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Posted 14 November 2013 - 02:25 AM

Maybe, I've always been quiet and serious, but I don't have trouble talking with society.

The problem is that many of these people I don't like me, people as I want only exist in my mind.


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Posted 14 November 2013 - 02:59 AM

Being introverted enhances one's intellect; you learn more about yourself, more about other people, more about the way things are. It can make you cynical/depressed if you're too introverted (citing from experience), because nobody else shares the same knowledge & thoughts as you do. 

 

But enough about the hardcore stuff - being introverted is just as right as being extroverted, providing you're comfortable with it. I was a hardcore introvert, though, and it got really depressing because everyone else was in bliss, while I knew too much from hours upon hours of self-reflection. If you want to become less introverted, you need to push yourself. I did this by choosing Speaking and Presentation Skills as my course next semester, and by getting a job at McDonalds which requires me to constantly interact with customers & employees. I'm already an ambivert.

 

It's very nice to be away from social situations and have time to reflect & be alone, though. It really is enjoyable to some (especially myself).

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Posted 14 November 2013 - 03:06 AM

I am an introvert. I only have one friend. And that's enough for me. Sometimes I wish I didn't have any friends or a job and could just stay in the house all day. Because I truly do hate interacting with people.

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Posted 14 November 2013 - 03:09 AM

Maybe, I've always been quiet and serious, but I don't have trouble talking with society.

The problem is that many of these people I don't like me, people as I want only exist in my mind.

You sure will find people who likes you regardless of your personality.


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Posted 14 November 2013 - 01:30 PM

No but it can make social interaction harder. I often find myself have narratives going on in my head whilst being in an actual conversation with someone. It gets tiring and distracting.


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Posted 14 November 2013 - 01:35 PM

I am an introvert. I only have one friend. And that's enough for me. Sometimes I wish I didn't have any friends or a job and could just stay in the house all day. Because I truly do hate interacting with people.

 

I know what you mean.

 

I do have a few friends and although I do genuinely like them, I never really want to spend any time with them as I'd honestly much rather stay at home. I do go out socialising but not nearly as often as the rest of them and it's always simply down to a sense of obligation. My heart sinks a little every time I get a call or text asking me out. :p

 

I'm currently unemployed and while I am actively seeking work because I don't think living off the dole is an acceptable way to live, the truth is I have no real desire to have a job at all. If I could retire right now I would. People keep saying "Oh, what do you do all day? I'd go nuts being in that flat all day on my own. Don't you get bored???" and I just say "Nope.", and if I'm feeling cheeky, I'll add "but I'm bored right now". Most people can't comprehend the fact I just keep myself amused without having other people around.

 

I wouldn't say I hate interacting with people but I certainly don't care for it much. I do actively avoid conversing with strangers.

 

If it's a small group of people I know well and we're discussing a subject that I have an interest in, I can just talk for ages but on the other hand, if it's small talk or I'm in a large group of people where everyone is contributing, I tend to shut down and not say a word. I just find it too tiresome.


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Posted 14 November 2013 - 06:12 PM Edited by headmetalbanger, 14 November 2013 - 06:13 PM.

 

Maybe, I've always been quiet and serious, but I don't have trouble talking with society.

The problem is that many of these people I don't like me, people as I want only exist in my mind.

You sure will find people who likes you regardless of your personality.

 

 

I know, some people find me a good person without be friends, coworkers or short conversations with him and as I said, I speak with him but I don't open much, because since they don´t cause feelings and sometimes feel offended and starts away and I've been told a few times.

If I have interest in a person, will speak immediately. Unfortunately it is difficult for someone like me.
There are few people who catch my attention and those are my few friends or people who want to meet someday.


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Posted 14 November 2013 - 11:11 PM

If I were you I wouldn't even worry about justifying your existence to people like him, bullies/trolls aren't worth your time. At the end of the day you are here whether he likes it or not, 'alpha' s***s like him will just have to deal with it.

But I guess you are one of those people who makes pathetic comments online to get attention because you are lonely in real life.

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On topic, I am an introvert, also depressed and social anxious, which is making it harder for me to go out and socialize. I moved to a new city to continue studies, university, so when I finallt came here, one month ago, I was completely useless, I was afraid even to take a public bus. Slowly, things have changed, but not exactly how I wanted. Now I am able to take care of myself, made friends at uni, it didn't seem a problem tbh, but I am still shy around strangers and girls. Now think that I have to do a public speech infront of a study group which contains around 20-30 girls, so I am scared as f*ck and I don't know how to break tension and feel more comfortable.

Also, recently started playing video games which removed the 'I wanna change' state of mind and I am more ignorant now about it, I don't care anymore.
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Posted 14 November 2013 - 11:40 PM

OP, so what, have you learned something from all these wise people on Gtaf?


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Posted 15 November 2013 - 01:06 AM

You eat too much sh*t, get lost if you have nothing constructive to say.

 

I eat too much sh*t?

what does that even mean?


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Posted 15 November 2013 - 01:54 AM

@others: Thanks for your advices and experience. But, in India, people are all violent and hard to talk with. I wish they had the British patience and maturity.

 

What are you talking about? Are you sure you live In India? We got Independence through NON-VIOLENCE. Also do you know of the 2011 riots in Britain? 

 

Also, considering you are at such a young age, no. But when you grow up you need to get out if it and interact with your society not be stuck with your own-self. 


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Posted 15 November 2013 - 07:05 AM Edited by Crazyeighties, 15 November 2013 - 07:08 AM.

From Wikipedia:
Introversion is "the state of or tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with and interested in one's own mental life".
 
I don't feel like talking to anyone but with myself most of the time. I just can't stand people around me (not in a bad way). I want to stay inside my house and not interact with the society. I think more and talk less. All I do fits the description of being introvert.
 
I sometimes wonder if I am thinking wrongly or is it I an being misleaded somewhere wrong. I don't regret being more of a conserver though. It's pretty easy.
 
Anyways, are there any introverts here in this forum? Do you think its ok being like this?

yes I keep to my self I always have, I don't talk a lot because I don't have anything to say to people I will be polite and tell someone "hi how is your day going" but that's about it. As for going out I have to force myself because of some physical health issues I have I tend to icolate I know it is unhealthy but I have a hard time making friends because I have a hard time opening up to people because I am afraid that they won't understand or they will think in a freak because the health problems I have/have had have scared me in more ways then one.......this is the first time I have ever told anyone this please do not judge me.


As for it being wrong I don't think so some people are not people, people they just like to keep to them self as long as it does not effect your ability to go to work/school you should be okay (I am not a doctor and this should NOT be taken as medical advice)

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Posted 15 November 2013 - 08:09 AM



OP, so what, have you learned something from all these wise people on Gtaf?

Heh, I sure did gain some confidence and tried to go out with some friends. It was fun but I was complete mute. I couldn't talk on their topics, I had other things running in my mind. Being a shy person from nature doesn't help me either. When somebody asks me something, I fret. But, now I will have lot of time for constructing my ideas. :)

 



 



@others: Thanks for your advices and experience. But, in India, people are all violent and hard to talk with. I wish they had the British patience and maturity.

 

What are you talking about? Are you sure you live In India? We got Independence through NON-VIOLENCE. Also do you know of the 2011 riots in Britain? 

 

Also, considering you are at such a young age, no. But when you grow up you need to get out if it and interact with your society not be stuck with your own-self. 

 

Do you watch news? You know that there are lot of rape cases and muders going on in India. With this kind of state, I sometimes feel bad that British left us. At least there was an inspiration of unity and non-violence when we were under their control. :/ You gain freedom and you go crazy. I am just giving a basic description of my society. It might be a complete difference where you live. And yes, I know that I have to go out for interviews, colleges, etc when I grow up. I can surely handle those situations. My main concern is to get out this state of mind without force.


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Posted 15 November 2013 - 08:24 AM

Yeah cultural assimilation sounds great.

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Posted 15 November 2013 - 11:58 AM Edited by Joe Chip, 15 November 2013 - 12:01 PM.

Were you like that as a kid? Mute, I mean. I'm curious because I was confident, loud, and willing to befriend anyone that didn't look at me funny until I got to about your age, and then I basically couldn't talk to people, or start conversations for the longest time.

 

I think everything'll get better for you if you hang out with people. The longer you surround yourself with people, the better you usually get at talking to them. You don't have to force it, just ease your way into situations like that. :)

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Posted 15 November 2013 - 01:50 PM Edited by headmetalbanger, 15 November 2013 - 06:18 PM.

OP, so what, have you learned something from all these wise people on Gtaf?

 

Not me, when people tell me compliments or things like that I ignore it, I have opinions abstract and one of them is not to generalize, some people say me: I'm good worker, intelligent and blah blah blah... and most people I want not exist simple I don't care.

 

On topic some people too is 'introvert' because of the bullies. I have never been bullied.

I'm 'normal' person between people only don't like (I don't hate them).


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Posted 16 November 2013 - 08:28 AM

Were you like that as a kid? Mute, I mean. I'm curious because I was confident, loud, and willing to befriend anyone that didn't look at me funny until I got to about your age, and then I basically couldn't talk to people, or start conversations for the longest time.

I usually was an outdoor person. Hyperactive and loud. But, I don't remember how I ended up like this. Perhaps because I was bullied in childhood or because now I only like games. :/ Adolscents have many personal problems which they don't even know it exists.


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Posted 16 November 2013 - 01:06 PM

While I don't think you need to be a loud, obnoxious extrovert, being the weird kid that never talks (and usually the weird kid who never gets many girls) makes you beta. You don't want to be beta. You want to be alpha. Become a renaissance man. Start lifting. Start getting girls. Start being alpha.


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Posted 16 November 2013 - 07:07 PM Edited by GTA 360, 16 November 2013 - 07:09 PM.

I'm an introvert too, and occasionally I think "I should start to try and make some friends, go out sometimes and do things that other people do" But then I think no, f*ck it, I hate people ad stay inside.

 

As a result I don't spend money like others do and can afford things that people of my age round here don't have, I turned 18 in October and after working for 7 months I already own my 2nd car which is only 2 years old and I can afford to pay it off now if I wanted but would rather have the financial security with the money in the bank, and I have everything else I want like new TV, games consoles, iPod etc and will be getting the Xbox One soon after launch (yes I know I said I didn't like it but it's changed)

And it's all my own money and I pay to live here too.

Going off track a little buthey.

 

tldr: Basically saying there are benefits to being an introvert because of the lack of any need to go anywhere or do anything which saves you money, time, and hassle.

 

 

While I don't think you need to be a loud, obnoxious extrovert, being the weird kid that never talks (and usually the weird kid who never gets many girls) makes you beta. You don't want to be beta. You want to be alpha. Become a renaissance man. Start lifting. Start getting girls. Start being alpha.

 

OK Bruice, your balls will be negatively effected.


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Posted 16 November 2013 - 09:33 PM

I'm an introvert too, and occasionally I think "I should start to try and make some friends, go out sometimes and do things that other people do" But then I think no, f*ck it, I hate people ad stay inside.

 

As a result I don't spend money like others do and can afford things that people of my age round here don't have, I turned 18 in October and after working for 7 months I already own my 2nd car which is only 2 years old and I can afford to pay it off now if I wanted but would rather have the financial security with the money in the bank, and I have everything else I want like new TV, games consoles, iPod etc and will be getting the Xbox One soon after launch (yes I know I said I didn't like it but it's changed)

And it's all my own money and I pay to live here too.

Going off track a little buthey.

 

tldr: Basically saying there are benefits to being an introvert because of the lack of any need to go anywhere or do anything which saves you money, time, and hassle.

 

 

While I don't think you need to be a loud, obnoxious extrovert, being the weird kid that never talks (and usually the weird kid who never gets many girls) makes you beta. You don't want to be beta. You want to be alpha. Become a renaissance man. Start lifting. Start getting girls. Start being alpha.

 

OK Bruice, your balls will be negatively effected.

I'm assuming that has something to do with my comment about lifting? Simply picking heavy sh*t up and putting it back down won't make your balls shrink. Most steroids will (but not all), but only while you're on a cycle. Post-cycle, they supposedly return to normal. I don't do steroids, but I probably should...hell, half my teammates in football do.


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Posted 16 November 2013 - 09:51 PM Edited by tokyocean, 16 November 2013 - 09:51 PM.

Introvertedness is practically adored when you're a child, but as you grow up, people will HATE you for being an introvert even if you aren't do anything wrong to them. I don't actually consider myself an introvert. I think such labels are extremity, and most of us fall somewhere between. The media has really turned introvertedness into something to be despised and feared, especially with how they covered disturbed mass shooters.

 

With that being said, it's not wrong to be introverted unless you hate people for no reason or unless you have bad intentions.


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Posted 16 November 2013 - 11:41 PM

I don't think it's a good idea to spend time too much time alone even if you seem to be fine. I get it, most people kinda suck, but you don't have to make tons of friends. It can be just as healthy to have one or a few good friends as long as you socialize with someone (other than family members). If you spend too much time alone you'll find it hard\awkward to interact with people when you have to (e.g. at work, or school), unless you know how to control your emotions by focusing on what's happening.

 

I also like to spend time alone but mainly because it's easier to be who I want to be that way. If you pay attention you will notice that you behave very differently when you are around people, and most of the time it's not a good behavioral change. I wouldn't consider myself an introvert though. The definition seems to suggest an egocentric personality, which is what I'm trying to fight by being independent. I am also not shy. I feel perfectly comfortable in huge crowds (mostly because I can focus on my surroundings instead of analyzing the situation) and can talk with total strangers easily.


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Posted 17 November 2013 - 08:02 AM

 

 

 

 

While I don't think you need to be a loud, obnoxious extrovert, being the weird kid that never talks (and usually the weird kid who never gets many girls) makes you beta. You don't want to be beta. You want to be alpha. Become a renaissance man. Start lifting. Start getting girls. Start being alpha.

 

OK Bruice, your balls will be negatively effected.

I'm assuming that has something to do with my comment about lifting? Simply picking heavy sh*t up and putting it back down won't make your balls shrink. Most steroids will (but not all), but only while you're on a cycle. Post-cycle, they supposedly return to normal. I don't do steroids, but I probably should...hell, half my teammates in football do.

 

More to do with the mixture of you being interested in being the best and saying the things that Bruice says like Alpha.


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Posted 17 November 2013 - 01:28 PM

 

 

 

 

 

While I don't think you need to be a loud, obnoxious extrovert, being the weird kid that never talks (and usually the weird kid who never gets many girls) makes you beta. You don't want to be beta. You want to be alpha. Become a renaissance man. Start lifting. Start getting girls. Start being alpha.

 

OK Bruice, your balls will be negatively effected.

I'm assuming that has something to do with my comment about lifting? Simply picking heavy sh*t up and putting it back down won't make your balls shrink. Most steroids will (but not all), but only while you're on a cycle. Post-cycle, they supposedly return to normal. I don't do steroids, but I probably should...hell, half my teammates in football do.

 

More to do with the mixture of you being interested in being the best and saying the things that Bruice says like Alpha.

 

Bruice? No idea who that is. 


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Posted 17 November 2013 - 01:47 PM

 

 

 

 

 

 

While I don't think you need to be a loud, obnoxious extrovert, being the weird kid that never talks (and usually the weird kid who never gets many girls) makes you beta. You don't want to be beta. You want to be alpha. Become a renaissance man. Start lifting. Start getting girls. Start being alpha.

 

OK Bruice, your balls will be negatively effected.

I'm assuming that has something to do with my comment about lifting? Simply picking heavy sh*t up and putting it back down won't make your balls shrink. Most steroids will (but not all), but only while you're on a cycle. Post-cycle, they supposedly return to normal. I don't do steroids, but I probably should...hell, half my teammates in football do.

 

More to do with the mixture of you being interested in being the best and saying the things that Bruice says like Alpha.

 

Bruice? No idea who that is. 

 

And you're a member of an internet forum devoted to GTA games?

 

Come on.


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Posted 17 November 2013 - 01:58 PM

Okay, well he's obviously someone in GTA then. But that's besides the point. OP, stop being the quiet kid. Start lifting heavy sh*t and become alpha. None of this machine chest press or Smith machine squats. Front squats, deadlifts, and overhead presses. And slaying pussies.


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Posted 17 November 2013 - 02:40 PM

Okay, well he's obviously someone in GTA then. But that's besides the point. OP, stop being the quiet kid. Start lifting heavy sh*t and become alpha. None of this machine chest press or Smith machine squats. Front squats, deadlifts, and overhead presses. And slaying pussies.

Ok, here is Brucie:

5326-gta-iv-brucie-kibbutz.jpg

He is the one who talks alpha and sh*t in GTA IV.

 

As for your suggestions, I am pretty sure I am not going to lift because of pussies. Heck, if I had a gf, why the f*ck I won't have friends?


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Posted 17 November 2013 - 03:42 PM

 

Okay, well he's obviously someone in GTA then. But that's besides the point. OP, stop being the quiet kid. Start lifting heavy sh*t and become alpha. None of this machine chest press or Smith machine squats. Front squats, deadlifts, and overhead presses. And slaying pussies.

Ok, here is Brucie:

5326-gta-iv-brucie-kibbutz.jpg

He is the one who talks alpha and sh*t in GTA IV.

 

As for your suggestions, I am pretty sure I am not going to lift because of pussies. Heck, if I had a gf, why the f*ck I won't have friends?

 

You don't lift to get pussy, but it's always an added bonus. Anyone who says being jacked and lean doesn't get you pussy has no idea what they're talking about. I mean, I got pussy before I started lifting, but nowhere near as much as now. Get to 200+ and <10%BF and you'll automatically have girls approaching you.


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Posted 17 November 2013 - 04:33 PM

 

 

Okay, well he's obviously someone in GTA then. But that's besides the point. OP, stop being the quiet kid. Start lifting heavy sh*t and become alpha. None of this machine chest press or Smith machine squats. Front squats, deadlifts, and overhead presses. And slaying pussies.

Ok, here is Brucie:

5326-gta-iv-brucie-kibbutz.jpg

He is the one who talks alpha and sh*t in GTA IV.

 

As for your suggestions, I am pretty sure I am not going to lift because of pussies. Heck, if I had a gf, why the f*ck I won't have friends?

 

You don't lift to get pussy, but it's always an added bonus. Anyone who says being jacked and lean doesn't get you pussy has no idea what they're talking about. I mean, I got pussy before I started lifting, but nowhere near as much as now. Get to 200+ and <10%BF and you'll automatically have girls approaching you.

 

And which penis do you use on them? The small one or the big one on your head?

:lol:  :miranda:

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Posted 17 November 2013 - 05:46 PM

 

 

 

Okay, well he's obviously someone in GTA then. But that's besides the point. OP, stop being the quiet kid. Start lifting heavy sh*t and become alpha. None of this machine chest press or Smith machine squats. Front squats, deadlifts, and overhead presses. And slaying pussies.

Ok, here is Brucie:

5326-gta-iv-brucie-kibbutz.jpg

He is the one who talks alpha and sh*t in GTA IV.

 

As for your suggestions, I am pretty sure I am not going to lift because of pussies. Heck, if I had a gf, why the f*ck I won't have friends?

 

You don't lift to get pussy, but it's always an added bonus. Anyone who says being jacked and lean doesn't get you pussy has no idea what they're talking about. I mean, I got pussy before I started lifting, but nowhere near as much as now. Get to 200+ and <10%BF and you'll automatically have girls approaching you.

 

And which penis do you use on them? The small one or the big one on your head?

:lol:  :miranda:

 

Only those who are jealous make unsubstantiated claims. Muscle size and strength have nothing to do with the size of your dick.

 

As I said, anyone who thinks getting jacked won't get you pussy is lying.





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