I know someone and I believe he may be a psychopath.
He's very, very charming and social. It's the kind of guy that knows exactly how to talk to all kinds of people. He got great humor, looks happy, and just seems to treat people great. But a part from that?
He is a big f*cking liar, and he's using lies all the time to get his way. He doesn't care much about other people. He left his wife with one kid because she didn't want to live with him simply because he never took any responsibility. He got no real job, because he can't simply be there on time. No responsibility at all. Another problem with jobs is that he gets bored extremely quickly. No ability to plan his life either.He lives his life like he did when he was 15-16-17... and he wont change. As a matter of fact he seems to never reflect about the future of the life he live. He can't look forward, he can't plan at any stage. Even a simple task such as having an appointmen at a certain time is difficult for him. He's never on time. He stole money from his job (which he lost because of it) but made up a story about it because he doesn't do anything wrong according to himself. It's not the first time either. He usally borrows money from people which they wont get back until they really push him. He fooled my best friend on lots of money but he's pretending like it never happened. He expect people to give him everything like if they owe him something. Rarely he give something back. He's really greedy. If he would steal from you and you cought him he would say sorry, put on a show, but he simply doesn't care. Because he never show remorse and he never seems to be ashamed of anything bad he does. Worst off all he think that he is the goodguy. He's just like ''Well, whatever, next topic''. And if he does any mistake, such as when he stole money at his job, it is rarely any lesson learned. He can repeat the same old mistakes again. Even thought he is really social and so on it's like there is a wall around him which you can't get through. it feels like you never really can learn to know him. Which is why he hangs out with different people all the time - and often younger people. He never manage to stay for long in relationships. Then girls always leave him but he have no problem to find new ones. If things doesn't go the way he wants he becomes really angry and blames others. And it's always something wrong with the people he is engaged with. Then he is really lazy and hate to work. At the same time he can't sit still. He's always fibbling with his ipad, talking to people via the phone, or something like that.
He is agressive but as far as I know not violent.
Do you think sociopaths are happy people? I can't help but feel that a complete shutdown of your empathy might be rather freeing.
From the example I gave above I can tell you that in that example its not simply the case. This guy, which I wont mention by name, does not feel well. There is times when he totally collapse. Such as when his wife left him. But even something simple... for instance, if you tell him that ''No, I can't be with you at saturday'', or ''Well, you have to tidy after yourself'' he may walk away and lay down on the bed. He cant take it. His wife left him because he was out all night and never cared about their child. Then it was all the damn lies. When she left him he collapsed. for a while. But he simply doesn't understand. He can't figure out WHY she left. He can't figure out why things are going bad for him or why people sometimes get angry at him. Even though he claims he love their child he have never visited her in all these years. Instead he put on a show on facebook to tell how much he love her. You may think that he figure out ''ohwell, if I have a kid i must take responsibility blabla'' but he doesn't understand. He understands the sentence, but cant figure out the meaning.
Its certainly not a good way to live. You become an outsider.
Edited by Cyper, 09 October 2013 - 08:47 PM.