerated, or will I finally be able to make eye contact with people when I talk to them? Anyone else have experience with those sorts of problems and solution?

Learn how to stare people down while jacking off to them. They'll freeze like deer looking into a single throbbing headlight.

 

Man, f*ck people. One starts staring at you, and then they all do. It's like playing chicken on an intersection with five trains and an air missile coming at you. I took my dog out for a walk last Tuesday, and walked over to where my neighborhood's road intersects with a pretty big road, and everyone who passed gave me the most judging look I've ever seen in my life. No friendly eyes, like they all wanted to kill me or something. :( Probably has something to do with school being back in, and me looking a lot younger than I should, bu that's basically how it goes any time I try to make eye contact with someone.

 

I wish I could just dismiss them and forget about it, like a psychopath or something, but I was raised to be an over-compassionate wimp. :(

 

Sorry for the off-topic post OP, just wanted to elaborate.


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Posted 26 August 2014 - 05:07 PM

This discussion's making me feel guilty.


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Posted 26 August 2014 - 05:58 PM Edited by Phoenix_Shit, 26 August 2014 - 05:59 PM.

Porn? I hate porn now, nothing good and it won't bring anything new to the table. Stop watching it, because its just internet bullsh*t with all that crap. I, alongside proabably everyone in this forum has watched porn: but I was not satisfied in any kind of way, it's was nothing just a person banging another person. 

 

Now, IMO (this is just my opinion, don't kill me) if you wan't to do something like sexual, IDK, but either masturbating or doing the REAL damn thing with a woman is the way to go. Just saying. If you are too horny or some sh*t or too young to have sex, you just have to hold. You can't get horny over nothing lol . But lets be honest: its not rocket science that everyone masturbates, it's natural. 

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Posted 26 August 2014 - 07:15 PM

 
Sorry for the off-topic post OP, just wanted to elaborate.


Don't you worry. I welcome your post. Hey, I know exactly how you feel. You mentioned in your earlier post about how people look like they're judging you with the 'eye' and stuff. I know the feeling. The overriding guilt doesn't make it any better.

Well, in response to your distress, I must say that you are not alone, for I too am in the same boat. I'm not sure where to start on how to conquer this because I'm still struggling with this crap. HOWEVER, I will tell you this. If you can manage to get clean and stay away for a couple days, you'll find out that you'll develop this, "screw what others think, I'm the ish.." type attitude.

That attitude is different than the addict's attitude of desperation and giving up. I'm not sure if I'm making sense here, but the world does feel like it is judging you with every person looking at you.

I too have difficulty looking people in the eyes and feeling confident. I'm not like the other guys, and I don't get girls like others. I too was raised to be compassionate and caring for others. Sadly, the world tends to step on nice guys. And you know, that hurts man. That hurts my heart. So, I would relapse. The chemical addiction in my brain would draw me to keep going until I couldn't go anymore.

Joe Chip, I cannot sugar coat it to you. Life stinks 80% of the time. Being controlled by this stuff doesn't make it any better. It can take the pain away for a couple seconds, but it can't restore or make you better. In fact, it steals from you. It stole from me, and that's why I'm making this thread.
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Posted 26 August 2014 - 07:23 PM

With the whole staring at people thing, probs if you do nofap, the theory is that you're more inclined to be more confident to socialize in hopes of getting it in. But that doesn't necessarily apply if you are say an introvert

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Posted 26 August 2014 - 07:41 PM

I don't understand this more-fapping-less-confidence thing. Could anyone explain?

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Posted 26 August 2014 - 08:01 PM Edited by gtarelatedusername2, 26 August 2014 - 08:01 PM.

I don't understand this more-fapping-less-confidence thing. Could anyone explain?

Maybe it's about thinking that the ONLY way you're ever going to get off is by your own hand after so long? I don't know. But you can feel powerless to any addiction, I know that much. Plus it's a pretty embarassing thing for most people to admit, and just having that in the back of your mind probably doesn't help confidence much.

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Posted 26 August 2014 - 08:04 PM

For f*ck's sake, you're acting as if you're shooting heroin right in to your f*cking dick. Do you understand that it's a perfectly normal thing to do? Monkeys do it, even dolphins do it. We're not in the 1950's anymore, lad.
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Posted 26 August 2014 - 08:11 PM

Orgasm is small death. If You die several times each day, it can start to gnaw you. have You guys tried edge training?

Btw, I don´t have a porn addiction. I do have quite a workout addiction, the chemical process is quite similar to masturbation addiction. If I keep more than 2-3 free days, I start feeling sick.

My sexual fetish is submission. Basically the opposite what the guys here have...I need permission to cum. I beg for it.

You can go so far with masturbation addiction, that You get aroused only from your own cock in the end. It becomes sort of mindless self-arousal cock-worship. Just You and your God cock.

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Posted 26 August 2014 - 08:37 PM

For f*ck's sake, you're acting as if you're shooting heroin right in to your f*cking dick. Do you understand that it's a perfectly normal thing to do? Monkeys do it, even dolphins do it. We're not in the 1950's anymore, lad.

Turn back another 100 years and they have something like 'The Manipulator' a steam powered vibrator, invented by Dr. George Taylor in 1869.

The very first vibrator called 'Tremoussoir' was invented in France during 1734.


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Posted 26 August 2014 - 09:02 PM

Used to be a little bit addicted to it but that was when I was sexting. I still fapped a little bit after I quit sexting and I felt bad about it to the point where I shamed myself for it, but then I started to think logically about; it's totally natural, it would be like shaming myself for taking a sh*t. Anyway, I still fap from time to time but I no longer shame myself for doing so.

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Posted 26 August 2014 - 09:41 PM Edited by AndroidModz14, 26 August 2014 - 09:42 PM.

I wouldn't say it is an addiction but porn and masterbation go hand in hand.

I ssometimes just watch porn because I find the storyline quite interesting. Hentai umemaaro usually but I wouldn't say im addicted.

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Posted 26 August 2014 - 10:00 PM

I fap 2-5 times a day. Is that an addiction? Or is it just good, ol' puberty?

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Posted 26 August 2014 - 10:12 PM

^ 5 times a day? Damn. :whistle:

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Posted 26 August 2014 - 10:16 PM

^ 5 times a day? Damn. :whistle:


That's rare though. Average is about 3.

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Posted 26 August 2014 - 10:20 PM

^i only fap once a day.

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Posted 26 August 2014 - 10:38 PM

Hey, hey! No explicit descriptions of porn or what you get off to. This thread is about addiction and recovery. To those who say that this is foolish, you must not understand how the brain can be re-wired to crave this stuff.

I'm not here to claim that masturbation is right or wrong. I'm simply here to talk about addiction and how to get clean, in addition to the feelings & hardships of being an addict.




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