No, I pre-ordered my copy for the Story Mode...and didn't have any expectations about online. And I'm surprised that I play online and haven't looked back at the story mode since.
so did you pre-order your copy based on how awesome the game will be five years from now? heists is advertised as being available from the start.
And I would hazard a guess there are more like me with my mindset than folks like you who feel ripped off.
This is not to say that I don't think it is slow going with the online...however, I don't feel ripped off in the slightest.
I'm exactly the same :-)