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Posted 28 November 2013 - 12:23 PM

Right so from time to time I start thinking too much about myself and about my future and I have to write it something so I can feel better. Especially now when I'd need some advices from elder people. Right so two months ago I've created a topic here saying that I'm struggling to a new city life. Well I settled down and it's feeling better I might say, even though it's still not fully good. And that happens because of me.

I have made friends on the road, hanged out with them but around this time I am not that concentrated upon that since I have a lot of tests at the university.

So that's my main problem that comes to my mind. The university that I am following doesn't guaranty any kind of big money job and sometimes people rate it as being an useless university. I am willing to graduate because it takes only three years to complete it and then I'll see what I will do.

The thing is that first I need to take the tests and with good results. Math has been the first important test where I've been average, can't really stress about it tbh.

But the thing is that I don't spend the right amount of time to study how it's supposed. I'm only spending two or three hours before the exam, trying to study the whole crap sh*t in the respective book and end up with average results. And the main problem here is the PC. It's eating my time, either free time or studying time, I've been caught again in the gaming world and it's killing my time real bad. The thing is that I cannot just put it away and start studying. My mind always goes away and makes me wonder, what the f*ck is going on around Facebook, what if I should start a new Football Manager team etc. I have no idea how to concentrate on studying and stop using the PC so much. I have no will to do well at school, just that I realize that it's definitely harder than in highschool and I need to put more effort in it.

Now the second thing that worries me is that, for example, this week I've skipped a lot of classes, either too tired of waking up (10 AM), because I felt asleep too late in the night (1 AM/2 AM), or that I would be like "f*ck it, I skip it today" and fall asleep again. Then after that, I eventually start feeling sorry for what I did and especially when I miss those tests, like today. I am living in a room, but there are more people that lives in the same building as me and they are playing loud music that wakes me up while I am sleeping.

 

Okay, second thing that worries me are girls. I am really depressed that I still haven't found a girlfriend. Not really found, because I've had so many opportunities to hang out with some girls, but always pussied out and didn't go to the date. I am really shy around girls and even if I try to f*cking stop that feeling I just can't, it's like trying to be calm right next to a viper or a lion. Now I don't know what the f*ck it takes to become a man and stop freaking the sh*t out of myself when I see a girl. Let me show you: sitting in a class next to a classmate, then a girl comes, looks around and asks me if the place in my left is free. I tell her that she can sit there. She asks me some random stuff about the previous classes, bla bla and that's the point where I should have started a conversation with her, she opened me, she was looking at me, I was afraid to look at her, no eye contact or so, then the conversation died. Felt really bad about it because IT'S NOT THE f*ckING FIRST TIME THAT HAPPENS THIS. Basically almost every girl that opened a conversation with me ended up being told nothing lol. So tell me what the f*ck should I do about it? I feel really awkward when I talk to unfamiliar girls, no matter what the f*ck I say.

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Posted 28 November 2013 - 12:31 PM

The last year (the first that I took my studies half-seriously) I began to take some pills to concentrate and going to the library since I couldn't concentrate in home. Once you get used, it's not that hard to start studying.

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Posted 28 November 2013 - 12:48 PM

Thing is that parents are putting a lot of pressure on me to take high scores, especially my mother, when I hear her saying "Oh come on, we're paying a lot to keep you in university, you've got a great mind, so why are you wasting it on nothing?".


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Posted 28 November 2013 - 01:05 PM

I am 21 said this let me try to help you out

1st point:

I have never been a good student I was that kid who cheated on tests in High School and only focused on getting a D. Graduated from High School and dropped school. Life my friend is full of decisions and going to collage to get a good job n a nice company is one option but, it's actually not necessary to go to college to open a business of your own. Before the financial recession, many people in my country got rich by opening up business and expanding to a point to have an empire.

Reading out your story, I think that you actually don't like the classes you are taking. If you enjoyed the classes you take you would probably go to all of them and won't skip school. Don't worry you are not the first student that realizes that the clases he/she is taking are not amusing as he/she thought.

2nd Point:

I Wasn't a popular guy in High School I did talk to all of the girls but they treated me just like a friend. So I started hanging out with kids from my neighborhood who didn't go to my HS and I had better luck with girls. Internet also helped me out to have dates with chicks I met online.
Don't bother having a GF, try having some friends with "privileges". But that is my point of view

I hope it helped
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Posted 28 November 2013 - 02:36 PM

I got the solution to all your problems but I can't be arsed to type it all out.

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Posted 28 November 2013 - 03:09 PM

I got the solution to all your problems but I can't be arsed to type it all out.

I doubt you've got any solution.


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Posted 28 November 2013 - 05:00 PM

I also study (4-12 hours) the same day I present my exams, sometimes is a book complete or 30 or 40 papers and pass. For this left beside the computer, music and everything aside to concentrate and makes me feel calm.

 

If studies do not convince you let them, but keep in mind that you never regret, in this case takes some hobbie within: design, literature, music, videos on youtube (tips, comedy, etc..), something that catches your attention too, there are plenty to make money but at the same time you feel satisfied.

Keep writing as this will also help yourself, maybe someday this will be reflected in a book or on future projects.

 

I also have never had a girlfriend but if opportunities, basically does not exist. Just be yourself and do not be a jerk, behave polite and do what you can to get that girl you want.

 

Realize that there are old people who feel younger than you and still studying college.

 

I am 23.


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Posted 28 November 2013 - 05:06 PM

Maybe you have SAD? http://en.wikipedia....ective_disorder


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Posted 28 November 2013 - 06:16 PM Edited by Saint., 28 November 2013 - 06:22 PM.

Everyone thinks about their future at some point of their teenage/"adult" years. It's normal,but try not to dwell too much on it. Just tell yourself that what ever reasonable job or occupation you choose to pursue, that you won't have any regrets later on. Sounds like a cliché,but hey,it helps lol. For real mate, all that matters is being glad with the things you chose to do/go with & accepting them. (of course,it being reasonable)

 

And I used to game a lot,(3-5 hours a day) which probably is little to most of you here,but I'm the type of person who usually prefers the outside more,and it did lower my grades by a tad bit. One day though,I got tired of it and just decided to give my pc to a friend. I did want to destroy it,but figured it'd be a waste,lol. It was only about 2 years back or so,and it was a pretty good gaming rig  :p. I went and bought a laptop just for my studies after that. just sayin,I feel you on that lol. just try having your pc out of your reach unless you really need it,or force yourself on a "downgrade". basically a laptop or pc which is only good for your studies & nothing else. I'd tell you to just try and stop gaming so much,but reading your post,it seems like that is really hard,lol. This option might suck for the first few days,but you'll be glad you went through with it later on :D.

 

"Pressure" by your parents. You're feeling pressured in a bad way because you probably do feel a bit of guilt on your part. You know it's wrong. Just take that pressure positively and tell yourself that your parents are paying for your education,and it won't be pleasing to them if you can't at least show them that you're trying. Obviously you won't be having remarkable results in just a few weeks,but once your grade starts improving,your parents would be glad too. Which in return would make you happy. Win-win situation. And again,just tell your parents not to remind you of it every time and that you're actually trying,I know it does get annoying,lol. Not saying that you should only focus on studying for your parents sake though,make sure that you chose and are happy with what you want to study,and just balance it out between education and having time to enjoy yourself.

 

And for the females part,just tell yourself this man. Just remind yourself whenever you're nervous that she could have been the perfect chick for you,but you were too afraid to talk to her. You might have missed on what could be a possible relationship in the future. There is absolutely nothing to lose when approaching a girl. If you get rejected,that's just it. Sure it might hit on your ego for a bit and every guy goes through that,but would you know the possible outcome of the situation without actually going into it? Come to terms with that,and it really helps in changing your mind about being nervous. In short,just remember that the feeling of rejection only lasts awhile. The feeling of not knowing what could have been your chances with the chick you were too afraid to talk to will probably last longer,lol. It helps me in approaching women anyway  :p

 

And again,reading all of this will only take you this far. try and apply what I've told you :p.

 

Damn,my bad on the essay  :blink:

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Posted 28 November 2013 - 07:37 PM

@Saint - Yep, I have tried to turn that pressure into motivation, thinking "Oh well, my parents are making great efforts to keep me in good conditions here and what the f*ck do I do?" But then nothing happens. No motivation, no will to study. And I turn on my PC (actually laptop).

 

As for girls, being myself, I have tried that for too many times, but still failed, always tell myself "Oh well there's no need to act wrong, I need to be myself" and I overthink the whole f*cking stuff and always become that boring and shy guy. I am sure girls notice it too, that's the problem.


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Posted 28 November 2013 - 07:41 PM

I got the solution to all your problems but I can't be arsed to type it all out.

If you can't be arsed to type it out then why the f*ck did you post in this topic in the first place?

Carry on...

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Posted 28 November 2013 - 09:33 PM Edited by ChopTheDog., 28 November 2013 - 09:37 PM.

All I would say is try your best at everything you're doing.

 

I finished school with 1 C grade and the rest were below it, got into college (Just, right at the end of school I applied) then realized I didn't like it so I dropped out.

 

Joined another course and just, by the skin of my teeth, managed to find an Apprenticeship.

 

After 3 days I quit because, again, I didn't like it.

 

Now, I'm on Jobseekers allowance and every single job I apply for never gets in touch with me even if I don't get the Job.

 

I have gave up trying, lost all motivation and the only reason I look for jobs is so I don't get my Jobseekers allowance stopped because If I do, I'm f*cked.

 

If I could go back to School or wipe out the part of my life to the point where I started having doubts about the Apprenticeship, I would.

 

EDIT: Btw, I have a Girlfriend, been with her for 9 month from yesterday.

 

I met her through other friends.


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Posted 28 November 2013 - 09:40 PM

it sounds like you're just lazy and have no willpower and/or work ethic.

typical of a lot of people your age who expect too much and perform too little. you were likely coddled by your parents and raised during the self-esteem movement of the late 80's - 90's. your expectations don't match up with the effort you're putting in.

 

in short; you're acting like a simple f*ck-up and no one and nothing is to blame but you.

 

you need better grades but you admit to dicking off instead of studying.

you're missing class but you admit to sleeping in after staying up too late.

you fail with girls but you admit you've never really tried.

 

the answer is simple; stop doing what you hate and start doing what you want.

hate wasting time on your computer instead of studying? STOP IT.

hate missing class because you stayed up too late? STOP IT.

hate being single because you're too afraid to go on a date? STOP IT.

 

stop being lazy and take control of your sh*t.

or sit there and cry about it. ball's in your court.

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Posted 29 November 2013 - 02:47 PM

I got the solution to all your problems but I can't be arsed to type it all out.

If you can't be arsed to type it out then why the f*ck did you post in this topic in the first place?

Carry on...
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Posted 29 November 2013 - 03:14 PM

I don't understand people who get nervous around women. They really are just guys with boobs. I've always wondered if women get the same thing with men. 

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Posted 29 November 2013 - 03:24 PM

Do drugs.


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Posted 29 November 2013 - 03:33 PM

 

I got the solution to all your problems but I can't be arsed to type it all out.

I doubt you've got any solution.

 

 

 

 

I got the solution to all your problems but I can't be arsed to type it all out.

If you can't be arsed to type it out then why the f*ck did you post in this topic in the first place?

Carry on...

 

I don't think you understand the point of this analogy...


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Posted 29 November 2013 - 04:21 PM

I don't understand people who get nervous around women. They really are just guys with boobs. I've always wondered if women get the same thing with men. 

Guys with boobs? I'd never get aroused if I think that way. :p

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Posted 29 November 2013 - 05:46 PM

I don't know much about any decent studying tips or tips to do better in school. I just took adderall to get through a portion of high school and that did me fine. Not the kind of route you'd want to go if you are against chems with odd side effects.

 

As for the issue with women, you can start by not telling random women you'll have them in your bed. ;) :ph34r: :ph34r:


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Posted 29 November 2013 - 07:15 PM

As for the issue with women, you can start by not telling random women you'll have them in your bed. ;) :ph34r: :ph34r:

Well I didn't tell them that lol.

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Posted 29 November 2013 - 08:51 PM Edited by uzi 9mm, 30 November 2013 - 11:47 AM.

You need to learn from your own errors is what I can advise. It's usually the only way, people have to make mistakes in order to make the decisions to follow the correct path. You need to think about the things that happened in the day, the things that you feel went wrong, and how you can tackle the situation when it happens again.

 

Here's an example of mistakes I made:

 

When I first left school I went to college straight away, and instead of doing things right I did them wrong, I skipped classes, smoked weed, mixed with other people who did those things, and my actual friend from school who luckily got put in my class slowly drifted away from me since he was serious about his studies. Eventually I failed the course, he passed, I succeeded in wasting a year of my life. He's driving an expensive car now and has a stable well payed job. i'm driving an N reg Astra and whilst I have a job it's not as good as his.

 

I got arrested for a petty amount of cannabis once and it's now permanently on my record so I was lucky to even get the job I have now, that crime stopped me getting numerous jobs.

 

The things is I have been sacked twice form two other stable jobs I had and it was due to laziness and loss of inspiration, I had too many late nights and was going to bed at 2AM to wake up at 6:30 and it wasn't working, going to bed stoned off my head, I lost my job because it got to the stage where waking up at 6:30 was impossible and I kept getting late (and ill), I didn't appreciate I had a job and earning money, and it was only until it was taken away from me that I realised how stupid I had been. The convenient company van I had which I could use when I wanted was now gone, the monthly income was gone, I was back to square 1 again.

 

I went through a very long period of searching for work after this, getting loads of on and off work from agencies which you have to get up and go when they call you and does make you feel like a slave to some extent. Since I have no real qualifications the only plus point was my drivers license which enabled me to apply for driving jobs which is what I'd been doing. I gave up smoking weed, and to do this sort of stopped messing around with the friends of mine that did it. Not socialising with people who do those things is important, if you value your future, stay away from people who are doing the opposite of what you want to do, and mix with people who are doing good progressive activities. Focus on yourself, be selfish.

 

Since I stopped doing a lot of stupid things like smoking weed and having friends who do bad things, I value my job now, I go to bed at reasonable times to wake up at 0500 every morning, between 8:30-10pm at least, I've stopped smoking completely, people at work consider me a valuable addition to the team, they employed me through an agency as they noticed my situation and my desire, despite my criminal record, a blind eye can happen when people take a liking to you. so basically I will not f*ck it up, and appreciate where I stand at the moment, and I owe it to the mistakes I made in the past.

 

By the sounds of the situation with the girl who sat next to you, she seemed to be interested in you, maybe you just couldn't find the words at the time, it happens, you made the mistake of not rising to the situation and you let her pass away, you're thinking of all things you could have said to her but didn't, so remember them things, and next time it happens, try to say them.

 

I know it's the old saying of you learn from your own mistakes, but it true and you will have to make errors to learn from them. Just keep at it.


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Posted 29 November 2013 - 10:54 PM

Okay, that's some good reading in there uzi. :)

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Posted 30 November 2013 - 12:57 AM

I don't know much about any decent studying tips or tips to do better in school. I just took adderall to get through a portion of high school and that did me fine. Not the kind of route you'd want to go if you are against chems with odd side effects.
 
As for the issue with women, you can start by not telling random women you'll have them in your bed. ;) :ph34r: :ph34r:


Adderal is not the answer.

You should have gone with crystal meth instead.

Um no seriously that sh*t is bad for you.

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Posted 30 November 2013 - 01:59 AM

 

I don't know much about any decent studying tips or tips to do better in school. I just took adderall to get through a portion of high school and that did me fine. Not the kind of route you'd want to go if you are against chems with odd side effects.
 
As for the issue with women, you can start by not telling random women you'll have them in your bed. ;) :ph34r: :ph34r:


Adderal is not the answer.

You should have gone with crystal meth instead.

Um no seriously that sh*t is bad for you.

 

Of course, but so is simply living on Earth with uranium and all. We're going to die one way or another be it cancer, disease, etc. Atleast in my young years (which are the only appealing years to me) I can say I was pretty damn brainy with the use of chems.

 

I smoke from time to time and take benzodiazapines from time to time to help anxiety. I'm aware how dangerous these things are but I'm in the mindset that I don't care about the consequences until they actually happen. :ph34r: :ph34r:


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Posted 30 November 2013 - 02:33 AM


 

I don't know much about any decent studying tips or tips to do better in school. I just took adderall to get through a portion of high school and that did me fine. Not the kind of route you'd want to go if you are against chems with odd side effects.
 
As for the issue with women, you can start by not telling random women you'll have them in your bed. ;) :ph34r: :ph34r:

Adderal is not the answer.

You should have gone with crystal meth instead.

Um no seriously that sh*t is bad for you.
 
Of course, but so is simply living on Earth with uranium and all. We're going to die one way or another be it cancer, disease, etc. Atleast in my young years (which are the only appealing years to me) I can say I was pretty damn brainy with the use of chems.
 
I smoke from time to time and take benzodiazapines from time to time to help anxiety. I'm aware how dangerous these things are but I'm in the mindset that I don't care about the consequences until they actually happen. :ph34r: :ph34r:

Geez... you're like a younger me. Best of luck Trinette. Save some klonopin for me.

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Posted 30 November 2013 - 02:36 AM

 

 

 

I don't know much about any decent studying tips or tips to do better in school. I just took adderall to get through a portion of high school and that did me fine. Not the kind of route you'd want to go if you are against chems with odd side effects.
 
As for the issue with women, you can start by not telling random women you'll have them in your bed. ;) :ph34r: :ph34r:

Adderal is not the answer.

You should have gone with crystal meth instead.

Um no seriously that sh*t is bad for you.
 
Of course, but so is simply living on Earth with uranium and all. We're going to die one way or another be it cancer, disease, etc. Atleast in my young years (which are the only appealing years to me) I can say I was pretty damn brainy with the use of chems.
 
I smoke from time to time and take benzodiazapines from time to time to help anxiety. I'm aware how dangerous these things are but I'm in the mindset that I don't care about the consequences until they actually happen. :ph34r: :ph34r:

Geez... you're like a younger me. Best of luck Trinette. Save some klonopin for me.

 

Funnily enough that's my poison. :ph34r: :ph34r:


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Posted 30 November 2013 - 10:14 AM Edited by F4L?, 30 November 2013 - 10:17 AM.

 

the answer is simple; stop doing what you hate and start doing what you want.

hate wasting time on your computer instead of studying? STOP IT.

hate missing class because you stayed up too late? STOP IT.

hate being single because you're too afraid to go on a date? STOP IT.

 

stop being lazy and take control of your sh*t.

or sit there and cry about it. ball's in your court.

Basically this. Be who you want to be, if You want to be motivated, be motivated, if you want to succeed, go to bed on time, study your ass off and succeed, Once upon a time I guess I could say I was like you, but I changed my outlook, I became motivated, and now I am getting to the places I want, doing the things  I want. If you want something, go get it, Period.

You are only lazy because you are lazy, you can blame it on your parents, or your mental state, or your dog, but in the end, the choices you make, the person you decide to be is who you become, so, who do you want to be? Do you want to be a lazy bum with no money, no house, no girls, or do you want to be successful? Do you want a hot ass girlfriend? Do you want to have money, to be happy? If the answer is yes, you will pick up your studies, and work hard at it, don't give in, if you miss a day, do twice as much the next day. 
If you don't want to do that, then your answer might as well be no, and you just want to be a lazy bum. 

Cliffs: Be who you want to be, work hard if you wanna succeed.
Here - Watch these, several times if you want, get up, jump around, go for a run after watching, do something physical, if you don't want to take 10 minutes to watch them, then chances are you won't take 2 hours to study every night to be who you want to be.



http://www.youtube.c...h?v=_1mvx-axfG8

At least you came here for the help, that means you do want to change, now you have to take the advice, and make of it what you will.
 


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Posted 05 December 2013 - 07:04 PM

f*ck this I'll never have a girlfriend. Too bad for these good genetics I have.

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Posted 05 December 2013 - 11:37 PM

I'll never have a girlfriend.

not with that sh*tty attitude, you won't.


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Posted 05 December 2013 - 11:50 PM

f*ck this I'll never have a girlfriend. Too bad for these good genetics I have.

I know that feel bro.

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