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Posted 17 February 2013 - 12:05 PM

QUOTE (Dale Nixon @ Sunday, Feb 17 2013, 07:39)
QUOTE (TheJonesy @ Sunday, Feb 17 2013, 02:23)
I have a question I want to ask: if you're crazy for someone but they're not, should you still keep trying?

You should drink and see what happens. It's more interesting that way.

This guy has a point. Alcohol can help you do and say things you'd normally be too scared to say. A few years ago I decided to get a bit tipsy in school and I ended up holding this girl's hand that I really liked. Luckily, she didn't do what I had been paranoid about - flinch, throw my hand off and make a bit of an awkward scene. Instead, she held my hand back and smiled subtly, and that was how the relationship started. Romantic or what? sigh.gif

Anyway, unless it's painfully clear that she will never be into you then I think you should see her as much as you can if you don't know her that well already (e.g. say hello to her once every day or something, and make sure you smile when you happen to be around her). If she knows you're crazy about her then perhaps she just needs to spend more time with you and get to know you. One of the best ways to make a girl become attracted to you is to tell them that you are interested in them. Works provided you're not ass-ugly, you have a normal personality, and you see them atleast three times times a week. By the way, I don't mean follow her around every day and act like a complete creep, but quite the opposite.

However, if she already knows you really well and you've already seen her a lot (i.e. she's a fairly close friend in your 'group' & well acquainted) then there probably isn't much point in trying and you should go for someone else. I'm not saying there would be no chance in this scenario, but it's difficult for a girl to see someone as more than a friend when they've stopped judging them as a potential romantic partner. In other words, it is difficult to form a healthy relationship when you're in the 'friend zone' (I hate that term but it's true). And just to clarify - both genders have a 'friend zone'; she might be in yours and you haven't even realised it.

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Posted 17 February 2013 - 12:10 PM

QUOTE (OverTheBelow @ Sunday, Feb 17 2013, 12:05)
One of the best ways to make a girl become attracted to you is to tell them that you are interested in them.

Someone already told me that once, is dat sh*t real?

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Posted 17 February 2013 - 12:51 PM

QUOTE (Exxon @ Sunday, Feb 17 2013, 12:10)
QUOTE (OverTheBelow @ Sunday, Feb 17 2013, 12:05)
One of the best ways to make a girl become attracted to you is to tell them that you are interested in them.

Someone already told me that once, is dat sh*t real?

Depends on circumstances. Personally, if this guy kept telling me he was into me & I didn't feel the same but he was always up in my ass trying to change my mind I'd be pissed off and probably end up wanting nothing to do with him.

On the other hand, if you don't know the girl that well and you tell her you like her, then she'll either like it & try and feel the same way back. Or she'll use the sh*t out of you, and when you get to the point of being over bearing then she'll drop you like there's no tomorrow.

As for the whole alcohol thing, sure that works once or twice but do you really want to have to drink just so you can have the balls to go talk to a girl you've never really talked to before? People need to stop putting pussy on a pedestal and just treat girls normally. You know, try talking to them without thinking you want to get into their pants all of the time. The key to getting your foot in the door with someone you don't know yet is just to be nice and friendly. If all goes well, you can move into the flirty friendly mode, and then after that if she's into you - you can just straight up tell her you like her and see where it goes.

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Posted 17 February 2013 - 12:53 PM

QUOTE (Rebel @ Sunday, Feb 17 2013, 22:51)
On the other hand, if you don't know the girl that well and you tell her you like her

Heh? Why would you "like" someone you don't even know?

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Posted 17 February 2013 - 12:56 PM

QUOTE (Melchior @ Sunday, Feb 17 2013, 12:53)
QUOTE (Rebel @ Sunday, Feb 17 2013, 22:51)
On the other hand, if you don't know the girl that well and you tell her you like her

Heh? Why would you "like" someone you don't even know?

Because during teenage years people are too pussy to talk to someone they have a crush on, which leads them to admire from afar and then they get this whole crazy infatuation stage & think they ''like'' them.

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Posted 17 February 2013 - 12:58 PM

QUOTE (Rebel @ Sunday, Feb 17 2013, 22:56)
QUOTE (Melchior @ Sunday, Feb 17 2013, 12:53)
QUOTE (Rebel @ Sunday, Feb 17 2013, 22:51)
On the other hand, if you don't know the girl that well and you tell her you like her

Heh? Why would you "like" someone you don't even know?

Because during teenage years people are too pussy to talk to someone they have a crush on, which leads them to admire from afar and then they get this whole crazy infatuation stage & think they ''like'' them.

Well I think in the context of this thread they're mostly talking about wanting a relationship with one of their female friends, not having a crush on a classmate.

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Posted 17 February 2013 - 01:37 PM

QUOTE (Rebel @ Sunday, Feb 17 2013, 15:56)
Because during teenage years people are too pussy to talk to someone they have a crush on, which leads them to admire from afar and then they get this whole crazy infatuation stage & think they ''like'' them.

Not a long time ago I would have disagreed with you. I've had this crush on someone I basically didn't know at all and it felt quite real.
However, I later realized that isn't genuine love.

This sort of attachment comes from a deep seated sense of lack, of disappointment towards life and your ego tries to find something to hold on to. Something that will "save" you from a dreadful or at least somewhat unpleasant life.

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Posted 17 February 2013 - 04:59 PM

Well, this individual is someone I know. We were friends for a few weeks until I asked her out. She agreed, we went on a few other dates, we've been talking for about two months - when we first started talking, she told me that she wanted things to go slow. Well, I then got trapped in the horrendous grey zone: we did small things that friends wouldn't do, yet she held back too much to be considered a couple. Then one day she tells me that she's torn between being friends or being in a relationship. A few weeks later, she made up her mind; she says that she feels bad that I put in more effort than her and tells me she just wants to be friends. I haven't spoken to her for two or three weeks.

I'm just asking because I don't want to give up yet. I know the world won't end and there are other girls out there, but she's worth it and I don't want to be in the position where I regret never trying. Then again, I don't want to try for something that's evidently hopeless.

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Posted 18 February 2013 - 02:10 AM

QUOTE (Dale Nixon @ Sunday, Feb 17 2013, 15:39)
QUOTE (TheJonesy @ Sunday, Feb 17 2013, 02:23)
I have a question I want to ask: if you're crazy for someone but they're not, should you still keep trying?

You should drink and see what happens. It's more interesting that way.

Better yet, get her to drink.

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#1420

Posted 18 February 2013 - 02:22 AM

QUOTE (TheJonesy @ Sunday, Feb 17 2013, 16:59)
Well, this individual is someone I know. We were friends for a few weeks until I asked her out. She agreed, we went on a few other dates, we've been talking for about two months - when we first started talking, she told me that she wanted things to go slow. Well, I then got trapped in the horrendous grey zone: we did small things that friends wouldn't do, yet she held back too much to be considered a couple. Then one day she tells me that she's torn between being friends or being in a relationship. A few weeks later, she made up her mind; she says that she feels bad that I put in more effort than her and tells me she just wants to be friends. I haven't spoken to her for two or three weeks.

I'm just asking because I don't want to give up yet. I know the world won't end and there are other girls out there, but she's worth it and I don't want to be in the position where I regret never trying. Then again, I don't want to try for something that's evidently hopeless.

My advice is to go for it, but just remember you can't change a person. Prepare yourself for rejection but use it as an oppurtunity to learn and grow. Its far better to take the chance and get hurt rather than never take the chance at all.

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#1421

Posted 18 February 2013 - 03:46 AM

My only concern is how to approach it. I have one of the following choices:

a) I don't try and leave any hope with the slim chance she'd come back to me.
b) I agree to the "just friends" terms - ideally, fighting my feelings until I move on.
c) Act somewhat oblivious and ask her out on another date.
d) Just have a simple one-on-one chat about my confusion regarding her decision.

This situation confuses me because it's just difficult for me to wrap my head around the concept that her feelings for me seemed to slowly die. Things were going great the first couple of weeks, then everything plateau'd. She insisted that we were still working things out, but I could feel she was holding back. It's only odd since we've gone for so long in this "preliminary" stage.

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#1422

Posted 18 February 2013 - 04:07 AM

A) you wont do yourself any favours by sitting around and hoping something happens. If you want somrthing you need to go out and get it
B) that is one option that i have tried and you need to remember it will take time for you to heal, dont expect eberything to go back to norm straight awhay
C) this is a bad idea
D) the best option but depending how the conversation goes things may be awkward betqeen you guys. Do it face to face (shows you have more courage) and just talk about how youre confused with what happens, mention how friends wouldnt do those things that you guys did.

I would elaborate more but I am on my phone and its a bitch to type on.

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Posted 18 February 2013 - 05:17 AM Edited by TheJonesy, 20 February 2013 - 08:20 PM.

I just don't even know what I'd say. I mean, the situation's straight forward: things didn't pan out as I would've liked and I'm obviously upset about it. Wouldn't that be just a tad bit of desperation with having to ask, "Oh, why did you just up and decide we can't move things forward?"

Basically, this is my mindset: I'm no way religious or spiritual, but I haven't had much success as a single individual so I can't tell whether it's some sign that maybe I should keep trying or if I'm just sad and keep reverting to her since she was the last person I had any feelings for.

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Posted 22 February 2013 - 03:36 PM Edited by Exxon, 22 February 2013 - 03:39 PM.

I just don't understand!

There's this girl I like, and I've been talking to her for the last 3 or so weeks.
I go to her during lunch breaks (at school, and we have 2 each day) once in two or three days.
Besides that, I sometimes text message her, but not very often.

I asked her out for a movie this Wednesday, but she already went to a girlfriend of hers that evening.
So, I asked if she'd mind doing it some other day, she said that that's Ok.

But yesterday, I get these messages from the boyfriend of one of her female friends (that guy is also a friend of mine).
He said that his girlfriend (thus a friend of the girl I like) said:

"btw I think she's getting a little crazy due to him" (sorry for the awful translation).
"I heard her talking, but I'm not sure if it's about him, though I think it is."
"but everyone at school thinks that they are in a relationship, because he sometimes goes to her during lunch break xd"
"Here's a tip/hint for him; don't go to her during lunch breaks anymore, because there's incredibly much gossiping and then she'll probably drop out"

What the flying f*ck am I supposed to do?
Previous time, I was to shy to talk to the girl I liked. Now, I do talk to the girl I like, and yet again I f*ck it up.
What the hell do I do wrong? nervous.gif

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#1425

Posted 25 February 2013 - 01:50 AM

I feel like most everybody judges me. sad.gif

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Posted 25 February 2013 - 01:56 AM

QUOTE (PSN-Blackhawk_1989 @ Monday, Feb 25 2013, 01:50)
I feel like most everybody judges me. sad.gif

Don't worry, that's how people is.
I've been judged too, and the only thing that has worked for me is to judge others in my mind. Nobody is perfect. Nobody.

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#1427

Posted 06 April 2013 - 03:02 AM

f*ck I'm shaken up.

Me and my mum were on the way to a nearby suburb to but a new computer.
For some reason we decided it would be easier to go and pay rent on the way.
When we were leaving mum mum told me to get her phone and text one of her friends that we would be okay to attend an AFL game tonight, as she was driving.
We pulled around a corner and out of nowhere and old man steps in front of the car. We hit him. His head hit the windscreen,shattering it on impact. Rolled over the car them but then somehow ended up in front of us once we came to a stop.

Luckily there were 4-6 witnesses around at the time and we conveniently had the accident out the front of a doctor's surgery so there were medical practitioners on hand to make sure he was okay.

He was saying that he is fine, but he had broken skin up his arm and still needed to be hospitalised. The lady on 000 was hopeless and was asking me stupid questions (Where is he breathing from? Oh maybe his f*cking mouth!) but that was beside the point as ambulances had already turned up.

I think my mum was in a worse state than him, she couldn't stop screaming and crying and was clearly in a state of shock. The paramedics looked after her though and she seems to have recovered.

Not sure what's going to happen in terms of the police, there were 4-6 policemen/women at the scene and some if them escorted us home in our car (due to the broken windscreen).

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Posted 06 April 2013 - 07:46 AM

I wouldn't worry about it. My dad hit and killed a drunk guy with his car years ago, but the guy was walking on the middle of the road at night. So yeah, it wasn't his fault.

The old man in your case at least didn't die, so your mother won't feel guilty. You shouldn't feel guilty anyway. It's not like you did it on purpose and sometimes you don't have time to react.

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#1429

Posted 06 April 2013 - 08:17 AM

I feel like I wanna kill my brother.

You try living as me and you'll see my point.

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#1430

Posted 07 April 2013 - 03:04 AM

Sometimes I feel like I'm two different people, when I'm with my friends I'm always happy and fun, laughing and doing stuff. However, when I'm with my parents I'm unkind, cold, and with a temper.

There's nothing wrong about my parents, sure they have their quirks but nothing drastic, so I don't really know why the f*ck I act that way when I'm home. Is it some sort of teenager phase or something? Because as soon as I get home, I normally just lock myself into my room and do homework and be on my laptop until dinner, then crawl back into my room again.

Should I go see a therapist or something?

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Posted 07 April 2013 - 03:09 AM

QUOTE (blitz @ Saturday, Apr 6 2013, 23:04)
Sometimes I feel like I'm two different people, when I'm with my friends I'm always happy and fun, laughing and doing stuff. However, when I'm with my parents I'm unkind, cold, and with a temper.

There's nothing wrong about my parents, sure they have their quirks but nothing drastic, so I don't really know why the f*ck I act that way when I'm home. Is it some sort of teenager phase or something? Because as soon as I get home, I normally just lock myself into my room and do homework and be on my laptop until dinner, then crawl back into my room again.

Should I go see a therapist or something?

It's a teenager phase buddy, you're far from being alone tounge.gif I'm pretty sure your parents understant this phase as they have gone through it too. icon14.gif

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Posted 07 April 2013 - 03:14 AM

I feel like most people on the forums hate me.

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Posted 07 April 2013 - 03:21 AM

QUOTE (blitz @ Sunday, Apr 7 2013, 00:04)
Sometimes I feel like I'm two different people, when I'm with my friends I'm always happy and fun, laughing and doing stuff. However, when I'm with my parents I'm unkind, cold, and with a temper.

There's nothing wrong about my parents, sure they have their quirks but nothing drastic, so I don't really know why the f*ck I act that way when I'm home. Is it some sort of teenager phase or something? Because as soon as I get home, I normally just lock myself into my room and do homework and be on my laptop until dinner, then crawl back into my room again.

Should I go see a therapist or something?

Don't worry, it is just a teenager phase, blitz. Once you realise how important they are you probably won't act like that. smile.gif

Btw, you are missing out a great Skype chat. ph34r.gif

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#1434

Posted 07 April 2013 - 03:27 AM

Ah, the teenage years. Rebellion, jail, drunkness, just pure badassness. It all fades away.

@Foley, I can honestly say, I hate you.

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#1435

Posted 07 April 2013 - 08:36 AM

What do you guys do when a part of you dies? Something you've almost been livig for. Do you find a hobby? Do you masturbate without mercy? Pray to some kind of deity? It sucks not knowing what to do or think.

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Posted 07 April 2013 - 11:03 AM

QUOTE (blitz @ Sunday, Apr 7 2013, 13:04)
Is it some sort of teenager phase or something?

In a word, yes. Your parents aren't your friends, not when you're sixteen. They don't talk to you as an equal so it would be weird if you did treat them exactly how you treat your friends. When you turn eighteen you'll find that your parents are more like friends and being civil to them will come naturally.

I hope you actually believe me when I say that your not doing anything wrong, that your parents will understand and that it'll pass in a year or two.

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Posted 07 April 2013 - 11:33 PM

I'm disgusted. Spring Break is officially over.

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Posted 09 April 2013 - 02:24 PM

I feel like my life is sh*t
I don't have a PS3 or an Zboz 360 like everyone else, and probably never geta current/next gen console
I can't blend in with everyone, everyone likes Skyrim, The Walking Dead, or sime other games, while I don't and not bothering to play the even once
I don't have many good friends, they all have their own buddies and connections with someone else, while I don't, and I don't have someone I can be friends with for a long time
I don't have a trusting friend
I was a laughingstock last year and my old f*cking teacher is probably telling stories of me to the younger students, now they laugh at me
I don't have someone to be with
I'm very different from my family, an annoying brother and parents

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Posted 09 April 2013 - 02:52 PM

QUOTE (Prince Gumball @ Tuesday, Apr 9 2013, 09:24)
I feel like my life is sh*t
I don't have a PS3 or an Zboz 360 like everyone else, and probably never geta current/next gen console

Oh boo hoo.

Some people have it 100 times worse, so you shouldn't complain about material stuff like that.

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Posted 09 April 2013 - 02:56 PM

QUOTE (blitz @ Tuesday, Apr 9 2013, 14:52)
QUOTE (Prince Gumball @ Tuesday, Apr 9 2013, 09:24)
I feel like my life is sh*t
I don't have a PS3 or an Zboz 360 like everyone else, and probably never geta current/next gen console

Oh boo hoo.

Some people have it 100 times worse, so you shouldn't complain about material stuff like that.

That's not the point of all.




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