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Posted 19 December 2013 - 03:28 PM

Hi friends!! My son is probably going to France in July to study! He will stay 1 year and 3 months there. I am very happy because I am proud of him, and France is a great country! He can't leave the country while he stays there, even on holidays! I plan to visit him, though (if my health is better). But I am also sad because I will miss him so much!! I was always with him, since his birth! I don't know if I can live more than 1 year without him... :dontgetit: Have you ever have a situation like this?? How did you cope??


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Posted 19 December 2013 - 03:29 PM

Uh huh....

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Posted 19 December 2013 - 03:45 PM Edited by Dr. John13, 19 December 2013 - 03:46 PM.

This seems to be a bad place, miss. There are not too many married couples here with kids. I am pretty sure I can't give any advice in how a parent feels. But I will feel bad if I go somewhere far to go study. I would like to have some company here itself and make forture here, in my country.

 

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Posted 19 December 2013 - 03:49 PM Edited by Max., 19 December 2013 - 03:50 PM.

It is understandable that you're upset by the idea that your son will be so far away. But you also have to remember that this is a fantastic opportunity for him to expand his horizons and experience an entirely new culture. He will have an amazing time and grow considerably from the experience, don't be afraid that the distance will affect your relationship.

 

No matter how far away he is you are still his mother.

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Posted 19 December 2013 - 03:53 PM

Cut your son an ear and make a necklace with it so you always have a part of his with you.
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Posted 19 December 2013 - 03:56 PM

At my college, most students study abroad (albeit only for a semester) because my school can fortunately provide that to those who want to go.  It's a long time, but think about the experience he'll be getting.  Everyone I know who studied abroad says it was an experience the could never replicate, and it really is a rare opportunity (unless you have bundles of money that you could ship him off every year with).  

 

I don't have kids, so I can't really relate, but I know that I'd let mine go because it's just one of those take-it-or-leave-it opportunities.  


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Posted 19 December 2013 - 04:19 PM Edited by rudy., 19 December 2013 - 04:21 PM.

F*ck yeah, France! That's my country out there. And don't be worrying about your son cause he'll do just fine.
Also if he's gonna stay in campus/dorm, make sure to check if there's been any media releases about it. Last thing your son want to do is end up in one with a sh*tty hazing subculture or something. You're welcome by the way. Some friends of mine did the overseas study thingy so I've heard a couple of horror stories, but most of them thought it was the most awesome thing they'd done to date.

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Posted 19 December 2013 - 05:03 PM

Hi friends!! I know it will be very good to him, and he can't miss this oportunity, because I'm not rich, so he couldn't study abroad if the government hasn't given a change... But is so painful think I'm going to be 1 year and 3 months far from him :*( Also I have cancer, so I don't know how my health will be when he travels...

rudy. I think he will stay in places indicated by the government

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Posted 19 December 2013 - 05:19 PM Edited by F4L?, 19 December 2013 - 05:33 PM.

I think you should let him aspire to his dreams, sure you will miss him, and he will miss you, but nobody got anywhere by sitting around not wanting to make change. It will be hard, but stay strong, and be proud he is aspiring to something.

If you just remind yourself as to why he is there (See above) you will cope. 


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Posted 19 December 2013 - 07:55 PM

I've been on your son's shoes, and it's a great opportunity for him. Coming from Brazil too, though, he probably won't want to come back to Brazil and will try to find away to leave Brazil again when he can. So use this time to learn to live without him, as that time will come sooner rather than later. Keep in touch via Skype or something (a lot cheaper than regular phones), and learn to live with it.


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Posted 19 December 2013 - 07:59 PM

Studying abroad in France huh? I bet he'll be studying a lot of broads in France. (damn that was a stretch.)

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Posted 19 December 2013 - 08:15 PM

Also I have cancer, so I don't know how my health will be when he travels...

I truly hope that you'll be cured very soon.


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Posted 19 December 2013 - 08:27 PM

Studying abroad in France huh? I bet he'll be studying a lot of broads in France. (damn that was a stretch.)

 

Well, that's what I did.

 

Cida, how old is your son?


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Posted 19 December 2013 - 08:28 PM

 

Hi friends!! I know it will be very good to him, and he can't miss this oportunity, because I'm not rich, so he couldn't study abroad if the government hasn't given a change... But is so painful think I'm going to be 1 year and 3 months far from him :*( Also I have cancer, so I don't know how my health will be when he travels...

rudy. I think he will stay in places indicated by the government

 

My condolences about your cancer. What type and stage is it (if you don't mind me asking)? Would it hinder your travel?

 

My advice would be to just think about how he's not the only one who's not going to see their family for a long time. He won't be alone in that and I'm sure he'll make plenty of friends. You can call him every day to see how he's doing and when you're feeling up for it you should go and visit him for a weekend.


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Posted 19 December 2013 - 11:00 PM

If you think it's bad now, it'll get A LOT worse when he's actually gone, so be prepared to that.

 

My brother went to South-Korea for a year and it got so quiet in the house and my dad really started to miss him after a month or so.

 

Second he was back, they were already fighting again though :p


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Posted 20 December 2013 - 11:08 PM Edited by cidamelo, 20 December 2013 - 11:09 PM.

Hi friends, thank you for the messages!! I will let he goes, it's an unique and great oportunity, but I will suffer a lot :dontgetit:

Tchuck this is my biggest fear!! If he wishes to stay in France forever!!! :nervous: And yes, I told him, skype everyday!!!! Nale Dixon ok for me he is single now, he should have some fun!! The poor boy only studies!   Zancudo thank you!! I hope too :sigh:   Moonshield he is 19 years old

whatsstrength I don't know exactly what's the stage... I did tomography and magnetic resonance yesterday, but I don't know the results. Today I visited an oncologist (a hot one by the way :pp ) and he said my health is good besides the cancer, and he thinks I will have no much trouble with it... But cancer is always frightening :nervous: The cancer I have is rectal cancer :(

Fireman I can't even imagine how much I will miss him!!!!!
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Posted 21 December 2013 - 12:15 AM

Just don't think negative, Cida. He will only get positive things out of this experience so that he can go on to be a successful person, whatever it is that he would like to do in the future! :) Is he your only child or do you have other kids or other members of your family to take care for you and look after you at home?
I know that whatever happens you can live knowing that your son is having the time of his life and that once it's done he can do what he likes, and no matter what other people think he can be successful in his own eyes and achieve his best.

Hope you pull through with this cancer, Cidamelo. It's a shame that this takes so many thousands of people who don't deserve it every year. :)

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Posted 21 December 2013 - 01:21 AM

I have another son, he is 15 years old. I am currently divorced from my husband, so I live only with my 2 sons. I will feel very lonely because I don't have my husband anymore and now my son is going away! :dontgetit: But yes, I can't think only on me, and this trip is very important to him. Thank you Linc, yes it's very sad!! A lot of friends of mine have cancer too... seems like it's the disease of 21st century...


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Posted 21 December 2013 - 02:27 AM

I have another son, he is 15 years old. I am currently divorced from my husband, so I live only with my 2 sons. I will feel very lonely because I don't have my husband anymore and now my son is going away! :dontgetit: But yes, I can't think only on me, and this trip is very important to him. Thank you Linc, yes it's very sad!! A lot of friends of mine have cancer too... seems like it's the disease of 21st century...

 

You'll pull through, don't worry.

 

Your son needs to mature, especially at 19. Be proud that you raised him well enough that he wants to take the initiative and be on his own for a while. His experience in France will mold him into a young man. You'll probably enjoy some of the time alone, too.


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Posted 21 December 2013 - 06:29 PM

I can see why would feel this way but I guess him going to France to study will, as many others have mentioned, benefit him.

Just stay positive and I'm sure that things will get better for you :^:


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Posted 22 December 2013 - 07:19 AM

He's going to leave eventually, he'll be fine out there.





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