Ok, so before last night I was neither for or against as I just play for fun, it happens to me, I've done it to others very very rarely if its somebody I had earlier had a confrontation with, whatever.
Last night I found a guy in a store, I was with 3 other crew including my wife's character. We seemingly all decided to let them be and a few of us bought some clothes alongside him.
Afterwards we walked outside and kinda just all stood around taking photos n sh*t. Oh we burnt a random NPC for fun but that was as far as weapon usage went and was in no way aimed at the random guy we found in the store.
So a few moments pass and all of a sudden he pulls out his shotgun and blasts my wife away. Strange choice to make when you are a lower rank against a crew of 4. He got spawn killed till he left which is the norm for players who think our lower ranked members are easy fodder.
So in conclusion, I will no longer take the risk, just like with car customization, if they are there to long or seem to be camping then its lights out.
It's a game, it involves crime and murder, things are bound to happen that annoy or disrupt you. Get over it if its an issue or use passive.
Not defending him (as I don't believe that's required), but he probably thought he'd get the first kill, assuming you were waiting for him. Let's face it, you can't blame someone for thinking a group of 4 white dots outside the shop are aiming to misbehave.
I know what you mean, but in this instance I had even done the obligatory 'salute/gun away/back turned to show vulnerability' sequence which seems to either gain you a friend or begin a war without you having to fire the first shot on a normal day. We all acted friendly like I said, saluting, buying clothes n sh*t. I do get your reasoning though, some people are paranoid and in most circumstances, rightly so. But he waited a long time, too long to still be wary of us before deciding to act.
He had no crew and may even have got an invite to join us had he been kool. Also like I said though, its a game, we all get over it. Its just fun. He tried to be badass and got owned, I admit I have done the same in the past. Its all good. Its GTAO!