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Posted 15 February 2013 - 03:40 PM

I know what you mean about an attitude making a women sexy. At work I served this slightly frumpy plain middle aged women. At first I wasn't physically attracted to her but then she bit off half a creme egg, sucked out the insides in one gulp and then said These are so lush. The way she spoke and ate the creme egg had a very alluring feel to it. There was some very sexual undertones to what she was doing (Afterall a creme egg is kind of bell end shape) and I was turned on instantly.

She evoked a much purer healthier sexual lust in me than the lust that's evoked when I see some curvy waist, shaven badger bouncing up on a ten incher.

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Posted 15 February 2013 - 03:43 PM

Wow, talk about eye opening. I'm in college and i don't get a lot of women and i watch a lot of porn usually. And i notice my confidence does go down when i watch it, and i am really picky in general. I think i'm gonna try to give it up. Well maybe not masturbation but definitely porn. Even though a lot of women in porn are hot, i feel like having a conversation with them would be the worst thing in the world.

Maybe that's why i don't have a girlfriend lol. And believe me i've been wanting one for a long time now.

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Posted 15 February 2013 - 03:43 PM

QUOTE (Melchior @ Friday, Feb 15 2013, 18:15)
Oh? If it's not about society than why does our society see a huge prevalence of monogamous, heterosexual couples, where as relationships in antiquity were more open; if you weren't born into modern, Christian Europe, and instead were born a Roman aristocrat, you'd probably think its okay to love your wife, while also engaging in passionate sex with men, women and even children. It's all about society's constraints. If it wasn't, why do you think certain sectors of society are more prone to adultery, is it because their relationships are less satisfying? Or could there be other, external factors...

You're assuming that sexual and emotional satisfaction are some quota that has to be met: this is an obvious fallacy. I'd say that our need for emotional connection and sexual stimulation are infinite.

Or do you really think that any sexual thoughts about someone else are a sign that a relationship is "unfulfilling" despite the fact that every relationship is intrinsically different?

My choices and preferences are not my own obviously, so I agree on that. I just know that I couldn't love multiple individuals at the same time and that makes me want to be faithful to my only (future) partner.

Then I wonder why monogamy is (still) so prevalent.

It's a sign that your current relationship is not enough. Whether that means monogamy doesn't work or not, I don't know. I don't want to think so because I couldn't handle an open relationship.

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Posted 15 February 2013 - 03:57 PM

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all natural sexual behaviour, as long as it isn't forced or exploitive, or based on restrictive and coercive "standards of beauty" should be deemed healthy, and a decent society should accommodate them. [/QUOTE]
Because of this youre going in my respect list smile.gif
Porn hasn't made me picky though. I'll f*ck anything as long as it's clean and not too fat.

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Posted 15 February 2013 - 05:46 PM

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Some broads forearm on your neck, something her eyes did.  There was this sound she made. I'll tell you... me lying in bed, the next day she brought me café au lait.  She gives me a cigarette.  My balls feel like concrete.

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Posted 15 February 2013 - 06:07 PM

A lot of words of wisdom being spoken here.

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Posted 15 February 2013 - 10:12 PM

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 12:25 AM Edited by Lightning Strike, 16 February 2013 - 12:32 AM.

I unlike so many of you have no problem with porn, I've seen it before and I've no doubt I'll see it again, I am however an Asexual and so I have no sex drive whatsoever, as such I can't understand this situation you seem to be in.

For me a relationship is only worth having for the emotional side of things, not the sex or porn or anything like that. It just doesn't interest me and every time I think that I have an opportunity to masturbate I simply think "I could be doing better things with my time". As I get no sexual stimulation from watching porn and find it rather hilarious, I have to say that getting addicted to porn and it giving you misconceptions sounds to me like the ramblings of a delusional madman.

I mean, how could you become addicted to something so monstrously boring ? What are you addicted to, a video or picture of people engaging in sexual intercourse, if you're so very obsessed with the idea of sex why not go out and have it yourself. Porn seems to be counterproductive in this situation and if you genuinely can't stop thinking about it then there's something very uppity in your sex drive.

After looking at a few pieces of research it seems that the average guy 'bludgeons his beefsteak' about six to seven times a week, intriguing, this definitely seems like a massive time waste and time watching porn could be spent advancing your knowledge and physical shape, perhaps watching a good film like Lawrence of Arabia or reading a book like Animal Farm.

Would any of you that don't share my mindset (The sexually devoid one) mind sharing with me why you like to 'gallop the antelope' and why you even need porn to be able to do it ?.

EDIT: Oh and another thing, why is the thought of a prerecorded sexual act more arousing then say, flirting with an attractive woman ?

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 12:34 AM

A waste of time? It takes about 10-15 minutes tops.
And if you want to know what it's like you have all the utensils at the ready, even if you are asexual it's still a pleasurable experience.

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 12:43 AM

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A waste of time? It takes about 10-15 minutes tops.

That's ten to fifteen minutes of your life wasted. Every. Single. Time.

Since people on average do it about six to seven times a week That's nearly two hours a week you're wasting and as an example I'll show you how much time you're wasting every year. I'll pretend like everyone's the absolute average and does it seven times a week.

So if you spend say fifteen minutes 'whacking it' each time then in a week you're wasting nearly two hours on porn weekly. That's roughly five thousand four hundred and seventy-five minutes every year, which is equal to around about 91.5 hours a year or nearly four days a week straight you spend masturbating.

In that time I could've read through a fairly sustainable amount of H.P Lovecraft or listened to a ton of cool new indie music or even learnt to play a new instrument. Those ten to fifteen minutes add up and it's simply not worth wasting your time on something that's going to give you a tiny bit of pleasure for about six to seven seconds.

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 12:48 AM

I'm fine with that, that's 91 hours of stress relieving pressure.

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 12:48 AM

^ in 91.5 hours I could listen to my whole music library twice, well the songs i actually like smile.gif

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 12:53 AM

91.5 hours of wanking per year? You have balls like hamsters? I manage 100 hours her month wanking if I'm really horny. Try harder!

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 12:54 AM

QUOTE (brownbear @ Saturday, Feb 16 2013, 00:48)
I'm fine with that, that's 91 hours of stress relieving pressure.

There are many easier, cleaner and overall better ways to relieve stress and tension. I find one of them to be sleeping, another would be reading and then there's exercising which makes me feel great after a good run around a lake or two.

I find your excuses and inability to realise what a waste of time your masturbating habits are rather, strange. It may be my asexual nature, but I just can't for the life of me understand why someone would choose to masturbate over reading a book, watching a film, playing a game, listening to music or hanging out with your friends.

It simply boggles my mind, do you even know what you could do if you had four extra days in the year just for yourself ? No I bet you don't, you could spend that time drawing, painting, gaming, writing, drinking, dancing, laughing, playing and overall just having a great time. So please tell me, why are you so easily shrugging off all of those possibilities and thousands more like them in favour of touching yourself until you achieve orgasm ?.

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 12:59 AM

^ You make some good points actually, some very good points, I think i'm going to cut down on the porn and masturbating as well. Kudos to you.

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 01:00 AM

I still read books, watch films, play games, got to college, get stoned and exercise, whilst still finding time to bust one out when I get home.
Honestly, it's completely natural, healthy and it feels good, why wouldn't I do it?

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 01:00 AM Edited by LazyboyEight, 16 February 2013 - 01:02 AM.

QUOTE (Lightning Strike @ Saturday, Feb 16 2013, 00:54)
QUOTE (brownbear @ Saturday, Feb 16 2013, 00:48)
I'm fine with that, that's 91 hours of stress relieving pressure.

There are many easier, cleaner and overall better ways to relieve stress and tension. I find one of them to be sleeping, another would be reading and then there's exercising which makes me feel great after a good run around a lake or two.

I find your excuses and inability to realise what a waste of time your masturbating habits are rather, strange. It may be my asexual nature, but I just can't for the life of me understand why someone would choose to masturbate over reading a book, watching a film, playing a game, listening to music or hanging out with your friends.

It simply boggles my mind, do you even know what you could do if you had four extra days in the year just for yourself ? No I bet you don't, you could spend that time drawing, painting, gaming, writing, drinking, dancing, laughing, playing and overall just having a great time. So please tell me, why are you so easily shrugging off all of those possibilities and thousands more like them in favour of touching yourself until you achieve orgasm ?.

Because orgasm?

Idk though I don't watch porn/jack off...
I'd rather keep it that way; ignorance is bliss.

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 01:03 AM

QUOTE (Lightning Strike @ Friday, Feb 15 2013, 19:54)
QUOTE (brownbear @ Saturday, Feb 16 2013, 00:48)
I'm fine with that, that's 91 hours of stress relieving pressure.

There are many easier, cleaner and overall better ways to relieve stress and tension. I find one of them to be sleeping, another would be reading and then there's exercising which makes me feel great after a good run around a lake or two.

I find your excuses and inability to realise what a waste of time your masturbating habits are rather, strange. It may be my asexual nature, but I just can't for the life of me understand why someone would choose to masturbate over reading a book, watching a film, playing a game, listening to music or hanging out with your friends.

It simply boggles my mind, do you even know what you could do if you had four extra days in the year just for yourself ? No I bet you don't, you could spend that time drawing, painting, gaming, writing, drinking, dancing, laughing, playing and overall just having a great time. So please tell me, why are you so easily shrugging off all of those possibilities and thousands more like them in favour of touching yourself until you achieve orgasm ?.

That's 100% subjective though. Out of everything that you consider "better" to be doing with your time, others can just as easily find boring. I'm not defending porn addiction; I just find it mind boggling myself to see someone who doesn't even have a sex drive outline the principles around masturbation. Masturbation in moderation has been well established as a beneficial experience to male health. Yet, you discourage it.

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 01:06 AM

QUOTE (ThePinkFloydSound @ Friday, Feb 15 2013, 07:32)
I want to go back to a time when seeing something on womans body could turn me on - a touch, a smell, something even more conservatively sexy.

Originally I wasn't going to post in this thread, but after re-reading(not just skimming) the original post and having this line sink in...




If you are to the point where you make a statement like the one I quoted, then I wish you best of luck in your venture. I'm willing to bet some time away from porn, and some time away from self pleasure will turn you around quick. Just don't go full on prude - that would be weird.



Masturbation is normal, and natural - always has been. Porn has been around forever, but I'm not sure how much(if any) a game changer internet porn has been.


I do need to add this personal note:
f*ck all you lucky ass bastards. There was no internet porn when I was a teen or whatever. National Geographic, or find your dad's stash of mags was all ya had...and my folks were divorced and I lived with my mother! confused.gif I was lucky when I got half a nipple in a 'how to check for breast cancer lumps' articles in my mother's lady mags.

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 01:11 AM

QUOTE (canttakemyid @ Saturday, Feb 16 2013, 01:03)
QUOTE (Lightning Strike @ Friday, Feb 15 2013, 19:54)
QUOTE (brownbear @ Saturday, Feb 16 2013, 00:48)
I'm fine with that, that's 91 hours of stress relieving pressure.

There are many easier, cleaner and overall better ways to relieve stress and tension. I find one of them to be sleeping, another would be reading and then there's exercising which makes me feel great after a good run around a lake or two.

I find your excuses and inability to realise what a waste of time your masturbating habits are rather, strange. It may be my asexual nature, but I just can't for the life of me understand why someone would choose to masturbate over reading a book, watching a film, playing a game, listening to music or hanging out with your friends.

It simply boggles my mind, do you even know what you could do if you had four extra days in the year just for yourself ? No I bet you don't, you could spend that time drawing, painting, gaming, writing, drinking, dancing, laughing, playing and overall just having a great time. So please tell me, why are you so easily shrugging off all of those possibilities and thousands more like them in favour of touching yourself until you achieve orgasm ?.

That's 100% subjective though. Out of everything that you consider "better" to be doing with your time, others can just as easily find boring. I'm not defending porn addiction; I just find it mind boggling myself to see someone who doesn't even have a sex drive outline the principles around masturbation. Masturbation in moderation has been well established as a beneficial experience to male health. Yet, you discourage it.

I discourage it simply because while you sit there stroking your manhood there are people striving hard to better themselves. I see it from the viewpoint of an outsider and though it may be a healthy outlet for some it is not something that should be done in abundance, I'd rather see people cut down then stop completely as I've been told it's a pleasurable thing to do.

There are just many better things you could be doing with your life other than masturbating, like meeting new and interesting people that have stories to tell and lessons to teach. It could be that I'm the stupid one for not seeing this as you guys do and if that's the case I'm sorry but from my experience masturbation just seems ... counterproductive, to life in general.

Now again I have to ask, if you do watch and enjoy porn, why do you ?. Surely you realise that it's a pre-scripted series of events with absolutely horrible (though incredibly funny acting) ending with some stupid one liner and a really horrible scene of a poor person being bombarded with seminal fluid.

Oh and it's not real, that's the real thing I can't grasp. We as humans are more than capable of differentiating reality and fantasy so shouldn't you guys be more turned on by the very thought of having sex with a woman rather than watching a fake fantasy recording of something that you were never and will never be involved in.

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 01:16 AM

You're making it seem like we do nothing but masturbate, my wank is a small but enjoyable part of the day, I still do all the things I want to do during the day, I don't huddle over my laptop pulling it every time I get hard.

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 01:18 AM Edited by baguvix_wanrltw, 16 February 2013 - 07:15 PM.

Oh man I can see I should come to the off topic section more often. This is pure gold.

Of course, imho, 100% trolling. But gold nonetheless. I'm bored so let's get down to it.

The entire linked article seems to be built on things said on this page btw.

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Here are 10 reasons to stop masturbating to internet porn: 1) Internet porn saps you of precious energy

Bullsh*t. I don't jack off before working, I jack off before going to sleep. It's nature's ambien. Cum, sleep. And I do certainly not feel less "powerful" the next day. And I still hit the weights and flirt.

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2) Internet porn can lead to erectile dysfunction - guys in their TWENTIES and even guys in their TEENS are having trouble getting hard without porn

Lol that's what all the viagra "spam" in your inbox is for. Seriously though... erectile disfunction in your teen or twen years? Yeah... I have bad news for you. Stopping to watch porn won't fix that.
The other "point" that's supposedly being made here is that only porn would be able to get their cocks up, not real (fe-)males.
My guess: the author of that article has never gotten any pussy in his life. Otherwise he'd know there's a huge difference between f*cking your hand and a girl. Plus as someone else said, it's not necessarily so much the f*cking as the smell, sound, feel, playing around. You can't emulate any of that with your hand.

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3) Internet porn will make you will want to stop having sex - Japan is saturated with porn... no desire for sex... lowest birthrate in the world.

Will make me will want huh? Yeah, that underscores the quality of this article. Other than that that's the same point as above.
However I can see how some people would decide to rather spend a few months masturbating than going out there to find the next retarded slut to bang, and instead wait for a girl they actually like to come along. Is that supposed to be a bad thing now?

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4) After you stop masturbating to internet porn your voice may become deeper

I'm at Barry White level right now, I'm comfortable, thank you. So if I ever stop masturbating my voice will become so deep it's inaudible to human ears eh? Cool.

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5) After you stop masturbating to internet porn you will have more self control and will power

Complete crap. I don't know about you but being "overloaded" has never made me calmer/given me more self control. Will power? No, frustration.

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6) After you stop masturbating to internet porn your Testosterone will rise

I guess he means testosterone levels. Again, pure quality here. And if they do rise temporarily as "explained", what exactly do I gain from that?!

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7) After you stop masturbating to internet porn you will become calmer, more rational, and less anxious

Sigh, seems he forgot he already tried to make the same point in 5).

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8) You will become more attractive to women

Right, because ladies love guys who come off completely desperate to come close to anything with a pussy. Andy Botwin said it best in Weeds, there's no way to be calm for a date if you're backed up. He's talking straight out of his ass, claiming his previous points as proof for this one.

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9) You can stop getting viruses on your computer

Yeah. I have no problem believing that guy is actually f*cking retarded enough to get virii while watching porn. You have to absolutely have no idea about computers, browsers or porn to get that problem. Also they just jailed the guys behind that funny "cop trojan" that asked people to pay 100€ or so in order to not get punished for having child and/or animal porn on their PCs. So idiots like him can breathe easy now.

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10) If you can’t believe me, then take the word of these gentlemen who beat their addiction to internet porn and reaped the benefits

Ah, the old "look, these guys say it works" snakeoil pitch. I can also find at least 100 guys who say "god hates fags" but that won't make it true.


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Posted 16 February 2013 - 01:25 AM

QUOTE (baguvix_wanrltw @ Saturday, Feb 16 2013, 01:18)
A bunch of flimsy poorly put together excuses.

Or how about the fact that it's completely pointless and servers no real purpose other then to hold you back from doing a dozen better other things with your time.

Wait no, because then it would prove that your reliance on pornography was a bad thing and person can never be bad for being sexual, well you may not be a bad person but it may just a have a detrimental effect on your life until masturbation and porn are given their proper roles.

Masturbation is good for you, do it and I'm sure you'll have a great time doing it. Just please for the sake of you and others around you don't do it to excess. Once a week's pushing it but at least you get the majority of the week to focus on what you really want in life and not some stupid fantasy on a computer screen that only serves to make you crazier about masturbating.

Porn in no way satiates you and may in fact as ridiculous as this sounds, be addictive, and who knows why you'd want to spend your free time doing that anyway.

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 01:32 AM

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Masturbation is good for you, do it and I'm sure you'll have a great time doing it. Just please for the sake of you and others around you don't do it to excess. Once a week's pushing it but at least you get the majority of the week to focus on what you really want in life and not some stupid fantasy on a computer screen that only serves to make you crazier about masturbating.


This is ridiculous, taking 15 minutes off my day to blow off some steam is not wasting time, it's enjoyable.

Porn addiction's one thing, masturbating regularly is completely different. If I stayed in watching porn and jacking off with no human contact, I would definitely have a problem, but when I do everything I want during the day and have a wank afterwards, there is no problem, in fact it has numerous benefits. Plus, I'll never be occupied every second of the day, I'm really not missing those 15 minutes.

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 01:36 AM

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 01:37 AM

QUOTE (brownbear @ Saturday, Feb 16 2013, 01:32)
QUOTE (Lightning Strike @ Saturday, Feb 16 2013, 01:25)

Masturbation is good for you, do it and I'm sure you'll have a great time doing it. Just please for the sake of you and others around you don't do it to excess. Once a week's pushing it but at least you get the majority of the week to focus on what you really want in life and not some stupid fantasy on a computer screen that only serves to make you crazier about masturbating.


This is ridiculous, taking 15 minutes off my day to blow off some steam is not wasting time, it's enjoyable.

Porn addiction's one thing, masturbating regularly is completely different. If I stayed in watching porn and jacking off with no human contact, I would definitely have a problem, but when I do everything I want during the day and have a wank afterwards, there is no problem, in fact it has numerous benefits. Plus, I'll never be occupied every second of the day, I'm really not missing those 15 minutes.

So what if it is wasting time? Who gives a sh*t? All that "the world is your oyster" bullsh*t he rambled off earlier about meeting new people and knitting sweaters with friends sounds absolutely terrible to me, I'll stick to my lonely drinking and masturbation sessions, thank you. Different strokes (giggity) for different folks as they say.

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 01:38 AM

QUOTE (Lightning Strike @ Friday, Feb 15 2013, 20:11)
QUOTE (canttakemyid @ Saturday, Feb 16 2013, 01:03)
QUOTE (Lightning Strike @ Friday, Feb 15 2013, 19:54)
QUOTE (brownbear @ Saturday, Feb 16 2013, 00:48)
I'm fine with that, that's 91 hours of stress relieving pressure.

There are many easier, cleaner and overall better ways to relieve stress and tension. I find one of them to be sleeping, another would be reading and then there's exercising which makes me feel great after a good run around a lake or two.

I find your excuses and inability to realise what a waste of time your masturbating habits are rather, strange. It may be my asexual nature, but I just can't for the life of me understand why someone would choose to masturbate over reading a book, watching a film, playing a game, listening to music or hanging out with your friends.

It simply boggles my mind, do you even know what you could do if you had four extra days in the year just for yourself ? No I bet you don't, you could spend that time drawing, painting, gaming, writing, drinking, dancing, laughing, playing and overall just having a great time. So please tell me, why are you so easily shrugging off all of those possibilities and thousands more like them in favour of touching yourself until you achieve orgasm ?.

That's 100% subjective though. Out of everything that you consider "better" to be doing with your time, others can just as easily find boring. I'm not defending porn addiction; I just find it mind boggling myself to see someone who doesn't even have a sex drive outline the principles around masturbation. Masturbation in moderation has been well established as a beneficial experience to male health. Yet, you discourage it.

I discourage it simply because while you sit there stroking your manhood there are people striving hard to better themselves. I see it from the viewpoint of an outsider and though it may be a healthy outlet for some it is not something that should be done in abundance, I'd rather see people cut down then stop completely as I've been told it's a pleasurable thing to do.

There are just many better things you could be doing with your life other than masturbating, like meeting new and interesting people that have stories to tell and lessons to teach. It could be that I'm the stupid one for not seeing this as you guys do and if that's the case I'm sorry but from my experience masturbation just seems ... counterproductive, to life in general.

Now again I have to ask, if you do watch and enjoy porn, why do you ?. Surely you realise that it's a pre-scripted series of events with absolutely horrible (though incredibly funny acting) ending with some stupid one liner and a really horrible scene of a poor person being bombarded with seminal fluid.

Oh and it's not real, that's the real thing I can't grasp. We as humans are more than capable of differentiating reality and fantasy so shouldn't you guys be more turned on by the very thought of having sex with a woman rather than watching a fake fantasy recording of something that you were never and will never be involved in.

Porn and masturbating aren't the same thing. I'm actually on board with what you and others on here have been saying about the industry. I sadly desensitized to porn a while ago; which is why this thread really hit home for me. The real act of sex is the feeling that I chase.


You just seem to label masturbation as a waste of time. You then back up this claim by providing other activities that people could just as easily consider a waste of time. We all engage in leisurely activities. It's a bit hypocritical to support one leisurely activity over another on the basis of being economic with your time. Leisure is free time by definition. Free time is time that requires no capitalization. monocle.gif

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 01:40 AM Edited by baguvix_wanrltw, 16 February 2013 - 01:44 AM.

QUOTE (Lightning Strike @ Saturday, Feb 16 2013, 01:25)
A bunch of flimsy crazy cum-focused conspiracy theories.

Oh you try so hard it's actually cute inlove.gif Just so I know what this is about, are you a religious nut or did you just become militant about guys jacking habits for another reason?

First off I was not making excuses, I was discussing the so called facts in the article linked in the OP. And I stated that almost everything he says sounds extremely stupid to me, not least because he obviously wrote that whole thing within 30 minutes (or is seriously brain-damaged). In most cases the things he says are exactly the truth - but 180° reversed.

My "reliance on pornography"? First off you don't know me so try to stop making assumptions. Second, if you're actually brainwashed enough to think that touching a certain part of your body makes you a bad person then there's obviously no point in talking to you, I don't talk to the "god hates fags" people either, that's the same kind of "f*cked in the head" that you seem to represent in this case.

"Proper role" of porn? Like I said, cum, sleep. That's it. What else should it be, should I take a scented bath and erect a shrine to some porn starlet?! I think the minimalist approach works nicely. If I feel like jacking off some evening I do, if I don't I dont. Quite simple.

Thanks for the - never called for but still - wonderful suggestion to not cum more than once a week. Please take these ideas to other people with religious sentiments about penises, like those guys that like cutting skin off them. Your various mutilations and sanctions against your various bodyparts are none of my concerns and shall never be.

And I have no problem focussing on what I do, I was never a person who needed to be told what or when to do. I'm actually quite the opposite but apparently such ideas would destroy the crazy little masturbation focused world you built in your head.

I have to agree on your last point though: porn can be addictive, just like sex, video games, alcohol, cigarettes, cars, spending money and pretty much anything else that can be enjoyed excessively. And that's the point: excess. That's where the problem usually lies, not doing something but just overdoing it. If you can't spend a day without cumming you might have a problem - unless of course you find a woman with the same problem. Then you won.

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 01:47 AM Edited by Lightning Strike, 16 February 2013 - 01:54 AM.

QUOTE (brownbear @ Saturday, Feb 16 2013, 01:32)
QUOTE (Lightning Strike @ Saturday, Feb 16 2013, 01:25)

Masturbation is good for you, do it and I'm sure you'll have a great time doing it. Just please for the sake of you and others around you don't do it to excess. Once a week's pushing it but at least you get the majority of the week to focus on what you really want in life and not some stupid fantasy on a computer screen that only serves to make you crazier about masturbating.


This is ridiculous, taking 15 minutes off my day to blow off some steam is not wasting time, it's enjoyable.

Porn addiction's one thing, masturbating regularly is completely different. If I stayed in watching porn and jacking off with no human contact, I would definitely have a problem, but when I do everything I want during the day and have a wank afterwards, there is no problem, in fact it has numerous benefits. Plus, I'll never be occupied every second of the day, I'm really not missing those 15 minutes.

No it's not, we as human beings get a limited amount of time to live on this earth so why on earth should we be wasting weeks, no months maybe even years of our lives rubbing our genitalia when we could be learning, evolving or just generally having a good time with those around us.

Perhaps this is why I'm not a sociable person, but I do not and perhaps never will understand your views on this subject. Can you not see the amount of time you spend wasting on a stupid, pointless self satisfying act. I know masturbation feels good, but you know what else does ? chocolate, junk food and all types of the stuff.

In small doses sugar can be beneficial and good for you, but letting it consume such a substantial part of your life would be pointless and were you to see someone that you know so obsessed by chocolate would you walk on by without first pointing out how stupid it was that they spent so much of their lives simply satisfying their own need without even bothering to think of another person.

What I mean is, if you are horny and you want to 'get it on' then at least try to have sex, it can't be that hard to talk to a girl and then get her to like you long enough for you two to engage in the act of sexual intercourse can it ? I wouldn't be the one to know unfortunately but from what I can gather from both the media and my friends and family the world seems far too obsessed with masturbation then actually getting things done.

Sex is also more beneficial to your health since you'd most likely be doing more exercise during the intercourse rather then just rubbing you hand up and down and you'd be making someone else feel great. So here's my advice to those of you that are legally allowed to go out and procreate, do it.

If you want to masturbate I really have no say in the matter but I do hope that you realise that while you're laying there rubbing yourself I'm enjoying a nice run, or watching an awesome TV show or delving into a good book or engaging in some sort of interesting debate (probably theological since that's always interesting) or just having a great time with the people who are close to me.

Or y'know browsing the forums because they're fun too. Oh and just to reiterate I'm not saying that anyone who chooses to masturbate should stop, just do it less frequently to give your life more time to run itself, as it seems to me that we should be addressing our problems, solving our issues and pushing forward through whatever boundaries the universe and its twisted hand of fate through in our way, and I believe one of those issues may be societies obsession with masturbating in unnecessarily large amounts.

EDIT: And no I'm not some Religious fanatic (far from it as I'm somewhat of a cross between an Anti-Theist and an Atheist) that's spouting religious nonsense about how it's bad and it'll make you go to hell. No that's stupid, as I've mentioned before I'm asexual, I have literally no sex drive. At all. That's perhaps the reason why I can't seem to grasp things from your point of view.

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 01:56 AM

QUOTE (Lightning Strike @ Saturday, Feb 16 2013, 01:47)
If you want to masturbate I really have no say in the matter but I do hope that you realise that while you're laying there rubbing yourself I'm enjoying a nice run, or watching an awesome TV show or delving into a good book or engaging in some sort of interesting debate (probably theological since that's always interesting) or just having a great time with the people who are close to me.

Here's the thing bud, I could give a f*ck what you're doing and what your demeanor is while you're doing it when I'm in the midst of a masturbation session. I simply don't care. Why do you care about me and my masturbation session so much? Leave me be, I'm reading all your posts in Richard Simmons' voice at this point.




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