I'm here because of a problem, big problem. a very complicated situation created in my life and I need neutral peoples help and advice. there is no short or shorter version of this story because you will not understand it, thats why I will tell it in detail. I need real advice. here is a lot of wise people and I figured that this is good place to ask. To the problem situation. this includes me and 3 of my friends, kind of. anyways, for sake of this problem, I will change the real names of my friends because I dont want to get blamed for giving up real names. with me, 4 other people involved in this problem are my best friend Carl, my best female friend Jenny and my relatively new friend Harry. now to the details for you to understand everything. keep in mind I'm in the middle of my second year of high school because I will tell something that is important, but happened before.
Carl, Jenny and me have known each other since elementary school and we were going to the same elemetary school (and now we've been going to same high school). more importantly, we're all going in the same class now. since I'm an only child, I've always wanted a brother and Carl is like my brother. we've been known each other for so long and he's a real friend, not many of those in this world. we'd do anything for each other. both me and Carl met Jenny in elementary school and she's always been with us too. we went on birthday parties, regular parties, everything, since we were kids up until now. now when you know that part of the story, I can move on to where story gets complex. last year, Carl and Jenny finally started dating. Carl was telling me how he likes Jenny months before he actually tried something with her and I was so happy for them when they finally started dating. I never wanted to date Jenny, she is my best female friend, she is very pretty and everything, but we never had chemistry between us. anyways, here the problem gets bigger because in the story comes Harry.
Harry is a dude who we all met when we came to high school. he is as old as we are, but he doesnt go in the same class as we do. basically, we all have known Harry for a year now and he's been a nice guy to us. a matter of fact, Carl is very good with him, not as good as with me, but very good, they kinda have many things in common so.. I'm not as good with Harry as Carl is, but he's been a good friend to me too.. up until a week ago, but we'll get to that. anyways, since the beginning of the first year of high school, Carl, Harry, me and Jenny were all hanging out in free time, after school, last summer etc. basically, whole last year.
now, this second year of high school started well too, up until last week. since the beginning of the year, I started noticing Jenny and Harry talking a lot in high school hallways before classes, after school and everything, especially when Carl was sick and wasn't in school. at first I didn't pay attention since Harry became a 'part of our team' last year and at first, it looked casual and normal. that was back at the beginning of the school year though, we're now in the middle of it. and how time went on, it started getting real obvious. i didn't want to say or point anything out to Carl because as I said, at first it wasnt obvious, but in the last few weeks it became obvious how Harry isnt acting just friendly anymore and how Jenny isnt acting just friendly towards him anymore either.
Carl is clueless because he's really in love with Jenny since his wish became true after all time he wanted to be with her and now he is. about 4 weeks ago, Jenny came to me and told me she needs to talk with me and she insisted with a statement ''because you're Carl's best friend''. that was one of the days when Carl was sick and wasnt in school. after school that day, we went on a coffee break so she could tell me whats bugging her. when we got there, she just said to me ''I cheated on Carl''. by the moment she said, it was clear to me that she cheated Carl with Harry since as I said, from the beginning of this school year, they were both acting too friendly to each other. I asked her if it was Harry and she was stunned that I knew it and she asked me if it was 'that obvious'. I have to tell that everything Jenny and I talk about stays between us since we are best friends you know. that has always been the case. same thing is between me and Carl. thats what best friends are for, right?
now.. since Carl is up in heavens from the day Jenny and him started dating, poor guy didnt even notice something weird going on, but I did. Jenny told me everything about the night when she and Harry had a close 'lips-tongue marathon'. she was out with her female buddies and Harry happened to be in the same club she was that night. nobody, not even her female buddies didnt know she made out with Harry except her and Harry themselves.. not up until she decided to tell me 4 weeks ago. to clarify it right away, 4 weeks has gone by, we're still the only three people who know that happened between them, but the complex part of this segment is that Harry doesnt know Jenny told me about them. he thinks we're cool. now to continue the story from where I stopped.
Jenny told me how she has a thing for Harry, she has had since last summer when we all had fun and everything together, but she kind of pushed that feelings down because she is with Carl.. up until 4 weeks ago or so when she decided to make out with him. she told me she is in love with him.. but she is also in love with Carl (with who she still is dating). she said she didnt want to keep that secret anymore inside, but its too painful for her to tell Carl, so she said to me because she knew that everything we talk about stays between us. to make a point here, since the day she told me that, I've been very mad at her. I dont even know how I feel about her since she is/was my best female friend and everything. she also begged me not to tell Carl and I didnt. for the past few weeks I can see that Carl's and Jenny's relationship is slowly fading and its not as cool and sweet as it was. its making me feel like crap for still keeping my mouth shut and not telling Carl anything, but he's so in love with her and I dont want to sh*t over him by telling him. and besides, Jenny begged me not to tell anything and she's my best female friend and I'd break a promise if I told him. Carl is getting that something is wrong with his relationship with Jenny, but he thinks its his fault and over the past few days, he's a little down because of that. now where it gets even more complex for me.
a week ago, when I was out on a party with Carl to get him out of the 'down mood' a little since Jenny didnt want to go out, she said she's not feeling good, but I knew what was the problem, its just Carl didnt and I didnt tell him anything for the reasons I already explained. for my surprise, Harry was on that party too. and now, in one point of time, I went on the toilet. a couple of moments after I got in, Harry got in too. oh right, I didn't mention Harry is kinda a big guy, plays basketball and he is really fairly stronger than me. he stood on the door and told me he knows I know about him and Jenny. I was stunned. first I thought Jenny told him, but she didnt. Harry told me he'd break me if I told anyone, especially Carl about him and Jenny. to be honest, I've been in a handful of fights in my life, but this guy is really fairly stronger than me and I think I would be crushed by him. here comes one problem I forgot to tell. a couple of days after Jenny told me about her and Harry, she stopped talking to me like it was my fault. she doesnt want to talk to me or anything, she also cries from time to time (probably because she knows she screwed up) and I dont know if she told Harry to intimidate me or not, I dont think she did and I dont know how he even found out about me knowing about them, but.. he apparently found out and he's eager to seriously f*ck me up. now, here's the mindf*ck that's been happening with me for a week already:
I dont know what should I do. I think if I tell Carl about Jenny and Harry, he'd fall in depression and probably would be angry with me for not telling him right away and I'd also break promise I made to Jenny for not telling him. also if I tell him, then Harry will know and he will come after me. its giving me headaches.
I cant confront Jenny because she doesnt want to talk to me, she kind of avoids me and Harry is around her almost always when Carl isnt. she is still in a relationship with Carl which is falling down the stairs, but she also runs a thing with Harry apparently without Carl noticing. for me its easy to see that because when you see something, its hard to unsee. I obviously have no reason to confront Harry because he will f*ck me up and Jenny will probably get even more upset with me because I confronted Harry for something she thinks he doesnt know about and thats the fact that she told me about them behind his back too. so Harry thinks Jenny didnt tell me anything about them and that Jenny doesnt even know I know about them and Jenny thinks Harry doesnt know that I know about them. you see why I told you it was complex. just help me, I'm getting mad here. what should I do with this situation. I cant keep my mouth shut anymore, its driving me crazy that my best friend is getting in more depression because he doesnt know whats going on with Jenny, Jenny is already avoiding me, I dont know why exactly because she doesnt want to talk and Harry who seemed to be a nice dude last year has this look in his eyes for the past week, I get chills when I think about it. I just need an advice from neutral people.