How to deal with departing friends?
Posted 24 June 2013 - 10:43 PM
Posted 24 June 2013 - 10:54 PM
Or group suicide so you can be together. Forever.
Posted 24 June 2013 - 11:00 PM
Posted 24 June 2013 - 11:23 PM
Posted 24 June 2013 - 11:58 PM
Posted 25 June 2013 - 12:35 AM
I haven't seen them since I left in 2011 and all my friends that I have now I met when I moved up here in June 2012.
Sure you do wonder what the group would be like now if you were still in contact but you manage to overcome it easily.
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Posted 25 June 2013 - 01:43 AM
As for my friends from high-school, we all went our separate ways, and there's really no way around that, but you'll know who your true friends are because you'll always do whatever you have to to be able to continue spending time with them, even if its just for a few weeks every year or two. I still meet up with a handful of friends from high-school, regardless of who has to travel where, and I always find that even if a year has passed I always step off the plane and things seem to pick up right where they left off.
But its important to understand that some people change. Someone who may be one of your best friends now might go off to college and find that when the personality they had in high-school is no longer known by the people around them, they might step outside of themselves and start living as a person radically different from the person you knew, be it for better or for worse.
As for how to deal with it, the best advice I can give you is to just let the chips fall as they may. There are a myriad of contingencies in life that you can't plan for. If you spend too much time and effort trying to keep things the way they are, you're going to wake up some day and realize that your life has passed you by. Keep the friends that want to be kept, and let the lives of those who've strayed away from you unfold as they may. Find comfort in the fact that there are strangers walking the streets in towns you haven't been to yet that are going to be your best friends some day...as long as you can refrain from spending too much time on GTAF, of course.
Posted 25 June 2013 - 02:42 AM
Posted 25 June 2013 - 03:32 AM
Seriously, though, like someone with an intellect vastly superior to mine Woody510 scribed prior to this post, time heals all wounds, and most of the time, absence makes the bonds grow stronger. I met up with some friends from high school who I haven't seen in a while and it's been great hanging out with them again.
Posted 25 June 2013 - 11:21 AM
I have a small group of 5 friends (Myself included) And we have been mates since we started secondary/ high school. So i have been mates with them now for over 11 years. We were mates all through school, then college. When we left college we all got jobs, long term girlfriends ETC. But you can always make time for your friends. Just because you finish school does not mean the end of the friendship.
Posted 25 June 2013 - 11:28 AM
Posted 25 June 2013 - 11:35 AM
My friend dropped out from school when we were in 5th grade (now I'm in 12th grade), because he decided to go to Germany with his mom, and later he moved to UK. We still chat with each other on Skype and we even meet with each other in Summer each year.
Who knows, maybe you'll meet with them again some day, if you are best friends with them.
Posted 25 June 2013 - 04:44 PM
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