Feminism ... oh, wow, where to begin.
To me, the word 'feminism' seems to mean different things to different people. I mean, plenty of people equate it to the 'man-hating feminazi'. In some instances, I've felt like admitting to being a feminist (regardless of whether or not I am a feminist) was a bad thing, because people would instantly assume that's a part of who I am, and what I stand for, and it couldn't be further from the truth. So yes, I'm all for equal rights. And when I say equal rights, I mean 'equal', not that I should be at an advantage because I'm a woman. But, I'm often somewhat loathe to actually use the term 'feminist', because for some people, that's a negative thing. It equates to the radical views, which I don't myself agree with, but apparently, if I claimed to be a feminist, in some way, I would be.
Look, I consider myself a capable, independent woman. I can support myself, I'm happy with my life and my career. I'm ambivalent towards 'having a man in my life' not because I hate men, but just because I feel secure enough in myself, now, that either option is fine for me. Whether I'm in a relationship or not, whether I get married or not, whatever. And it's not that I don't come across some small forms of gender bias in my day to day life; there are customers who refuse to accept that my place of work has a female manager, and largely female staff, and as ever, I run into the 'you're a girl who plays video games' (imagine that the place I live in is about a decade behind the times, okay?), and of course, the guy who assumed that since I'm single, I must be a lesbian, but it doesn't bother me because those things don't define who I am as a person. The fact that I'm a woman doesn't define who I am as a person, and I'm of the opinion that this is the way it should be. I also encounter, from my family, the age old 'you'll want to get married and have kids soon.' I'm 22. What if I don't? Should it really matter that I might never get married or start a family? No. I should have the right to choose what I feel is best for me, and again, my gender shouldn't define that for me. Just because I'm female doesn't mean that one day I'll wake up and suddenly want to walk down the aisle with the first stranger I meet and pop out a few kids. Maybe I will, maybe I won't. At this point, I do not want that for myself. I shouldn't be made to feel as though I'll have to want it, though.
And at the end of the day, to me, that's what feminism is about. What gender equality is about. Having the right to make your own decisions and choose your own path without fear of being judged by society for it because it doesn't tie in with certain conventions and expectations. It's what any kind of equality should be about.
So, when it comes to women being 'against' feminism, I don't think it's necessarily that they're opposed to the idea. But maybe they're opposed to the idea of what feminism has come to be known as, rather than what it is at its core; perhaps they, too, feel that feminists hate men and want to be put on some kind of a pedestal, simply for being a woman. Or, indeed, maybe they feel as though it's just unnecessary. I think to a large degree, it is unnecessary. It's just that my family are somewhat ... too 'traditional' for their own good.