|QUOTE (G twenty-nine @ Dec 13 2007, 03:09)|
| Well, I always hear this "my child is out of control, what can I do?" And I believe a solution to this is to go back in time and raise your child right. I firmly believe that a child is not born with evil engraved into their mind, or any of that. I believe they become "evil" as a result of their parent's actions/inactions. A thing I know a lot of children don't have is a parent to be around a lot. I will be spending a lot of time with my son, he will be the most important thing in my life, not my job, not my house.. my son.|
I know that most of you say it is impractical to make such assumptions, but I have very flexible work hours working at the ISP I do. This is probably the main reason I took that job.
One thing I hope is that I raise my child better than my aunt raised me (probably a goal of every father), and I have very throughly thought this through, and wrote it down. I promise this isn't a well thought out action. Me and my wife sat down and talked about this and made a general outline of what to do for about 3 months, before trying to get pregnant, and created a fund well before then which already has a very large amount of money in for our child.
Also to note (though some of you may not like this), I am an atheist, and will be raising my child without religion. Not to teach my child that religion is bad and God does not exist, but have my child process the data and make his own choices. This I think is a very important thing, because it gets children thinking logically at a very young age, which I believe will result in logical thinking throughout their lifetime.
One more thing, I will be teaching my child math at a very young age. Lots and lots of math. I love math hopefully, he will too. Try and start calculus at age 9 or so.
Thanks for all of the positive replies so far. This is something my wife and I have really wanted to experience and it is becoming reality.
That's the Spirit!
I feel where your heart is and I like it.......you need all that, really you do and there is more....much more.
Paternal instinct is every bit as real as maternal instinct for one. Some of the most powerful stuff that has ever tapped me. I say tapped me because it is it that taps you and not vice versa if you have it in you and keep you central self running and it is one wild ride. Oh, sure you can look to the instinct and draw on it in need but for the most part you just happened and that is appearant, Paternal and Maternal instinct has been around for a long time and sometimes you have to let Reason do some of the work and direct the instincts or you will go crazy. I say this as an advisery and a flag for new parents so they can say to themselves with honesty,"These things are normal and I must learn to direct them so they serve our child and therefore us accordingly."
What instincts do such things include?
I have things in relation to this to share if you want them G twenty-niine
if you decide you want them. You and your partner will/can become sensitive to each others instincts in regard to parenting by degree.
That first feeling I had when my child was born was not at all what I suspected and it took me over a year to understand why it was there and what it meant and to be thankful for it.
Fatherhood is an awesome experience and I suggest it to good men with repsonsible wives everywhere. It's one thing that will change your perspective and change your life and inspire an indescibable joy that returns again and again. You will never understand cool to the fullest until you hear the word,"daddy" and mother's the same is so with the word,"mommy" as I am assured and those little arms reaching out and grabbing you in confidence.
I think I am going to go look at mine right now while sleeping. Even that is a parental thing and it is neat because it isn't even strange.....every good parent checks on their kid(s) while they sleep. It is more than your right it is your duty....
which is kinda funny because it is just so cool......
The freaking out about what you don't know is normal.....in fact that is part of the maternal/paternal instinct which means you need to listen to it and study and work at learning all the things that become neccissary with parenthoood. You have just started a new job and the requirements will test your limits and give you new ones while testing you strength and giving you new ones. This is irrefutable unless you are one of those looser dad's you were talking about earlier and we know your not so I am not even going to tell you to get ready because we know you are instead I am going to tell you,"Get used to it for not always knowing and learning on the fly is something that pertains to you from here on out....Dad
Any guess what that emotion I have spoken about was?